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So, oh my goodness. I have things on my screen that are not supposed to be on my screen. Okay, so y'all, basically here's what I want to do this morning. I want to jump in and talk to you about making decisions and setting priorities. Okay, because I sat at the table last Friday, and here lately I've had the girls gathered around my kitchen table to get work done. So some days there are 2 girls, some days there are 4 girls, and so it's like, it's like a party. So at the end of the day on Friday, I turned to Monique, who you, most of you all know, and to McKenzie, who most of y'all don't know. And probably she would be mortified if I like ever showed her picture about anything. But anyway, the point is the two girls, I was asking them like, what's their biggest thing? Because often I love to help, but it's, it's like coming up with things out of thin air is sometimes a thing, I can do that. But a lot of times I would rather know that I'm helping something specific. And so I asked them both kind of what is their current challenge. Um, and for both of them it was just kind of making decisions and setting priorities. And setting priorities involves making decisions. So I wanted to talk a little bit about this, this morning. Um, before I do that, I just wanted to remind you that the Inner Circle is open. And why do I remind you of that? Because it's not going to stay open. Go to chrystalhurtz.com/innercircle. The Inner Circle is an opportunity for you to work on you. That's the best way I can put it. So there is the Sister Circle, which everybody in the world is a part of, because you have a sister, a friend, a neighbor, a running partner, a co-worker. You have, um, their small group. You have, uh, the person that you knew from high school. There is somebody somewhere that you are connected to or have the potential to be connected to better. And so that's an idea. And then we have the Sister Circle on Facebook. You can join the Sister Circle on Facebook. We take the questions that you are asking, the things that you are telling me, and we pose them as questions in the group so that you all can help each other. And then there is the Inner Circle. Okay. The Inner Circle is where you want a higher degree of connectivity you want a greater degree of coaching, you want a different level of connection with me, and we are working on ourselves. So we just finished a 90-day experience where every, uh, week there were assignments and there were audios and videos to help you set goals and achieve them. And then there was a whole separate, uh, Facebook group for that so that the girls that were in the Inner Circle could connect and work on them and get to know each other. So there are always special things for the Inner Circle. There's stuff that comes in the mail. There's just— if you want another level. So here's the deal. The Inner Circle is open now. And if you want to take the last 90 days of 2020 to prepare for the first 20 days of 2020— 20 days— the first 90 days of 2021, the doors are open, but they won't stay that way. So here's what we have planned for the Inner Circle. So in October, we're going to Fervent Together. You have the opportunity if you're in the Inner Circle to get a half-off ticket for Fervent, to get a discounted ticket. And then we will have a private room, not so that you can watch it. You can watch it if you have your own ticket, but so that you can watch it together. So it's kind of like we get our group rate and then we go as a group to the event. So kind of fun. And then right after that, we spring into a lesson a day for a week. Basically, I have 5 friends who want to share 5 lessons that they've learned from 2020. These are 5 friends that you— some of you know. Some of them are friends I'm recycling because every time I have them on, y'all are like, oh my gosh, more of them, more of them. But it's an opportunity for the inner circle to watch them live, to engage with them live, to ask live Q&A. So that's what's happening. We're having our own event that week. Then we spring into November. We're doing another 21-day experience— 21-day experience, sorry, 21-day journey 3.0. What is the 21-day journey? It's where you figure out what in the world you need to work on. What are your passions? What are your gifts? What are your interests? What's your personality? How can you see what God is doing in your life? What are his purposes and his plans? It's a discovery journey, a journey of discovery, so that you can then decide what are the most important things for you to have as goals. It's not about goals, it's about who are you? Who are you? What did God put in you? Who did he create you to be? Are you honoring that with the life that you have? And if you're not, what you should do about it. Okay, that's what the 21-day journey is. And then we've got a special something-something that's coming in November that the Inner Circle will get first dibs on and a great opportunity to do special things. And then December, even more content, because we give you so much content. And one of the things we've heard is sometimes it's just too much. So we're gonna save it for 2021 for the world, but the Inner Circle is going to get it in December. All right, so So that's what it is. If you haven't joined, time is running out. Come on, y'all, you just got paid. October 1st or September 30th. Anyway, when you, if this is something that you want and I make it available because y'all people ask me all the time for more Q&As and monthly sessions and all these things. And so this is one of the ways that I can do that. So, okay, Marietta, I see your question. If we already purchased a ticket, eons ago. Can we still attend the group room? Absolutely. Absolutely. Um, so if you're in the Inner Circle, we'll give you instructions for that. Alrighty tighty. The last day to sign up is October the 11th. Lakisha Leake. Okay. So here's what I want to talk about quickly. Cause I got to get these kids up and get them on their merry way. So what I did is I asked girls in the Sister Circle on Facebook, I said, like, what is your problem? Like, do you struggle with decision-making, um, or setting priorities? And so these are some of the things that you all said. Okay, some of you said, listen, I am a caregiver for a child, for a parent. I'm often frustrated and depressed because their needs take priority, and I'm trying to figure out how to take care of me. Okay, so that's one of the things that I saw over and over and over again. I'm overwhelmed. I'm totally depressed and I'm in despair. I need to make decisions, but I don't even know how to start because once I start thinking about the decisions I need to make, I start feeling anxiety. I'm confused. I struggle with prioritization. I'm a teacher at a new school district. I've got the— we've opened remotely and now I've got to learn all these things. I'm totally stressed out because I've got to teach in person and I've got to teach online. And sometimes I don't even know what to do. First. Someone said, I don't have a problem making decisions, I have a problem following through, uh, on decisions. Robin Binkley said, I know what my priorities are, I just don't check in as often as I should to assess whether or not, um, I'm on track with that. Karen Loretta said, my struggle is prioritizing. I tend to make rash decisions that are never right for me, and then frustration sets in. I also, uh, I'm hugely discontent. I want to give you kudos for just admitting that, because we all know we're supposed to be content. But do we actually admit when we're not? Um, Grove said, help, it's so hard for me to stay focused on my priorities. Um, Caroline, I love this. She said, I've always known— somebody say, some of us don't know— I've always known that God wanted me to study law. After completion, I took a year off to spend time with God. Now I'm back to my country and no job. It makes me doubt whether I'm in the right profession. Did I make the right decision? Sarah B. said, I have no problem making decisions, but I have trouble sticking to them. This is me, Sharon Lawrence Dewberry says, all the way. I set priorities and then I allow things to close me off to enforce them. Okay, so first of all, how do you make decisions and set priorities? The second thing is, how do you actually execute on the decisions that you made and the priorities that you set? Okay, so first of all, There are a lot of things, of course, that go into making a variety of decisions that have a lot to do— I just realized I'm not wearing earrings— that have a lot to do with, with your situation, right? The decisions— this is not like— I can't— I went to the— let me just sidebar. When I used to go get my hair done as a little girl, my— the lady that my mother would take me to, every time she would get ready to style my hair, She would say, now put on your earrings because your hair ain't right if you don't have on earrings. Whatever.

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So Pam Dennis, I see your question. I'll come back to that in a minute. So the thing is, is obviously if you are needing to move, the specifics of those decisions are going to be, you know, what are your finances? Do you need to move states or are you, You know, what is your— what can your budget contain? What does your family actually need? So the specifics of that decision— some decisions I can't get into. But yes, Herby Attitudes, decision fatigue is real. And right now a lot of us are struggling with that. And I see a lot of you in the comments saying, like, Jatina Latsin Cole, I have a problem with prioritizing my home, my time at home while working with taking notes. I'd rather spend time with Jesus. Okay, so Here's the deal. So there are specifics that you're gonna have to work through. So what I want to give you are— is a template for working through those things so that you can arrive at a decision and then set priorities and then stick with it. So in making decisions, the first thing is, if you're not making decisions, you're still making decisions. That's what I want to say to you first. If you're not making decisions and there are things that you need to do, then you are still making a decision by not making a decision. So let's just take the air out of the bag. You are still making a decision by not making a decision, which means if you want to make a different decision, then you just have to make a decision. So how do you do that? Well, doing something and starting with one small step. So let me give you an example. Um, a lot of times the process of decision-making is not about the whole decision. It's about— it's not about the first part of the decision. It's not about the first step, rather. It's about the whole thing. And the whole decision is comprised of many steps. This is one of the things that we talked a lot about in the 90-Day Journey is what are your goals? And people would say, well, I'm just so overwhelmed because I just know that I need to get out of debt. And because it seems like such a big mountain to move, it's just overwhelming. So I can't even decide to do it because I don't even know where to start. No, that's not the way you make a decision. You make a decision by starting with, where can I start? Where can I start? And often the first step of many decisions is getting it out of your head and on paper. What are the layers of this decision? What are the mini steps to the major steps? Because often if you can break it down and take the first step, it's like a domino that keeps falling. So let me go back to my example of getting a house. We need a new house. That's what you could say. We have to move. We know that this rent situation is coming to an end. My husband's got a new job. I've been procrastinating because we know we need to move cities and I've been procrastinating actually starting to look at homes. Okay. So what is the first step of we gotta move? Okay. Even not even get to the money. The first step could be you download realtor.com on your doggone phone, put in the parameters of what you think your finances should be. And you just start looking, just start looking at them, just start browsing them. That is making a decision, but it is a minor decision in a major decision that can get you going. So that's the first thing, is get it out of your head. What is the decision? Okay, let's say it's major, like I'm not even sure if I'm supposed to be in this marriage. Huge. Okay, then I'm always going to encourage you to look for ways to stay, not looking for ways to leave. That said, looking for both of those in the, in wise counsel. Okay. Now that said, that's the first step. Wise counsel. Okay. I don't have to make the decision, right? Unless I'm in an abusive situation, I don't have to make the decision right this second of whether to leave or whether to go. I have a friend who's agonizing over that very thing right now. I said, but what's the first step? She said, well, the first step before I can even like decide, I just need to, I just need to think through, um, you know, what are the implications for my children? Get it out of your head. She said, I need to decide if I'm going to leave and be on my own. Like I need to start looking to see what are the, what are the, um, the expenses of living on my own. Okay. These are things that you can think about before you actually make the decision. Excuse me. Okay, so let me give you another example that's not so heavy. Let's say I want to— I got to decide whether or not I'm gonna change jobs. Okay, the first thing that you can do is to write down a list of pros and cons. If I stay, what's the benefit? What's the— what's the— not the curse— what's the benefit? What's the cost? Okay, if I go, what's the benefit? What's the cost? Get it out of your head. Get it out of your head and write it down on paper. All right, let's see, what is the decision? Oh my gosh, some of us, y'all, get hung up on decisions that don't matter. If you've ever gone to the store and stand in front of the canned soup aisle, there is more soup to choose from than our mothers had to choose from. So sometimes, y'all, you just grab one. Don't look at all the choices. Sometimes the choice is not that difficult, and what's hanging you up and making a decision is you're trying to get all the information. That would be me. I'm a perfectionist. I like to measure. There's a saying, you want to measure twice and cut once. I like to measure 72 times and then cut once. And that takes too long. And sometimes you just make a decision. I was talking to my daughter the other day about who to hire. I was making some decisions about who to hire. And I'm looking at all the criteria and I don't want to hire the wrong person. And my daughter said, between these two, it's potato, patata, just pick. I said, what if I pick the wrong, wrong person? She said, then you will learn. Sometimes the hangups, y'all, that we have about decisions are not about the thing that we're deciding about. The hangup is just making the decision. It's just making one. Okay, guess what? Most of the things we decide to do, the majority of the things we decide, and there are some big rocks that are major. Moving is major. Uh, you know, making decisions in your marriage, that's major. Changing jobs is major. Changing churches is major. Excuse me, I didn't bring my water in here today. But here's the deal: most decisions— not all, but most decisions— if it's not the right decision, you can change your mind. If it's not the right decision, you can change your mind. And here's the beautiful thing about the decisions that we make: we're often stressed out because we want to be in the middle of God's will, and we don't want to make the wrong decision because what if that takes us outside of his will? Do you actually believe that you are more powerful in your mistake-making than God is in his grace-giving? Do you believe that God can't circumvent not the greatest decision that you've made and still help you to find your way into his purpose and plan for your life? If I had to do it all over again, I could tell you that I love where I went to college, but I was thinking, If I had to do it all over again, I would have done this instead. Now, where I sit, 20-some-odd years post-college, um, have I— can I say that it really matters that much? Nope, doesn't matter. I really believe that where I am today, God would have still gotten me where I am today no matter where I went to college. And some of the decisions that are plaguing us, y'all, for what God actually wants to do in our life mainstream. It doesn't matter. So that's what I want to tell you. First of all, take a small step. The second thing is take the weight off and just pick. Start with something, something. One of the things that we like to do and talk a lot about in the Inner Circle, especially when we do our 90-day journey together, which we will do again in 2021, is we just pick something. Okay, the same is true for setting priorities. In setting priorities, you have to start with the things that have the biggest impact over the longest period of time. Start with that, okay? And then pick something. And if they are not in the correct order, you can change your mind, you can reset them, you can set and reset them. Half of the problem we have with making decisions is we feel like the decisions are final. And most of the decisions. Now, I'm not saying that all, because I understand marriage and whether or not you go to medical school, and some of those are, you know, they're, they're not once in a lifetime, but they're close to it. And I understand that some of the decisions that we have to make have a lot of weight. But what I want to tell you is most of the decisions, y'all, that we stress out over don't really have that much weight, and you just need to pick something. Setting priorities is the same. Okay, now we know we got to put God first, And we know if we're married, you know, we gotta honor our spouse. We know if we have kids, we need to prioritize them. But then, oh my gosh, you know, do I go to school first or do I wait until I get out of school to get out of debt? Or, oh my goodness, you know, do I, you know, I'm in this new house, which, what do I do first? Do I clean out my closet first or, you know, do I clean out the garage first? You know, I don't know. See, some of the things that we're stressing over y'all in setting priorities, it doesn't matter. Just pick something. And then if something in— once you make the best decision you can with the information that you have, then you will realize in motion if something doesn't feel right. You will realize in motion if something doesn't feel right. So my bike recently lost air, and so I went and pumped up the air in the garage. And then I went for a ride and I brought it back. And I did what I thought I was supposed to do. I took my bike out and I brought it back and I pumped it up and then I took it out. And then the next time we took it out, it was flat again. So I thought, well, I hadn't ridden it in a couple months, so I pumped it up and I took it out and I brought it back. And then I was like, wait a minute, the next time I brought it back and it was flat again, it's like, I don't think it should be flat like that. But I pumped it up and I took it out and I brought it back. And the next time I wanted to ride, it was flat again. And then I said, wait a minute, there's something else going on. We need to take a different course of action. So I had my son take it to the bike shop and I told him, don't spend a whole lot of money. Just confirm that the tube is out. I don't know anything about bikes, but I've heard the inner tube, it may go flat. So I took him, I said, if it's like $30 for them to fix that, buy the tube and bring it home. He said, I don't know how to change a tube. I said, we can watch YouTube and figure it out. He brought my bike home. It was the tube. Now it's holding air like nobody's business. That's awesome. Lesson learned. Crisis averted. Now I can ride my bike. But you want to know what that joker did? He took it and let them put it on the bike. And I said, why did you let them put it on the bike? He said, oh, because it was only $22. You said if it was $30. That was a euphemism, son. It meant that if it's not like $10 or like $3 for them to do it, bring it home and let us do it ourselves. So first thing is, I set the priority by what kept getting off track. Okay, I've got to get my bike fixed now. I was just riding it, putting air in it. Now I've got to prioritize getting it fixed because it keeps losing air. Now I have to prioritize being more clear with my children when I talk, because what I meant is we're gonna do it ourselves unless it's basically free, but that's not what I said. So out of that, now my priority, priority is riding my bike, not just fixing my bike. And now my priority, one of my priorities, is making sure I'm very clear with these teenage boys. Because I thought I don't want to be, you know, too, too specific, and I want to give him room to figure it out. Nope, nope, nope. I want to just tell him. That's what I've decided I wanted to do. So really, one of my priorities in our home right now is cleaning, teaching my boys to clean. They are very helpful. They do what I tell them to do. But one day I told them to clean the bathroom, and they all looked at me like this, and I realized that all these years their sisters have been doing the work for them. And then I hired a housekeeper who was helping me, and then I inadvertently was helping them. And I was like, oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no! In this new house these are the areas that primarily y'all touch so guess what? Y'all are cleaning those areas and y'all are cleaning those rooms. And I trained them to teach— note one of my focuses right now is training my children in cleaning, in cleaning. It's not that that's like the priority of life it's the priority for the next few weeks and I'm writing things down as we do it and that is a priority which means on Saturday mornings I have to be the mean mom who gets her kids up early, even though we all want to sleep in, because my priority right now is teaching them how to clean. Okay. My priority right now is obviously not organizing my closet. Oh, y'all can't see the stuff on the floor. It's not organizing my closet right now. The priority is organizing our rhythms with school. The closet can wait. And more serious priorities right now, I decided, that like I had y'all, 177 women applied, more than that now, applied for the last opportunity that I had. We narrowed it down. We narrowed it down. We had a bunch of interviews and it turned out that I ended up needing to hire 2 people. I hired one. I haven't hired the second because you want to know what my priority is right now? My priority is getting together rhythms and routine in my home and in my business. And if I add someone else to that, it means I'm more focused on onboarding someone than I am on getting some things done. So guess what? I made a decision. It can wait. It can wait. And I went in with another decision. I went in with a need to hire one, then two, then I hired one, and now I'm waiting. And I've made that decision. Sometimes the only way you know to make a decision is if you make a decision and you realize that I need to course correct. Okay. And course correcting and resetting your priorities to course correct is okay. Let me tell you something about priority. Priorities should be set until they need to be fluid. They should be set until they need to be fluid, meaning that if you set them and they are not out, they're not in order, and you realize that as you're in motion, that, um, I need to move this up because this keeps getting knocked off. I need to move this up because this keeps getting, um, not done. I need to move this up because actually it's bothering me more now that I'm not dealing with it. So I'm gonna move this up and shift them. Priorities are like balance. You never really actually have it set. You just find some place where it feels good, and then when it doesn't feel good anymore, you shift. And it's okay to shift your priorities. Now, setting priorities means you're gonna have to pick in order to know if you got it right. And sometimes looking at rice in the supermarket aisle is like that. I don't know which instant rice to buy. Do I want to buy Uncle Ben's, or do I want to buy the the Minute, whatever that brand is. Do I want to buy the off-brand? Do I want to buy the Walmart brand? You know what, I don't know until I try it. But pick something, try it, and then course correct. Give yourself the freedom to try before you buy, okay? Before you say, oh my gosh, I set my priorities and now life is smooth, don't feel the pressure for that. Just pick something and get going. Making a decision means evaluating your options, taking very small steps, one step at a time, to then decide, um, if I made the right one. Now, bigger decisions you take your time with. Marriage decisions, take your time. Moving for a job, take your time, and always in wise counsel. But at a certain point, y'all, uh, you just gotta step out. The other tip I would give you for making decisions is you need to talk it out. Now, talking it out could be literally talking it out with a friend. It can be talking it out by yourself. Talking out loud by yourself is not a bad thing. It can be writing it out. You need to get out of your, out of your mind and out of your heart. What are the fears related to making a step forward, taking a step forward? What are the fears related? Because a lot of times the anxiety that we feel about making a decision has to do with the fears that we have of making the wrong one. And often if we say, what's the worst thing that could happen? What's the worst thing that could happen? We realize that the little thing that we are letting lord over us is not that big over— it's, it's like a little thing and it's the big thing. I should say that differently, that the big thing that we're letting keep us frozen, once we analyze it and say, what's the worst thing that could happen? It's actually not that big. It's just not. And so if you can say, you know what, if I go to this school and it's not the right school, next semester I can change. I can change. If I move to this side of town and get this apartment, and I realize I don't like it over there, even though moving is an inconvenience, I can move. If I cut my hair off and hate it, I can put on a wig or wear braids until it grows out again. I mean, y'all, most of the decisions we're stressing out about are that. Melissa, you said, this sounds good, but as a single mom with a special needs child, I have learned to take it one day at a time, one thing at a time, and one breath at a time. Always asking Jesus to take the wheel. Absolutely. There are some days, y'all, when I lay in the bed and I have a stone on my chest because whatever I'm deciding about feels so weighty. The day feels weighty. The relationships with the kids are weighty. Marriage is weighty. Business is weighty. And then I lay there and breathe, listen to myself breathe, and then decide to do one thing. Melissa, I totally agree. I totally agree. So here's the deal. And I see y'all first time mother Melanie having trouble with balance, making time to work from home and no help due to COVID. Husband is a business owner and never home. I know it's tough. And you know what the decision may mean that some of the decisions that I'm stressing out about right now, I don't have to make them right now. That may be the decision. The decision may be to not make the decision. It may be to not set a million priorities, to do the one thing. When my kids were small, um, a friend of mine said, as you go through your day, write down what you did. Don't write down a list. Don't, don't try to set priorities. Don't get your Franklin Covey planner out and schedule your day. As you do things, write them down. And at the end of the day, at the end of the day, see what you did. At the end of the day, see what you did. Okay, so I know that many decisions are not simple. I know that many decisions are actually very hard. I understand that setting priorities is tough because you're not just dealing with you, you're dealing with your kids, you're dealing with your spouse, you're dealing with your friends, you're dealing with taking care of parents, you're dealing with your responsibilities at church. I understand that. But for most of us, often making a decision means being still, until you can think of one thing you can do to move forward. Setting priorities means setting them for today and then allowing yourself permission to let them be in flux. Because yes, Melanie Walker, getting started is the hardest part of most things. So here's what I need you to do once you finish this live, if you can, and if you can't, I want you to find 5 minutes in your day today to do this very thing. I want you to find not even 5 minutes. It could be 3, it could be 60 seconds, but really 5 minutes. 5 minutes. Find 5 minutes in your day today. It could be while you're sitting on the toilet. Okay, find 5 minutes. No music, no phone, no nothing. And if it's a decision that you're struggling to make, give it headspace. If there are priorities that you need to set, give it headspace. Sit there in the quiet, breathe deeply, put your hand on your heart if you need to focus. Just to remember I'm here. And if I had to decide today, if I had to pick something today, if I had to make a decision today, what do I choose? What do I— what is the Holy Spirit, what is my knower saying to do if I had to pick today? And you may not take action on that, but give yourself the grace of knowing you can make a decision. You may change your mind tomorrow. But make one. Declare it and say, I made a decision. Sleep on it and then take action, or be still and get more counsel. But start practicing. Practice making decisions. Same thing with priority. Sit still and then say, okay, what are my— what are the 3 things that I gotta do today? I gotta, I gotta do them today. If I don't do anything else today, I'm gonna take a walk, I'm going to crack open my Bible, even if it's just for a few minutes. And we're going to sit down and read with my son. Been feeling guilty about not having reading time with him. Let's sit down and read with my son. Maybe your priorities today are, okay, I'm not, as I go through my day with these small children, as I go through this day with my special needs kid, as I go through this day with a million Zoom calls on a job that I hate, what I'm going to do is at least 3 times today, I'm going to say, at least one thing each one of those times about myself, how I'm doing this day well, because that's mainly my big thing. My big thing is I am constantly feeling like I'm doing my day horribly. So at least 3 times today, I'm gonna set my watch, I'm gonna remind myself, tell yourself something you did well. Okay, that's my first issue. The second thing is I'm going to say a scripture that affirms that. I'm going to find a scripture. I'm not even going to say it. I'm going to I'm gonna find a scripture that affirms that God is pleased with me. I'm gonna Google, what does God think about me? I'm gonna find a scripture. Okay, that's number 2. Okay, number 3 is I know I need to lose 59 pounds, but today my priority is gonna be to pick a water bottle and just try my best to keep it full. Those are my 3 things. I'm gonna write them on my mirror with lipstick so that every time I come to the bathroom, I'm reminded of what I said. That's it for today. It could be that minor. See, a lot of y'all, we're trying to set priorities for the year and the quarter and life, and you should do that. And that's one of the things we do together in the Inner Circle. But here's what I need you to know: if you just do it a little bit today, you win. If you just start practicing making decisions, you get better at it. It's a muscle. You can grow it. If you hire wrong, you can fire right and get the other person in there. If you don't buy the dress that you actually love, then you've learned something about your style. If you buy the wrong bed, guess what? They give you 180 days typically to return it. Return it if you don't like it, if you're not comfortable, and get the other one. Like, just pick. Just pick. Because not making a decision is still making one, and you learn to make better decisions by making them. And you learn to set priorities by setting them and working with them every day and giving yourself grace to change. Okay. Listen, Peter said, Lord, I'm not going to deny you. I would never do that. He made a decision. Then he went and the cock, the cock crowed 3 times, and then he totally denied Christ. He screwed up. He made a different decision. Then he made another decision. I'm going to totally give my life to Christ. And Jesus built his church on Peter the Rock. Peter changed his mind a few times and God still used him. And that's what I need you to understand. If you make the wrong decision, God can still work through you. If you have your priorities out of order, you're working on setting them, don't stress out about getting them right. God can still use you. And if you will take the time to ask Jesus, hey, before I make this decision, I know that it's, you know, there's nothing specifically in scripture that says this job or that job, that city or that city, this man or that man, but before I make this decision, can I just ask you, do you care and would you get in the way if I'm about to make a mistake? Same thing with priorities. God, I'm trying to set my priorities and I'm reading your word and I'm listening to your word and I'm going to church and I'm doing all the things. Help me to know what your priorities are for me. And as you go, grow. Like, you can grow as you go. But here's what I need you to do: I need you to go. That's what I need you to do. I need you to go. I need you to stop hemming and hawing and saying, I can't decide, that I don't know how to do the priorities straight, and all these different things. And yes, major decisions, take your time, wise counsel. But most of the stuff, y'all, we can't decide. Most of the priorities, we're trying to figure out, and I want to get them right. We're stressing ourselves out about just doing something And God is sitting here like, if you would just get in motion, ma'am, I could get to work. And I just want to say this: many of you all are already in motion. You're already in motion. You are already in motion. You are already fixing dinner. You're already taking care of those kids. You're already working hard on your job. You're already studying to finish that degree. You are already trying your best to keep your house clean. You're already trying your best to not put the french fries in your mouth You are trying your best, and I want to affirm that. I want to affirm that. But I also want to say, for the things that you know you're supposed to change, give yourself grace. Make little decisions. Give yourself time to make the big decisions. And as you go, grow. This is not a panacea for every, every and all decisions and all priorities. And that's why we have the Inner Circle. So as we work through these things specifically We can help each other. And as I can, I can help y'all. But here's the thing, you can help yo'self.

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Inner Circle is there if you need it. If you don't, it's all right, but you can help yourself and stop trying to go by yourself. Find your people, find a person or two or three and say, hey, I just wanna work on setting priorities and I need accountability. So on Saturday, I'm gonna call you and tell you what my priorities are, or tomorrow I'm gonna call you. I'm gonna tell you about the decision that I made. Confess that thing out loud and get going. Get going. And if you have nobody in the world to confess to, say it out loud because Jesus is listening. I gotta go, y'all. I got these, gotta get these kids going, but I have enjoyed being with you today. Um, I want you to know, cause I saw the question, the Sister Circle on Facebook, all you do is go to, oh my gosh, what is it? ChrystalEvans.com/FacebookGroup.

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That's just join the circle, join the conversation. If you're interested in the Inner Circle, the doors close October 11th. They're open now. Join now so you can get in on all the fun. ChrystalEvansHurst.com/InnerCircle. All right, y'all, talk to you later.

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