Getting Things Done - Coffee with Chrystal #alittleQC

because I'm having issues today. Let's see here. Good morning, good morning. And now I got to figure out how to get Instagram on here. Good morning, good morning, good morning, good morning, good morning. Let me turn that down. Good morning! Can you hear me okay? You can hear me okay, give me a thumbs up. You can hear me, awesome. Alright, we're gonna rig Instagram right here. Okay. Good morning, good morning. I'm having all kinds of fun this morning. You have no idea. It's buzzing? There's a buzzing sound. All right, let me pull my phone away and see if that fixes it. There's a buzzing sound. Okay, hold on, y'all. It's always something. Let me see here. Interim microphone. Let me do this. Okay, is that any better? Let me know if that's any better. Good morning. Hi, Berlin, nice to see you. Nice to see you. Sounds like a fan. So yeah, let me know if that got any better. It's still not great. Hey, Guyana, Virginia, Rock Island. It sounds like But man, still buzzing. Yeah, I'm trying to figure out, y'all, what that could be. So I obviously am at a new computer today. Um, input device. Oh, let's try this. Okay, I just changed something. Y'all can let me know. Letting you all jump on this morning. Hi, North Carolina. Okay, I just changed something. There's a sound that mimics a fan, so let me know if that's— he said, I can live with the buzzing. There's a buzz, but keep going. Not buzzing on Instagram. Yes, it's a computer thing. So what I did is I changed my microphone hoping that that would fix it. And whatever you did, it worked for just a second. I don't know, you guys. I do not know. Output device headphones. And I cannot— let's see. I can't hear anything. Okay. I'm sorry, y'all. This is the best I can do today. You can't see me on YouTube? I think I'm there because I'm getting comments. This is what happens when you change computers. I just said the word is alive. That's what I'm here for. Okay, y'all are so churchy, so churchy. Don't let it be a distraction. The enemy is always busy. I mean, he is. He is. Yeah, my AirPods are— I don't even know where they are. So here's my problem today, y'all. I'm going to keep going, okay? Because I don't know what else to do to fix it. Um, since y'all are telling me to keep going. All right, so I'm going to close some things that may help. So basically, I, um, cannot find my computer. Is that not the craziest thing? I literally cannot find my computer, my laptop. And it didn't leave the house yesterday. It, uh, it was here. I was working on it. Me and the kids went, um, out for a walk/run. We met up with Chrystal Hurst and her kids and my brother and his kids, and we all went out to a lake nearby to get some— get a walk in outdoors. And came back last night, dropped them off. Then I needed to go to Costco because we were out of the main things, you know, milk, eggs, bread, a couple things I needed to get from Costco. So I dropped them off. I don't even think I really came in the house much. Went back out, went to Costco. Then you know how it is these days when you need something. Somebody said, "I miss this room." I went and then I had to go to Target. I was choosing, should I go to Walmart or Target? So I chose Target. And then they didn't have everything, so then I went to Walmart and they were closed, so then I went to Kroger and I still didn't get everything. I went to Kroger and I was thinking, um, I hate going to a store where I don't know things. I hate going to a store where I don't know things because, you know, then you waste time. And when I was with little kids, I had a grocery list. I still have it. I had a grocery list for Walmart organized by aisle so that I, you know, because I'm always trying to— I'm always trying to be efficient. Yeah, so I'm gonna do Find My Mac. I did do that actually on my phone and it says not found. So literally I'm like, somebody broke into my house and just took my laptop. I had no idea where else it could be. So I've been, I mean, I've been out walking around looking, looking in the kitchen, cause I was standing in the kitchen for a little while, looking in the bedroom. Cause of course I'll take it in there, looking in my office. I cannot find it. So I went to Walmart and they were closed for COVID. And I just, I just was thinking, this is why I'm so aggravated. I talked to y'all before about routines and rhythms and, um, routine and rhythm makes life simpler. So, you know, I go to Costco and I have a routine. I have a routine for how I walk through the store and I, um, I have a list. I put the list on my phone. You know, I looked in the laundry room. You said they're surprising me for Mother's Day. Uh-huh. That would be nice. That would be nice. Um, yeah, but see, the problem is I want a new computer. It's actually on my list of things. I normally get a new computer every 3 to 4 years. It's been 5, and I've been waiting. Um, and so anyway, so I'm really off my game. So I had already installed my software on this computer, but I don't have, you know, all of my graphics, my sounds. I've never, you know, I did, I looked in the bathroom. Listen, y'all are trying to help me. I did check the top of the fridge. I mean, everywhere. You know what, I didn't look under the couch. I have not looked under the couch. I've looked in all the chairs, you know. Is that behind you at the other computer? Listen, y'all are looking in the background, aren't you? No, this computer right there, well, I'm moving up, right here, y'all can see that, that is my computer from 12 years ago. Somebody said, "Is it outside by the pregnant rat?" What about the laundry room where the Oreo Thins are? Y'all! Remember too much. I actually checked my email, and I checked my email and I looked, where was the last sent message? Because that will tell me where I was when I sent it. And the last sent message, I was in the kitchen, and I know where I was standing. I mean, and normally, y'all, I take my laptop to bed with me because in the morning after I get up and do all the things I need to do. I just lay there for a little bit and get work done. So I've looked, I've pulled back all the covers, I've looked under the bed. Did I kick it off the bed last night? Somebody said it's in the freezer. Look in the pantry. Listen, y'all are helping! Look under Joel's bed. I'm so grateful. Okay, somebody said look down, remember the perfume? Ping it. You can send an alert to it if it's a Mac. Well, I looked on my phone and everything else came alive and said, here I am. And then for my Mac, it said it couldn't find a location. So I totally am— I mean, I literally— I, you know, it is what it is. Here's the thing, y'all have to understand. So this morning, I I just feel a little bad because my son yesterday, Kanan, loses everything. He loses everything. I just say he's a genius and he cannot be bothered with keeping up with things. He just cannot be. I mean, y'all, he loses everything. Everything. Can't trade. My oldest son has the memory of an elephant. If anybody cannot find things, in their house. So I said, call the police. Um, then, um, we asked Trey— now you just said call the police, and that just made me think of something. I'm like, did I take it with me in the car? Because if I took it with me in the car, when I got back to my car— we took the kids to go get an icy last night. My window was down. I don't think I took it in my car, but I'm gonna ask my kids if I took it in my car. Because if that's the case and they left my window down, then it is very highly likely that somebody stole it. But I don't think I— I don't think I remember taking it, but it's possible because y'all, I kind of take my— I take my computer sometimes everywhere. Hmm. I did look in my car, y'all, but it wasn't there. So now I'm like, was it in my car and my kid left the window down? Y'all, we have been on— this is ridiculous. I'm supposed to be on here talking about something. Y'all are really here trying to help me find my computer. I'm so grateful, but I'm gonna talk about something else. I'm probably gonna tie it in. Check under the seats. Do you have cameras outside? I do not. Don't have the Ring system. I don't know why my sound is different today. Well, I'm on a different computer, but why you're hearing a buzz, that's the part I don't know. That's the part I don't know. And I don't— somebody said, we not claiming that. Come on now, somebody. Alright, so I literally am logging on to find my phone, whatever. Okay, so here's what I'm gonna do. I was about to say, so my husband, well, my son, my middle son loses everything, and he actually said to me the other day when he found something, or he was looking for something, he said, Mom, have you seen my— and my response to him was 'No, I haven't.' And then I said, 'Sounds like you should have put it where it belongs. Everything has a home.' I mean, like, I totally, y'all, went into, 'You shouldn't be looking for it,' because he's always looking for stuff. And I'm always saying things have a home. Always. I'm always like, 'Things have a home. They have a drawer for their technology items. They have a bin for their other items and their schoolwork has shelves and so when he's walking around looking for a book or something like that, I'm like, it has, everything has a home. Sounds like to me you should have put it in your home. And he said, and I kind of was upset at first that he said it and then I was like, I mean, I get it. He said, Mom, that's actually not helpful. Mm. Um, hold on, let's see. I'm gonna play the sound, if it'll do it. It just says, "MacBook offline. Sound pending." And it says the Mac will play when it's connected to the internet. So I can't ping it. Anyway, um, I was thinking when he said that to me, I was like, that's not helpful. Like, that's something I could say at another time. I don't have to say that right now, you know what I mean? And I was thinking, I'm so irritated when people do that to me, you know what I mean? Or they I'm struggling with something and then they say something that's not helpful. It's just like it's their time to take a jab, you know, it's their opportunity to prove a point, it's their opportunity to, you know, just kind of come at me sideways and make me feel bad. And, you know, I just, I just was thinking Bill! Dead bugger. I just was thinking, we've got to learn how to be kinder, you know? I mean, yeah, I'm the mom, and yes, I need to have teaching moments, and yes, I need to remind him of what's important, but do I have to do that all the time? So here I am, I can't find my computer this morning. And I will ask my children, was it in the backseat with y'all? And I will look under the seats. And I do have another computer, got a desktop, so I can get work done. But I was thinking, if anybody came to me, if any of y'all said to me right now, Chrystal, 'You've got to do a better job putting things where they go.' That actually isn't helpful right now. You know what I mean? And if we can think about what it means to be kind, you know, there are moments to teach people, there are moments to remind people of truth, there are moments to be real, there are moments to be realistic, there are moments to be suggestive and helpful and all those things. But sometimes, y'all, we use the opportunities that we have to be helpful and supportive and kind, and we use them to dig. And so I just wanted to challenge you today and tomorrow, especially as we head into Mother's Day, that you think kindly about your words um, turn down this light a little bit. What's the point now? I've already been on a little bit. Did you think kindly about your words? You see my blanket behind me, y'all? See my blanket? With my mom on my blanket. Can y'all see that? One of my interns for last year, Miss Amber, she sent that to me. So kindness is underrated, and I just think we need to think about our words before they come out of our mouth. The first thing I should have done with my son is to say, "Hey, can I help you find it?" Which, I mean, truth be told, I'm tired of helping him find things. I'm exhausted from helping him find things, you know. But, uh, in that moment, you know, really, what is helpful and is not helpful for me to say certain things. So think about your words. Um, and to be honest, I, you know, I get up in the morning and I write my notes for what I'm going to say, so I don't have a plan. So I'm here to ramble and keep y'all company because I thought I'm not gonna come. I'm gonna tell them I can't find my computer, and then they're, you know, and because I couldn't have anything to say, and then they're gonna say, sure you do, just get on there and talk, because, you know, whatever. So I'm here to just talk. I also want to say that yesterday I got a little derailed in my plans, and it's okay to be derailed in your plans. But let me, let me tell you what happened. So my sister came over, and I, I'm not— she's a lot more of a flexible person than I am, a lot more spontaneous. Isn't that crazy? I was gonna wake up the boys and ask them if it was in the back seat with them when they were in the back. Did you already look under the car? Under the seats, Jesse? Yeah, but we can ask them if it was in the car. If it was in the car, then I'm sure somebody stole it, because when we got out to go get those ICES, the boys left the windows down. But I don't, I don't know that I put it in the car. It's likely, that's likely, but I don't know that I did. Anyway, Jesse's Shiny helped me find it. Okay, so I don't even know what I was just saying. Okay, so, so I'm— I do like planning things, but my need to plan things is heightened by the fact that my life is very, very full. Kids at home, working from home, y'all, I have like 4 jobs. So literally I have a role at my church I have a role at my dad's ministry. Of course, you know, I speak and write. Of course, you know, I'm home. And even though I do have somebody who usually helps me with the kids' schooling, even though she hasn't been coming because of COVID-19, I do that. Of course, I'm home with my family. And then I, you know, I do writing and speaking for other ministries. Of course, I'm on here with y'all. And I just, you know, I have a lot going on. So in order for me to stay sane, rhythms are my lifeline, right? And so if somebody pops over, it's a little— even though I love it, like if I'm here and nothing's going on, I love it when people just pop to say hello. You know, my in real life friends who have— we know they have that right and privilege privilege. I love that. Um, but if, but yesterday Priscilla was like, we're just going to come over. We want to see the dead rat. Y'all, I posted it on Instagram. So my middle son had to dissect a pregnant rat last yesterday. That was a mess. And, um, she came over cause they wanted to see it. And then when she came over, they were, they were my kids. All the kids were hanging out. And she said, well, they can play video games for 30 minutes. And I was like, okay, because really we're in the middle of our school day, right? So her kids are done with their schoolwork, my kids were not. So I was like, okay, and I'm thinking in my head, be flexible, Chrystal, be flexible, be flexible, this is great. Oh, the kids are, you know, here, and you know, this is a thing, and it was a thing because I was trying hard to get ready. So, um, we were already going to go walking, so then she says, well, I'm going to walking. I said, okay, we'll meet you. Now, my purpose in going walking yesterday was to work out. So we're on week 5 of C to 5K. My boys had already done day 1 the day before, so I didn't do it with them. They went out running by themselves, and I, um, went running. Um, I needed to catch up, so that was my plan. So when it turned into— so we drove to the place where we're going to do that. Place is closed, it's under construction. So we went to a nearby walking trail. We hadn't been there before, so now I gotta figure out, is it a trail that we can walk? Is it a trail that we can, you know, is it a trail that we can, is it a hiking trail? What is it? 'Cause I was trying to run. So then now it's not just me and my kids, it's my sister and her kids, and it's my brother and his kids, my one brother and his kids. So now we're all out there. So now I'm feeling guilty 'cause if I run, I'm against family time. We're supposed to be having fun. Family time. So if I run, I'm messing up the family time. So I walked for a little bit, and then after a while I ran because I was like, I got— I can't be out here and not run. So I ran a little bit, but then I felt bad because I wasn't with the family. Then after that, I'm like, okay, I'm going to go home, I'm going to get back to them. So then my brother and his kids and my sister and her kids were talking about going to Rita's in Arlington to get some icees. Of course, especially Joel. Joel is like, "Mom, can we go? Can we go?" Now y'all, Arlington is away from my house. So now not only did I take 2 hours to do a 30-minute walk because we had to find the place where we had to go and then we had to do it with the family so it took longer. Now I'm in the car, my kids want to go with my sister and my brother to go to the icee place and I'm thinking I'm supposed to go home. I gotta go home. I got stuff to do. I wasn't supposed to be out here for 2 and a half hours. I gotta fix dinner. I didn't take dinner out this morning. Y'all are gonna tell me later that you're hungry, but they wanted to hang with their cousins. So no, I drove all the way out to Arlington and I'm thinking, cause this is one of those moments, if something bad were to happen tomorrow, that I would be glad that I did because, because it's family and I just should go with the flow. It's okay. We're quarantining. What does it matter? So I went. Which, by the way, is where my window was left down. So then my youngest son is like, "Can I go? Can I go with Auntie Syl? Can I go with Auntie Syl? Can I spend the night? Can I spend the night? Can I go? Can I go?" And I'm thinking, I don't know. I didn't plan for this. But I'm thinking, relax, relate, release. Be with it. Like, this is what memories are made of. Go be with your cousins. Go have a good time. You know, and I'll go home. And whatever it is that's traumatic, we'll figure it out later. We'll figure it out later. And last night, I looked at my phone and I saw my son 'Cause Priscilla sent me a video of the 3 kids, 'cause all 3, that we call them the 3 amigos, 'cause me, Priscilla, and Kanika, Jonathan's wife, we had babies within 6 months of each other, so we call them the 3 amigos. And the 3 amigos were in the pool. I don't even know what my son wore in the pool, 'cause I didn't send him over there with nothing, no toothbrush, no shorts, I don't even understand. But they were all in the pool creating a memory. And I thought this was good, this was good. My two older boys, one boy, I'm gonna have to call his teacher and say, listen, I know the deadline was May the 6th, but we gonna get it to you next week. I can't, I can't do it today. So, and I'm the homeschool mom, I'm giving him an excused absence, 'cause I was supposed to do something I didn't do. So I let the two big boys come home and veg out on computer games. I got in the car, Jesse just wanted to go for the ride. We just went to Costco, Target, Kroger. Uh-oh, he's asking for us. It's on my computer. Was it in the car yesterday, Kanan? Did you see it in the car when we were riding around to the lake? Uh-uh. All right, we'll have to ask Trey. So anyway, we tryna, we on the hunt. So my point is, the whole day got shot yesterday, and now I can't find my computer. Just like, not the whole day, the whole evening. So, but here's what I want to say. There's a learning, there's a difference, and at the end of the day, I'm glad that the boys got to veg out. I'm glad that my youngest son is still with his cousins right now. I don't know when I'm going to see him again. And then I— did you find it? So, but I was, I was just thinking. When I'm, when I'm talking about getting things done, I talked to y'all the other day about your top 3, right? Like, I literally, I literally get hyper tight when— uh-oh, Instagram just died. Y'all, this is not, this is not how life should be right now. I don't even understand what's happening. Everything, everything's a problem. Hi Instagram, I'm back. I don't know what's happening, but my point is I was thinking you have to have a North Star. You have to have something that you hold on to when life throws you unexpected So, for example, somebody said, why isn't Chrystal Hurst checking in? Because she's probably asleep, because she was up last night with those kids. The North Star yesterday was I worked out. The North Star was I went to the grocery store. The North Star was I got some things returned, right, on email. I had to check my email. Those are my North Stars. And then you have to say anything else that throws a curveball in my day, I'm making room for it. Because how else do you allow fun things to interrupt, the Holy Spirit to interrupt, unexpected things to interrupt? How else do you make room for living? Do you understand what I'm saying? Like, if you only do what you planned, you are limiting yourself. Yourself to things that you can think of. And y'all, this is what I'm telling myself, because I don't— I didn't feel this way yesterday, and I didn't feel like— I don't necessarily feel like it today because Joe still has schoolwork to do. I mean, you know, there's that. He still has schoolwork to do. Um, but then I have to say, was yesterday a good day? Was yesterday day, good day. You know, and when I was talking about reducing stress and I said the last thing was, is looking at the day and saying— I have this picture of my mom sitting on my computer. I'm going to show these to you. You have to say, did the main things get done? Because here's, here's what I believe, and you've heard this a million times, y'all. I believe that, and I've heard that, when you get to the end of your life, you're not gonna say, did I reply to all the emails? You're not going to say, did I read all the blog posts? You're just not. You're not going to say, you know, did I take care of all of the dishes every night? I wash the dishes every night? You're gonna say that I spend time with the people that I love, and a lot of that is gonna come with interruptions. You're gonna say, um, did the people I love know that I love them? You know, you're gonna say, um, that I have fun, that I go for a walk by the lake. And so I want to challenge you to find the thing in today, the 3 things that if they get done, you're a happy person. Say, say what they are. 3 things, right? And then I want you to say, what today can I do that will matter in 30 years? So let me give you an example. I'm gonna show you a picture, okay? Because I can— can you see this picture? If you're on, I'll hold up my phone, Instagram, so you can see it. Okay. Oh, I guess I can just turn it around. Let's do that. Okay, you see that picture? Okay, that is my my mom and JoJo. I don't know what birthday that is. That may be 7 or 8, probably. Okay. So let me tell you what's really hard for me. Let me tell you what's really hard for me. Celebration is really hard for me. And you know, if you read She's Still There, that I wrote about it and I wrote about it because it's tough. It's like I'm a doer, I'm a box checker, I like to make sure things are in order. That brings me a great deal of satisfaction. Celebrating means I have to stop whatever I had planned for today and just be. And celebration is, Like, you know, if it's your birthday, I'm already stressed. I can tell you that now. The people that I love, when it's their birthday, I'm stressed because that means that there's a date where I have to find something to do or to gift or to say to prove to you that I love you. And if I am at I happen to see a mug that says, "Nurses rock," I will buy that mug and I will send it to my friend Michelle because in that moment I thought of her and I wanted to tell her. But then if it's a celebration, if it's her birthday, then, then I have to remember to tell her on that day, to gift her on that day, and that's the part. The part is the definition of the day. I love telling people I love them all the time. Sending them a card, sending them a random text, telling them I was thinking about them. It's the deadline that messes me up, and it's the thing that you're having a celebration on a day when I have 50 things going on and I'm already stressed, but I'm supposed to let you know that I love you. So if I don't come to your event, you're not gonna know that I love you. You know, it's, it's all these different things, right? So celebration is an interruption. Often celebration is an interruption because you have to stop to celebrate a thing that's important and it is interrupting all the other things that you feel like you're stressed to do. Now, that said, there's a couple things we can learn from this. You can learn from me about this, okay? One of them is that you, you know, you really have to take— I really have to take a hard look at my life and say, if I'm always overwhelmed when celebrations arrive in my life, Is there too much on my plate? Because there ought to be room for interruptions, there ought to be white space. There's this illustration that I give that when many of us were in school, our teachers would not let us write outside the margin on notebook paper. You know, you have the hard red line on the left and you have the soft red line on the right, and the teachers would say, "Don't write outside the margins," right? And then if you had a good teacher, she would say, "Skip a line when you write," when you're younger, because she would want room to write in. And so basically, You have to live life like that. You don't want to live writing from the top left-hand side of your paper all the way to the edge of the paper and all the way down, because then if your teacher wants to correct, she doesn't have room to do that. And so the same thing is true with God. If he wants to have room to correct your course in life, to interrupt your life, to bring good things into your life, good instruction, good direction, good manipulation, because he's trying to help you make a shift in your life, if you don't leave him any room then you're missing the good stuff. You're missing the instruction. And so in the same way, we gotta have margin in our life so that we don't miss the instruction. Okay, um, but then you also have to say, you also have to say, if I'm always overwhelmed when celebration comes then am I doing the things to celebrate the people I love along the way? Because I'll tell you, one of the things that alleviates celebration stress is that when the birthday comes, I've already been celebrating them, so I don't feel obligated to do it on this special day. Michelle, I can call her and say, girl, I love you, because we talk. And then I, if I see something, I gift it to Githit'or. But I do have to say that when we make room for celebration, those are the moments that matter. That you were there when they moved into their new home. Home, that you were there when they celebrated their 50th birthday, that you showed up when they got married, that you stayed for the reception, that you, that you lingered at the baby shower, that you stopped by. Now I will tell you that, you know, I just called Priscilla. Yeah, I just called Priscilla a couple days ago and I just said I have this feeling that I didn't spend enough time with mom. I lost you. Now it's a feeling. And I said, and in my head, I know that's not true. I couldn't have spent every waking moment with her. I do have a job. I do work. I do have kids. I do have a husband. And at the time there was no COVID-19 and I travel. So I have to, I have to I have to have some time at home with my kids. Like, I can't always be with my mom. But we, I mean, for being together, I think we did a pretty good job, our family as a whole. But I just was like, should I have spent more time? And I will tell you that, yeah, there are some doctor's appointments that I didn't make, and there's some conversations we didn't have, but nothing really too life-shattering. But I will tell you what gives me peace, what gave me peace when I was talking to Priscilla about that the other day, is that, um, it's, it's that I did think about a lot of moments that we spent together last year, okay? But honestly, somebody said that's just a feeling, it happens when your mom passes. Is you start thinking, "What if?" Yeah, that's what I thought. I thought, "This is just because I want more." But when I think back, last year we spent a lot of time together. We did. And I have a video, if I can find it on Facebook, I'll share it with you. But here's what helped me. I recalled a statement that my sister made when I was over at my mom's house one time. This is before she was sick, my sister said, so you just go over there? She said, she said, where are you? I said, I'm at Mom's. She said, what are y'all doing? I said, we're watching Family Feud. She said, so you just went over there? This is a few years ago. I said, yeah, I just went over there. And, um, I did that a lot. I would just go over there and just sit like for no reason. I like being around her. And we would watch Family Feud, and my youngest son watched Family Feud with her. My boys would go over and just sit. And so what brings me kawali peace is that before she got sick, way before, I just like being with her. So there were lots of everyday moments, you know. On top of that, the one thing, because gifts, y'all, gifts stress me out. And my mother, you know, whatever she wants, she's gonna get herself. That's where I learned how to— if you need to celebrate Mother's Day and your people don't know how to celebrate you, celebrate your own doggone self. And then make sure your people see you celebrating your mother, because that teaches them how to celebrate you. But what I was gonna say is my mother was big on cards. So every Mother's Day, if I didn't do anything else, I always got her a card. And I took my time finding a good card, y'all. And she always said that I would give her the card and she would— I would hand her the card and she literally would say, "Oh my!" She would take the card and she would say, "Oh my! Okay, let me see." 'Your cards always have great words. You're such a great— you always pick the best cards.' And I'm a words person, right? So, you know, I picked good cards. And so what I know for sure is that whether it was spending time watching Family Feud or it was, um, or if it was giving her really good cards. I said what I had to say and I was there beyond the celebrations. Because of course we did the Mother's Day, and let me tell you, I totally always stressed about that. But I'm thinking the gift that we gave her for Mother's Day last year. I'm trying to think, did she use it? I'm trying to think. I'll have to ask her son. But my point is that when you leave room for interruptions and unexpected and just because, because I would stop by my mother's house usually because I was at the church, because remember the church is one of my jobs, and I would on my way home, I would just stop by. And I would always in the sea of should I get flowers or should I get her a gift card to a to a spa, or should we take her on a trip, or should we— I would always make sure I got her a card with good words in it. So all that to say, interruptions can be a good thing, but you have to have room for them. And nothing days, time spent with people that matter doing nothing, is something. Now, I will say doing nothing and watching TV together is something, but I would encourage you with spending time to look at that person and say, when they're not here, what would I want to know? What would I want to do? And be intentional. So I told my boys, I told them, listen, your grandfather is a natural national He's a global treasure. Every time you see that man, you ask him a question. That's what I tell my boys. Every time you see that man, you ask him a question. They were like, what do we ask? I don't know, make something up. Make something up. You think about what you need to ask him because you found it. Where was it? Yes, where was it? But where was it? Tell me, was it in the bed somewhere? Well, where in the bed? It was underneath those clothes? Was it like under the covers? But like at the foot? It looked like it was the tree where you placed it. Was it on my side or the other side? Was it on mine? But like down by my feet? Jesse, they all here talking about, thank you, Jesus. So I maybe should not go to bed before about 10. That's it. Thank you, Jesse. Thank you. No, the older one, no, my mom's Hers is on the side of the bed. Yeah, I saw that one. That's what I thought it was. Yeah. And then I opened it up and I said, "Oh no, this is not." Yeah, that's not me. And then the old one is back here. But anyway, see, look at that. I had somebody stealing it. Jesse to the rescue. That's the thing. That's the problem. Jesse is always to the rescue in my life. So, uh, Anyway, my point is, is make sure you're spending the time, but make sure you're using the time wisely. And so my boys, I told them, anytime you're around my dad, you need to ask him a question. So before we— when we go over, I just say, alright, what's your question? You know, because these are the things that you're going to wish you knew later. So since you don't know that yet, since you don't know that you're gonna wish that all this time that you had him that you should have asked him stuff, I'm going to make you do it. Listen, when you are forced to cook with your grandmother in the kitchen and you're mad because you're in the kitchen doing dishes, you're mad because, you know, your kids are mad because they're helping you cut something up, let me tell you something. When they get older, they're gonna be so glad that they learned of how you did it and that they were with you, you know? So my point is, take the moments, use them well, spend time, ask the questions, and, um, know that the moments that matter, even though we have a plan— because I'm all about having a plan— even though we have a plan, you should have a plan having the plan derailed. And we have to live, you know, that's the part about last year when I said, did I spend enough time with my mom? Is because, you know, we have to live. Like, we can't afford to just sit at our mother's feet all day, every day, for all of our lives. Now, my mother said many times, she would say, okay, now here's a favorite thing that my grandmother used to say. She would say thank you to my husband, to Priscilla's husband. She would say thank you for letting your wife come with me or stay with me or take care of me. She would like, thank you. And the thing is, I was thinking, thank you? Like, you're my grandmother. I'm supposed to be over here. He didn't need thanks for that, but I But the reality is, my grandmother's position was, this is your life. Like, your life is your family and making memories with your family and cooking for your family. And that is your first priority. And so when you are taking care of me, when you're here with me, when you're driving me to my doctor's appointments, your family is sacrificed. Surprising because you're not there with them. So my mother would say, "No, Chrystal, go be with your family and go and do that." She would tell me all the time. So I would always take a picture of myself when I would go to California because California sun, it's magical. So when, as soon as the plane touches down, I'm a happier person. And so I get out of the plane, you know, I'm speaking or going there to do whatever, and I would take a picture and I would send I would say it to my mother and she would say, "Oh, I'm so happy for you. You know, I'm so happy. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy." So she's a very much so smell the roses kind of person. And so if we were doing too many things out of obligation, she would say, "You've got to stop and smell the roses," you know. So whenever we were doing things with her, she would say, "Oh no, you know, what is your family eating tonight?" Or, you know, "What are you gonna do?" Or, you know, "Does Jesse, my son, and, you know, all these different things because she recognized that it's my job to live my life. And part of living my life is leaving room to be with her, but a big part of my life is creating, you know, memories for my kids. There's a reason why we have such great families because my mother did such a great job creating memories for us as a family. She took that very seriously. Took that very seriously. So, um, point is, um, treasure the moments, but treasure the everyday moments. And don't make the celebrations— don't, don't acknowledge the celebrations, make room for the celebrations, but realize that a lot of your best living is done in the everyday. Okay, a lot of the everyday living is, is lot of the everyday stuff, the joys of living, is locked. I'm gonna write that down. A large part of the joy of living is locked in the everyday. That's where, that's where it lives. It lives in the everyday. And so if you've ever found yourself saying, I've got to make time for this. And I mean time with people that you love, but I'm also like going for a run by the lake, exploring your city. You know, if quarantine is coming to an end and you still haven't had a Zoom call with your friends, or still in my case haven't cleaned out the bathroom, those are important things, do them, but don't forget to just go sit and watch Family Feud with your grandpa. My grandmother, my dad's mom, couldn't come to my wedding. She had had surgery, um, and she wasn't going to be able to come. And, um, this is the grandmother that for my 6th 8th grade graduation, I wanted to go and spend a week at their house. So before I got married, like before I got married, like not 3 weeks before, like the week I got married, leading up to, I went and spent a week with them. And I just, we didn't do nothing. She would always buy me chocolate eclairs. Sorry, so weepy. Anyway, she would always want me— because ever since I was a little girl, I like chocolate eclairs. So I would come and go to the bakery and get me chocolate eclairs. And we didn't do nothing. We sat around, we watched TV, we sat on the porch. You know, they got the car, ran errands with We talked. I worked. I worked on my wedding list. I had my laptop out. She was like, "You're always working." Because I am always working. My daughter said the other day, she's like, "Mommy, do you realize that you spend 75% of your life in front of a computer screen?" I'm working on that, but it is what it is to some degree. But I didn't do any— there was nothing to do. I was just there. I just said, I know you can't come, but you being a part of my day is important. So since you can't come to me, I'll come to you and we'll talk about all the things. And then the day I got married, we called them so that they could listen on speakerphone. And I had a mini bouquet of my wedding bouquet sent to her. And she said to me, When I called her later, she said, "I'll never forget this." She said, "As long as I live, I'll never forget this." You know that you did— she said, "You always remembered me." So I'm saying that to you because, you know, This is also the same grandmother that said when she was— the last surgery that she had and I was gonna go and I knew she was getting frail but she was okay. She came out of surgery, she was okay. Suddenly she just heard her body just give out. So I didn't make it there. Before she died I said, hey, we call her Tumwawa. I said, hey Tumwawa, I'm so sorry I'm not there. And I said, I wish I was there and she said, I hope you got me over here crying. I'm sorry, sorry, sorry. Crying is good, y'all. Crying is good. It's purging, it's cleansing, right? But I said, I'm sorry I'm not there. So I should be there. I should be there with you. And she She said, "Oh, you're always here. I'm always with you." She said, "Never forget I'm in you, in you." And that's the thing. When you've spent enough time with people, you always carry a little bit of them with you, and you get to transfer. The best of who they are in you. And that means to your family— sorry, y'all, I got y'all all just in your feelings today, I'm sorry— that means in your family, but that means everywhere else, you know. Like my brother said, we had a meeting at our church, some of the leaders. And we were sharing some things that were in our heart, you know, with all the things that were going on with our mother. And we don't do that, y'all. Like, we don't sit down with leaders in our church. We're not on leadership. We don't do that. But in this particular case, there were some things that we wanted to share. My brother said after that meeting, he said, "What was crazy is when I was looking at you and Priscilla talking, all I could see was Mommy. Like y'all together. Y'all together." And I'll tell you how we naturally carry her on. Now I told them, I told them, my siblings, I said, listen, I'm gonna need you to teach me to do this, I'm gonna need you to teach me to do this, 'cause we all got a piece of her in different ways. Like we, you know, Priscilla has mom's, she has mom's class, you know? She walks into a room, you know she arrived. And it's not that I don't have it, it just is not natural to me. It's not natural to me. Like, you know, being silly, you know, and coming wearing a t-shirt, yoga pants. That is how I roll, you know. But Priscilla always looks like she's ready for the big screen. She always looks fine. She always does. Her home is beautiful. It's well decorated.— it's just, you know, she's just classy. And I, you know, when it comes to seeing people, she does that. She does that well. But I have a lot of people say that to me. When I talk to you, it's just like I'm talking to your mom. Like, you're paying attention to me. You make time for me. You know, there's this whole thing. So we all have it, but to varying degrees, right? You know, my brother— like, we can all cook, but my brother Anthony, there are certain dishes that she made that only he could do the exact way she did it. So it takes all four of us, you know. Jonathan's just silly. My mother had this silly streak. And so it takes all 4 of us to really be the essence, the total essence of who, you know, get as close as we can to the essence of who she is. And so we— you take people with you and then you spread it around, you know, you spread it around. Uh-oh, my phone. I think my phone died. I mean, I don't know what to do about that. Poor Instagram. I feel like they're always getting the short end of the stick. So, long story short, you know, my point in all this is— because there is a point, I'm emoting for a point— my point is, is the everyday manners. My point is that when you show up for people people in the everyday, you create memories that matter. And so when I thought to Priscilla, did I spend enough time, what I could go back to are all of the family feud nights, all of the cards, all of the things that she did to be available and all the things I did to be available for her. And here's the magical thing: I found the cards. I found the cards. So she wasn't just telling me that the cards were meaningful to her. Now, my mom got a lot of cards. And she didn't always keep them all, but the ones that mattered, she kept those. And I was reminded that— sorry, Instagram, my phone died that time— I was reminded that My words mattered, and she got them twice a year, at least every year— Mother's Day and her birthday. I would always— I actually found the letter in a scrapbook. That I'd written to her, to my parents, in my 20s. I'm sure it had something to do with me apologizing for taking them through the rigor, because I took them through the rigor. And I found the letter. So my point is— oh, here's a thing, here's an assignment for you. I'm gonna come back tomorrow with some more Mother's Day thoughts, but this was not the plan, y'all, because I had no plan today because I couldn't find my computer. So the message today is Sorry, leave room for the interruptions. Okay, y'all are giving— so save your ideas. Let's come back tomorrow and kill it with the ideas. Okay, let's do that tomorrow. Let's— tomorrow, let's plan to flood the comments with all of the ideas for what you can do to celebrate your mom, living or not, on earth or in heaven. Let's do that tomorrow, okay? Okay, so here's an assignment though. I want you, even if you're not a writer, I want you to write your mom a letter. This is your one assignment, okay? Write your mom a letter. If your mom is living, or your aunt, or your grandmother, whoever, write her a letter. Doesn't have to be a wordsmith. If you can write it this This is always my cue: if you can write it and if it brings you to tears, it's probably from the heart. Okay, write the letter. If your mother is living, or even if she's not really, but even if she's living, or your aunt or your grandmother, read it to her. Let her hear your voice. Tell her things you love about her, then give it to her so she can keep it always. Read it to her, okay? Read it to her. If you don't think you can do it, if you don't think, I cannot, I can't stand in front of my mother and read this letter to her, uh, then don't. Call her, leave her voicemail, you know, send her a message. And, uh, but my point is Let her know how you feel. And then, and if you have a tough relationship with your mom, a complicated relationship with your mom, find something good to celebrate. And it's okay to be honest and to say, you know, our relationship has been complicated, but it's kind of like, it's kind of like a Oprah said about her mother, when I went to go see Oprah, she said, you know, they didn't have a great relationship and her mom wasn't— she just said, I want to thank you for having this baby. And she said it, I want to thank you for the gift of life you've given me. And thank you that everything I needed to be who I am, I got. Because the setup of Oprah's mom actually not being a great mother is what helped her to become the person she is. So you can always find something good, okay? You can always find something good. The Bible says to honor your parents, so honor her and give her your words of kindness. Kindness and gratitude, because the reason why you're here is because she had you. Okay, okay, so that's your one assignment. And then if you have ideas about how to celebrate, celebrate Mother's Day, I think there's actually, there's actually a conversation happening in our Facebook group today. And because I don't have, you know, all of my things set up, I can't show you, but if y'all have been watching, you should know what that is by now, right? ChrystalEvansHurst.com/facebookgroup. And I will take some questions, uh, I'll take some questions because I always try to do that. Um, and yeah, yeah, so I couldn't find the laptop, thinking about my mom. But really what I'm thinking about is how all of the random things— there's so many random interrupted things, some so many unplanned things that are the beautiful things right now, you know. And I want you to leave room for that. That's what I'm saying to you. So here, here are the things I want you to think of. The 3 things that are the most important thing for you today. If you can get these 3 things done today, you will be— you'll be okay. The there may be 10 things you need to get done today. I mean, y'all should see my to-do list. It's just insane. It's insane. But, um, I try to focus on my top 3. And then I need you to say what today— what today would make— would be a good interruption. Like, is there a park you can take your kids to walk at? Is there a hiking ground that you can meet a friend at, stay 6 feet apart and do your walk. Do you want to just go for a drive, put the windows down and just go for a drive to the other side of town? Is there a restaurant you like to eat at? You want to treat yourself to dinner tonight? Just go for a drive. In fact, there's a friend of mine I offered— I need to offer again for her birthday. I was like, get in the car, the restaurant we both like, let's talk with the windows down and just go out, you know. I need to find— one of the things I told my boys is that we were gonna find some good dance videos on YouTube and, and just learn some dances. Like, what in a year will you say, I'm so glad I did that during Corona? That's kind of random and unexpected, because what if you need to be the, the person? What if you need to be the person that creates the interruption? And I'm good for that. I'll stop by a friend's house in a minute, be like, I was stopping by, you go. Anyway, here's— because yeah, I'll say, I'll say that for another day. Okay, so questions? Do y'all have any random questions? Y'all have been alive and well in the comments today, and I'm so grateful for y'all. I see this, that my comments are popping up on my screen, and I'm on a new computer— not a new computer, I'm on another computer. I don't even know how I did that or why that's happening. I know on YouTube and Facebook y'all can see that, so that's kind of fun. Malia, it's your birthday today? Thanks, Malia! I got your card. You gave me my soap. I think I already took it upstairs. Thank you, I love that smell. Yes to vanilla and patchouli. Yeah, I took it upstairs. They don't have— oh, nope, here it is, here it is. Y'all, if y'all don't know about Barn Door Bath Soap, see if I can make it focus. Barn Door Bath Soap, trying to make it focus. There we go. This is Malia Oliver's company. She makes homemade soap Soaps. See Instagram, there you go. And, um, there you go. And, uh, she came to the Sister Circle retreats and she, um, she just sent me that as a gift because we just— she was in the 90— she was in the Inner Circle when we did the 90-Day Experience. It's also good. And, um And then she sent me that as a thank you. That's so sweet. Happy birthday, girl. Okay, so I'm looking for questions. What is your favorite recipe you have tried in the last month? Beef stroganoff. And I need to— where can you purchase it? Her website is barn-door-bath-shop.com. Support Malia. barn-door-bath-shop.com. And it has ingredients you can pronounce: soybean oil, palm oil, purified water, coconut oil, olive oil, sunflower oil, essential oils. Favorite recipe: beef stroganoff. It's somewhere in that resources page. If you're on my email list, it's somewhere in there. Uh-oh. Okay. Uh-oh. Now Instagram, it says pausing due to poor connection. I just, I don't even know what's happening. Okay, I'm looking for questions now, y'all. Looking for questions. You may have to post it a couple of times. If, um, what is the devotional you use for your boys? Okay, so for my kids, we do Bible like a million different ways. Oh, my quilt, this company. Okay, I'll come back to that. Well, actually, that's not the one. That she gave me. So right now we're reading a book called Revealed, Revealed, and it's a book that kind of came off of the last movie that Priscilla was in for the Overcomer. It was the boy book for Overcomer. We've been reading through that together, but as a part of their curriculum, y'all, the funeral home actually gave us this one, and this one is the one that Amber gave me. Is this the one? Nope. This is— is this the is not either. I'll have to look. Amber, if you're on, can you say where you gave me the one from? It may be upstairs on the bed. Anyway, they're doing My Father's World and they're reading the Old Testament, the whole Old Testament this year. So they have a little thing, it's called Reading Through the Old Testament, and that's their assignment. They read through the Old Testament. And this is what's about to happen. So let me just give you some grace, those of you who are homeschool moms. So every week I'm supposed to have a conference with my boys. That has not been happening. For Bible and history, I'm supposed to talk to them about what they've been learning. It's, it's designed for them to be self-motivated and do all the things on their own. And let's just say we haven't been having that meeting. So during the summer, we're gonna go back through all the questions because they have to write down their answers, and I'm going to assess that they learned something. But the bottom line is I can see their notes, I can tell they're working, and you know what? They're reading through the Old Testament. Most of us haven't done that. So, okay, um, what did your mom write a book on soap making? No, she didn't write a book on soap making. Love the talk with Gary Thomas about toxic relationships. Okay, so listen,. If you need a talk about toxic relationships, that's episode 256, chrystalhurst.com/256. Um, then if you want to hear us talk about legacy, we just released the, uh, podcast with Jill Briscoe. It's episode 257. Both of those, y'all, are phenomenal, phenomenal. And if you're in the Inner Circle at any level, like even the co-producer level, the $5 level, there is a 12-minute clip of Jill that I saved as a bonus podcast for you all. Make sure you go to Patreon and listen to that. Oh my good Lord. Okay, what were we recording yesterday? We were recording the elements for Sunday service, so we pre-record some of the parts. Um, there are lots of people that are involved at our church with Sunday, uh, service, but in any time we're, um, involved with that, then— hey, Christy Cole Harper— then we, you know, we pre-record. So that's what we were doing that day. We were hanging out doing that. Looking, if you put a question in there and I didn't say it, then please feel free. Our church does use RightNow Media. RightNow Media, y'all, is awesome. Churches purchase that and you have a million Bible studies on there, kids programming. If you're looking for something besides Netflix and Boomerang and Nickelodeon Nickelodeon or HGTV, that would have some, some excellent content for you. Will there be another retreat? So here's the deal, y'all. I did not feel comfortable saying, hey, for hundreds of dollars, why don't you come away with me in October when people are losing family members and losing jobs? I think by June 1st we will know if the world feels like it's opening back up and it's safe. Here's the other issue, y'all. At the retreat, at the retreat retreats, we, you're sleeping sometimes 5 to a room. I don't even know if that will be allowed in October. So I've got to talk to Pine Cove about what we can plan for because it's, you know, so what we're doing is, what we're doing is we're going to have an online event and registration will open up for that very soon. Let me see here, hold on. That's not the same thing, of course, as the retreat. However, uh, it will be something that we can do between now and then. I think that if we don't have the in-person retreat, I'll probably just have another online event. I don't know what's happening. Poor Instagram, it's just not fair. I'm so sorry. Where can you find reading resources? We haven't posted those yet. We post the resources for that week sometime that week. We haven't gotten to it yet, but we will. But we will. Instagram, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Okay, so, all right, so online event is coming up. Tickets to Dallas are like $49. I like, have a retreat now because we can afford to get there. Oh, can I become a member of a church that's in a different state where I live? Well, Cassandra, some states do have online membership. Um, our church does not, uh, but some churches do that. They will have e-church, online church. I think Gateway does that. I think the Potter's House does that, but Oak Cliff does not do that. My dad really believes, at least up until this time, that he wants to pastor you in person. He's like, how can I pastor somebody if they don't— I can't speak into their lives. Like, how can I? So he, he prefers to pastor in person, and that's where we are as a church right now. Okay, right now media, Patricia, I think that was your question. I'm so glad y'all been watching us on the internet. When will I come visit South Africa? When I'm invited. Okay, questions, questions, questions. Do I actually drink coffee? Okay, so here's the deal. I love coffee. I don't make it though at home. This is dandelion root tea this morning. Purifies your liver. Why not? My coffee maker is in a cabinet, and so I bring my coffee maker down when I have company. And but if I go out, if I go to Starbucks, I get coffee, but I just don't make it. I don't have that, I don't have that habit or routine. Repost: What are we doing for Mother's Day? I don't know, I haven't gotten there yet. I haven't gotten in yet. What is on my to-do list for today? Well, I have some important paperwork that I have to fill out. I have a blog post to finish. Um, I've got to get my oldest son— I got to get a couple of anatomy grades in. I need to look at my list again. I spent my whole morning not getting ready for the day. So I don't have an order, but those are the 3 things that come to mind. I need to put— the room is a disaster right now. I need to fold some clothes and put it away. Um, probiotic, I'm not committed. I go to the health food store and whatever I see that seems to be good that day. I've taken a Young Living probiotic, but I've also just picked up whatever they had at Sprouts. What coffee? What's my drink from Starbucks? It's bad. So now when I go to Starbucks, I just get comfort tea and I put 1 sugar in it. Um, because if I get a coffee, my coffee order— are y'all ready for my coffee order? It is a double— it's a double tall white chocolate mocha in a grande cup made with almond milk stirred with extra whipped cream. Is that how I say it? Double tall white chocolate mocha in a grande cup with extra whipped cream stirred made with almond milk. Yes, that's my order. That's my order. Okay, that's my order. I'll take 2 more questions and and I'll log off since I spent the first 30 minutes talking to y'all about me losing my computer. And I think my husband is out there making breakfast. Y'all, yesterday was a dead rat and, and I let my son bring the dead cat inside and he put plastic bags everywhere. But mentally I was like, I'm so sorry, you can't bring a pregnant dead rat. That cannot be in my kitchen. I don't care what's down. I don't care. I I don't care. I will never be able to eat in that kitchen again. Do you ever have a day without a to-do list? Yeah. Well, yes and no, because I have a running to-do list and then I have my planner. Does that make sense? Like, like, on my— in my notes on my computer right now. There is a pinned to-do that is called Things to Do, literally. So, and it's just a running list of all the things I need to do. I'm trying to see if there's anything on here y'all can't see, cuz I mean, it will blow your mind. So here, here you go. I will, I will show you. You ready? This is my running to-do list. I mean, this is my running to-do list. Okay, so, so y'all saw it. Instagram, you ready? This is my running to-do list. So this is— it needs to be cleaned up, like if there's a lot of dupes and trips and triple things on there. But the point is, I always just write the things at the top that are on my brain, and then I just scan the list and think, what have I not done, what needs to be done? But that's my quick way to just write things down, just jot them down. But I don't live by that. I then write down— I turn to a blank page in a blank notebook, and then I say, what am I doing today? That's how I do that. Alright, so I said, oh my God. So really, that's— again, I don't live by that list. It's just things I don't want to forget. And then I look at it and scan it and then write down on my— but that literally means something comes to mind and I type it in. That's not like I live by that list. Okay, one more question. My favorite movie is Pretty Woman. Don't judge me, I watched it a million times. Um, okay, thank you for your happy Mother's Day wishes. Don Palmer said, I feel so lazy, I'm married to a Jamaican. You'd be running from my to-do list. I run from my to-do list because I don't look at that every day. Okay, I think that's all I have, y'all. It's better than a thousand sticky notes. How many things from my list are on my planner daily? I mean, big 3, the big 3 are always on my planner list, and then maybe one other thing that I try to remember to do. Okay, I didn't see your question. Um, I've been taking— I've been favoring y'all. I'm going to take a question from— I can't find your question, Lively by Grace. I can't find it. You said answer your question, but I don't see it. I don't see it. You want to post it again? Sorry. Hey y'all, so we'll be on tomorrow in case you missed it. We'll be on tomorrow talking about— is it been 90 minutes? Um, we'll be on talking about ideas for Mother's Day. Okay. Even if it's too late for you to like order it, if it was a winner, um, then share it. So we'll be sharing Mother's Day things tomorrow. If you want to jump into the Facebook group, we're doing them today too. And then I'll pick some to share. My skin looks good. What products do I use? Y'all and the skin, you know what I ought to do? I ought to totally start selling Mary Kay and tell y'all that's what I use. I do use Mary Kay, but it's— but when I feel like it. My mother sold Mary Kay, so I would go and raid her closet and get her stuff for free, right? So what I use, y'all, is soap and water. For years, y'all, I used whatever soap I had, and then I would use Oil of Olay. Then my mother had her cleansing stuff, and so then I used that. Um, but I just My mother gave me good genes. But I do use Mary Kay. But it would be a lot better, isn't it, if I would just sell it and then say, here, come to my website, y'all. I don't have time to sell Mary Kay. Do you consistently do your Big 3 daily? Pretty consistently, pretty consistently. That's why I created, and I don't have it in here, that's why I created my, oh yeah, I do. Here. So this is my planner. I made it. We're working on round 2. And all I did was take everything that I do and try to put it in a planner, right? And so every time I have a planner, it has at the bottom the 3 most important to-dos for the day. See, 3 most important to-dos. You know, and then because I'm a maniac, I just have a blank page on the other side so I can write in anything else I need to write down. But y'all, I always just keep a little book in my purse. Just write it down. Okay. All right, y'all. I'm gonna talk to you later. We'll be here tomorrow. I'll be a little bit more together tomorrow. In the meantime, what's the lesson for today? The lesson today is welcome interruptions, choose to celebrate, revel in the everyday. And your assignment was to write the letter. Write a letter to your mom, living or not. Write a letter to your mom, and if you can, read it. To her. Okay, that's your assignment. You don't have to be a wordsmith, you just have to talk from your heart. Okay. All right. Talk to y'all later. Y'all have a great day. Sorry, Instagram. I don't know what the problem was today. I don't know what the problem was today, but we kept getting off. I'm sorry. All right, y'all. Talk to you later. Share this if it's been helpful. Helpful, you know, or if you've enjoyed it. Oh, and here's one more thing, one more thing. I think that if you are on my email list, you already got this, but if you're not, there is a spring cleaning— we'll talk about spring cleaning even though the spring is almost over. Hopefully next week I can find somebody to talk spring cleaning with. I think I have somebody in mind. Um, but we have a spring cleaning printable, and if you go into my DMs, you'll get it. Just, just send me a direct message, um, and, uh, then you can get it on Facebook. On Facebook. And then the other thing I was going to say is one more thing I was going to say. Hold on. Shoot. I'm gonna tell you about the DMs on Facebook, and then I was gonna tell you— my brain, it's not working. Okay, I will talk to you later. Whatever it is, I'll remember tomorrow, I think. Was it important for today? Hmm, it's not coming back to me. So, all right, y'all, I'll talk to you later. Must not be that important. All right, bye. See you later, y'all. Bye.