Happy Birthday to ME!

Good morning, good morning, good morning! Woo!

Hello! Oh, I have a big old Matthew 12 through 24 on my screen.

Hi, happy birthday!

Hey, good morning! Had to go to the bathroom, sorry.

Oh Lord Jesus, scoot your chair up, you're making my head look bigger. Hi y'all, so look Have you done one of these before with me?

Not like this.

Okay, look, see, here are the comments.

I can't read, I don't have on my glasses.

Where are your glasses?

I left them.

Okay, y'all, so today I have nothing to talk about except a little foolery, a little fun, because today is my birthday.

Happy birthday! Ayy! Oh, ayy!

I can't, I can't, okay. This is Michelle. Hola chicas, ¿cómo están? We have known each other since we were 17, which means we have 27, 30, we have 3 decades of friendship under our belts.

That makes you sound old.

Is that right?

Yeah, 3, whatever. So we're just on here to have some fun. I said get up and come over and join me. She looks so excited to be here this morning, doesn't she? Sit up. If you don't sit up, then I look— everything looks bigger.

Okay.

Oh, that is, that is true. It is.

So sit up. Sit up. Come closer. No, come closer. No, like your chair. Come closer.

Oh, oh, okay.

There you go. So we look even.

Ooh, okay, okay.

Oh, okay, so this is Shelly. If you've ever read my book She's Still There, this is Shelly.

Hey.

And she's here to help me celebrate my birthday. So I've got some hibiscus tea, because always drinking the things. I asked her if she wanted to drink tea. She said no.

No. Because I have to go do a little sprint marathon, wait, triathlon. I gotta swim this morning, I gotta ride a bike, and then I gotta run. Not a full triathlon, but a little sprint. It's like mini, I don't know, swim like 8 laps. I don't know how many, maybe you ride the bike 10 miles or something, then you run 3. I gotta do that this morning.

So this is what she does on her day off. That's what she does on her day off. She goes and does marathon, what is it called again?

It's a Sprint Triathlon. Let's get it right.

Yeah.

No, this is your day off. So we have a few things to do today. I do want to have some meaningful conversation, but mostly just foolery. Mostly just foolery. I also have some desserts to eat this morning because— now somebody was really concerned yesterday when I said that I was gonna eat a bunch of desserts because they were like, Chrystal, watch the sugar. But I'm not gonna eat them all, but I am gonna sample some of my favorite things. So why are, why are we friends?

Why are we friends?

Yes.

We just watched a whole video about the thing.

Oh, okay. I was like, was that a, I don't know.

Because like, is that a trick question?

Yeah, I know. Like, right, exactly.

What?

I said because we have a lot of things in common.

What do we, what do we have in common?

We both love the Lord. That's about it. Okay, we're females. Okay, we are different though. We are different.

I'm just trying to get to the in common part.

What's, what's in common? What do we have in common? I mean, are you looking for specifics?

Like, you said it, you said we have a lot of things in common.

I do.

We love the Lord, we love adventure, we love traveling.

Oh yeah, then that we do Yeah, adventure. Yeah, we do. We definitely love it.

Yeah.

Yes, absolutely positive.

I'm silly on the, you know, around people. You're silly back behind, you know, everybody doesn't see your silliness.

But unless I let it out.

Yeah, this morning she let it out.

Happy birthday to me.

Oh, I said You know, she got— wait, what's the word? There's too many accoutrements. She got a lot of— that's something we are not alike. All the accoutrements. Oh, I'm just like, just tell me when to show up.

What is she doing? What is she doing? What are you doing?

Hey, Scylla!

I can't hear her. Oh, we can't hear her.

We can't hear.

Wait, wait, hold on.

Hold your song and dance.

Oh, I can't hear you. Hold on. I gotta fix that.

She can't hear you saying—

I think they can hear her.

Oh, okay.

But I have to change a setting because of all all the accoutrements so we can hear her a lot.

Oh, okay, okay, okay.

There she go.

Okay.

Oh yeah, she gonna probably play Birthday on her phone.

Good morning!

Happy birthday!

Thank you.

What are you doing with your life right now?

Oh, just dancing around on my sister's birthday.

You heard Michelle?

Good morning, girl.

Did you hear what she's gonna do with her life today?

What's she doing?

As soon as we leave here— uh-uh, did she wipe it off her phone? As soon as we—

I leave here, because her phone is always— it's always great.

It's probably Oh, I have to do a little sprint marathon. I need to go. I gotta go.

A little sprint marathon.

Yeah, I gotta swim, ride a bike, and then run.

Yeah, Michelle, that is so you, and that's why we love you.

I know.

Shelly, Shelly, Shelly, I will not be coming with you to do a sprint marathon.

Well, that's okay though. That is— oh, again, accoutrements just all over the place. Just—

yeah, Chrystal Hurst has tons of accoutrements.

Yeah, Priscilla knows. She came and, you know, sat down and did all the things. So Priscilla, what should I do on my birthday today?

Oh, I'm coming to get you at 11 o'clock.

Oh, don't you even worry about it.

I'm excited.

Okay.

Oh, after— how long is this sprint triathlon gonna take you?

Um, well, it's a practice thing.

Yeah, how long is that going to take you?

This is— I have never done it. This is going to be my first time.

How long do you expect it to take you?

A couple hours.

All right, well, we can tell her where we're at. She's going to come stinky, but then she may want to join us.

Perfect. We're just casually doing what 49-year-olds do.

Nothing.

Why she putting me out there like that?

What? Hey, own it, own it. You know what I'm saying?

It is what it is. It's the last year of the 40s.

Oh, I know you're opening up a new door, but look at us, we still look pretty youthful. We're still doing triathlons or whatever.

Um, sprint, a mini triathlon. Let's get that right, let's get that straight.

Yeah, I did that, I did that in 2014. I did that in 2014 when I was skinny. I don't know if you remember, I had this marathon season of my life and I did it. I I swam, I biked, and what's the other thing?

Run.

And I ran.

Yeah.

And I was amazed by people who did that with ease.

Yeah.

I was like, I don't think I could mix the sports.

Yeah, well, we'll see today. We'll see today. It's not— today is not the official day to do the sprint, but we'll see.

Look what I have, Scylla. You're gonna do great, Shelly Shell Shell.

Thank you.

Yes, the special plate. Did you eat on it this morning? We're about to do some damage.

Wonderful.

There's no we, she.

Can you tell everybody what this is?

Yes, the special plate was our mom's plate. She had two of them, so I have one over here and Chrystal has one over there. And this is the plate that mom would pull out when it was one of our birthdays, particularly birthdays, I think. But if there was something else that was like special happening in one of the kids' lives, she would pull it out and we would eat breakfast on that plate or dinner on that plate. So that's what we all call the special plate, also because it's Sis' special plate. And we would use it for that. Now we use it for our kids. So that's what birthdays mean.

Or for ourselves. Or for ourselves.

Like when you turn 49.

Okay. Again, own it.

Which only means that I have to officially start planning my 50th. I'm kind of behind schedule, actually. Yeah, pretty much.

Let's go.

All right, it's not until next year, right?

Yeah, but you need to hear because you know it's gonna be a whole situation.

So again, that's Chrystal Hurst.

I need to give y'all time to plan. Yeah, we gotta fly over some things, swim some things, bike some things, risk our lives.

Over some things.

I didn't hear nothing about the spa.

The spa will be in there eventually. But we have to do activities first. You know, go hiking in the redwoods.

Oh, that'd be awesome. Look at her face. Oh, great.

We did that.

We did that for your 40th.

I know, but a different version of that. Like maybe on another continent.

Ooh, that'd be awesome. Oh, that'd be great.

Okay, you like my birthday music? Did you hear my birthday music? I hear nothing. Hold on, I'm going to play. I made it this morning. Listen, you like made it up?

You made it up?

Wow. Okay, dance.

It's It's too early in the morning. I get up— I have to be to work at 7, and I tell people don't—

wow, wow.

I don't, I don't come alive.

Happy birthday, Chrissy!

Thank you, Cilla Wells.

I love you so much. And I can't see who all's on here. How many people are here?

Uh, about 700.

That's amazing. Thank you all for helping to celebrate Chrissy's birthday this morning, because who else gets up at 7 or 8 in the morning?

Okay.

Jumps on, right, a live to celebrate her own birthday but Chrystal Hurst.

Okay.

Yeah.

Okay. Okay.

I'm thinking I'm gonna do that the whole time.

Oh, wow. All right.

I think I started something. Okay, Cilla, I will see you later. I'm coming to pick you up soon.

Okay, I'll be ready. Bye, I'm Michelle, I love you.

Love you too, Scylla.

Bye.

Okay, so oops, we got to see ourselves so I know what's happening. All right, I think I really am, I think that's the thing I'm gonna be doing this whole time, just whatever I feel like.

Just play that back.

So anyway, okay, okay, okay. So one of the things that we said we would do amidst the eating that is about to commence, um, the birthday situation— you need to get ready, get ready for number one. Oh, okay, just number one. Okay, yes. Okay, so one of the things that I said I would do, and I keep telling— I forgot to tell you, technically we should be looking there, not here. Yeah, okay. So, uh, one of the things that I said I would wanted to do today was reflect on 4 decades because I'm celebrating with a little foolery and fun and it's my 49th birthday. We're gonna talk about 4 decades of things that we've learned throughout the years, okay? But before I forget, before I forget—

Is it time?

Oh no, not quite. Before I forget, because I didn't put this up this morning, today is the last day to join the Inner Circle. So there you go, I told you. I've been talking about it for 6 days. You don't need to hear about it anymore, but somebody will say, Chrystal, I wish you would have reminded me. So there you go, Inner Circle is today. Do you get the stuff? I send you the stuff, don't I?

Yeah, you know, wait, through email, because I have like 65,000 emails that I have not read.

You know how it is, your people, your actual people don't know what you're doing.

I can call you and say, "What are you doing?" You know what I'm saying? Yeah.

Oh my goodness, okay, so, and I'm also giving away prizes, so y'all can tell me what we actually are going to do to give away the prizes. Like, I see the prizes, that's awesome, so then help me figure out how we give them away. 'Cause we should do that on my birthday. Okay, reminder, if you're in the inner circle, check your email today. Prizes forthcoming, and I'll give away a few today. Oh yes, if you're in the inner circle, go on and throw up your yellow circle, please. Yellow circle. Oh, I can't, I'm on live, so I'm online, so I'm not gonna actually listen. If you want to text me, that's awesome. All right, so what was I gonna do? Okay, so 40s. Let's start with the lesson that you've learned, the lesson that you recall learning in your teens.

Oh, okay.

Yes, let's start with the teens, because in the teens we may not have learned a whole lot, but I'm sure if we look, we learned something.

Oh my gosh.

All right, okay, what did I learn in my teens? I learned in my teens that you need to be more intentional, you know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, be more intentional. So I'm more, I'm starting to get the more and more, and I think I've been into it all my life, you know, eating and exercise and stuff like that.

Have you?

I wanted to be a gymnast.

Did you?

I did. My mother was like, what kind of She killed that dream. Yeah, and I, I've always enjoyed running and exercise, but I was just too chubby to do it. So anyway, I feel like I'm getting— anyway, um, so I think be more intentional, be, be mindful.

You learn that as a teen or you learn?

No, looking back. No, looking back as a teen, you just need to be more— you need to know that the choices that you make today are going to affect you like 40, 50 years down the line. So just be more intentional. I mean, I know as a teen, you're not paying attention, you know, you don't really care. But looking back, I don't regret anything. But I think that I, you know, you could probably pay more attention. That's too deep for a teenager.

Yeah, you want me to tell you what I learned as a teenager? That boys will be boys. That's what I learned. That was not, it's not deep, but I definitely learned that.

How about people will be people?

Yeah.

And you know what? Yes. Because what I have learned looking back at people that I knew in high school is while we get older and we get more mature, people are who they are.

They're still the same.

You can get better. You can be more professional.

My mother said that to me.

You can be, you can have better language. But you know what? The same people that were messy in high school are messy today. Are messy today.

Yeah.

Yeah.

My mother said to me, I said something to her and she said, I will never change. And I thought, golly, you thought at the time.

It's so sad. Yeah, I actually think we, we don't, we can, we change, but it's not into something else. Yeah, we can just get better. And then I think you, the core of who you are, the core of who you are. So if, if, if while you can deal with some things and wrestle with some things, we do ourselves a disservice by trying to be like everybody else when we're teenagers.

That is true.

That is so true. Instead of just doing a better job, I think, knowing ourselves, because you spend the rest of your life getting to know yourself.

Yes. I just think as a teen, you're, yeah, you're still trying to restructure who you are. You don't even know who, you don't even know how the pieces of who you are, they fit. You just don't know.

Mm-hmm. So. Sharon Revis says, I learned that everyone is not your friend. That is, that's true. Yeah.

I think that's okay though. I think that's okay. Everybody wasn't meant to be your friend. I don't think you—

Listen!

Say that again for the people in the back.

Everybody wasn't meant to be your friend and I don't think you want everybody to be your friend.

Hey! Oh! That's awesome. Okay, I feel like it's time for dessert course number 1.

Okay.

Now you don't want me to pick the courses.

I know!

It's a mess.

Now she knows she's wrong for giving me this little piece of brownie. Hmm, you're supposed to at least give me a whole piece and then let me— no, and then let me decide what portion.

No, sometimes you need people to help you to decide.

Not on your birthday.

She's trying to ration me on my birthday.

Oh, oh, I got the next one for you. You ready for the next one?

No, I'm not ready for You ready for the next one? Because now we're going to talk about what we learned in our 20s.

You know what, in my 20s, I think for me it was the time that I remember I moved to New York.

Yes. You're off screen. Scoot over. Put your butt, scoot your butt over.

That's too much.

Yes, like next to me.

Okay.

Okay, go.

I think in my 20s I learned sometimes you have to detach or separate.

You separated from me, you remember that?

Well, people in general.

No, you know, you separated from me. Go on and tell them about that.

No, I'm just saying, I think in life you need to separate sometimes because you— I think for a long time you try to figure out who you are, and sometimes you need quiet and silence to kind of figure out, to get that balance.

So she's separated from me. Tell them about that.

Oh no, it wasn't.

I mean, she was just mad at me.

No, I wasn't like mad at you. No, I was trying to figure out who I was.

So here's what I learned in my 20s. This is not what I was going to say, but because you just said that, sometimes what people do is not about you.

That's true. That's so—

because I kept trying to figure out what have I done wrong. Like, she got quiet, you just stopped communicating, and I was like, what did I do?

You have to— because sometimes you have to go into yourself, just—

and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm just saying that sometimes when, when other people are doing what they need to do in their lives, you can't interpret everything. Yeah, that it's about you. Actually, most of the things that people do and say is not— are not about us. Yeah, you know, and I, I think I learned in my 20s to be about me. Like, like, you spend so much time and energy in your teenage years trying to figure out what everybody else is doing. And then it took me about halfway through my 20s to figure out I need to, I need to do me. What am I doing?

Doing?

And then it was like, I don't know if you felt this way, but it's like the lights went on as soon as I started paying attention to me. Not like being selfish.

Yeah.

But then I was like, oh, this is what I want to do.

Yeah, I just, uh, as friends, I just think as friends sometimes you kind of, if you don't know who you are, you kind of lose yourself. For a minute, and then you have to be like, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, I'm not this person. This is not what I'm called to do. So you sometimes need to step away and get to— you know, my mother used to tell me all the time, do you ever just turn your car off?

No, I mean, not your car, but your radio off and listen to your car.

So that's—

somebody else told me that.

Yeah, that's what I think. You know, sometimes you have to get away from people. It wasn't I was mad, I was trying to figure out stuff. Yeah, you had to turn off the radio so that you can hear what's happening in the engine. Exactly, exactly.

And even, even the best of the people who love you are noise.

Yes.

Yeah, like even the ones who love you and who are good for you. Yeah, it's just if you are trying to decide who you are and who God created you to be based on what everybody else thinks, then that's noise. Because really, the only person who knows who you're supposed to be is first and foremost God, because he created you. And second of all, you're the person in your skin. Yeah, like you are the person who actually knows that I like that or not.

But if you hear— if there's too many, too much noise, you really don't hear what you like.

You can't hear.

So I think for me, for a long— there was a lot of noise, so I needed— again, I wasn't mad. I had to figure out who I was so that I then could come back and be— I think not a— to be a better friend.

Yeah, I'm saying, yeah, that's what I think. Yes, okay, so I would love to pick somebody from the comments who has told us what they learned. What they learned. Oh, let's see. Oh wait, okay, they were giving me ideas. Okay, so what I was gonna say is have somebody tell us what they learned in their 20s. Some of you who've already done that And I think what I'm giving away right here— oh, by the way, today, y'all, there will be giveaways also on Facebook, on my Instagram, and on the Sister Circle Instagram. Oh, and I keep thinking of other things before we get to the prize. I also want you to help me to get to 50,000 today. I am currently at— let's see if I can show you. I am currently at— don't worry about my tabs.

The tabs that are open is a sign of what's going on in her mind.

Leave me alone.

You know how many tabs I have open?

It's a sign of genius. It's a sign of genius.

She literally, it looks like she has like—

It's a sign of genius.

Probably if you can get 50 tabs open, she probably has 70 tabs.

It's more like 74. I think it's like 70. I think I looked at it the other day.

Wait, wait, you can have 74 or you have 74 open?

I think it's like 70-something. I closed some the other day. So maybe it's, you know, it's how I remember what I was working on.

Is that it right there?

Yeah, I'm gonna zoom in and then show everybody. All right, all right, y'all, I'm gonna show you my screen so you can see where we're at. So what I need you to do before we're done, I need you to subscribe. There we go. I need you to subscribe. So yesterday we were at 49,800. 38. So if we can do what we did yesterday and just a little more today, then I can hit 50. It would be a great fun birthday present to get to 50.

49 is what your age is.

I mean, yes, but why are we trying to rush into it? Okay, so here's what I need you to do. I just need you to subscribe if you're not subscribed on YouTube. So if you're watching me on Facebook, that's awesome, just jump over to YouTube and subscribe right quick. And then also, if you have a friend, just say, girl, just share the video and be like, girl, just watch her foolery. She's eating and having fun, but subscribe so she can get to 50. That's what I would love to do. Okay, so there you go. Want to hear it? Here we go. So here's the question, um, again, and then I'll scan the comments to see. I ask you what you learned in your 20s, and I think what we're giving away for that is— let me look at what they said. Um, okay, a Target gift card. Oh, because Tarjay—

I love Target— is like I love Target.

Have you noticed though that they're starting to change the store? Like they're trying to make it more department store-like, so like there's less stuff and they're trying to make it, you know, like it's— they're trying to clutter and they're raising their prices.

Yeah, but I'm still going to Target. I like Target.

You want to know why I'm at Target? Amongst other reasons is because they have Joanna's stuff at Target. Joanna Gaines stuff.

Yeah, I'll go more for the clothes. I'm not—

you buy clothes from Target?

I sure— pajamas. They have good material on their pajamas. The older that I've gotten, I'm like, stop wearing t-shirts and shorts to bed. You old enough to wear pajamas. Wear nice pajamas.

Why does it matter if you're comfortable?

I think for me it's being more intentional. Intentional to say I'm going to bed, not just wearing whatever.

And to treat yourself well no matter what you're doing.

Treat yourself well.

Huh.

Treat yourself well.

Yeah. All right. So I'm scanning back to—

the older I get, the more I believe I deserve it. It.

Yeah.

Oh, okay. All right, the 20s. Brandy said, in my 20s I learned that I didn't have to be or do what people expected. I learned that in my late 20s coming into my 30s. All right, Alana Woods said, in my 20s I learned that life starts to require huge responsibilities and decisions are a big deal.

That's, that's true.

Yes.

That's true.

Tanya said, I learned it was time to leave home and travel. When did you start traveling?

Huh?

In your 30s?

Yeah.

That's a great lesson to learn in your 20s.

30s into 40s.

Yep.

Oh, this is sad but great. Pauline said, I learned that my beloved dad was not God.

Mm, that's good though.

That's good.

Yeah.

That's good.

Diana said, in my 20s, I learned to be more confident and I could do hard things. Oh, this is a good one. Della said, I learned that my parents were human beings and they didn't know everything. They simply did the best they could. That's— I learned that in your 20s though.

No, I think in my 30s, probably 30s and 40s.

I think I learned in my 20s because my mother called me when Anthony was at school and he wanted to come home. And, um, she called me and said, what do you think I should do?

Oh wow.

And I thought, you're asking me?

Are you talking to me?

And I gave her my thoughts and she listened and she said, that's good advice.

She's always been good at advice.

But I mean, your parents don't ask you for advice when you're in your 20s.

No, they don't, but she's always been good at advice.

Anyway, so there you go. So I think that's our winner. I think Della, you win a— can you do a $49 gift card to Target?

Probably.

Can you do whatever amount?

Yeah, you We're gonna do a $49 gift card to Target. So what you need to do, Della Lewis, that's our winner, Della Lewis.

Della!

You need to email hello@chrystalevanshurst.com. Don't email hello@chrystalevanshurst.com if you're not Della Lewis. Somebody's gonna do it. Somebody's gonna do it. All right, I think it's time for birthday present number 2, or birthday dessert. These are presents. Who we're getting? Yeah, give me the whole thing.

I am.

The first one was a brownie.

Oh, oh, I don't know what that is.

Banana pudding. This was the first one.

Wait, brownie.

Hey, hey!

Okay, so this is banana pudding.

Can you say where it's from and stuff?

I should be— I should have told them, give me these doggone desserts for free because I'm gonna be talking about you on my YouTube channel.

Can I show you? Can I show what they were? Where?

Yeah, can they see it? Go ahead.

No, you can't really.

They can see it if you hold it up and let it focus. You gotta let it focus.

Oh, look at that. Oh, look at that.

The Cake Bar. The Cake Bar.

Oh, okay.

They have really great banana pudding. Now, have you ever had my banana pudding?

Have I?

Have you ever had my banana pudding?

When was the last time you baked something?

You know what? I normally make it once a year for New Year's.

No.

So when you came to grandma's house, I would make it then.

Girl, I done slept since then. I don't remember. I have to figure out the date that we go to work.

Oh my God. You sure you don't wanna just—

No, is it vegan?

Tell the people, yes.

No, no.

Tell the people what you had for breakfast this morning. I mean, it's just not even fun.

I had some black beans and rice and I cut up some mangoes and put it on the top of that.

Oh, you didn't tell me about the mangoes.

Oh, and I had some mangoes on top. Yep, sprinkled some mangoes on the top. That's my seasoning.

Does that sound good to y'all?

Well, again, I mean, hey, wait, wait, wait, your mom always used to say a stomach— no, no, my friend Tasha, her mom would say a stomach full is a stomach full. But anyway, you got to have some carbs. All right. So just needed some carbs and some protein.

She had black beans and what?

Rice.

I love rice.

And mangoes.

Oh yeah, mangoes.

Now I can eat that when I've decided that I don't want it to be good. You know what I mean? Like, remember when I was vegan for 6 weeks?

Remember that?

No, I was vegan.

Where was that?

I don't remember that.

It was a long time ago.

I don't remember that. You talking about when you was eating all them fruits and vegetables?

Yeah, I like picked up a squash, right?

That's Karris's wedding.

No, no, that wasn't before then.

Yeah, I was vegan.

I did Joel Fuhrman's Eat to Live.

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

And at that point I decided food is not to be enjoyed. I mean, I'm not saying that that has to be the case if you're vegan. I'm saying in that season, I was reading the back of the book and I was going, okay, I'm just gonna eat it. Like, this is what I'm supposed to eat, I'm gonna eat it. I made a pot— remember, I used to make a pot of pinto beans because he would say eat a bowl of beans at least once every day. And then it was just eating fruits and vegetables all day. You could have half a serving of carbs so it was a low-carb, low-fat, low-sodium diet.

Mine's high.

Girl, but 28 pounds in 6 weeks. But it was— but I mean, like, I would have a half a potato, sweet potato, that was it. Or I would have a half a cup of oatmeal, but I was full actually because I could have as much fruit and as much vegetables and as many beans as I wanted.

I eat tons of carbs, tons of carbs, tons. I could eat rice all day.

Complex carbs.

Yeah.

And you also go hiking and swimming and biking on your days off.

That's true.

Listen, y'all, I knew I had gone too far when I was doing that and I bought a squash and I picked the squash up and bit it like a dog.

No, you did not.

I sure did. I sure did.

That means you don't eat very many fruits and vegetables. Is that what that means?

No, it meant that I was just trying to get it in and I was restricting myself.

You can't.

It's like, it's soft.

It's soft.

You talk about that thing that looks like a—

It's yellow. Look like zucchini.

You can eat it like an apple?

Yes. Like zucchini and squash, you can.

Yeah, I mean, you can't eat that raw. You can't.

Yeah, I did that and it was like, this is not like living.

Mm.

Oh, oh, oh.

But I'm just like, does eating food mean you're living or does that mean enjoying life? That's living. Enjoying life.

Listen, he said of every tree in the garden, you may eat.

True. Yes.

Don't eat that one.

Yes.

But enjoy the rest of them.

Enjoy.

Enjoy. Yes, but I'm saying, uh, I, I start to see food as fuel to enjoy life.

Yes, I think there's a medium ground where you can learn to enjoy things that are healthier for you, and you can also, uh, indulge every now and then. Indulge every now.

Yeah, I do.

Yeah, indulge every now and then. It's moderation.

Oh, I had one of these.

Oh Lord, oh Lord, these are pretty good.

Can I show these?

Yes, these are pretty good. Sharina got this for you.

Yeah, these were pretty good, guys.

Oh, it takes a minute to focus.

Oh, there it goes, there it goes, right there. They were pretty good. Yeah, I had one this morning.

They came from— did she get those from Costco?

I don't know where she got them from. I don't know, but thanks.

What did we learn in our 30s? And then you, you all can start sharing what you learned in your 30s, and we'll give another gift card away.

You're asking me?

Yeah, what did you learn in your 30s?

Oh, we did 20s.

30s.

Um, I think in 30s I started to gain momentum in life. So I think I started to fit— I can't, I don't know, I don't have one word.

One word, you don't need one word.

Um, but that's when I'm— when I write— when I came back from New York and I also finished school.

Let me tell you about this, child. Hold on, I gotta stop your 30s story because you went to New York because you wanted to go to New York. Yeah, there was no reason. You didn't go, you didn't have a job.

Uh-uh, I slept on the floor at my cousin's house. I used my last paycheck and just went.

And you were there for Halloween.

I think at the airport I was like—

You about to do your laugh.

Whatever. Wait, wait, wait. I went to the airport and remember I got a ride from some stranger. It was like—

Let me tell them the story of all time. She was in line.

Oh my gosh.

Some of the people haven't heard the story. Okay, I think most of you know. Some of these people haven't heard. There's a lot of new people here. Okay, so we were in line at Azusa. Okay, a long time ago. We were— we didn't have no money. We stayed in this dirty trap trashy motel.

But was it trashy?

It wasn't trashy. I mean, it was good enough for us, but I'm saying I wouldn't stay there now. Oh no, no, I wouldn't stay there now. And And we had no money, so we went to the store, we bought a bag of bagels.

Did we?

I don't remember what. We bought a bag of miniature blueberry bagels and a thing of cream cheese, and for 3 days that's all we ate. Yeah, girl.

Well, no, like, I think we had one meal out a day.

Wow.

But we had, we had, we had the bagels. We get up in the morning.

I don't remember that. I just remember what I did. That's the only thing I remember about that.

Okay, so Azusa, we were at Azusa, we didn't have any money for a decent hotel, we were eating blueberry bagels, we went to the grocery store because that's how you know you're trying to save money, right? Grocery store, okay, got some cream cheese. Okay, so anyway, it was hot, but Azusa, the doors opened. Um, this is, well, this is when I was trying to be charismatic. That was my charismatic phase, you know what I had, my tambourine. I'm gonna have to go and get my tambourine, play some tambourine for y'all in just a minute. But y'all, I went to college in the gospel choir.

Okay.

Okay. So I was like, oh, I've been in a conservative evangelical church all of my life and I didn't learn how to dance. So I was trying to learn how to dance.

You still don't know how to dance.

I do. I know how to do the churchy dance. So anyway, and the nasty dances. It's either the churchy dance or the nasty dances. I don't actually know how to dance. I just know how to gyrate.

Yeah.

And then do the two-step. So anyway, I was— we were in line at Azusa, and Michelle meets no strangers ever. She already told you she rode home in a—

that was like 25 years ago. Definitely would not do that now. I needed a ride from the airport.

You still—

okay, so there was this lady in line. Now, in line in the heat in Oklahoma at Azusa, the women still wear full garb, full church suits.

Yeah.

And hats and pantyhose. They're standing out there with umbrellas, and we're just striking conversation with people. She found this lady who lived in New Jersey, and she said, have you ever been to Whitney Houston's church?

Just ran.

And the—

yes.

And the lady said, I actually go to Whitney Houston's church. And Michelle said, for real?

For real?

Can I come visit? And the lady said, sure. She said, sure. Then she said, could I stay with you? And she was Sure, this is a stranger, y'all.

Again, it was like 25, 30 years ago.

Most normal people, even if you have that conversation, you don't actually then go stay with them. Then you didn't stay with her?

Well, no, I didn't stay with her.

But you did go to the church?

I sure did.

And then you met her again?

Yeah, I did.

Was Whitney there the Sunday you went?

She was not there, but her daughter Bobbi Kristina was.

Was her mother there as well?

I think so, yeah, she was.

You didn't walk up to them and introduce yourself?

No, I'm not like that.

I'm not like that with celebrities, but you were like that with regular people.

Yeah, with regular people. Yeah, I'm not a starstruck kind of person. I'm not a starstruck person.

Okay, who, who would you meet that if you met them, even though you're not a starstruck person, you'd have a hard time formulating sentences? If they appear right here and you had to have a conversation with them that you admire you'd be like, oh, I'd probably—

I would say something?

I don't know, honestly, I can't think of anybody really. I don't know, because in my head I think people are people. Behind the clo— behind closed doors, they have struggles just like everybody else.

There's nobody that you'd be like, oh my gosh, I can't believe I'm meeting them?

Nobody?

Mm, not that I can think of. Not, not anybody off the top of my head like, oh my gosh. I'd probably stare at them, maybe like Michael Jackson or Oprah.

Yeah.

Oh, it has to be alive people?

No, it could be anybody. It could be anybody.

I can't think of— honestly, I can't think of anybody off the top of my head that I'm just like, oh my God, don't let me!

Well, that happened when I met Oprah. That happened. I was like, there was something I wanted to say and I didn't say it. And then I was that person who chased her down in the hallway to say it.

Oh, you one of them people?

Oh, I mean, I was nice. I just was like, I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Ms. Winfrey. There's something— because I was like, I miss my opportunity!

But I didn't dance with Winfrey.

Everybody said that.

You do when you're in person.

Excuse me.

I was like, I respect you. I respect you, Miss Oprah. I respect your whole situation. But the only other person that I can think of that I would be starstruck about is Julia Roberts.

Oh yeah, you love that.

I've been loving her since I was a little girl.

What was that movie called when she was a little girl?

Pretty Woman.

I don't know how many times we watched that movie. I love The Color Purple.

A million.

Hmm. The Color Purple. I know my kita, me and you.

Okay, so let's look at what we learned in our 30s. Uh, let's see here. All right, Kathy Royal said, born and raised in Nigeria, in my 30s I learned to love me, listen to God, and silence every other voice. Okay, Robin said, my mom died suddenly when I was in the 30s, and I learned to really depend on God and that he will heal your broken heart. That's good.

That is good.

Well, Sonia Williams said, I returned to Texas from grad school in New York, got married in my early 30s, and learned how to be a wife and a stepmother. She is agreeing with me on the college gospel choir. I really am going to go have to get my tambourine and show y'all that. Okay, let's see. Yasmin said, or Yasmin, I don't know, in my 30s I became a mother. That truly was a learning experience and still is. After 17 years. Ooh, come on, LaShawna. In my 30s, I learned it's okay to start over and that getting out of toxic relationships is not failing.

Ooh, that was good.

That was good.

Ding, ding, ding.

Play your music.

Oh, no, you know what I'm gonna do? I'm gonna do something better. I'm gonna give her applause.

That was good. That was—

there's an app for that.

Wow.

Okay.

That was good.

That was very good. That was very good.

That was good.

So I think you win on that one. You wanna prepare dessert number 3 while I figure out what she's gonna win here?

Okay, sure.

All right. All right.

Okay.

So I'm gonna add one on the list here, girls. I don't even know if you can do this. $49. To Amazon because whatever you need is basically on Amazon.

Girl, you can—

I mean, it's kind of sad. Do you ever feel guilty because you're taking money away from like local stores?

Because I can get what I want, I don't have to leave the house other than go to the post office.

And it'll be here in 2 days, the mailbox, or today, or on today.

Yeah.

Oh, you ready?

Ooh, yeah.

Come on, strike the match. You're not gonna put it on the plate? You need to put that on the plate.

Oh, okay.

Oh my gosh. Sorry.

Okay.

We've been using the same candle.

We have?

You know, you could use it, I guess. Why would we waste?

Exactly.

Yes, yes, yes, yes. Oh my gosh. Why is she making me hold my own birthday candle?

Wait, wait.

Oh, they're telling us who they would have a problem meeting.

Oh my gosh.

So we have Maya Angelou, Cicely Tyson.

Ooh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yes. Okay. Oh yeah, this is a good one. Denzel.

Oh my gosh, yes, Denzel.

If he were alive, Marvin Gaye. Michelle Obama. Yes, yes, Barack and Michelle Obama.

Yeah.

Oh, Candy Can said The Rock.

Oh yes, yes, yes. Okay, you ready? Okay, from the cake bar too.

Yes, while we were there we were like, we're gonna make sure we maximize our opportunity.

You know, you can tell I ain't used to no camera. Oh, there it goes.

Wow.

Oh, you can't see that.

Dr. J.

That's pretty cool.

That's a good one.

Oh, that's the basketball player.

Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. My all-time favorite movie. Come on now, Pretty Woman. And no matter that it's about a stripper, it was a great— it was a Cinderella story.

Cinderella was a prostitute?

That means they're coming into the office over there!

Oh my gosh! She's got stuff all— I'm like what do I hear?

God, is that you?! Are you talking to me? You calling my name?

Hey!

Dessert number 3!

Pizza Crystal did it right!

Look look look! That's pretty!

It is pretty!

Yeah! You should totally take a picture of it.

I don't know where my phone is.

Oh, we can take a picture of it after. I'm not gonna eat the whole thing. Y'all, strawberry cake from the cake bar.

Hallelujah!

Oh, who said that? Who said the thing about you're not failing in relationships? Now I have to find it.

Did you blow the candle out or did you leave it?

I did, I blew it out.

I didn't know I was supposed to wait on you to do that.

Well, I was trying to take a photo op, a picture.

Oh my God.

Polaroid.

D. Ham said, after being gunned down at 33, I learned to pay attention to the character of people.

Mm.

Oh my gosh.

That was good.

Wow.

Wow.

Okay, I gotta go find the person who said starting over is not failing because I forgot. But you know who you were. I'm gonna find your name so I can say it out loud. Well, I remember, I kind of remember the picture. Oh, but I put her, yes. Well, I think it disappeared. Wait, anyway, but email hello@chrystalevanshurst.com.

Did I find—

I mean, we'll find it because I put it on the screen, you know what I mean? Yeah, I put her comment on the screen. Oh, okay, so we'll find it. Yeah, anyway, I can't keep looking for that right this second because I need to take a bite of this. Yeah, so the Cake Bar— is the Cake Bar only in Dallas? Is it a Dallas thing? Is it like a local?

I've never heard of it. Never heard of it. That looks like Papa Do's cake. No, that looks like— you remember Scratch Bake? Scratch Bake? I used to work there too, at the bakery. Don't ask me how to bake a cookie.

Extremely rich.

Okay.

All right, we going to wipe this fork off for the next one.

That was really good.

All right, all right, all right, that was really good.

So the teens, we talked about the teens, we talked about the 20s.

Did I say what I learned in my 30s?

Chrystal, you can't—

how am I—

you got— okay, I don't know how we— can I just put it on the side of it?

No, just, just get it, just move it off, just get another plate.

Okay, no, no, I got the— I got this.

Oh my gosh, too much drama, so much drama. Okay, yeah, I can't remember who that was, but but— oh, here it is. Lashana Schubert: In my 30s, I learned it's okay to start over and that getting out of a toxic relationship is not failing. Let's check on my, um, my subscriptions real quick. Let's see how we're doing with that. Oh, okay, we're moving up a little bit.

We're moving up. Here we go, 49,864.

So if you're just joining us here today, I'm here because because I've been live for— this is day number 7. It's also my birthday on 7/7.

Mm-hmm.

And it's also the last day that the Inner Circle is open. And there's a couple things that I would love to have you do. Number 1 is if you are not subscribed already to my YouTube channel, regardless of where you're watching, please subscribe. It'd be really fun to get to 50,000 today. The other thing that I would love for you to consider doing is to, um, check out the Inner Circle because the doors to the Inner Circle, close today as well, um, at midnight. Inner Circle is basically a group where there's great community and, um, faith-based content to help you live your life well. Very practical.

To live your best.

I love Jesus and I love studying the Bible, but you know, I love practical. Yeah, you tell me how to do it.

Yeah, yeah.

Okay, so anyway, so please be sure and check that out. And then let's talk about what we've learned in our 40s. What have we learned in our 40s?

I kind of learned that life starts to get better, or, you know, yeah, life starts to get better. Yeah, because I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say about my 50s because I'm 51.

Yes, 51. So, so you learn life is getting better. That's it.

Life, life will get better.

Life will get better.

Yeah, you start to kind of gain more momentum in life life, you start figuring more things out and you're like—

I need you to move your butt over here, scoot closer.

Ouch.

Oh, oh, okay, okay, all right, okay, okay.

Y'all tell us what you learned in your 40s too. We'll select another winner. We'll select another couple winners since this is currently where I'm at. Okay, so what, that life will get better? That's all you got?

Yeah, um, um, Why you be asking these deep questions?

I don't know. I can't help it.

I'm not, I'm not deep. It takes me a minute to get deep. I can't be deep at no 8:44 in the morning.

You about to go do a triathlon in a minute.

I sure am. Yeah, before this. I sure am. Yeah, you ain't got to think that. You just run it and do it, you know what I'm saying? Then yeah, but we're going to swim first. Oh, sorry, you ready? What?

Oh, sorry, I'm just trying to get you to come up with something more substantial than that.

If you would have asked me this last night and gave me time to think, maybe—

No, it needs to be spur of the moment. I'm not a spur of the moment.

Well, that's not— Yes, you are.

Yes, you are.

Um, 40.

Let me see.

I don't know.

While she's thinking, I want to ask this question. I normally always ask this question. If you're here and you're a millennial, like, I know millennials now are stretching up to 40, but if you're under 35 and you're here, Give me that right there. Just put that in there. If you're here, anytime you're making a comment, if you want to, and you're part of the inner circle, give me a yellow circle so that way I'll know that it's you. So I would love that. Okay. And I just love this. What I love when I do these is when I see younger women, because I feel like they benefit from listening to somebody a few years down the road who's telling them something. See, look, there they are. See, it's fun.

Oh, okay.

Yeah, the fist pump. Oh, so we got Natalie, we got Brittany, we got Brandy, Brianna, Shanay, maybe you think that's Shanay?

Shanay.

Okay, Triana.

Brit!

Tell me, where you been?

Right. Anisha, Susanna. Love that. Monique Thompson Simmons, here they come.

Make, make.

Let me tell you what the best thing is that you should do with your life so that you can be ready for your 40s. You need to find somebody else that's ahead of you. Like, for real. Like, if you're like, I need a mentor, I can't find anybody, blah blah blah, you hound them. And you may not— mentoring doesn't look like Do you ever feel— do you feel like you've ever had a mentor? Uh, who has mentored you?

Auntie.

Oh, okay. But did that mean you invited her? Y'all went and sat for coffee on a weekly basis?

I would go to her house. I would go to Auntie's house.

Is that the only way mentoring happened?

No, but that's just where we were at that time, you know?

Yeah, yeah. Because I think sometimes people feel like mentoring means I have to have a coffee date with you.

No.

And I feel like mentoring is whoever you attach yourself to and you're doing what they're doing. Or you're where they are. Yeah, meaning like if somebody comes up to me and says, you know, will you mentor me? I'm like, listen, I don't have time. I can't— I don't have time to like take you to coffee like on a regular basis. What I do have time to do though is if you want to come in and be here while I fix dinner for my family, if you want to serve with me in ministry at the local church, yeah, be present, be present and be where I am. Because think about, you know, how Jesus did it. He didn't like like give them lessons. They just walked around together.

That's true.

And we have a misconstruction. We misconstrue what mentoring is. So sometimes when younger women say, I can't find a mentor, it's because I think you have a box.

Yeah.

With what mentoring or discipleship should look like. And really all it is is be where they are, ask questions, and just say, hey, I just want to learn from you. You know, how— where could I be? How can I— how can I serve you?

Mm-hmm. That's—

yeah, because one of the best ways to learn from somebody is to serve them.

Okay.

Yeah.

Like, not in a, like, slave way. I'm saying, like, but do avail yourself to pick up the load.

Yeah.

So that you're around— it's particularly in ministry, I think.

Yeah, I'm trying to think. So Auntie was in children's ministry. I wanted to be in children's ministry. I enjoyed children. Yeah.

Yeah, it's got to be around, around them. Yeah, you know. Okay, so they're telling us what they learned in their 40s. So did you come up with anything more exciting? Don says, I learned in my 40s that I must remain a student of God, life, and my children. I don't know everything. In my 40s, I learned grace and living for kingdom purposes. Uh, Barbara says, it's not too late to start over. I went back to school for my bachelor's degree at 40. I also completed a certification in my field of work work in my late 40s. Life did get better because I also married again in my 40s, and I'm still married 19 years later.

That's good.

40 owes me nothing.

That was good. 40 owes me nothing. You know, I think what I learned, it's okay to be me. It's okay to be me.

I think it took a long time for me to say, because by the time you get to 40, you're like, you ain't gonna be nobody else.

It's not working.

Me trying to be like everybody else, I remember in high school there's someone's handwriting I wanted to try to mimic. And I remember going back to my papers and was trying to write like that person because I was still trying to—

that's because of my handwriting.

Oh no.

But I did, I admired, there were left-handed girls in school, I wanted to be left-handed so bad. Like seriously, if God took my right hand from me right now, I would totally be functional. My handwriting isn't beautiful, but it is absolutely legible because I practiced that hard. I practice, girl, and I'm a pianist, so there's a dexterity there. But I did practice. I was mad because I couldn't get my slant to go the right way, but I tried anyway. Okay, she learned— Roses and Thorns learned self-acceptance and that failing is required as a part— required—

wait, Roses and Thorns is a part of the road to success.

See, Brianna said, I love this. I'm 27 and I've been craving wisdom them from a Christian woman who's ahead of me.

If—

find her. And if you haven't found her, keep looking for her. Margaret said, I learned to love my family— if I can do this, uh, unconditionally, even when it wasn't always reciprocated. Let me tell you something. Let me tell you something about that.

You can't pick your family, but you can choose your friends.

Okay, but listen, listen at this. What I realized, the gift that my mother and like my aunts and my grandmother gave, is that they did the that created the space that I appreciated later. And they didn't need me. They didn't rob me of their love or of family memories because I had an attitude.

Like, they didn't.

And I see a lot of parents, I mean, frankly, that respond to, that react to their kids.

Yeah, but again, I guess you have to separate. It's not about you. It's not.

Yeah, it's not about me. Don't take it personal. But I think when you're even with your your siblings. And I mean, you know, even you got to watch toxicity in families too. But I'm just saying there are things that are bigger than what that person just said to you today.

Yeah. Oh yeah, definitely.

There are things that are— there are memories that matter more than the fact that this particular person in your family gets on your nerves. Yeah.

Yeah.

So, um, I think loving unconditionally is a sign of maturity.

Yeah.

And the fact that I'm here for you, even if you don't know that me being here for you is a blessing.

Yeah.

Lashana said, I just turned 41 and I've learned that God's purposes for your life don't change. You may have to take some detours, but if you stay in his will, you'll begin to fulfill that purpose. You feel like that, don't you? Yeah, with your nursing. Yeah. Okay, let's see here. Where can I get that happy birthday soundtrack? Okay, all right, born to dance. Here's Bernadette. Bernadette said, at 38, I felt myself getting ready for 40, and I became fully aware of caring for and protecting me. I became grown and didn't really care what the critics thought anymore.

I became grown.

But I feel like that about 40. I feel 40 is like saying I have an MBA. And even if you didn't really know anything before, and even if you feel like there's a lot to learn, you have the NBA. So at 40, I just felt like I'm 40. So if I don't know it, I can figure it out and you can fake it. I just have a license to say I'm 40.

Mm-hmm.

Something has happened in my 40s too. There are certain things that I don't necessarily want people saying to me. Like, I'm like, I officially am starting to feel a little older. 'Cause if somebody that's 17 walks up to me and says, Chrystal Hurst, ooh, ooh, I actually can take it. It depends on them.

Okay.

Yeah.

You know what I mean?

It depends on the spirit behind it. Absolutely. Absolutely. But I found myself, I took an Uber the other day and this chick, honey, I, she was, it was a girl. We were putting the stuff in the car and she said, ooh girl, you got a lot of luggage. And I was like, I'm not your girl.

I'm not your girl.

I was like, you don't know me. It was just, and it wasn't like we were having a good time. Girl, it wasn't that. She said, "Ooh, girl." And then we got in the car, she said girl like 3 more times.

She said, "All right, girl." I was like, "I'm not your girl." You don't know me.

You don't know me.

That'd be Miss Girl to you. What did Janet say? Miss Jackson, if you nasty. Miss Jackson, if you nasty. Okay, okay, I'm gonna find me a winner here, okay.

Winner winner chicken dinner.

Winner winner chicken dinner. I missed some 40s. Okay, I missed some. I'm gonna go back up here a little earlier. A little earlier. Kim, Kim Lee said, you have mentored me and I'm from Trinidad.

Trinidad and Tobago.

Oh, I love this one. Lysandra said, in my 40s, I'm learning to love myself for who I am, to stop apologizing. Yeah, stop apologizing for who I am. My life doesn't have to be like other people's and compare myself to the young woman in the mirror.

Yeah. Oh, that was good.

I mean, literally, you have to look at yourself in the mirror and go, what do you want?

That was good.

That—

what do you expect of yourself? Yeah, girl, come on, get it together. Like, literally, you have to do that. I love that. So, Lysandra, what I'm gonna do for you, you need email hello@chrystalhurst.com. So I'm gonna give you the bundle. We have a bundle on sale right now that is all of the content from 2020's online events. So it's like 40-something sessions, and then you can pick if you want to— there's like an extra thing you can add on. So if there's a business bundle and then there's a speaking and writing bundle, and like, I think it's like $300 worth of stuff. People paid $300 for that. So you can tell us which one you want. And basically what that is, is a bunch of mentoring on a bunch of different things. So you can listen to me and listen to my friends talk about life and encourage you in very, very practical ways. Yeah, it's, it's not cheap. So enjoy that. Hello@chrystalhurtz.com. Okay, we ready with dessert number 4?

Come on. I can't be here all day.

Yeah, because I gotta go swim, bike, and run. Where's my phone? Wait, wait. Uh-oh, I'm under pressure here. Lord, I done dropped the tooth. I mean, which one of these things you at? Oh, Chrystal, can you hold this again?

I'm sorry. Hey! Oh, thank you.

Listen, I can make anything a church song. Lord, we love We do.

Lord, we love you. We love you. Lord, we love you.

We do.

Here you go, here you go.

Hallelujah.

Hallelujah.

Hey!

Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Hallelujah. Hallelujah, hallelujah!

Listen, this right here, praise God, is a, uh, key lime pie.

I remember those days of eating those.

That's a long time ago. Let me see if I can get it to focus, cuz I'm going to need y'all to focus.

Oh, like, you can, you know, when you watch—

I watch YouTube all the time.

I know, I have YouTube because I have a great camera.

All the time. I know, when people's focus—

tell them what you—

tell them what you watch on YouTube.

Vegan cooking channels.

That's what she watches, vegan cooking channels. You want to know what— tell me what I watch on YouTube.

Everything.

No, what do you think I watch on YouTube?

Probably some technical stuff all the time.

I know all the cameras, all the mics. I know how to make— well, I'm learning how to make animated graphics.

Mix.

But I did search at one point for how to make homemade biscuits.

Okay.

Did you ever cook any biscuits?

Um, yeah, I did. I tried a couple of them.

Oh, okay.

Okay, so— oh, I had to turn on the music. Okay, just needed enough to blow it out. Okay. Ooh, and so you put the sauce on here?

Mhm.

Okay.

Should I I figured you wanted it on there.

Yeah, I mean, you know. Okay, y'all, this is the best key lime pie for real. It's really hard. I decide a restaurant's viability over the long term based on whether or not their key lime pie is good. If you don't have a chef in the back who knows what they're doing with the key lime, they need to be fired.

Wow, over key lime?

Over key lime.

Over key lime.

'Cause it could be wrong. Key lime can go so wrong.

Mm. Mm.

Uh.

Uh. Uh. Uh.

Okay.

You gonna eat another bite? You should eat the fruit with that.

Let me get some more crust and a little whipped cream.

Uh. Uh. Okay. Ooh. Mm. Mm.

All right.

Goodness gracious.

Oh, very good.

Okay, okay.

Let me watch you. Wash my hands. I feel like my hands are so sticky.

Oh my goodness, you going to finish that today? Oh, Miss Brenda Gant for homemade—

oops.

Our girls just make homemade biscuits.

Okay, she's telling me Kim Walker says the best key lime pie is in the Red Bar in Grayton Beach, Florida. Where is this? Is this that 30A Pensacola, Destin area? I just learned what 30A was.

When I put this pie, this ain't going to end up in here pretty.

That's all right, don't have to be pretty to taste good. It's great, it's Grayton Beach down there with John. Chris was just making everybody laugh. This music will be in my head all day. Oh, she said I was about to rap. I think I could do it, I think I could rap. I'm not a good rapper though. Let's see. My name is Chrystal, I don't have a pistol, I don't know what I'm gonna do with the pistol, because I'm making up words, because I'm gonna rap, because I'm not a rapper. But you know what?

This is whack. Yeah.

There's not many things that rhyme with Chrystal. Whistle, thistle. Oh, I was looking for a tool, not soul. I should have done it whistle, thistle.

Thistle, like milk thistle. Milk thistle?

I'm gonna talk about milk thistle? Okay.

Okay.

Tanya said, "I know how I'm celebrating my 60th birthday. I'm gonna have cake samples." Oh, that's a good—

okay, okay.

Oh, they're coming, they're coming!

Oh!

Oh, I heard those cookies are good. I haven't ever had these.

Good. What is happening?

Oh, insomnia cookie.

Those are good too.

Oh my gosh.

Yay!

Y'all just want me to say goodbye?

Okay, okay. Thank you!

She's hiding.

Why?

Y'all bend down and say hi. Put your head right here. Say hi!

This is Jasmine, Sharina, Monique. Happy birthday!

Okay, okay, all right, praise the Lord, everybody. Okay, y'all, they not— they don't want— okay, so I've heard about these, I've heard about crumble cookies, and I've never had Yeah, I don't— I'm gonna have to— oh my goodness, look at the box. Listen, it is all about packaging and presentation.

It really is.

You can convince— listen, that'll preach. And you know what, I think that's one of the things I would say I learned in my 40s, that while you don't have to be anybody else, you want to put your best foot forward, whatever that is. Because remember, I couldn't wear shoes for the longest. I couldn't wear shoes for the longest. And then I just started wearing Converse all the time, but it became what Chrystal does. Chrystal Hurst wears Converse. I didn't have to wear other people's shoes. Oh my gosh, huh? I can, I just— but they're beautiful. These cookies are— look at that, y'all, they're beautiful. What kind are these? Lemon what? Oh, it's lemon what?

Lemon glazed.

Oh my gosh.

Oh, that looks pretty.

I'm just gonna take a little—

are they vegan?

Oh my God, I bet you they have vegan cookies. Oh my gosh, did they—

did you show them what it looks like?

Oh, okay, okay.

I'm all out of order now. It don't matter.

We had—

oh, look at that! My children are going to be—

they're gonna be bouncing off the walls.

Oh my gosh, that's pretty. Oh my gosh. Okay, so is it in 38? Did we decide this? Is that where the red bar is? This lady was telling about the red bar.

30A.

Okay, I would be in sugar overload. Yeah, I'm only taking little bites, y'all. I can't, I can't do it. Papa's Doughs in Arizona cannot make the key lime pie. I don't know why. Oh, Kim Walker said I literally just left. Okay, so I have to remember that. Now y'all are giving me restaurant recommendations. Once I start traveling again, I'm gonna start asking y'all where to eat. When we get there, she said, "I ain't no pistol." No. Sharice, she snatches the mic when I was talking. Hey, Sharice!

Hi, Sharice!

Wait a minute.

That was Sharice.

That was Sharice. I didn't mean to do that. I'm gonna, I need to, Sharice, I'm about to send you a text, okay? Just check your, check your text messages. I'm about to send you a text. Hopefully this is your right number. You didn't change your number again. Check your text and click that link. Click that link. I was thinking of Miss Brenda Gantt of Andalusia, Alabama. Cooking with Brenda Gantt on Facebook. All these things. Oh, okay, okay. Oh, happy birthday, Auntie Chrystal Hurst. That's how you know you're getting old, right? When they call you— Oprah said don't call me auntie, call me cousin.

Is that what she said?

I know I'm Call me cousin.

I'm like, you know who called me auntie? And I was like, Jackie Hill Perry. We were DMing on Instagram and she said auntie.

And I was like, and the thing is, I am.

You old enough to be her auntie.

15 years older than her, yes. And I was, but I was, I just was, it just did, it hit me wrong. It hit me wrong, wrong, wrong. Okay. You got it? Okay, let me see, where'd my little inner— where'd my screen go? Click the link, Cherie, click the link. Let's see, where did— hold on a minute.

Again, accoutrements.

Accoutrements.

Oh, is it accoutrements? I've been saying accoutrements. I need to look up the spelling of that.

I'm trying to figure out where my— it disappeared. Huh, oh, there it is. Okay, all right, use it when you're ready, if you're ready. Okay, so we're almost done, but I have to— yeah, come on, Cherie, come on, Charissa. She said, oh, now you want me to do it now? Yes, why not? Okay, oh, they— can you hold the pink box up? But lower it.

Oh yeah, yeah, okay.

I know she said auntie is respect and wisdom, not just age.

Is it?

Okay, it just made me feel old. Uh-uh, no. And here it comes, respect and wisdom. Oh, Ola, Ola Nike, Ola Nike, Ola Nikki, she said happy birthday to you, ma. Oh, she's from Africa.

Oh, I like that.

The auntie in South Africa is different than the auntie we use like Black Panther. Okay. You guys should do an Oprah and Gayle road trip. We did.

Kinda sorta-ish.

We did.

Wait, when I worked in Montana.

In 2017. I'm gonna have to get the pictures for y'all. We took a road trip from Montana.

My hair was pink.

To California.

My mother always said, you never know how you look until you get your picture taken. Took. And I was like, I was like, my hair was pink. Did you know that, Michelle?

Her hair has been every color under the sun and every length under the sun as well.

Yeah, but I think it's going to—

I think there's one more dessert you need to get me.

Yes, cuz I got to go do my swim, my bike— wait, my swim, my bike.

And then I also have to—

this is a good one right here. And then this is a good one.

Oh no, there's two more desserts. Oh my gosh, I'm going to die. Okay, so, and then while you get that dessert situated, 'cause I want a candle in there as well.

No!

Yes, yes, no, no.

Make this one your last one.

Oh, okay. No, no, no, I'll take a bite out of that. Okay, while we do that, I'm gonna go get my tambourine so y'all can see how it's done.

And knowing her, she probably knows where the tambourine is. You know, like those people that have stuff all over the place, but you'll be like, "Have you seen the purple toothpick that has a red diamond on it?" She'll be like, "Yeah." Look underneath, back behind.

That's what she's doing. Yeah. Oh, look, look, look, look.

I don't know how to play it today.

Happy birthday.

Okay, here she comes. Want to hear it? Here it go.

Like to hear it? Here it goes.

Okay, add to the right.

Hi, Cherie! Hi, Cherie!

It's good to see you.

Hey, y'all.

Oh, actually, we should probably— let's see, I wonder if I could do that and then I can do that.

What are you doing, Cherie?

No, this is not working the way I wanted to go.

How do you want it to work?

No, hold on, hold on. Do you know how to play a tambourine? I I, I played the—

I played the IT.

What's that?

The Invisible Temple.

Sheree, you just be coming up with stuff like off the fly.

You so good at that.

I'm real nice.

The IT. I was like, you part of IT?

So this is Sheree, who's one of those 30-something-year friends. Like, we've technically known you since you were how old?

So I was in I was in 7th grade when we moved to Dallas. So however old that was.

7th grade.

8, you would, 13, 14.

So 12.

Oh.

12.

Yeah. And you're how old right now?

Girl, 47.

Are you really?

47?

Wow, everybody's giving their age off.

Yeah, so that's 35 years.

That's a long time.

That's history.

Oh, where are your kids?

So Reese actually had a CVS episode yesterday. Oh, so she is in—

she's in recovery.

She's in my, in my room and I'm in her room right now.

Oh, you're a great mom. What have you learned in your 40s?

So I put, put my comment on there and I'm gonna win, but I don't— you don't have to give me a Target gift card. I learned that sometimes the problem is me.

Oh yeah, that was good, Cherie.

Wow, it is.

Shut it down now.

Yeah, that was good.

I— and a lot of, a lot of the comments were saying like it's okay to start over, and I, I feel like that. I feel like that, um, it's easy to look outside of yourself to other people and circumstances and situations and be like, well, if I could just change this, and if they would just change, and then if the consistent song is everything and everybody else, you might need to start looking inward.

That is good. That's, that's really good learning. Learning or have learned?

Look, listen, learning, because the Holy Spirit keeps revealing things to me.

Oh, okay, that was good.

Okay, that—

you're—

yep, you're right, you're right about it, you're right about it. So yeah, learning, and it's a hard-learned lesson, but if you start the game with people who are in your corner and on your team, then it'll be— it, it will definitely— you'll definitely come out better on the other side.

Um, that was really good.

Wow, you've been studying your Bible, huh, girl?

Listen, we—

when we went up that mountain, or actually when you went and you dragged Michelle— went to go visit Cherie, and Michelle was like, we're going to do outdoor adventures. And Cherie was like, no, you are going to do outdoor adventures.

Did I say, I'm just letting you know, I may leave you? Did I say that? Did I ever say—

listen, but that's always been Michelle. That was—

yes, that has But no, here's the thing, here's the thing.

I live— I've lived in Colorado for 17 years, have never been like, I'm going skiing and I'm going hiking of my own accord like that. No. And then so it took Michelle coming to— listen, I was so— y'all, so for a 45-minute hike, I had packed, uh, gel packs for my knees. I had—

wait, for 45 minutes?

45 minutes of a hike?

I had water bottles. Bottles. I had—

I was like, Cherie, I had snacks.

Nothing, because you want to travel light.

Yeah, listen, she was like, all right, let's go.

And I was like, wait, wait, I gotta get this, that, and the third.

I was like, what? We don't have time for all that stuff. Weigh you down.

Well, that's another lesson I think I've learned in my 40s. I mean, I'm still learning is how to travel light. I got too much stuff. I got, I got, it's just too many things that get in when you decide to move that weigh you down. You can't, you travel light.

Yeah, I do.

When she moves, and she's been a traveling nurse for years, when she moves, if she can't put it in her car, she trashes it or gives it away. She moves to another city, she'll buy new furniture. She's like, I don't want to take all this stuff with me, which is amazing to me. You fit all your stuff.

I had a Ford Focus. I had a Ford Focus.

And let me tell you, when we drove go from Montana to California. She was so mad at me when I showed up. She was like, because I had a suit—

there's no space.

I had a suitcase and she was like, what you—

you gonna—

oh, so you're gonna ship that to every city we go to?

I was like, no, I was like, we gonna make it fit. She was so mad.

Uh, we were mad at each other at the end.

At the end.

And look, and today y'all sitting there together.

No, I'm not, I'm not playing. We got to California. We drove, we stayed with Anthony. We drove into his garage and I don't know what, I don't remember what happened, but she just, whatever I said, she just slammed the door. No, whatever.

No, she dropped something on the floor. It had pictures in it. I was like, Chrystal!

I didn't know.

I was like, I'm sorry, I didn't know.

You don't throw stuff people down, stuff down like that, dude.

Tell Sherri about the time when you slammed the door on me.

I don't remember that.

About the Blockbuster video.

Oh my God. Tell her that. No, I just got mad. You remember Blockbuster Video? I just got mad because I was like, Chrystal, let's go. I don't know who said let's go get a movie.

She said, but I'm gonna go get a movie, do you want to come?

And she said, I said, no, that's okay, you can go.

And she was mad. She was mad. So she walked out the door, out of my house, and slammed the door. And I was like, ma'am, what is wrong? She was like, well, I mean, you just, you know, I just feel like we're going to watch a movie together, you should want to come to them. I said, well, then say that. I can't read your mind.

And how old were y'all?

In our 30s.

Oh, 30s.

Because I was— no, because I didn't get married until I was 29. It was when I was in the house.

Oh, that's true. That's right.

Okay, because she's still learning. She slammed my house door.

Whatever. But wait, Chrystal Hurst, she probably could have built—

you slammed the— did you think you slammed the door?

I don't even remember. I don't remember about the slamming stuff. I do remember about the—

you remember you're mad about Blockbuster?

Yeah.

Are you a door slammer, Michelle?

No, I'm not.

She's a towel stuffer. I would come over to her house and she needs very specific conditions in which to sleep. So she would invite me over, but I couldn't sleep in the same room. So she would come to her door and put towels underneath the door because she was like, if you're not going to bed, I can't see the light under the door.

Yeah, yeah, I get that. I get that.

No, you don't.

I need, I need to have a little darkness.

Chrystal Hurst, we are— you are in here. This whole show is about what you learned. What Michelle learned is she needs total darkness.

Exactly.

Don't use my show against me.

Thank you.

Listen, you can't tell her.

Yeah, you can sleep with the light on. Thank you.

No, she can't.

That's why I don't—

girl, that's why I don't like sleeping at nobody's house but my own.

Listen, that's why when you came here, Michelle, I was like Okay, it's different from when you came last, right?

Right, wait, wait, that's why I was like, I'm getting a hotel, right?

What's different? What was different?

Well, I mean, her kids are older and—

oh yeah, they shared a room when she came here.

Yeah, but now the older that I get, I want my own. I'm not sharing. If I ain't got to share, I'm not sharing nothing with nobody.

So I was like, if you sleep here, you're gonna sleep in a Transformers room or a Murphy bed, right? Listen, we gonna make a palette.

A palette? I remember my grandmother used to say that all the time.

I'm trying to, I'm trying to do the YouTube thing.

You see, why are your glasses like that?

Look at like, you see my cake pop? My cake pop.

Reese is— Reese made some cake pops. Reese is really getting into being— like, she's 11 now, and all of the 11-year-old things are happening to her in her physical person.

And hold on a minute, hold on a minute, hold on a minute. Okay, go ahead.

Okay.

And so she's learning how to read recipes, and so she— so the thing said 1.5 cups of vegetable oil, and she thought it— because you know it's 1 base, 1/2 2. She thought that meant 11 cups of vegetables.

She's drinking sweet tea.

Of course she is, it's her birthday.

My birthday.

Yeah, that's what happens when you have girls, they make a mess in the kitchen.

Yeah, yeah, we had to teach her how to read recipes and, um, it's— it was a— and how to, you know, mise en place, let all you lay all your stuff out before you start, read recipe from beginning to end before you take anything out. You need to know what this recipe is going to involve, what it's all going to entail. And, um, she did a very good job. They were good. I'm not into sweets that much, um, so— but they were good.

But then she wanted to leave them out at night, like, open, because she's trying to be— she's trying to be grown. She's trying to be grown.

I didn't—

but who—

but I—

we told her, put the food up.

I don't know what they—

what she said.

And so we came looking like Charlotte.

Listen, we came in in the morning and I was like, okay babe, so what, what's, what next? She was like, you guys didn't have another one? I was like, babe, did any, um, you know, it's warm outside and spiders are coming inside.

She's like, girl, listen, like, yeah, you are a good mother. How about that?

Yeah.

And guess what else it is?

What is it?

Sweet Tea Time from Chick-fil-A.

It's my birthday. It's her birthday.

You gonna be lit.

All right, Cherie, I'm gonna let you go. We gonna wrap this up. I got one more dessert, one more, and then I'm gonna crash.

I love you so much.

Bye, Riri.

Wait, that's not what I want.

What is it you wanted?

Let me have the box. What's the box?

This?

Yes.

Oh, was that in there?

It's a— that's a Pop-Tart.

But this is supposed to be—

this is a Pop-Tart.

Unfrosted Pop-Tarts.

Oh, well, this was—

this was—

was it— was that in there for real? I don't eat frosted Pop-Tarts, says the girl who's had a million miles of sugar. Okay, okay, do this one.

She don't go back there and be sure that this is the one that you want.

I don't know, let's, let me pick one from the back.

You know what, when you get 50, you can be picky.

Ah, that right! Hey, hey, hey!

There you go.

Faster.

There you go.

All right. Foolery. Michelle, I need to know, what have you learned so far in your 50s? What do you you're learning? You're a little bit ahead of me on the journey. What do you think you're learning?

That just because you turn 50 or you're getting old, that doesn't mean life is over.

It's barely beginning.

It feels like it's starting because I kind of feel like, you know what you need to know, like the puzzles, they start to fit, the pieces start to fit together, and then you start to make them work. You know what I'm saying? Who would think at 50 you start running a little mini marathon thing.

There was a lady who I saw who she actually got serious about life in her 50s because someone that she loved passed away and she was like, I don't want to do anything that contributes towards my early demise.

Yes.

And she totally changed her everything. I need you to toast that again. Why? Because I like it to be a little more brown around the edges. I don't know what number that was on on, but just do it one more time. Thank you so much. Thank you so much, y'all. You know what someone taught me recently? We talked about this before on the Inner Circle. Who puts butter on their Pop-Tarts? Who does that?

I've never done that. I tried it.

I tried it once. Sharine told me. I've never put butter on my It's extremely decadent, like ridiculous. Let me see.

I like Pop-Tarts with no frosting.

Oh, Pop-Tarts, no frosting for the win.

Okay, okay, here they come.

Sharon says I put—

they're like, they do it.

People do this.

Never.

Look at this.

Where do you live?

Where does she live? Listen, where do you live, Sharon and Bichette, Latonya?

Serena said, "Ew." Exactly, yeah.

Okay.

Butter on your Pop-Tarts.

Yes, that sounds nasty. I do buttered Pop-Tarts. Yep, yuck. Not butter. See, I was like, "Yuck," and then I tasted it and I was like, I mean, when you think about it, butter is in the frosting, so it's not like that far away. Is this brown enough? I think I wanna give away one more thing. I mean, it'll do.

You're not gonna eat the whole thing anyway.

No, I'm not, so it don't matter. Okay, I'm gonna put the Pop-Tart on my tamarind. Okay, Pop-Tart on the tamarind.

Hey, you're gonna make— it's hot, I can't hold it.

Okay. Oh Lord Jesus.

Okay.

So 50s, you learn that things are just beginning.

Yeah. Yeah. It's not over. And you start to go, oh, okay.

The light turns on.

Yeah, it does. The stuff your mother says, you're like, oh, it makes sense now.

Yes. I think that for me, it's the light turning on, but it's also as I approach, but I'm not there yet. It's the connecting of the dots.

Yeah.

You know, it's the ahas. It's the, I heard this and I may have understood it, it. I may have operated according to it, but now I get it. Like, I, I get it.

Yeah, yeah, exactly.

I get it.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. Things start to make sense now. Yeah, stuff your mother said, your mother did.

You're like, oh yeah, yeah, it clicks.

Yeah, flick the light on.

Oh, Patricia says, I am about to turn 52 and I'm just now realizing how important it is that I take care of myself.

Yes.

Yes. Yeah. Let's see.

Yep.

You are drinking from the gallon. Oh yeah, I am.

I did.

I just took a little bit though.

A swig.

Everybody needs Pop-Tarts and cake pops today. I wish I could do that. I wish I could say Pop-Tarts and cake pops for everyone.

You get a Pop-Tart. You get a Pop-Tart. You get a Pop-Tart.

Okay. Ooh, this is good. In my 50s, I found out who my real friends are.

That's true.

That's good.

That's true. That's true.

Lucy said, my 50s lessons: adult coloring books. Listen, let me tell you what adult coloring books are. Adult coloring books represent us deciding to do the things that we love even though someone else says we're too old.

Yeah, exactly, exactly.

That's what that is.

You're never too old.

Yes. Kelly Dominguez agrees with you. The picture starts to become clear at 50.

Yeah.

Yes, that's a good idea. Pat Davis said 50s begins a season of gratitude. I remember Mommy saying that all the time. Yeah, every birthday when she would say, I'm just grateful.

Just grateful.

I'm just grateful for everything I've been through, for everything I've learned, for every year I get. They're like, you know, you think I work with water. Don't worry, I will.

At work, you know, people are like, so how are you doing today? And I just say, you know, I'm doing great because I'm not—

it's all in perspective. Listen, you're a nurse and you're not in the ER. Listen, listen, listen.

Great.

Wait a minute, I only like the homemade Pop-Tarts in restaurants. What restaurants make homemade Pop-Tarts? Uh, y'all listen, I get the Pop-Tart box, I put it in a back area of my pantry.

How you hide stuff?

And the kids know I count them. I know it may take me, girl, it may take me 3 months to work myself through a box. I mean, I, you know, it may take me 6 months to work myself through a box. I just, it's like, I'll make one. And the thing is is if anybody hears the toaster go up, that's the signal. They'll be like, "Mommy, are you eating a Pop-Tart?" I'm like, "No, I have a Pop-Tart with some hibiscus tea." She gonna eat it in the closet. Okay, strawberry Pop-Tart. And you can hardly find them without the frosting. I don't like the frosting.

Maybe on Amazon you probably can find them.

Yeah, but you know, groceries on Amazon are more, they're too expensive. And then the only way you can get 'em close to what you could get at the grocery store or Walmart is if you do that pantry box thing. Oh, but I can't wait until I— you gotta wait and have a list of things you need, and it's too much work. Here we go, Pop-Tarts!

It's all about the crust.

Happy birthday to you.

Uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh. All right, so I want to give away one more prize. Um, my phone died, so I don't remember what the list of prizes were, but what did I do already? Target, Yeah, Amazon.

Is that what you said?

I did Amazon and then I just did one to get a bundle, the whole digital copy.

Oh yeah, you got a box of Pop-Tarts, huh? A box of Pop-Tarts.

Uh, you know what? You know what I could do? Let's see. Oh, can I do it?

What about the candle that you got from Tyler?

Hmm?

That candle that you have from Tyler.

What about it? Oh, what would you—

give it as a gift?

No, I want that candle. I got it all the way from Tyler. I can't get it easily again. I was trying to think.

It's up this— Tyler's up the street.

I'm not driving no 90 minutes to get no candle. 90 minutes? I'm not doing that to get a candle.

You can order it online.

I don't want to order it online.

Okay.

Candles are hard to ship. Okay. They melt and all those kinds of things. So yes, what lessons do you have for me me? Like, if you are ahead of me, some of you have been sharing them. I'll read a few more. If you're 50, 60, what is your lesson for me or for everybody? Really, it's just for everybody. Okay, let's see. My mom used to put the goodies in a Wonder Bread bag to hide it. Oh, I'm learning that loved ones don't always get a chance to say Goodbye.

That's— oh, that was good.

Yeah, good and sad. Angela said, can you drop a link to this version of Happy Birthday? Well, I, I got it off of royalty-free music somewhere on YouTube, and then I made it longer. So instead of it being 2 minutes, I made it 5 minutes. So I don't know if I have a link. Uh, let's see. I learned to pray for myself after my mom passed away and I felt the prayers leaving. Mm, that's good. That's good. In my 50s, I learned I am so much younger than my grandmother, who I thought was very old when she was in her 50s.

Say that again. Read that again.

Basically, you think people that are—

they're old.

Oh yeah, no, I thought when my mother turned—

listen, I thought, oh my God, it is so funny to me to Listen to my kids talk about me. They're like, "Mia, Mom, because you're too old for that." I'm like, "Yeah." So I gotta keep myself together. You know what I did the other day? Well, the other— my kids were in the pool and I just jumped in the pool with all my clothes on. And they were so shocked because moms aren't supposed to do that. So I feel like at this juncture in my life, my goal is to shock my kids. My goal is to shock my kids with what I'm doing shock myself, but yes, also shock my kids. I'm asking— I told Jesse I want to go skydiving between now and next year. Yeah, he's thinking about it. Okay. Uh-oh, Barbara said, I'm getting ready to leave my 50s and my body has showed me who's the boss. Oh, at 49, AARP is excited to reach you.

Girl, I threw my AARP envelope in the trash.

No dirt tea today? No, I did not have dirt tea today. I'm having Hibiscus. I don't think you can see it before it pours out on my computer, but it's red. Oh yeah, it's red. Okay. Oh yeah, oh yeah, that's correct. Mm-hmm. Okay, well, I wanted to give away one more gift card. Melanie said, I bought a pint of Blue Bell ice cream to celebrate Chrystal Hurst's birthday.

I know, that's right, cookies and cream.

Oh, okay.

One more lesson. Let's see. I am 52 and I have learned broken crayons still color a beautiful picture. I love it.

Make it—

oh, that one.

I think it's you, Tina. I think it's you. Um, let's see. $50. Where would $50 be great to? Oh, I already did Amazon. I already did Target. Maybe we should just do a $50 gift card because when you're 50, you know what you want. How about that? So email me, Tina, at hello@chrystalhurtz.com. Y'all, it's my birthday, and I want you to know that I'm really happy that you joined me for some or all of this foolery. Thanks for joining me, Michelle. We hope you've gotten some lessons learned or reminded you of some lessons, or maybe heard them for the first time. And I'm gonna enjoy the rest of my day. I actually have a meeting that I'm late for, so I'm gonna jump— I'm gonna jump because I still have to work and she's got to swim. Again, if you were interested or had never heard before of the Inner Circle, today's your last day to join. The door is closed tonight, and that's where we do all of our original foolery before y'all get the nice neat packaged version of everything else Extra content, extra fun, extra sisters, and I would love for you to join me in there. And while I leave that on the screen, what I'm gonna do is I would pray you out, except I'm not. I'm going to play you out. I'm gonna play you out.

Here we go. Ei, ei, ei! Bye, y'all!

Bye!

Yeah, those were good. All the sugar, man.

The sugar.

Oh my gosh.

No, she's not eating the sweets. I'm eating the sweets. Sweets for the win.