In this informal, faith‑centered dialogue, a mother (Speaker B) explains why she now lets her gray hair show, describing it as a grateful acknowledgment of God’s blessing and a spiritual “crown of glory.” She recounts her earlier years of coloring, highlighting highlights and streaks as youthful trends that she outgrew as she matured. The conversation weaves in a vague scriptural reference that frames gray hair as a sign of honor and emphasizes personal freedom within biblical boundaries when it comes to hair choices—coloring, extensions, wigs, or cuts. Practical tips are shared, such as using a wig or cap while traveling, and the speakers conclude with a balanced message: outer beautification should be matched by inner spiritual growth, encouraging women to feel comfortable in their own skin while honoring their faith.
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I'm in the kitchen watching my mom make a sandwich for my dad. Nothing changes, you said. Sunday afternoon sandwich.
Sunday afternoon ham sandwich with cheese, lettuce, and tomatoes.
Same thing every Sunday. Same thing. So, um, spur of the moment question.
Yes.
Um, I know growing up you've done different things with your hair.
Yes.
Um, and right now I've noticed you are letting your gray show.
Yes.
What has inspired you to let the gray hang out?
Well, I just think it makes me grateful that I'm still here. You know, I'm just, I can't believe I have gray hair and I'm actually still here. So it's kind of, I repeat myself, it's kind of out of a grateful heart to the Lord. And there's a scripture for that too that I've got to find. So you need to stop Taping, so I can go ask your daddy.
Just say what it says. The gist of the scripture is— when I write the blog, I'll put the actual scripture post. The gist of the scripture says that gray hair is a crown of glory or something like that, right?
That's right, something like that. And the scripture also says if you have a question about the Bible, go ask your husband. So I gotta run and ask daddy. Where is that?
So, so why all these years did you color your hair?
Because it was the thing to do, you know. You know, we call it streaking. Uh-huh.
Highlights.
Highlights and stuff. So it was a fun thing to do when I was much younger, but now that I'm mature, I have matured, and things you do when you're a child, you don't do anymore. When you've matured and you become seasoned.
Seasons of a Woman's Life. Get the book, get the book.
What's that?
I said Seasons of a Woman's Life. Get the book, get the book.
Why not?
Yeah. So you're saying basically that your gray hairs are a source of gratefulness and kind of pride, like I've earned it.
I've earned it, you know, and I'm still here, I'm still healthy, and I just think it's— it feels like an achievement and accomplishment and also a blessing. So I'm just kind of grateful.
That's awesome. That's a good perspective. Thank you. So what would you say to the woman who is struggling because she's embarrassed that she has gray hair and is coloring it?
It's a personal preference.
Personal preference.
I think it's personal preference, you know, and so we need to just appreciate people's choices. If it's not in the scriptures, if you don't go outside of the boundaries and the confinements and restrictions of the scriptures, then you have freedom to be who you want to be. And enjoy it.
So basically, with women, we shouldn't make hair a thing. Do what you want to do with your hair. Be comfortable in your own skin, and Jesus is not going to shoot you if you wear an extension, or if you wear braids, or if you color your hair, or if you cut it short or long or whatever.
Oh yeah, if I could manage an extension, I would wear it. I just don't have the time to kind of keep up with it, you know, because I think it's Beautiful. The things you can do with extensions and wig. Well, I do wear a wig when I travel and my hair just—
that just freed somebody up. I just want you to know that just freed somebody up.
I do. I travel with a wig because you go to different places to speak or traveling with Daddy and your hair just doesn't work.
I'm sure it doesn't.
I just pop— I call it a cap. I just put a cap on to look pretty.
Call it a cap, baseball cap, or a wig, whatever. You throw something on the top of your hair to make it work.
Yes.
Make it work.
That is in my suitcase every time I leave on a trip. So I think it's preference, so whatever looks good, whatever makes you feel good, just stay within the boundaries of what the scripture says. And the scripture gives us a lot of personal freedom with preferences when it comes to just beautifying ourselves.
Love it.
Just spend the same time or more on beautifying the inside.
Look at you trying to give a word.
Hello! I gave a word.
You gave a word.
Spend as much time building the inner as we do it in front of the mirror, then I would consider a balanced life. So go ahead and beautify yourself.
Beautify yourself inside and out. In and out. It's about the inside and the outside.
