Preparing Your Kids for the Real World
Chrystal Hurst, who raised five children now aged 14-31, walks through a practical checklist for teaching kids to adult: laundry, cooking, car maintenance, budgeting, investing, blood-work literacy, boundaries, choosing a partner. She stresses hands-on teaching, explaining the why behind each skill, and vulnerable conversations between parent and child.
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Have you ever wondered what you need to do to prepare your child, your teenager, or even your young adult for true adulting? Well, we're going to talk about that today. Hello, my name is Chrystal Hurst, and if you're new here, welcome. I'm glad you're here. Every week I am releasing videos and audios into this world. So you might be watching me on YouTube or you might be listening to me on the podcast. Wherever you found me, I want you to make that you are getting notifications when I put up new content because I'm here sharing content that I really truly believe will help you to live your life well and with intention. There's no point, y'all, in wasting the years of your life. The years will go faster and faster the older you get, and the goal in life should be to live as much as possible with as little regret as possible so that you can actually maximize the time you have. That is my job, to give you information, content, and encouragement for doing just that. So y'all, I have 5 children. My children currently are aged 31 to 14. I just graduated my 4th child. I have 2 girls, 3 boys, and now I have 1 boy left at home. So I've launched a few children into the world, into college, and I've seen them on through, at least 2 of them, the majority of their 20s. And so I know a thing or two about raising I know a thing or two about preparing children for adulthood. I know a thing or two about what I didn't do that I learned to do better. I know a thing or two about what's exhausting and what I got honestly too lazy to do. But I have collected some ideas. Some of these are my own, but I have to give credit where credit is due. I literally record every episode that I do first with my Inner Circle membership. So I ask my Inner Circle membership today, What do you think are the things that you need to teach your children before they leave your home so that they can have successful adults? And what I want to do this morning is to share with you some of the thoughts I have, but honestly, some of the wisdom that has come from the women in the Inner Circle. We have women of all ages. Some of them are well into their 60s and 70s and really have some wisdom to share because they've seen their children through adulthood multiple decades. And then we've got some women who are in their 20s or 30s who are like, I wish somebody would have told tell me this. And so you are getting not only the wisdom that I share on the regular, but also a lot of wisdom— honestly, most of the wisdom today— sprinkled in from the women in our inner circle. So here's the question: what do you need to know in order to adult well? What do you need to teach your kids before they leave the house so that they can adult well? And while this is not an exhaustive list, I wanted to share with you some things that I know to be true from my own experience that I feel like can help you, whether you're raising your children or whether you feel like you're unprepared prepared and need a crash course on what do I need to know so that I cannot have time wasted, money wasted, heartache shared unnecessarily. There's a lot of unnecessary pain in the world that you can save yourself from if you just have the information. So let's get right into it. The first thing that I want to talk about, because it's the easiest thing to talk about, are some things you just need to teach your child to do for themselves. Can we just start with the practical aspects of being at home and what you need to learn at home so that you can do it for yourself when you leave. And I'm talking about, y'all, the basics. I— it never ceases to amaze me how many people will tell the story of a roommate or someone they knew in college that didn't know how to do their laundry because they'd never done it. First and foremost, why are your kids not doing their own laundry? Why are you still doing the laundry for your children? They need to be doing their own laundry. They can help with their laundry when they are 3 years old, okay, when you take the clothes out of the washer, because they're not tall enough to get the clothes out of the washer, you can hand a wet shirt to a 3-year-old and have them throw it in the dryer. Because what the, the key to doing so many things and raising your children well, just overall, is getting them to do it before they know they're supposed to not want to. Like, by the time they figure out as teenagers they don't want to, you ought to have trained them in so many of the things that they need to do. So when they're younger, if you have young children, get them to help you while they want to. When they think it's fun, so that by the time they're teenagers, they're already well trained and it's just a part of their rhythm. So laundry, teach your child to do their own laundry. They should know the difference between the temperatures and they should know why you put 2 or 3 things in the load. Because listen, y'all, there are whole college kids who have washed their kids in softener because they didn't know. They just saw their mother with a bottle and they threw the softener in. They didn't realize that the stuff that made your clothes smell good wasn't necessarily the stuff that got your clothes clean. Let them help you with the laundry. Obviously, let them help you with cooking in the kitchen. We all need to eat, and you don't want your children driving through McDonald's every day when they go to college, or every day going to eat out and wasting money simply because you never let them help you in the kitchen. If you don't know how to cook, then great, you and your children can learn together. Y'all, listen, all recipes, YouTube, social media— there is absolutely no reason why not only you can learn to cook, but also you can learn to cook with your children. These days, I send my children to the web and say, You figure it out. You make a meal plan. I will approve the meal plan because I know if this is stuff I don't want to buy or not. And then you grocery shop for it, and then you cook it. You found the recipes for it, didn't you? Well, you can follow a recipe just like I can. And so literally getting the kids in the kitchen— if you are not wanting to do all that, or you're wanting to make it easier for my life, for me, sometimes I will order a Blue Apron box or a HelloFresh box. And you want to know what I do with that box? I hand it to my children. You want to know why? Because those boxes come with every item that you need to make dinner, and then they come with the instruction with pictures. You know what my children do? They cook from the Hello Box, they cook from my recipe box, or they figure it out, find a recipe for something they want, and then they make it. Because the goal is for them to be able to cook at home when they leave home. Grocery shopping— don't do all the grocery shopping for your children. Take them with you, like 3 people. You go down that aisle, get this. Go down that aisle, get this. Let your children go to the grocery store for you. Why? Because you're going to realize what you didn't tell them When they bring back the butter, that's all stuck together in one pound, like not the individual sticks. But when they didn't know, oh, she needed the individual stick butter, you will save them from going to the grocery store when they're in college and buying the whole block because they didn't know the difference between a pound that's a block and a pound that's 4 sticks. Like these are the little nuancey things that you think that people would know, that if they've never had to do it themselves, they've never actually had to pay attention because you're doing it for them. All the time. Teach your children how to maintain their home, but also just outside the home. Does your child know how to check their oil? Do they know to take the car to the, to the oil place to get the oil change before the light comes on? Like, the light coming on is not the indication to do it. Like, know how to keep records for your car and change your tire, check your air pressure, check your oil, keep up with the maintenance on your car, keep your own checklist. They can know, they should know how to to fix things around the house, to put on a doorknob, to check the water pressure, to note their water heater, to light the pilot if you have that. Like, every time something goes wrong in your house, I don't care if they're 5 or if they're 15, when you have to do it, bring them along with you. If you don't care to know it because you have a handyman, then for goodness' sake, let your children look over the shoulder of your handyman while you look over their shoulder because you should know too. We tethered to spending so much money, y'all, on things that we can honestly do ourselves because no one taught us, no one showed us. Well, your children can learn. They really and truly can learn. And here's the beautiful thing. If neither one of you know, Home Depot, you can do it, we can help. They're willing to help you. And then also YouTube University. So help them to learn how to take care of their home, take care of their car, make appointments for themselves. When they leave your home, it shouldn't be 3 years until they go see the doctor. Get Get them involved. Hey, you know what? You made your— went to your doctor's office today. Why don't you go ahead and look at your calendar, 17-year-old, and put on your calendar when you need to come back? All right, before you go to college, go ahead and put your doctor's appointment on the calendar so that when you come home from college, you can go see your dentist or your doctor. Hey, you're coming home. Did you make your medical appointments? Have them make those appointments. Let them know how to track their own medical care, the documents, their blood work, the thing that when they're 30, they'll want to know what their baseline was when they were 20. You can teach them these things to keep their own records, their bank statements. If they don't wanna print the paper, show them how to keep their digital records online. Whatever you are currently doing for them, they will one day have to do for themselves. So why are you waiting until they have to figure it out the hard way? Insurance, y'all, we all need insurance at some point. Insurance for your car, insurance for your life, insurance for your health. As you are making decisions that cover them, why don't you invite them into the decision? Because it's the teaching of the decisions that will actually cover them for the rest of their lives. So that is home. Let's talk about spiritual. I am so glad you make your kids go to church. That is amazing. But are they going to church and are they understanding what the pastor's saying? Do they ever come to church with you? I'm all for youth. But my children, honestly, I'm a little bit of a train wreck in that department, in the best way. I make my kids go to church with me. And if you want to go for youth, you stay for the next service. Because I am all for talking to them. But I want you to know when you're an adult how to sit in an adult service. And if it's always about fun and it's always about foolery, then you may not ever want to just sit and hear the voice of God. Teach your children how to take notes. Um, when you watch pastors preach on YouTube, make it a family night. Find a pastor that everybody enjoys and watch them on Sunday nights and then talk together. What did you get out of it? When you're studying a book of the Bible or when you're in Bible study, teach your children at the dinner table. Have you and your husband together teach your children. Bring down the fact that the spiritual is more than church. It's about what we do in our homes and in our hearts. Memorize a passage of Scripture together because listen, when you graduate and go out from your home, I bet you that many of the Scriptures you remember are the ones you learned when you were in Sunday school. You don't have to, as a parent, wait for Sunday school to teach your kids. Like, you can teach your kids God's Word as you learn God's Word. So yes, give them a firm biblical foundation by making sure they know how to engage with church and that church is not just about them. They can serve in They can go to church with you or separately. They can learn God's word with you or separately. They can memorize God's word with you or separately. Teach them how to walk and listen to God. As your kids get older, listen, you want them to be able to make decisions. And so as they get older, if it's not like a life or death decision, you pray about it together. But also you should say, why don't you pray about it? Why don't you talk? And then why don't you sit and listen and you tell me what God has said to you? On a decision where it really doesn't matter that much and their life won't be changed. Give them the practice of being in the presence of God and listening. And listen, if you're involved with church, when your child goes off to college, one of your major points should be, listen, what we've taught you, keep doing it. Find a church so that if you're not there with them, somebody else is giving them God's wisdom in their ears. So give your kids a good foundation, study the Bible, memorize scripture, make sure they know how to engage with church, let them serve, teach them how to walk and listen to God, and make sure they know that church is important. Let's switch gears. Let's talk about your body self-care. We talked a little bit about this when we talked about cooking, but listen, you can't just force your kids to eat and not tell them why they need to eat that way. You can save your child years of heartache years of terror with their body by simply telling them what they need to look at, what they need to pay attention to, how to basically be a steward of their own body, and how they can treat their bodies well. Okay. So they need to know how to eat. They need to know how to make a salad, but they need to know why they're putting what in the salad. Why are tomatoes important for boys? Because the lycopene is great for their male parts. I bet you they'll eat tomatoes then. They need to understand that omegas are important, that fats are good, that the reason why I'm putting flaxseed on your salad, or that I'm asking you to eat nuts, or that I'm telling you that you need to eat fish is because these are the fats, the avocados, that are going to keep your brain working well. Like, the food is a tool for their body to function at its highest performance ability. So make them understand that food is not just about eat everything that's on your plate. You better eat what I made you for dinner. Tell them why. Y'all, on your plate tonight, this is what we have. You know how you go to a fine restaurant and the restaurateur can tell you, here's what we have tonight, Here are all the things, and this is this, and this is that, and it's from here, and it's from there, and you get excited about the food. Make sure that your children understand why they're eating so that when they go out, they're going to make choices because they understand that this is what's serving their body. They need to understand that working out is important to them. When my sons came home from college, I, we got to— I let them join the rec center too. I joined. I feel like a failure because who joins the rec center? People that don't feel like they really want to spend the money on really working out because maybe they don't feel good about their bodies. But that's a topic for another day. Hail to the rec center. My children are at the rec center. I send them there every day. Why? Because activity matters. You moving your body matters. And if you don't naturally want to move it because it's too hot in Texas or because one of my sons just doesn't like to move, I'm telling him it's a part of our prerequisite of being in our family. We have a family membership to the rec center. 3 times a week, I don't care what you do, but go up there and move. Why? Because moving is good for you. It's good for your brain. It's good to keep your blood flowing and it's good to keep your life going well on this earth. Make sure that you're not just all about making them do what you're telling them to do, but telling them why. Okay. Yes, they need to go to the doctor. Yes, they need routine checkups. But here's one of the most important things. They need to know their bodies. So one of the best ways to do this I've found is to make sure they're looking at their own blood work, that they know their numbers. So when the doctors give them their blood work, walk them through the important things that they need to watch so that every year when they go to the doctor, they know what to look for. It's not like the doctor just says, well, you look good. No. What are your numbers? Know your numbers. Did you know that you can get your own blood work on your own? That you can literally go online and the same complete CBC that the doctor runs for you, you can run that for yourself. Listen, have your kids do that 6 months in each year. It's like under $20, and you will teach them how to look at their own blood work. Because what does the doctor do when they want to make sure you're okay? They look at the blood. So teach your children to take care of the bodies, to know their bodies, to know— teach your girls how to know when their cycle is coming. Teach your boys how to know when there, there are things happening and what to do when they wake up in the morning. Teach them to know their bodies, to let them know that there's nothing wrong with them, but they are the only person, the soul of them, who is with their bodies all the time. So if you go to the doctor, you can tell your doctor about your normal rhythms. How do you normally sleep? How often do you normally go to the restroom? Like, these are things the doctor asks, and you'd be surprised how many people don't pay attention. Last but not least, sunscreen, y'all. There's no reason, reason to go out in this great green wonderful God Earth that he gave us and have the sun do damage to your in, wear the sunscreen. All right, y'all, so many things that I have to tell you now. Personal— this just has to do with who you are, and I'm gonna run through these, okay? The things that I think that are the most useful. Number 1: teach your kids to say no. No is a complete sentence. Know about boundaries with people. Know about toxic relationships. Know about wasting your time. Teach your children to say no. Teach your children to get up again when they make mistakes, because they will get up. When they have a failure, because have— they will have it. Get up. When they have a, a situation where they didn't manage their time, then work with them. Your job as a parent is to teach your child resilience. Teach them how to get up. Because when your children make mistakes, they need to understand that mistakes are simply an opportunity for growth. They are simply an opportunity for them to learn that mistakes do not limit their future. There are so many kids struggling today because they have not learned resilience. They've learned perfection— make the best grades, get into the best college. What you want to do when you're grown up, and they are stressed out, they are overwhelmed, they are anxious. If you would teach your children how to be resilient, how to bounce back from the mistakes that they made, that is what will serve them for a lifetime. Teach your children to be honest, to be transparent. One of the best ways that you can teach your children vulnerability, which is also a key to living well, is to make sure they're talking to you. So how can you do this? I don't care if you have 2 kids or 7 kids, you should make sure that each of your children, whether it's 3 times a year, 4 times a year, once a month, has your undivided attention. That looks like— a woman with 7 children once taught me, she would go each night to a child's bed, 6 nights a week. She had them on rotation, and she would go sit on their bed and rub their feet and just sit there. And sometimes they would talk and sometimes they wouldn't, but they knew she was coming. And when she would rub their feet and rub their back, she would say, "Is there anything, sweetie, that you want to talk to me about?" Just be there so that when the windows open, you are there talking to your children and giving them the space to, to be honest with you, to tell you what they're really feeling and thinking. That same family, that father would take his children and walk them to Sonic one at a time. He'd do 3 on each Saturday. And he would each Saturday rotate just so that they could share a drink and they could talk to him. If you want to know what's going on in your children's hearts, you have to keep the doors open for communication and let them know that you're going to consistently be there to listen. And then you can be great and learn how to be great at asking questions. How are you doing? How have you been feeling? Have you been stressed? Have you had any headaches lately? What's been the most fun thing that's happened to you in the last week? What is your high and what is your low? How can I pray for you? What can I do for you? Is there any way that I or your mother or I or your father can support you better? What do you think you don't know that you want to learn? Like, you just can just make up a bank of questions that work for your family. Maybe I should make up a bank of questions to help you out. But I promise you, even if you think you're asking the wrong questions, some questions are better than none. Teach your kids to be honest and vulnerable and parent. Listen, y'all, I need you to teach your children how to wait. I need you— the reason why so many kids mess up so many things in their life is because they won't wait. Whether we're talking about sex before marriage, whether we're talking about holding on to their money, whether we're talking about major— making major decisions, everybody wants to rush because they think that the season coming after is better than the season they are in now. Teach your children how to maximize the moment because you show them how much fun they can have when they're 10, how much fun they can have when they're 16, how much fun they can have when they're 20. And I know that some of y'all don't want to be the bringers of the fun. That's okay. Teach them how to Google the mess out of their city and find the fun. Support the fun. Finance the fun. House the fun. Encourage the fun. Listen, I want you to make your children— help your children to look at life as something to be explored, things to be tried, things to be experienced, that everything is new. Because guess what? When you teach them that, they will focus more on the season they're in, more so than the season they want. You won't steal that from them, but hopefully you'll give them something else to focus on. Put fun things in front of them so that they will be encouraged to enjoy what they're in, but also tell them to wait. Whenever my children, with their own money, want to buy something when they're younger, I make them wait. Listen, it'll be here tomorrow. Go home, think about it, because you only have $30, son, and that's $25 plus tax. Do you really want to spend all of your money on that? Go home and think about it, because most purchases that you want to buy immediately and in the moment, the next day, you don't necessarily have the same fizz for. In every way, the decisions that they make, the money that they spend, the seasons that they want to rush to— teach your children to wait. Teach your children to be self-learners out of the classroom. So you don't have to wait for the classroom to take your children on field trips. You make the field trips. Build field trips into family vacations. Teach them how to listen to podcasts. Me and my boys, we sit down and watch YouTube videos. They hate it. I love it. But you want to know what? When they want to know something, what do they do? They learn it for themselves. And you'd be surprised the number of YouTube channels that they've gotten addicted to because they like the person they learned from. My boys got addicted to RV Life. And you know what? So be it. Because you know what they learned watching RV Life? How to fix things, how to make fires, how to cook over an open grill. They don't know it, but they are learning how to live off the grid, and I'm okay with that. Find something that your kids want to learn and watch the videos together. You'd be surprised how much you can teach your children about learning beyond what they learn in school, because that is truly one of the best gifts of life— learning. Because it's time for you to learn. All right, y'all, let me dip into relational things. Okay, because one of the things that you need to teach your children is how to engage with others. Please, I don't know what's happening, but teach your kids manners. Teach your boys how to open the door for a woman in a car or at a restaurant. Teach your children how to say please and thank you. If you're in the South— and I honestly don't care where you are— teach your kids to say Mr. and Mrs., no sir and yes ma'am. Because even if people in your area don't make that a major practice, letting them know that this is a form of respect that they need to be aware of when they go into places and spaces where it's needed. This will help them. Teach them how to communicate. Make your children at home debate each other over a topic. Let your kids join a debate club. Maybe take them to Toastmasters with you. Teach your children how to speak. Teach them how to respectfully disagree, to not have to be all in their feelings before they can say, "Well, you know, I really disagree with this. Let me tell you why." If they want to disagree disagree with your mom, instead of having a hissy fit, teach them how to do it right. I know you disagree with me, but child, how you just talk to me is inappropriate. So let me show you how you could have said the same thing but more respectfully. Instead of stomping your feet and rolling your eyes and smacking your lip, which first of all may result in a smack from me, but anyway, that's a story for another day. Let me teach you how to do it. Mom, 'Can I ask you a question?' 'Sure.' 'You always tell me to do that. I don't understand why.' That is better than, 'Well, I don't understand why I have to do it. Why are you always making me?' Uh-uh. Half of the reason why people can't communicate is because no one taught them how. So when you see your child or your niece or your grandchild communicating wrong, guess what they're doing? They're communicating. That's good. So Just ask yourself, how could they have said this better? And you may need a minute to figure that out, but you can stop them and say, listen, that's not the way to talk to me. Uh, I know you're trying to tell me something. Let me help you communicate with me. That skill will serve them for their whole life. They need to know how to respectfully disagree and how to respectfully and kindly set boundaries. I want you to teach them how to not only have manners, not only, um, disagree, not only communicate well, but I want you to teach them how to communicate with authority and respect. And I mean this two ways. Literally with their authority, how can they communicate well with people in authority over them? How to ask questions instead of make demands, how to communicate succinctly instead of rambling. But I also want your children to know how to communicate themselves, to walk in a room and communicate with authority when they have been given the right to speak and respecting other It's a two-way street. And one of the best things that you can do to teach your children this is to notice where they're not doing it right. And listen, there's a book, Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People. If you know communication is not your best gift, learn with your children. Some of the books that you want to read for your own development when your children are teenagers— 14, 15, 16, 17, 18— read it with them. Listen, it's the summer. This is great time for summer learning. So as you learn and dive deep The best gift you will give your child anyway is the overflow of who you are. So if they are struggling with communication, maybe they haven't learned it from you yet. And maybe if you learn it with them, you'll both be better off. I want you to understand that you should teach your children about kindness and care of other people. Kindness is like out of vogue and it still really is important. It's important to be kind to strangers. It's important to be kind to the person who's serving you at a restaurant. It's important to be kind to the person who changes your oil. It's important to look the person in the face who's at Walmart or who's at Walgreens, and to say, how are you doing today? You know, how long are you working? When do you get off? It's important when you check out at the grocery store to smile at the person. It's important to be kind to others. Teach your children to be kind. The world is round, and what you put out, it comes right back around. Last thing, y'all, relationally, teach your children what to look for in a mate. If you've never sat down with your children and talked about what makes a good mate— son, this is what you want to look for in a woman; daughter, this is what you want to look for in a man— by By default, a lot of them are going to look for what they saw in you as a father or you as a mother for their mate. But you still should talk through it, have them make a list. And if they start dating, then you can say, hey, I know we made that list. How is this person stacking up against the list that you made? Like, make a list, because there are things your kids don't know to put on that list. They don't know to be careful if that person comes to them lovely with $160,000 worth of debt. They don't know that love conquers all things, but that's pretty high mountain to climb. They don't know that. Teach them that. Give them the bullet points, and they will live with this list that is informed by them but also informed by you when they're younger. And it'll morph and change, but give them something to look for. Lastly, y'all, I want to talk about financial health and wealth. I want you to teach your kids how to save. I want you to teach your kids how to invest. I want you to teach your children how to know their credit score. I want you to teach your children how to budget. Teach them how to play the credit card points game, to pay your bill off at the the month and then use those points to take flights or to go on trips or to stay in a hotel. Teach them first to give to God, give to themselves— that's called saving— and then spend. Teach them how to set their goals for the things they want and develop a plan for what they want to get towards. Teach them how to invest. If you don't know how to invest, that's fine. Open account at Fidelity Investments or Schwab or wherever. Together, pick some stocks together. There are so many learning tools on those sites because they want you to invest your money. And guess what they They teach you. The reason why most of us have made financial mistakes is because nobody taught us. Everybody just gave us everything, gave us money, told us not to waste it, and then were mad at us when we were in debt up to our ears. If you teach your children that money is a tool and they need to understand that it's a tool, and just like a knife can cut you or break something open and free you, money is the same. If you don't know how to use the tool, it can cause you harm or it can be of great benefit for you. And for other people. So teach them about how to deal with their bank. Give them a bank account that has your name on it when they're 14 or 15. Give them a debit card and teach them how to use it. When you give them their own account and look at their own statements, help them to have their own investment, they will start paying attention. I gave my kids— instead of Christmas gifts and birthday gifts, I gave them money and I said, go invest at Fidelity. And And they did. They never cared about investing until they needed to watch their money go up and down. Listen, if you teach your children how to deal with money, they will be better off later on. So y'all, that is my diatribe. That is my run through all of the ideas of the things that you can teach your children. Teach them how to operate at home. Teach them how to operate spiritually. Teach them how to take care of their body, to take care of their mind. Teach them how to take care of their personal space, their, their bodies, their mind. We didn't talk as much about mental health. Health. But think about it, what are you working on? Teach your kids what you're learning. Teach them how to take care of their personal space, their, their personal, their soul, relationally, how to engage with others, and then their finances. And here's the last thing I would say: get them off their devices. They're living on their devices because they are choosing to live there instead of to actually live. And if you have a real life outside of your phone, then maybe your phone won't take all of the time that you have. So y'all, help your kids adult. Don't wait until they're 20 and then be mad at them for all the things they don't know how to do. From the time that they're little itty-bitty, look for ways to expose them to how you live. And when they are 16, honestly, if you left town for 2 or 3 days, they ought to be able to run your house. I'm not saying you should do that, I'm just saying they could. Give them real response responsibility, because it's in giving them real responsibility that you actually help them to step with confidence into their role as adults. Adulting 101. Listen, it can be done. And if you're a parent, you can help them. If you're not a parent, guess what? If this is for you and you're like, Chrystal Hurst, you just gave me a fire hose of all the things I could learn to do. Pick one. Go to YouTube, go to the interwebs, go Go to your mom and say, "Mom, I'm struggling with this. Can you help me?" And you know what? I bet she will. All right, y'all. I hope this is helpful. I know it's a fire hose, but hopefully it gave you lots of ideas for what you can do. And I believe you'll just start in one place. You'll be all right. And by the way, if you're 20-some and you just feel overwhelmed, well, this is me. This is your Auntie Chrystal Hurst. You gonna be all right. Just take it one day at a time. All right, y'all. See you next week. If this was helpful, share it with a friend. Bye.
