11 Green Flags in Women Most Men Miss (And How To Respond) 💚

11 green flags in women that most men miss and how to respond. Have you ever met someone who just felt like maybe she was the one? She's beautiful, she's fun to be around, and you start to wonder if maybe she's the one for you. You do not want to settle on the wrong girl. You deserve crazy, exciting, affectionate love, a deep connection. A lot of people end up unhappy in love simply because they didn't know what to look out for. They didn't know how to make sure that this was a good idea, that this would work. They didn't know the green flags. But thankfully, you're different. You are about to learn some of the biggest green flags that she is a keeper. So whether you've been dating for a while or it's still early on, you really need to be aware of what you're going to learn in this video. As we dive in, make sure you subscribe. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to have an authentic, deep connection with an amazing woman, if you are sick of the mind games and tricks, if you want a wholesome approach to dating and relationships, if you want lifelong love, then make sure you subscribe. Okay, let's dive right into our first green flag. This is that she can say she's sorry. In life, we're going to have to say we're sorry sometimes. This is especially true in marriage. It is a nightmare to be married to someone who can't admit that they're wrong, who can't say that they are sorry. Because Because you're going to have to say it, and she's going to have to say it. That's just a part of a normal, healthy relationship. Sometimes we have to just admit that we're sorry. And so if she is someone who can't say that she's sorry, if she's someone who can't admit that she's wrong or that she's done something to upset you or she overstepped a boundary accidentally, if she can't admit that, okay, then— She's got some issues. But if she can, this says that she is a humble person. It says she cares more about your connection than she does her own ego. It says that this relationship matters to her, that you matter to her, and that she doesn't have such a big ego that she can't say that she's sorry. So if she's someone who can say she's sorry, that is a huge green flag. The next green flag that she's a keeper is that she's Someone who's easy to be around. Did you know that a woman can be both exciting and flirty and easy to be around? Sometimes we don't really stop to think about it, but you can be both. You should never be in a relationship where you have to pretend to be someone you're not. You don't deserve a relationship where you kind of are walking on eggshells. You should be 100% authentically you when you're with her. She should be someone who helps put you at ease, someone who feels comforting as well as exciting to be with. She should be someone who helps you feel emotionally safe and connected. Someone who helps you feel like you belong and like you're important. She should help you feel seen and understood. A lot of people end up in not very happy marriages because they didn't learn how to create a happy relationship and a happy marriage before they entered it. And this is a really good example of that. It can be easy when you're in that infatuation stage To just, oh my goodness, she's beautiful and she's exciting and it's amazing and I'm just going to marry her. But if there's no emotional connection, if there's no emotional safety, that attraction is going to dissolve very quickly. The closeness is going to be nonexistent. It's very important that you are with a woman who you feel safe with, who you feel seen and understood. And so if she has those traits, if you feel— Safe. at ease when you are around her. She's someone you enjoy spending time with, you feel safe with. Those are fabulous green flags. The next green flag is that she does not have any manipulative behaviors. It's really sad and sickening how many people in society are teaching people to play games. These games are very manipulative. I'm talking about things like testing you, Gaslighting, playing the victim, getting you to do things for her because you feel like you have to. Making you feel like you have to fix everything, or like everything's always your fault. Or things like when you feel like you have to walk on eggshells, like we talked about earlier, where you just don't feel secure in this relationship or secure in her feelings for you. Those are all massive red flags. Being with a manipulative woman, people try to kind of pass off these games as just being playful and fun, and it's just what you do. No, it's manipulative and it's wrong. And if she's manipulative to you, don't kid yourself, she will be manipulative to your children. She will be manipulative to your family and friends. And maybe you don't even notice her being manipulative towards you. Because the best manipulators are pretty good at hiding that if you don't know what to look out for. But maybe you notice she's manipulative to other people. If she'll do it to them, she will do it to you. So never settle for a woman who is manipulative. It is a nightmare. However, if you notice a woman who's authentic, who's honest, who's sincere and genuine, she doesn't have those red flags. That is huge. That is amazing. She's a keeper. My next green flag might surprise you a little bit. This one is that she pursues you too. This is something we talk about a lot on my channel, so you might be a little familiar with this. But many people think that men do all the pursuing. And men often do what may seem more obvious pursuing, but women should be pursuing you as well. A relationship is close when both people Make it a priority, when both people are committed and invested. And when a woman is interested in a man and she's interested in a relationship, she wants to show that. She needs to show that. And so rather than just expecting you to do everything, she's instead going to be warm and receptive. She's going to look out for you. Women are natural nurturers. She's going to want to take care of you in a very nurturing way. And Be there for you, be your support system. And so pay attention. Is she invested in this as well? Is she letting you know that she's attracted to you? Is she letting you know that she cares about you as well? She needs to be doing an appropriate amount of pursuing as well. It's going to be in a feminine way, but you deserve and need to feel cared about. You need to feel that she's attracted to you. You need to feel that she's invested in this. The next green flag that she's totally a keeper is that you have fun together. A lot of people overlook this. Again, this is something I talk about inside my Academy. When we are first attracted to people, when we're in the initial falling in love stages, we actually have A chemical high going on inside our bodies, inside our brains. And it can be really addicting and really overwhelming. And so many people will commit while they're in that infatuation stage. Sadly, many will marry while they're in that infatuation stage. And then they realize all of a sudden that they don't even enjoy spending time with this person. Sadly, this happens a lot. They don't have fun when they're together. Because now those brain chemicals are all gone. So instead, it's one reason why I tell my clients to take your time when you're getting to know someone and pay attention. Do you have fun together? Do you enjoy spending time with her? Is she— one of my favorite, favorite relationship quotes ever is that love is friendship set on fire. If you can be friends and lovers, You're going to have an amazing relationship. Your marriage is going to be the kind that everybody envies and everybody wants to have because you're friends and you're passionate lovers. So if you can have fun with her, if you enjoy spending time with her, that is a massive green flag. That's very important. The next green flag in women may sound a little obvious, but it's one people frequently overlook. Especially when those brain chemicals are going off. This green flag is that she's kind to you and to others. We know a lot about a person by noticing how they act towards people they can't get anything from. Someone who is kind to children, who's kind to those who are struggling in any way, who's kind to complete strangers that they will never see again, That type of person is a genuinely kind person. They're not just doing it for show. So pay attention to how she treats other people, and absolutely pay attention to how she treats you. You deserve to be with a woman who is kind, who is understanding, who is loving towards you. Now, one of the reasons I point out, do make sure she's kind to other people, is toxic people, manipulative people, They will just love bomb the person they're trying to impress, the person they're trying to ensnare. And so— that sounds dramatic, but that's what they're trying to do. And so she may be super kind to you and just love bomb on you, but if she's unkind to other people, that tells you what you need to know. We often don't wanna hear it when that happens. We wanna pretend that that's not a problem. It is a problem. Don't blind yourself to it because you will regret it later. If you notice that she's unkind to other people, that's a red flag. But if you notice that she's kind to you and to others, that's a huge green flag. She's a keeper. The next green flag in women is that she communicates well instead of moping or yelling at you. Something that— I love researching relationship things, obviously. It's kind of my job. But something that's fascinating to me is how many people try to connect with others especially their spouse, through anger or sadness. They often don't even realize they're doing it, but they're creating a drama cycle, thinking that that will pull the other person closer to them if they get mad at them or if they need them to comfort them. These are bad communication skills. These aren't even really communication skills. These are drama skills. And so if she's a woman who Doesn't know how to communicate, she creates that drama. If she has to yell to get your attention, or if she mopes and acts really sad, those are red flags. But if instead she just communicates clearly, that's a huge green flag. She tries to be mature about her own emotions, she tries to be mature about disagreements, and she shares her feelings in appropriate ways. That right there is gold. That's a woman you definitely wanna keep. The next green flag in women is that she encourages you and she builds you up. One of the biggest things that influences our lives and our moods and how we feel is the people around us. This is particularly true of our partner. Having a positive outlook makes someone a very good partner. Those of you who have been through my Academy will probably recognize this. As one of those attractive-by-default traits. When you have that trait, you're automatically irresistible. People love being around you. Positivity is a very important trait to have. So if she is someone who you feel better when you're around, she's someone who cheers you on, she's like your personal cheerleader, she encourages you, she makes the world seem better, that's the kind of woman you want to be around. Many people are like emotional vampires, even though they may not mean to be. And they just drain the energy out of you. And they complain a lot, maybe they rant a lot, they look at the dark side, they always find the problems with every solution. Those people are exhausting to be around. I would not ever, ever suggest entering a relationship with someone like that. If you want a happier, easier life, if you want a more loving partner, Then make sure you look for a woman who is positive and encouraging. This next green flag is another very important one. I think I keep saying that because they're all very important. But this one is that she takes care of herself in the long run. Many people, when you're first infatuated and you're attracted to someone, you will make sure you look amazing every time you see them. But some people will then slowly over time, once they've got you, They just, you know, they stop caring about how they look. And there is definitely a space for feeling close enough to someone that you don't always have to look perfect. Because you're not always going to look perfect, especially in marriage. Sometimes you're sick, sometimes you're having a bad day, whatever it is. However, if she is someone who has the kind of self-respect and respect for you that she proactively wants to look her best for you, As much as possible, that's a huge green flag. You deserve someone who always wants to look cute for you, who will dress up for you, who will be flirty and attractive for you because she respects you and she wants you to have that. Something I teach inside my Academy when I'm teaching you how to turbocharge your physical attractiveness is that the way we take care of ourselves and present Ourselves directly shows how much self-respect we have. So if she's someone who doesn't really take good care of herself, she doesn't have a lot of self-respect. But if she's someone who is proactive about trying to look her best, that speaks volumes. Just like you should always try to look incredibly attractive for her, she should be doing the same for you. Again, we all have our good days and our bad days. But if she's just a sloppy person, or if she habitually does not try to look nice, honestly, I would just avoid that relationship altogether. Maybe you notice that she looks really nice from the moment she met you on, but you notice on social media she was really sloppy before that. Okay, probably that's more accurately who she is. But if she instead takes the time to be attractive for you, that is a massive green. This next green flag is perhaps the single most important one. This is that she has a close relationship with God. When someone has a moral code and they stay true to that moral code, they're someone we can trust. When a woman is focused on God, on feeling His love, and then sharing that love with others, your relationship can't be anything but happy because it's built on love. Something else I teach in my Academy is to draw close to God. This makes you irresistible to a loyal, loving, good woman. But if you are the only one doing that in the relationship, the relationship's gonna be really rough. It's not really going to work out. You're not equally yoked. It's very important that she is doing that as well. Whatever God touches becomes beautiful and holy and fulfilling. Do you want a relationship That is like that. If she has the inner strength to draw close to God and stay close to God, then you can count on her being true to you forever. So when she is someone who prioritizes her relationship with God, that is a massive green flag. Our next green flag is that she keeps flirting with you. Some people, I don't know why, I think it's really stupid, but Some people seem to think you should only flirt for the initial part of the relationship. No. As the relationship develops is when it gets even more fun. So you should definitely have flirting and connection throughout the entire relationship. So many people are like, I don't understand why the spark dies after marriage. But what they don't realize is they stop doing all the fun things that helped them fall in love in the first place, flirting being one of them. So if she is someone who can continues to flirt, who continues to make you feel like a sexy man and to be cute and playful with you. If she continues to do that, that is a great green flag. You want a woman who keeps giving you those butterflies forever. Now, any woman who fits these green flags is an exceptional woman, right? However, I want you to know something. There are exceptional women all over the place. The key is to know how to find her and how to make her fall in love with you forever. If you don't know that, it won't do you much good to find an exceptional woman. So would you like my help with this? This is literally what I do. I help hundreds of men with this every single day. That's why I created my Academy in the first place. To get started understanding how to find her, how to attract What it is that kind of an exceptional woman needs to fall in love with you while staying authentically you. This isn't about changing who you are. To learn these insider strategies, watch my free masterclass. Go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass or check out the link in the description below. You can have an exceptional woman, you just need to know how to do it. That's what I'm really good at helping you do. So watch that masterclass! Now let's talk for a second about how to respond. How do you respond when you see those green flags? Well, it's important to just know that you need to respond. Sometimes people will— the feelings of nervousness or anxiety or worry about rejection will stop them from ever moving forward. And when that happens, she's gotta move on. She can't just wait forever. So it is critical that you do actually Too many men miss out on their dream girl because they don't actually do something to get her. Love and relationships take effort for both people, so you need to make sure you're putting in effort. So it's important that you pursue her in a confident, appropriate, masculine way. You need to show her that you have romantic interest in her and lead out in the relationship. Be the masculine leader in the relationship. Most men don't seem to know this, but when you step up in that masculine role, you take that masculine leadership— and I'm not talking about a controlling role. That's not masculine. That's immaturity. But when you show up as that masculine leader, you would be shocked at how she can just rest into her femininity. She can just soften into her femininity. And that's what allows her to just shower you with that feminine affection, And love and support and care. Feeling secure because you are there to provide safety and protection and to provide. The next thing you need to know is that now that you understand how to see signs that she's a keeper, it is critical that she sees those signs in you as well. This is not something you can manufacture. It's not something you can just pretend. It needs to who you are. Just like it's not a green flag in a woman if she's just pretending. It's only a green flag if it's authentically who she is. You need to be doing the same thing. And the best place to get started to understand how to do this is in my free masterclass. I'm going to walk you through more details there. So again, just go to coachmelannie.com or check out the link in the description below. You'll learn what areas you need to focus on to make her fall deeply, passionately in love with you. In that free training. So if she is someone who can say she's sorry, that is a huge green flag. I just threw my remote. Hi, secret end-of-the-video club! There is one thing that is on my mind a lot right now. So that's gonna be the end-of-the-video word. And that word is lunch because I'm really hungry. This video took a little longer than I thought. So comment lunch. I'm gonna go eat lunch. And never forget that you're amazing! Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! If you liked this one, you'll also like this video which is What Women Really Want in a Man. And I think it's going to surprise you. So I'll link that one for you as well. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!