3 Habits That Make Her Take You Seriously 😏💕 (And How To Earn It)

3 habits that make her take you seriously. She likes you, she texts you back. But when you talk about the future, she goes quiet. It's not that she doesn't feel attracted to you. It's not that she doesn't enjoy spending time with you. It's that she doesn't feel like she can count on you yet. As a coach who's been doing this for many years, you'd be surprised how often this can happen. So in this video, I'm going to be sharing with you 3 habits that help you change that. Remember, mature, authentic women aren't looking for perfection. They're looking for someone who's safe to build a life with, someone she can count on. And that's why it's so important for you to know these 3 areas that women are paying attention to. As we dive in, if this is your first time watching, make sure you subscribe. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to have authentic, lifelong love. No mind games, no tricks. If you're tired of the exhausting mind games, then you're definitely in the right place. So hit subscribe. Now let's dive into those 3 habits that make her take you seriously. These are things that help her go from, eh, yeah, he's, you know, a guy I enjoy spending time with, to, whoa, this is the kind of man I could see myself spending the rest of my life with. I respect him. I admire him. The first habit is that you actually do what you say you'll do. You are someone who actually follows through. Sadly, this is a rare trait in today's world. But when you are the man who actually follows through, you are truly exceptional. We've heard it a million times, actions speak louder than words. It sounds cliché, but it's actually incredibly accurate. And when someone doesn't follow through on what they say they will do, their actions are telling us that we can't count on them. And a woman doesn't want a man she can't count on. However, it actually goes even deeper than that. It's more than just being someone she doesn't feel like she can count on, it also reveals that you don't have respect for her. It's a signal that you don't value her. Now, of course, I'm not talking about when something accidentally comes up, something unexpected, some kind of emergency, something outside of your control. That happens to everyone. That's going to happen to her as well. So I'm not talking about those exceptions. I'm talking about when it's consistent. If she sees repeatedly that she can't count on you, then she's not going to take you seriously. Even if she feels genuinely attracted to you. So let's just talk real fast about some examples of not following through. So these are some things you should definitely not do. The first example is to be late, especially repeatedly. That's just plain rude, and it sends a signal that you don't actually respect or value her time enough to be on time. Another example is that you tell her you will text her or call her, and then you don't. Flaking out on anything, or sometimes on everything, These are all sending signals to her that you don't respect her and that she can't count on you. That's what you shouldn't do. So what should you do instead so that she does take you seriously and so she does want a relationship with you, she feels safe having a relationship with you? First, you need to make sure that you are taking yourself seriously and your connection with her seriously. At some point, it does have to be a mindset thing. If you're someone who feels like it's completely appropriate and okay to flake out, appropriate to not follow through on what you say to do, you need to start taking yourself and your relationship with her a lot more seriously. That's a mindset thing. Another very helpful strategy is if you do genuinely have a hard time remembering, create reminders. Our phones are a fabulous tool for that. Create a reminder. Oh, hey, text her on Tuesday. Oh, leave 15 minutes early because I'm always late. Whatever it is, create those reminders. Sticky notes, whatever it is that works for you. But if you want a result that's different than the one you're getting, you're gonna have to change something. And creating reminders and changing your routine a little bit is well worth the effort if it means getting a high-quality woman. Another great example of this is putting it in your calendar. When it's in our calendar, or on our calendar, depending on if you're old school or if you do it on your phone— personally, I'm old school, so it's on the calendar for me. But regardless, get it on your calendar. Because if it's scheduled, we are so much likely to do it, to follow through. You basically, you want to give yourself no excuse to forget. It's kind of become an old-fashioned saying, but honestly, the world would be a better place if more people lived by it. But this saying, my word is my bond. Be someone who respects yourself enough to actually follow through because it shows that you have integrity. When you are a respectful person, people will naturally respect you. So not only will this cause a beautiful woman to take you seriously, but she will also see you as a high-value man because that's what you've become and that's what you are showing her that you are. Now let's talk about the second habit that makes women take you seriously. This habit is that you manage your finances well. Now before anybody writes any rude comments, because I know they're coming, Before you write them, answer me this honestly. Do you want to be married to a woman who has tons of debt, who can't manage her money, and spends like crazy? Do you want a woman who is constantly stressed out about money? Those would all be super red flags, right? Those would be signs that maybe you should not marry her. Marriage with someone like that is insanely stressful. Far too many marriages are a complete mess because of financial stress. A mature person going into a lifelong relationship wants to make sure that there's as much security and stability as possible. Because that's just smart. Now, this does not mean that you have to be rich. The truth is most people wouldn't mind being rich, but that doesn't mean she expects it. Not the high-value women. Instead, it means that she can tell That you are responsible with money, that you handle money well, that you are a wise steward over your own wallet and your own household. So just like you would see tons of debt, crazy spending, lots of stress about money, just like you would see those things as red flags, a high-value woman will as well. So she may be genuinely interested and attracted in many ways, but she's seeing that red flag and it's causing her to not take you seriously. However, when she does see that you manage your finances well, she sees that you are dependable, that you are stable, and someone she can trust. Now, I do want to make something incredibly clear. So, you with me? You do not have to be rich for a high-quality woman to take you seriously. But you do need to be able to manage what you have. Because financial stability really isn't about a number in a bank account. It's about being able to go through life without constantly worrying, can I afford this? It's about being able to plan a date without stressing out about the credit card bill. It's about being able to handle an unexpected expense without your whole life falling apart. And ultimately, it's about being able to look at the girl of your dreams and know that you're actually prepared to build a life with her. And if this If this is an area of your life you'd like to get better at, there's a tool I want to tell you about called Power Payoff. Full disclosure, my brother helped create Power Payoff, and I'm an affiliate. So I may earn a commission if you sign up through my link. But I wanted to share it with you because I genuinely think that it solves a problem that a lot of people have. Power Payoff helps you create a realistic picture of your money. Not just what your banking account says you have, but what you actually have available once your credit card spending is accounted for. And if you're carrying debt, it can help you create a realistic plan to get that paid off too. So instead of avoiding your finances, guessing, or getting surprised by a giant bill at the end of the month, you can actually know where you stand and make decisions confidently. And that is the bigger goal. Not becoming some millionaire just so a woman will be impressed by you. It's about becoming the kind of man Who handles his responsibilities and plans ahead. A man who lives within his means and can confidently say, I've got this. Can you imagine how differently your life could feel if that was you? That's attractive. That's stability. And that's the kind of thing that makes a woman feel like she could actually build a future with you. I'll put a link to Power Payoff below. Check it out if you'd like an easy way to create financial stability and show her you're a man she can trust. Click the link in the description below or use the code COACHMELANNIE at checkout for 25% off your first 3 months. Now let's move on to the next habit that helps her take you seriously, that helps her want a relationship with you. This habit is that you lead with calm direction. A lot of this just comes down to that Emotional steadiness. Again, being someone she can count on. Do you want a woman you can count on? She wants a man she can count on as well. There is a big difference between a man who takes a confident leadership role in the relationship versus a guy who has no direction and who's just kind of drifting through life. High-quality women really can't respect a man Who has no ambition. A man who isn't clear about what he stands for or what he wants out of life. Frankly, a man who's not clear about what he wants from a relationship with her. This is actually why a lot of men will end up in the friend zone, even if she was initially attracted to him. If she can't take you seriously, she's not going to want a relationship with you. However, when instead, You are the man who knows what you want out of life. You have the things you stand for. You reach for what you want. You are now a leader. And it's totally okay if your goal is not to one day go to the moon or to be a billionaire. It's totally, totally awesome if your goal is to have a comfortable home, a loving family, to go on fun vacations several times a year. If that's your goal, if that's your ambition, That's wonderful. Matter of fact, the world would be a pretty good place if most people had that goal. But you need to know what your goal is, and you need to have a plan first. When you do that, now you're a leader. A lot of being the leader also includes showing your romantic interest in her. This includes things like asking her out, planning and paying for the dates, flirting with her, showing interest instead of hiding the fact that you're romantically interested. It means letting her know where you want the relationship to go at the appropriate times. Women take you seriously when they see that you take yourself and the relationship seriously. You truly have the ability to set the tone for the relationship. So if you need to take some time to ask yourself what your ambitions are, Do it. If you need to take some time to say, what are my standards? What do I stand for? Then do it. Ask yourself if you actually pursue or if you're very passive in relationships. Be honest with yourself because we can only improve when we actually have that honesty. Now, here's the beautiful part. When you live these 3 habits, she doesn't have to be convinced to take you seriously. She just feels it. She's drawn to you in a way maybe she can't even fully describe. The beautiful thing about habits is that they become automatic. It's like what I teach about in my Academy, an Attractive by Default strategy. It's all built around habits. Because when you have a habit, it's just who you are. You're irresistible by default. If you want a more full framework for becoming the man she can build her future with, I'm going to walk you through step-by-step in detail inside my masterclass. It's totally free, and you're going to walk away with strategies and an understanding about women that most men will never know. The link is in the description below next to Power Payoff. I love this jacket so much, but it's noisy. So it's not those, um, What is that word? A mature por— mature? My voice is cracking a lot today. However, when she— okay, I'm okay. A large part of being a leader also just show— includes. That's the word I was looking for. Okay, you want to hear something crazy, guys? I have had something in my eye for like An hour, and I can't find it. I keep going to the mirror to, like, find it, and I can't find it. And so I just filmed this whole video blinking my eye a lot. Trying not to blink my eye a lot. The glamorous life of the YouTuber. All right, secret end-of-the-video club, thanks so much for being here. I hope you had an awesome week. I got to do something really fun the past week. You know when you, like, really enjoy something, and then you don't get to do it forever, and then you finally get to do it again, and then it's super fun? And awesome? Well, that's what happened with me. We, um, for the past— for all of August and, and a long time before that, I was updating the Academy and I was getting ready for the launch. So I did almost no writing on my novel, but I'm back at it and it feels really good and awesome and exciting. So I just wanted to celebrate that because you should celebrate every little win in your life. So the end of the video word today is novel. So comment that so I know you watched to the end. And thanks for being so awesome! Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! I hope you enjoyed this video. If you liked it, you will also enjoy this one, which is on signs of green flags in women that most men miss. Thank you so much again for watching, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!