In this YouTube video, dating coach Melannie Gregersen outlines five bold behaviors that women want “nice guys” to adopt in order to become more attractive and avoid the friend‑zone. She frames the advice as science‑based attraction strategies rather than manipulative “mind games.” The five behaviors are: (1) stop fearing one’s own sexiness and embrace a healthy sense of attractiveness; (2) upgrade personal appearance through purposeful dressing, grooming, scent, and overall style; (3) actively flirt to create romantic chemistry and give the woman butterflies; (4) appropriately break the touch barrier in a respectful, consensual way to deepen connection; and (5) take a leadership role in the relationship, displaying confident, masculine body language. Throughout, she emphasizes that these actions are bold but authentic, encouraging viewers to practice them, and she promotes her Academy and a free masterclass for deeper training. The video ends with a light personal anecdote about Star Wars, a call for viewers to comment “blaster,” and a teaser for a related video on “5 Things Women Instantly Notice About Men.”
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5 bold behaviors women wish nice guys did. There are certain skills that captivate women. This is how you turn her head, capture her heart, and make her think about only you. Do you want to be the only man in her life? You can have that! You simply need to know how. There are already many men who are using these strategies. As a matter of fact, a little bit of a secret here for you, When many people say that women love bad boys, it's often not the bad boys that they're attracted to. It's these strategies that the bad boys just happen to be using insincerely, but they are using them. Honestly, just like you can use any kind of knowledge for good or evil, the same is true for the science of attraction. The good news is once you learn these attraction strategies, you're going to be the one turning her head. Because no decent woman is going to want a bad boy when she could instead have a good man. They're called bad boys for a reason. You just need to learn how to ignite the attraction. And honestly, can you imagine how you'd feel if you were the one getting her attention instead of those slimy guys? You are going to love this video. Some of these things might seem a little bold for you if you've not been doing them. However, they are life-changing when it comes to your love life. As always, if this is your first time watching, welcome! Make sure you subscribe. I'm all about wholesome, authentic dating and relationship advice that comes from science, not popular opinion or slimy mind games. So make sure you subscribe. The first bold thing that women wish nice guys would do is stop being afraid of being sexy. Here's something a lot of people don't realize. It is good that you want to be appropriate. That is such a good thing. And a high-quality woman values that and treasures that. However, there is a difference between being sexy and being suggestive. You can be both at the same time, but they're not by default the same thing. As a matter of fact, when you're married and you're with your wife alone, well, yeah, be both. That's okay, that's appropriate, that's good, that's fun. But just because you're a sexy person does not mean you're a suggestive person. One of the reasons why the bad boys can often turn heads is because they are not afraid of being attractive. As a matter of fact, they enjoy being attractive. That's not a bad trait. That's a trait anyone can develop. The same thing happens with women. When a woman is afraid of being attractive and she kind of hides herself and tries to not be noticed, she's not going to be as attractive as a woman who knows she's beautiful and she knows she can catch eyes and she enjoys that. Not in a "I'm going to play with people's hearts" kind of way, just a "God made me a beautiful woman and that's okay." So if you're working against yourself because you're afraid of being attractive, it's going to stop you from being attractive. The truth is there just has to be a certain amount of sex appeal, okay? That's a beautiful, good thing. This is something I work with my clients on in my Academy. Some people are just afraid of being attractive. And it's important to acknowledge if that's you. But please understand that it is a good thing. Embrace it. The next bold thing women wish you would do, this is going to feel very bold if this is not something you're used to doing. This is to assess how you dress. Do Do you dress like an attractive man, or do you dress like a pushover? Or do you dress like someone who doesn't know how to dress, or someone who's afraid of being sexy like I mentioned just now? Assess your hair, your facial hair, what you do with it, your hygiene, your shoes, your scent. Scent is very attractive. Make sure you have a good scent. Far too often it's not that you are not an attractive person, it's that you're not dressing like an attractive person. It's that you don't think you're attractive so you're not acting like you are, and then you've defeated yourself before you ever got started. I want you to imagine something for a moment. I want you to imagine a nice girl. You've probably known many of these women. Girls, women who are just, they're nice, but they're just not attractive. And you don't mean that unkindly. She's just not an attractive girl, even though she's really nice and she's really sweet. The point for this kind of woman is not for her to give up. It's for her to learn how to be attractive. It's for her to learn how to do her hair, for her to learn how to flirt, for her to learn how to dress attractively. It's not that she's not capable of being attractive, it's that she doesn't know how or she doesn't put in the right kind of effort. The same is true for men. So please dress like an attractive man because that's what you are and that's how women want to see you. So dressing more attractively may feel really bold. And by the way, if you don't know how to do this, This is something I walk you through in my Academy in great detail. So when we open enrollment again, make sure you join. But it might feel awkward, it might feel a little uncomfortable and bold, but it's bold in the best way. And she wants to see you boldly being attractive. The next thing women wish nice guys would do is flirt. "Oh my goodness, please flirt!" You want to create romantic chemistry. You want to pursue her. You want to purposefully create these little moments that are charming and sweet and memorable. If your interactions with her feel like a friend, then you go into the friend zone. If they feel like a business meeting, then she doesn't think you're remotely interested in her, and she's not going to be interested in you. But when you flirt with her, you connect with her, you give her those butterflies, she's not going to be able to stop thinking about you. So the way you interact with her really does matter. It can feel incredibly bold if you're used to just being the nice guy to instead kind of create some of that romantic chemistry. But that's how you take the relationship, you elevate it to a romantic level, is by creating some of those romantic moments. Now, yes, you don't want to go over the top and you don't want to be awkward about things, but just fit in that little those little flirting moments. And just in case you're, like, starting to, like, hyperventilate and it feels overwhelming, don't worry, I've got your back. There is no way I can include everything I can share with you in just one YouTube video. So your next step is to watch my free masterclass. I'm able to deep dive into what you need so much better there. You're going to learn what's been stopping you from love, what permanently transforms how women respond to you, and you'll discover what it is that makes her fall passionately in love. Forever. This is not about changing who you are, it's about showcasing your best self. If you're sick of feeling left behind in love, it's time to learn the secrets about women that permanently put you ahead. Go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass or check out the link in the description below. Okay, the next bold thing that is good to give her butterflies, that helps create that romantic chemistry, This is to appropriately break the touch barrier. And I want to emphasize again, be appropriate about this, okay? A big part of flirting is breaking the touch barrier. It helps catch her attention quickly, it helps create those butterflies, it helps create a connection. You don't want to do too much too fast, obviously, but there are appropriate ways you you can break the touch barrier. For example, maybe you're trying to guide her through a crowded room, just place your arm on her back and guide her. Or perhaps when you're sitting next to her, don't like make sure you don't touch. Like, it's okay if you touch. Or maybe give her a hug when you see her. There are very appropriate ways to break the touch barrier. Never force it, and if acts like she's uncomfortable, okay, stop. But breaking that touch barrier really helps her go, "Oh, this is an attractive man." The next bold thing she really wants you to do is to lead in the relationship. Far too often the problem a lot of nice guys fall into is they're too passive. They don't see themselves as leaders so nobody else sees them as leaders either. Often the bad boys, part of the reason they get the attention they get is because they aren't afraid to lead out. They're not afraid to pursue. They're not afraid to go for what they want. So ask her out, compliment her, let her know that you think she's beautiful and you enjoy spending time with her. Guide the direction of the relationship. Don't just passively hope it works out. It doesn't look to her like you can lead a family if you you can't even lead a date. So being too passive is going to keep you stuck in the friend zone and just— she's not going to feel that attraction. She wants to see you as a confident, capable, masculine man. Stepping into the role of a leader is going to dramatically transform how she sees you and therefore how she feels about you. It's like I teach my clients in my Academy women feel safe around a man who pursues them. It makes her feel more feminine, which is naturally going to make her want to be around you more. If you want her attraction for you to skyrocket and to stay strong, you need to show up as a masculine man. And I actually have a quick bonus tip for you as well. I'm not going to spend a lot of time on this one because I've mentioned it in recent videos, but please make sure you're practicing seeing confident body language. This is one bold way to show that you are an attractive man. Our body language tells the other person so much. We're paying a lot more attention to body language cues than we are even what comes out of someone's mouth, even if we don't realize it. Nice guy body language is timid and shrinking and unattractive. But confident masculine body language, whoo, That's sexy. So make sure you're practicing good body language. Okay, our video— Okay, our word for the end of last video was lightsabers. Because the hum of a lightsaber just makes me feel giddy inside. But another one that I love just as much is the sound of a blaster. So comment "blaster." I'm serious. Like, blasters are so cool. Fun fact for you: I think I've mentioned before, I love acting. As a matter of fact, growing up, that's what I wanted to be when I grew up, was an actress, before I realized Hollywood standards and mine are not the same. And one of the main reasons was because of Star Wars. Because I was like, "Wouldn't it be so fun to do something like that?" So the sound of a blaster makes me very happy. So, comment blaster, and thank you for being here. I'm just revealing all my nerdiness lately. Well, not all of it. I've got more where that came from. I'm just being real. Next up, you're going to want to watch this video, which is 5 Things Women Instantly Notice About Men. I think it's maybe gonna surprise you. I will put a link in the description below. Thank you so much again for watching, my amazing friend! Have an amazing day, and I will see you in the next one.
