👉 7 Signs She’s Using You (And It’s Time To Run!) Lookout For Toxic Girlfriend Signs

7 signs she's using you and it's time to run. It is completely heartbreaking when there's someone you have feelings for and you honestly think she has feelings for you too. You've given a piece of your heart to her, and instead of there being loyalty and love and affection, you find out that she's just been using you. It shatters your dreams, it's discouraging, and it can feel pretty crippling as well. Learning the signs she's using you early can save you from so much heartache. The truth is, not all women want to use you. As a matter of fact, most people are just doing their best to be good people. However, toxic people cause a lot of damage to a lot of people. Thankfully, you can learn. You can learn the signs that she's using you, spot them early, and completely avoid being in a relationship with a woman like that. This is why this is one of my favorite things to I teach my clients in my Academy how to spot the signs of a toxic woman so you never have to get involved. So I will be sharing with you 7 signs she's using you so that you are prepared. Because when you're prepared, you don't need to fear. As we dive in, if this is your first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to make attraction, love, and connection feel effortless. I'm all about a wholesome, authentic approach to love, so there will be no mind games or tricks. So if you want wholesome, lifelong love with a feminine, loyal, beautiful woman— that's what you want, right? That's what I thought. Make sure you hit that subscribe button. Sign #1 that she is just using you is that she only wants to spend time with you when you're buying something for her or doing something for her. You've heard me talk before about how being a gentleman is so completely irresistibly attractive to a high-value woman. So I'm not talking about the gentlemanly things to do like holding the door open for her or paying for the meal. Those are ways you show her you are confident, you are masculine, you are the protector, you are the provider. And a high-value woman is truly going to admire and respect you for those qualities. So I'm not talking about that. Instead, I'm talking about someone who, well, she doesn't really want to hang out with you unless you're going to lunch. She doesn't really want want to spend time with you unless she has something that needs to be fixed, and then she'll spend time with you. If you get that vibe that this is really just about you helping her with her projects or paying for something, trust your gut on that one. This is another thing I teach my clients in my Academy. Trust your gut. Sometimes our gut tells us something's not right with this, but we think we're just making it up. "No, they're actually a nice person." No, no, no, no, no, no. God gave us that gut feeling for a reason. You don't have to explain why. If you have that gut feeling that something's not right, then trust it. You deserve someone who wants to be with you even if you're just going for a walk, there's no dinner provided on this date. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you, not just wants you to buy her things. And this actually goes as well with online dating. Many people will meet someone online or Sadly, they're talking to a bot. They think it's a person and it's actually not. And this person keeps asking them for money. "Um, is she your wife? Then why—" No, you do not have to give her any money. She is so out of line for doing that. So don't spend your time with someone who's only there to get something from you. A high-value woman is going to respect you and respect your finances, not just try to get something from you. Sign number 2 that she's using you is that she doesn't want you to meet other people in her life. Or she purposefully avoids introducing you as her boyfriend. Maybe, "Oh, let's not tell everybody we're dating yet. But, you know, we're totally a thing, but let's not tell—" No. Why doesn't she want to tell people? Maybe she doesn't want you to meet her family or her friends. That's a key sign that she hasn't told them that you're dating because in her mind you're not. She's trying to keep a level of secrecy to keep your lives apart instead of together. That's a huge red flag that she's just using you and she's incredibly out of line. Sign number 3 that she is using you is that she only shows up in your life or replies to you when she wants comfort, The sad reality is, is there are some very out-of-line women who just want somebody to— who's a shoulder to cry on, somebody to bring them ice cream when they're sad. It's inappropriate. This is not a two-way relationship. This is a one-way relationship. She's just looking for someone to make her feel better, maybe feed her ego a little bit, and then she moves on to the next thing. So if she only replies to your texts or if she only reaches out, or if she only wants to spend time with you when she is going through a really hard time or is really sad, then it's probably a good time to run away. And this actually leads us into honestly one of the most important signs. This sign is that she's not there when you need her. She's really just not present in the relationship. This can mean physically, you know, maybe if there's, like, an event or something that you really need her there for or would like her there for, she just, "Oh, she doesn't have time. She can't make it happen." Or even just emotionally, maybe you're in the same room, but she's always on her phone, or she doesn't pay attention. Or if you need to process something, work through something, talk about something, she just tunes out. She's not there. It's only a relationship if both people are invested. Otherwise it's really not a relationship. And so if she's not showing up in the relationship, if she's not proactive about the relationship, this clearly isn't working. And you certainly don't have to stay in a relationship like that. Now before we get to the next signs, I know this is a little bit of a heavy topic, so take a deep breath. And I want to again remind you, not all women are like this. If you're attracting these types of women over and over again, it's a sign you need to level up and learn how to attract the right kinds of women. Because certain things attract different kinds of people. This is why I love being a coach and why I love helping you know how to find, attract, and keep the love of your life. That's why I created my Academy for you in the first place. So if you're sitting here right now and you're like, "Okay, but how do I attract, like, good women, high-value women, not these low-value toxic women? How do I do that? If you're wondering this, I've put together a free masterclass for you where I walk you through 3 insider secrets about women that most men will honestly never know. You're going to learn what's been keeping you back from the love you deserve and how to permanently transform how women respond to you. These are some of the key principles to creating a godly relationship. I can't wait to share it with you. So if you haven't yet seen it, there's a link in the description below, or I will put a link in the pinned comment. Or honestly, just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. I just really want to make sure you understand there are so many beautiful, high-value women out there, and you deserve to learn and know how to attract that kind of girl. And I'm here to help you do it. So there's a link in the description below or a link in the pinned comment. Watch that free masterclass today. The next sign that she's just using you is that maybe she wants a ton of validation, but a relationship never really goes anywhere. She wants the compliments, she wants to feel awesome and cool, but a relationship just never really gets off the ground. There's never any commitment. Instead, it just kind of feels like you're there to validate her. If that's what it feels like, Well, that's possibly what it is. And you, again, you deserve a relationship that's give and take, that's two people committed and proactive about this. You deserve someone who truly cares about you and not just about how you make them feel because they need an ego boost. The next sign that she's just using you is maybe she's eager to spend time with you, but she always suggests that you bring a certain friend along or certain friends along. This one is— they all make me sick, but this one just really makes me sick because it's so low. This is a sign that she wants to flirt with your friends. And that is so inappropriate. Now, this isn't to say that once you start dating someone, they shouldn't want to spend time with your friends. That's kind of ideal. But there's a difference between, "Hey, "Your friends matter to me because you matter to me," versus, "Oh, hey, so are your friends coming? Hey, why don't you ask him if he's gonna come too? Let's do that. Yeah, that'd be fun." Okay, now she's just trying to get to him and it's revolting. The next sign she's just using you, I feel like this one some people are super aware of and some people are completely clueless to, so it's a good one to be aware of. I like to call this sign selfie attack. Basically, there are some women who get a massive boost out of posting lots of pictures on social media with a guy or guys, you know, because the more you have, the cooler you are, obviously. So she may— if she's pulling out that phone for selfie, selfie, selfie all the time and you, like, barely know her, that's kind of a red flag. Yes, selfies can be fun, And, you know, when you're getting to know somebody really cute, you want a selfie with them because they're cute, and then you have their picture on your phone. And it's a good way as you start dating to kind of document it. So it's a very fun thing. Selfies in and of themselves are not bad. However, if she's just pulling out the selfies all the time just so she can quickly upload it to social media and look really cool to all her friends and have them say, "Oh, who's this?" okay, that's a red flag that she's just using you for the vanity metrics on social media. As we walk away from this list of ways women use you, I want to once again just reassure you that there are so many good women out there. Women are natural nurturers. We want to love, we want to be loved, we want to take care of our man, we want to be there for him. And we want an authentic lifelong connection. And so please never feel, if you've experienced this a lot, it can be very easy if you've experienced a lot of toxic relationships to think that's all that's out there because that's all you've experienced. That's normal. However, you don't have to stay there. You can move past that. You can learn how to identify and attract high-value women instead. Again, that's what I'm here to help you with. And if you'd like to learn more about this, watch my free masterclass. There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. I have seen so many men who have been in bad toxic situations completely reverse it. And I would love to help you with this as well. Let's recap what you've just learned. 7 signs she's just using you and you should Totally run. Number 1, she only wants to spend time with you when you're either buying her something or doing something for her, like fixing something. 2, she doesn't want you to meet the other people in her life, and she certainly doesn't want to introduce you as her boyfriend. Number 3, she only shows up in your life or replies to your texts when she wants comfort about something. Number 3, she's not there when you need her. She's not present or invested in the relationship. Number 5, maybe she wants lots of validation, but the relationship truly never goes anywhere. Number 6, yes, she wants to spend time with you, but she's hoping you'll bring a friend or friends along as well. This happens a lot. It's a sign she's more interested in the friends, and it's out of line. And number 7, she wants to take lots of pictures with with you to post on social media just for those vanity metrics. So if she's pulling out the selfies all the time just to upload it as fast as she can to her social media, it's a clear sign she's just using this as an ego boost. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! Please share this video with a friend. It can save him from so much heartache as well. If you don't yet follow me on social media, there are links in the description below. And if you have a specific topic you would like me to make a video about, please leave that in the comments. I made this video because I got so much feedback from you guys that you wanted it. So leave me a comment. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! Oka doke. Oka doke. Oka doke! That's like my Yoda impersonation. 'Cause, you know, Yoda sings sometimes. I don't know. Okay. Although, while we're on the topic, Star Wars is pretty great. If you've been watching my stories, you know I've been going through the series again. 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