7 Signs Women Secretly Want YOU! 😏

7 signs women secretly want you. If you have these traits, women will want you. Period. I've been coaching men for years now, and far too many men think that they're not attractive, when in reality, that's not remotely true. As both a coach and a woman, I see things in you that you probably aren't seeing in yourself. Traits that make you irresistible and cause women to want you. So today I'm going to be revealing 7 of these crave-worthy traits. So make sure you stay tuned. And as we dive in, if this is your first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to make attraction, love, and connection feel effortless. So if you're tired of exhausting mind games and feeling completely unauthentic in love, then you are definitely in the right place. We're all about wholesome, authentic strategies, so make sure you subscribe. Okay, are you ready for these traits that make women secretly want you? Let's get started with the first one. The first one we're going to talk about is that you're a happy person. There is something truly magnetic about someone who chooses to be happy. I want to be clear about this. Being happy doesn't mean you wear rose-colored glasses and pretend there's no bad in the world. It certainly does not mean that. However, it means that that you choose to focus on what you're grateful for, the good in the world, what makes you happy, your faith in God. These things are what allow you to be a happy person. This is one of my favorite things to teach you about in my Academy because it has changed my life so much. Now, here's the cool thing. There are certain things, certain traits that when we have as people, we're automatically irresistible. I call these traits attractive by default. And being happy is one of them. Let me ask you this. Have you ever been around a woman who just drains your energy. And even if you don't know why, just every time you're around her, you're like, "Okay, I feel exhausted now." Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone like that, unless maybe they're exactly like them. Most people want someone who's encouraging and uplifting. So when you're a happy person, that is irresistibly magnetic. That's what makes her say, "Oh, he would be not only fun to go out with, but he'd be fun to be married to." Our second trait that makes women secretly want you, secretly crave you, is when you have good people skills. Okay, another question for you. Have you ever been around a woman who doesn't have good people skills? It's really awkward and uncomfortable, right? Someone who doesn't know how to interact with others, maybe says things that makes people feel uncomfortable, or things that are just kind of out of line. Even if it's not necessarily inappropriate, but it's inappropriate for that setting. It's very uncomfortable to be around someone like that. However, when you're the person who knows how to connect with people, how to interact with people, a little bit of small talk goes a long way. Yes, we want to get past the small talk, but if we don't start with small talk, we usually don't get to deeper conversations. Being someone who encourages people, who understands what's appropriate when, these people skills make you magnetic. Women definitely want to be with that guy. Attraction truly comes down to skills much more than people think. There are plenty of people who are physically attractive, but they're so awkward that only immature people will spend any time with them. Lasting attraction truly lies in what skills you have. This leads us right into the third trait that if you're doing this women secretly want you. This trait is that you take good care of yourself. It's kind of become an expectation in society that when you hit a certain age, "Oh, it's just over, so why even try anymore?" And what's funny is that age is getting, like, younger and younger. It used to be when you hit 50, then when you hit 40, now is when you hit 30 you're old. And it's like, Come on, guys. Let's be real here. Don't just let yourself go. You have so many years ahead of you, especially if you take good care of yourself. Now, another reason why many people will not take care of themselves is they just don't know how. They don't know how to dress in a way that makes them attractive. That's a skill most people just aren't taught. Or maybe they like the idea of living a healthy lifestyle, but they don't know how. And all they hear is, fad diets and extreme exercise. So it's very, very important to learn what's going to work for you and be proactive about taking care of yourself. You respect yourself. You wanna look nice, you wanna feel nice, and so you take care of you. That shows confidence and it's irresistibly sexy. Healthy people are sexy people. People who understand how to dress and do their hair and stuff in ways that are attractive are going to be attractive people. Once again, this is one of those skills that makes you irresistible. So if you are one of these men who are proactive about trying to take care of yourself and look your best, then yes, you are the kind of guy that girls secretly want. And this actually leads to a really good question. "Okay, Melannie, that's awesome. Uh, so why am I still single? Why do I still feel confused?" Why do I still feel awkward when I interact with women? Why do I feel lonely? Maybe you're wondering, "Why can I do good in so many other areas of life, like work, but then I just really struggle with women?" That's the one thing you want more than anything, right? To have someone loving and feminine and soft to come home to. First off, know that it's not your fault. How could it be your fault if no one taught you these things? Society doesn't teach us these things. Most of our parents don't teach us because their parents didn't teach them. They don't know either. So how in the world could it be your fault if no one taught you? It's not. And I'm here to help you fix it and help you fix it fast. Did you know that attraction and love and connection can truly feel effortless? I've been helping my clients with this for years. That's the whole reason I have my online academy. And if you would like to know how to do this too, if you want it to feel effortless instead of like a painful uphill battle, then I would like to invite you to join my academy when enrollment opens. In the meantime, you're going to want to make sure you get on my email list so that you know when enrollment opens, you're the first to be able to get in. So a great start is to grab your free copy of my guide, 11 Things Men Do That Make Women Melt. There's a link to that in the description below. I will also put a link in the pinned comment. If you're ready for the fast track, if you're like, "Hey, I'm done trying to figure this out on my own. I just want a proven method, someone to show me what to do," that's exactly what I'm here to help you with. So make sure you download that guide. It will put you on my email list, and you will be among the first to be informed when enrollment opens. We only open twice of the year, so you need to make sure you're ready. So download that guide. Our next trait that makes women secretly want you is that you treat people with respect while staying confident. Many people think, "Oh, if I treat other people with respect, then I have to let them disrespect me." Which, it's funny that we think that as humans because sometimes we do. But it's not remotely true. In addition to that, Something I'm seeing online right now, and it's a problem, is many people, supposed coaches, are teaching people, are teaching men to disrespect women. And that somehow by disrespecting women it's going to make them respect you more, or it's going to make you feel better about yourself. But the truth is You're better than that. You are better than disrespecting someone else just to feed your ego. And if you're hanging out with the kind of women who disrespect you, okay, that's a sign that you need to elevate the quality of women you're spending your time with. It's time to target high-quality women instead of low-quality women. And that does require some high-quality strategies. Like some of them that we're talking about today and some of them that you will learn about in that free guide I mentioned earlier. So when you are a man who treats other people with respect, who treats her with respect, and understands that you deserve respect, that's confident, that's sexy, that's attractive. She sees you as masculine, she sees you as protective, she sees you as a dream man. So naturally she is going to secretly want you. Our next trait that makes women secretly want you is that you have ambition and drive. When— there's something so attractive about a man who has aspirations, he has goals, and he's going for it. This is a man she can see as a leader. She can see him as masculine and protective and incredibly attractive. Let me ask you this. Have you ever known a woman who has zero ambition, zero drive? She doesn't really want to do anything. She just wants, you know, someone to pay the bills and she gets to watch TV all day. Would you be remotely attracted to a woman like that? I hope not, because you shouldn't be. The same is true for a man. Women are not attracted to a man who has zero zero ambition and drive. So maybe ask yourself what it is you want out of life. What's holding you back? What secret fears do you have that are keeping you from pursuing those goals? Honestly, I would recommend a conversation with God about it. That's what I do when I feel scared and when I feel unsure. And it is incredibly empowering. So if you're someone who says, "Yes, I have dreams, I have ambitions, I have goals," don't let them rule your life, obviously. Obviously. Don't become a workaholic or whatever. But if you are someone who has that ambition, that's very attractive. The next sign that you are secretly incredibly attractive is that you are the leader in dating and ultimately in the relationship. You do not expect her to man up. You understand that that's your role, and you accept that masculinity with confidence. You want a soft feminine woman, and so you show up as a protective masculine man. This does not mean you're dominant or overly aggressive. It simply means that you are a confident leader. You pursue her, you lead out in the relationship. You understand who you are and you're confident in that, understanding that you're striving to be the best version of yourself. That right there is the kind of man a woman respects, that she looks up to, she admires, and craves. Our next trait that makes women truly want you and want a marriage with you, a lifetime love with you, is that you avoid toxic people and toxic traits. A high-value woman has worked very hard to rid her life of toxic people. And she wants to make sure that the man she's with is doing the same thing. This is a little interesting thing most people don't know. I actually teach you about this in my Academy as well. So when you join, we'll talk about this more. But we can have toxic traits without recognizing it, without being a toxic person. But you have toxic traits. And if we're not on the lookout for them, then we can become a toxic person. A good example of this is perhaps someone who is confident. That is a very positive, good trait. But if they're not careful, maybe they have a little bit of a tendency towards being arrogant. And if they're not careful, that wholesome trait can become a toxic trait. So it's important that we pay attention to if we have toxic traits or not, that we have little check-ins with ourself to make sure. And so if you're someone who's actively trying to live a wholesome life, to not be a toxic person in any way, and you get rid of the toxic friends and the toxic influences in your life, oh my goodness, that is something she wants desperately. And when she sees that in you, it's completely irresistible. She sees you as a man she can trust, a man she's safe with, the kind of man where you can build a marriage together without worrying about a ton of drama. Are you seeing how so much of attraction is truly just a skill? It's just a relationship skill or a good life skill. And this is why you can in fact make attraction and love and connection feel effortless as they become automatic. And I'll teach you how to do it in my Academy. So again, if you're not yet on my email list, Download that guide, 11 Things Men Do That Make Women Melt, and I will be sending you updates very soon. Okay, let's recap. 7 signs women secretly want you. Number 1, you're a happy person. Happiness is irresistible. Number 2, you have good people skills. Nobody wants to be around people who make them feel awkward. Number 3, you take good care of yourself. You are proactive about your health and making make sure you look your best. Number 4, you treat people with respect while also staying confident. You respect them, and therefore they're inclined to respect you. You don't let them walk on you. Number 5, you have ambition and drive. You're not just a couch potato. You are involved in life. Number 6, you are a leader in dating and ultimately in the relationship. Rather than expecting her to, man up, you understand that's your role. You want a soft feminine woman, so you show up as a masculine, strong, gentle man. Number 7, you avoid toxic people and toxic traits in yourself. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! If you enjoyed this video, please leave a comment and let me know. And if you have a friend who would enjoy it, please make sure you share it with him. If you don't yet follow me on social media, there are links in the description below. Make sure you check out my Facebook and Instagram stories because I share exclusive content there. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! Trait number 1 that we're going to talk— Okay, I'm ready now. And he— I just— my brain just said like 20 things and none of them came out. Okay. Pshh! I just saw the Lips artwork on the wall and it made me think of lips, so I went, "Pshh!" Now you know. That's why that little awkward thing was there. All right, secret end of the video club, thanks for being here. If you've never watched to the end of the video before, we always have a special secret word at the end. You comment that word and you're in the secret end of the video club and nobody else knows what we're talking about. So our word for today is mustard. Because I think it's a funny word. I mean, it's really fun to say. Does anybody else do that? Do you ever just think, "Oh, that's a fun word to say"? I mean, I do. So you should let me know that too if you're one of those people. But our word is mustard. Thank you so much for being here, and I will see you in the next one.