7 Things Women Find Attractive in Men 😍 (That He Doesn’t Even Notice)

7 things women find attractive in men that you probably don't even notice. The honest reality is you may be doing things, like today, that women find incredibly attractive without you even realizing it. And no, I'm not talking about having to have the perfect jawline or wear super expensive clothes. I'm talking about the small behaviors that reveal confidence, that reveal maturity, and the kind of character women feel safe connecting with. Too many people are teaching inauthentic ways to attract women. But what they don't tell you is it's actually attracting the cheap, toxic women. Not the good ones. Instead, I'm going to share with you what sincere, feminine, loyal women notice in you and feel drawn to and deeply admire. Honestly, I think some of these things are going to seem incredibly simple to you, but it's a big deal for her. So make sure you watch to the end. As we dive in, if this is your first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source for a wholesome approach to authentic love. If you're tired of the mind games and the tricks and you just want something real and lasting, then you're definitely in the right place. So make sure you subscribe! All right, let's talk about what you do that's incredibly attractive to her that you may not realize. And we're going to start with one of my very favorite ones. This is when you are protective. Women ache to feel protected. She wants to see you as a strong, capable, masculine man. She wants to feel protected by you, like she's under your protection. She wants to feel sheltered and cared for. Women are natural nurturers. We want to nurture the people in our lives. And we therefore crave a man who can protect and provide. When she sees that in you, she's gonna want more of it. Like, a lot more of it. Now, a natural question with this may be, "So what exactly does that look like?" Because, you know, we don't really live in the medieval era where you have to don your armor and your sword and go out there and protect. You know, times have changed a little bit. But there are still very valid ways to show that you are a protective man. Really, anytime you are standing up or assisting someone who is weaker than you, that shows that you are a protective person. That may obviously be directed towards her, but it could be directed towards children or the elderly or someone who needs help. When she sees that that's just the kind of man you are, that is incredibly attractive. Another perhaps less obvious way to be protective is to support her, to respect her ideas and her opinions, and for her to just feel like you are a safe place emotionally. Now, you may not need to, you know, armor up and get your sword ready, but there are ways to even physically be very protective. Obviously, if she's ever in a situation where she needs protection, you know, that's part of it. But even things that are simple like driving safely. When you get in the car with a man who drives crazy, you don't feel safe with him, you don't feel protected by him, you feel like he's willing to put your life and everybody else's life in danger. But when you're with a man who, yeah, Maybe he drives more slowly, but he actually respects other people's lives, including her own. That right there is attractive. There are very simple ways you can show that you are a man of character, and driving safely is one of those ways. Another example is if she's ever in a situation where someone's confronting her or making her life difficult, let her know that you've got her back. Let her know that you're there for her. And of course, if you need to step in, step in. These small little things quickly turn you into her hero. We've all heard it a million times. It's the little things that matter. And because we've heard it so many times, we kind of forget to pay attention to it. But that is reality. If you've ever read a chick flick or watched a chick flick, you'll know that it's the little things that really matter because that's how we are as humans. The next way you are insanely attractive that maybe you don't even realize is when you just listen to her without trying to fix it. It is very sweet, and there's definitely a place for hearing her talk about something that's upsetting her and then creating a plan and going out and slaying the dragon or telling her what she should do to fix it. I'm not saying there's not a place for some of that. It's very charming when a man gets upset about something you're upset about and he wants to fix it. But what a lot of guys don't realize is women are trying to process their emotions when they're talking about someone. She's not necessarily asking you to fix it just because she wants to talk about it. She She wants to process her emotions, she wants to work through that, and she wants a safe place to do that. And when you are that safe place, it's incredibly valuable to her. She only wants to open up emotionally like that with someone she respects and admires. And so when she's opening up to you, she's trying to talk about something, and you just start telling her what she should do, or get mad and want to go out there and fight the dragon, that shuts her down. Now she can no longer open up to you. So if instead you just take some time to honestly listen and express that you understand and you see where she's coming from, oh my goodness, that's what she's been looking for. And she's thinking, "Wow, if this man was my husband, that would be amazing. He'd be someone I could turn to, someone I could trust, someone I could communicate with." So it sounds small, but listening to her without trying to fix it is massive. The next thing that makes you insanely attractive, even if it sounds small, is when you're comfortable being affectionate and warm. This one might sound like— some people may be like, "Wait, I've heard the exact opposite." Yeah, and those people are teaching you how to attract toxic, fake, cheap women. So unless you want that kind of woman, then don't listen to them. Too many people are trying to teach you how to manipulate women. They're trying to teach you how to be cold. What they don't tell you about manipulation is you will never be able to have a fulfilling, satisfying, happy relationship if it was built on manipulation. It's a game that no one can ever win because it's built on incorrect principles. You can't be authentic and manipulative at the at the same time. And if you're not authentic, you can't have authentic love. However, when you do the reverse, when you are a warm person, you are gentle, you are affectionate, she sees that you are going to be a good husband. She sees that you become that safe place. It helps her feel protected by you. She sees you as a strong, confident man. Because by the way, manipulative people are not confident. They might be arrogant, but they are not confident. Women value tenderness. And a man can be very masculine and very tender. No intelligent, mature woman wants to be married to an iceberg, wants to be married to someone who's cold or distant or who pulls away. Why would she want something like that? Marriage with someone like that would be exhausting. Very similar to how you probably are mostly drawn to women who are warm, who are inviting, and receptive rather than women who are cold and distant. If I've said it once, I've said it a million times. You know it's coming. People like people who make them feel good. We want to be around people who are warm, who are affectionate, who are gentle. And when you are that someone, when you are the man who's warm, you stand out from the crowd in the the best way possible. She quickly realizes that there's something different about you. You feel like a safe, warm hug that she never wants to leave instead of a cold, anxiety-inducing nightmare. The next thing that makes you incredibly attractive, even if you don't realize you're doing it, is when you have self-respect. Let me ask you this: Do you want people to respect you? Well, then you need to respect yourself first. This is actually something I walk you through in great detail in my Academy. It's critical if you want to be happy and attractive to other women. You need to have self-respect. If you are someone who struggles being in the friend zone or just not being taken seriously, then this is a huge piece to the puzzle that you're probably missing. When she sees, by the way, you act and how you live your life that you respect yourself, she can't help but respect you as well. You will be a more confident man with purpose and standards and direction. This is very impressive. It's a form of healthy confidence that she's quickly going to pick up on, she's quickly going to notice, and she is actually going to feel much safer with you when you are someone who has self-respect. The next thing that is insanely attractive is when you take initiative in the relationship without becoming controlling. Nothing is quite as captivating to a woman as feeling desired and wanted and pursued. Her feminine heart desires to know that you are confident, masculine, and that you're interested in her. When you show up as the masculine leader in the relationship, it does something to her in a really good way. This is very, very different from the passive approach that society often teaches you right now. As a coach, I'm a people watcher. I'm constantly watching the relationships of the people around me. And something I have noticed is there are plenty of men who do end up with a woman who leads out, who leads out in those masculine ways. And you know what? They often end up completely miserable. And she's usually pretty bossy and very much in charge. Why? Because she had to channel her masculine energy to get there. A woman who's a little bit more mature than that, who wants to maintain her femininity, she's not going to do that. And so I'm not saying every woman who steps into that zone is toxic, but the relationship really struggles to be balanced. Because when she's bringing that masculinity, I've watched it, the man has to sacrifice some of his. And there soon becomes a lot of resentment between the two. She often ends up just controlling him because she can't get him to bring that masculine energy. So long story short, it's just best for you to step up in the masculine role. Far too often, even well-meaning women who end up in this situation They just get completely burned out because they were never supposed to take on that masculine role. She needs to maintain her femininity, and you are going to feel so much better, you're gonna feel alive when you are the masculine leader. If you want a feminine woman, you must lead out in your masculinity. And pursuing her appropriately is a really big part of that. This is another thing I teach you how to do in great detail inside my Academy. And speaking of which, here we go. Are you ready? It's time for the trumpet. Okay, if you're new here, that's sometimes how I announce fun things, is with the trumpet. It's the best trumpet I got. But I'm so excited to announce to you guys that we are opening enrollment for Attracting Lasting Love Academy in August. We only open enrollment twice a year. I'm so excited for everything we have for you this year. I have updated the Academy a ton. And by the way, By the way, if you've already bought the Academy, don't worry. You will get the updates for the Academy completely for free. So you're good. If you don't know what the Academy is, this is where you get unlimited access to my proven roadmap where I help you find, attract, and keep the love of your life. No mind games, no tricks. It's about staying authentically you and having authentic lifelong love. We only open enrollment twice a year. I honestly almost didn't open it again this year. But here we go, so you better get in as soon as it opens. I will put a link in the description below to my waitlist. Make sure you're on that because I will be sending out emails letting you know how you can get in. And I may or may not have some awesome free training I will be providing with this as well. More on that later. Make sure you get on that waitlist and mark your calendar for the middle of August. The next thing you do that's incredibly attractive to women is when and you have standards. This is another one that society does not talk about, but it's very true. Society tries to tell us that we will be more liked if we don't have any standards. But the truth is you can't actually respect someone who has no standards. How can you respect someone like that? She can't trust you, she can't feel safe with you, or even enjoy being around you if you don't have any standards. But when you do have standards, you become a leader. You are confident, you are dependable, you are trustworthy. You are a man she can look up to and she can admire. If you want her to want to be your wife, to want to be by your side forever, to want to be loyal to you, then make sure you are someone who has standards. This next thing is another big one. It's not always easy to to do, but it is insanely attractive. This is when you stay calm when other people become emotional or upset. This honestly is just a huge part of emotional maturity. Have you ever been in a situation where emotions are high and people are upset and you're tempted to start yelling at them? I haven't. No, I'm just kidding, I have. Everyone has. But when you are the person who can stay calm under that pressure, who can see a little bit further ahead and kind of diffuse the situation, oh my goodness, that's huge. Compare that instead to the guy who's just a hothead and he just yells at everything or rants at everything or gets upset. Nobody wants to be around that guy. He's exhausting to be around. It's so exhausting to be around. I can't imagine how exhausting it is to be that person. Now, when I say you're someone who can stay calm in an emotional situation, I don't mean that you don't feel emotions. You're human. We all feel emotions. And it's important to be able to process them. That's something you should be learning how to do. But if instead you're in a situation where you can kind of remain calm even if other people aren't, you quickly become the person people are looking up to, the person people look to in a difficult situation. You become a leader. And the good news is this is a skill that can be learned. So even if you don't do this right now, that's okay. You can learn how to do it. And honestly, just while we're talking about emotions, women are very drawn to men who understand and feel emotions. Women often are much better at understanding their own emotions and understanding others' emotions. Honestly, I believe God made us this way for a reason. We need to be able to take care of our children that way even before they're able to communicate with us. We need to be able to understand our husband's emotions, etc. And so women are often a little bit more in tune with their own emotions. But when they're with a man who has taken some time to understand them as well, oh my goodness, that kind of a man really stands out. This is part of emotional intelligence. I mean, it's very, very attractive. So I'm not talking about being an emotional person. I mean, even the women who are like that are annoying. So just don't do that. But if instead you become aware of and understand emotions and are sympathetic, that's good too. So that's a little, you know, additional part of that. All of these traits will help women notice you. Something to keep in mind though is this really Attraction is really only the beginning of a relationship. The real question is whether you know how to turn attraction into an emotional connection and a relationship that actually lasts. Many people are good at attracting people, but they can't really get the relationship to last, or they're attracting the wrong people altogether. If you want to learn more about how to have the kind of woman whose smile feels like sunshine, who wants to spend the rest of her life waking up next to you, who wants to steal kisses and create memories, if you're looking for that kind of relationship, then I invite you to join me as soon as Attracting Lasting Love Academy opens because that's what we're all about. It has been so fun to hear from so many men over the years saying, "Well, it worked. I've got my dream girl now." And I would love it if you're the next one. So again, there's a link to my waitlist in the description below. I gotta kick myself into gear here. Here we go. And driving safely is one of those ways. Yes, I just said that. Some people are gonna get mad at me for that. You're gonna have to get over it because I'm right. I'm just, I'm just being honest, y'all. Okay, secret end of the video club, today's word is Popsicle! Because it's super hot. It's supposed to be like 105 today, and I don't want to talk about that. And so popsicles just sound good, so we're going with popsicles. Thank you so much for being here, and never forget that you're amazing! If you enjoyed this video, you'll also love this video, which is on 7 signs you are a very attractive man. I will link it here for you. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!