9 Ethical Psychology Tricks That Make People Obsessed With You… 😏

9 ethical psychology tricks that make people obsessed with you! Did you know there are wholesome, ethical ways you can use psychology to make people adore you? Want to know some appropriate psychological tricks to get that gorgeous girl to feel completely captivated by you and, like, she just can't get enough? Good! Because that's exactly what we're going to be talking about in this video. Many people think that attraction is super complicated. But it's You're not supposed to be. You just need to know the right things. And I think number 7 that I share with you today is possibly my favorite. So pay close attention to that one. As we dive in, since we're speaking about ethical and wholesome, if this is your first time watching, make sure you subscribe. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your guide to long-lasting forever love that is authentic and true. No mind games, no manipulative tricks, because one, they're slimy, and two, they really don't work. So if you're looking for wholesome, a wholesome approach to love, make sure you subscribe. And you may also enjoy checking out this video on 9 signs you are more attractive than you realize. I will put a link in the description below. With that, let's dive in! The first ethical psychological trick to make someone obsessed with you is heartfelt eye contact. For this one, tell me which one you prefer. Do you prefer someone, talking to someone who, like, never makes eye contact with you and whatever. Or do you prefer talking to someone who you feel connected to, who respects you enough to look you in the eye? Research shows us that soft, warm eye contact triggers feelings of trust. It helps you feel emotionally safe and even a little spark of chemistry. Now, of course, it's not about staring someone down. That tends to creep people out instead of build trust. It's more about letting your heart be visible through your eyes. This can really help you build emotional connection and attraction. It helps you deepen those emotional bonds without having to be fake or rely on manipulative tactics. Emotional attraction is not only important for initial attraction, but also for the longevity of the relationship. That's why in my signature program, Attracting Lasting Love Academy, I have an entire module dedicated to helping you know how to create that emotional spark and connection and attraction. So anytime you can increase that emotional attraction, attraction, you're golden. Even with something as simple but powerful as that gentle eye contact. A few tips: Focus on soft rather than intense. So rather than the kind of "I'm trying to read your mind" energy, focus on kind of the just "I enjoy your company" energy. The second psychological trick that makes people obsessed with you is strategic vulnerability. Sometimes we think that the more the more powerful and unpenetrable we appear, the more people will like us. In reality, the opposite is kind of true. None of us are perfect. None of us are bulletproof. And we don't relate to people who are. It's kind of like in those movies where people are super unrealistically perfect. Nobody really likes those characters very much. Instead, we like the characters we we relate to. The same is true with attraction. We tend to trust people more and like people more who are human. So sharing something genuine and a little bit vulnerable, without oversharing, of course, can be a great way to connect with someone. It makes people trust and invest emotionally in you a lot faster. A quick example would be something like, "You know, honestly, I used to be I'm super nervous for first dates. I laugh about it now, but back then I had no idea what I was doing. You say this with a chuckle and a warm smile. Often when you're in an awkward situation, throwing in some of that vulnerability can make you so endearing. For instance, I've shared in other videos a really good line to approach a woman is something like, "Okay, I noticed you across the room and I tried to think of something clever to say and nothing came to mind. So I just decided to come say "Hi." You're being a little bit vulnerable about it, and it's so adorable. The third psychological trick that makes people obsessed with you is to mirror their body language. If you want to be more attractive to a woman, mirror her body language. People feel more connected to those who subtly mirror their movements, their tone, and their posture. It creates an instant "you're like me" bond without them even realizing it. You, of course, don't want to be fake. But a good example is if you're talking to someone who has a more calm persona and you come in there super hyper, then that tends to be a little bit offsetting. But if you instead match kind of their tone and their pacing, they're going to see you as much more attractive. And the opposite is true. If you kind of tend to have, like, a monotone kind of approach, but they're more animated and bubbly, well, bringing some of that happy, animated, bubbly to the way you interact with them can be a great way to create a bond. If they have certain phrases they like to use and you start using them as well, that is instantly a, "Hey, you get me!" Our next ethical psychological trick is to use her name often. Psychology shows that people love hearing their own name. So use this tool to your advantage. Just slip it casually into the conversation. You don't want to overdo it. It becomes super obvious and awkward. "Why does that person keep saying my name?" But if you just keep it casual, it becomes very endearing. Some easy tips for this are to start your text to her with her name. "Hey, Julie, how are you doing today?" Or when you enter or exit a room or a conversation. "Well, it was so nice chatting with you today, Julie. You have a great day." So when you greet her and when you finish up are fabulous places to just casually fit her name in. Are you starting to see just how simple attraction can be? These are simple things but ridiculously powerful. As humans, we really just want to feel seen and connected. I have another really great resource for you that you're you're not going to want to miss. If you're enjoying these tips, you're going to love this as well. I've put together a guide for you, 11 Things Men Do That Make Women Melt. And these are specific to high-quality women. Again, no toxic manipulative tricks. You can get this guide completely for free today. I'll put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. It's so nice and convenient to have something you can quickly reference to help you remember how easy but powerful attraction can be. The more you know, the easier it is to be attractive. So again, there's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comments. You get this guide completely for free. I love sharing this with you, so make sure you check it out. Okay, the next ethical psychological trick is one of my favorites. This is to genuinely smile. The contagious emotion effect. Psychology shows us that smiles are literally contagious. Have you ever had that feeling where somebody smiles at you and it just brightens your whole day? A real smile, the kind that makes your eyes crinkle up, naturally makes people feel happier and safer around you. And they subconsciously associate those good feelings with you. That's pretty powerful. Let that sink in. Let that sink in for just a moment. I actually had an experience recently that reminded me of this. I was doing some service and my job was to greet people at the door. And I learned years ago that we all have access to a special superpower, a special skill, a special tool. And that tool is our smile. I love breaking into a big smile and watching it affect the other person, watching them smile too. Because one, 1, smiling makes me feel awesome. And 2, it makes them feel awesome. And so was everybody super nice to me when I greeted them? No, you know, some people are busy, some people are maybe a little bit rude. But it didn't matter because I was there just sharing my smile. So I'd like to challenge you. This reminded me of the power of smiles. I would like to challenge you to practice smiling consistently. It has a dramatic effect on your mood and on how people perceive you. It certainly makes you more attractive. So I've mentioned before, smile with your eyes. One way to think of that is where, you know, your eyes kind of crinkle up. There's a difference between the, like, when somebody says they're about to take your picture and they say, "Say cheese," and everybody goes, "Cheese." That's not a real smile. Versus crinkling your eyes, an authentic smile. Which, by the way, Another little helpful tip. If you want to be more photogenic, smile with a crinkly eyes smile. Okay, the next psychological trick that will make women swoon is to actively listen, not just hear. There's a difference between, you know, hearing the words versus actually paying attention. When you genuinely listen and then reflect back what the person has shared with you, This creates that feeling of, "Wow! This person gets me!" So pay attention, maybe paraphrase or sum up or relay back to them what they've shared with you. For instance, "Wow, that's incredible! It sounds like this means a lot to you. This shows that you understand her." People are starved for real listeners today. We live in a fast-paced world. So being a real listener can help you bond faster than almost anything else. And we are to number 7, which is one of my personal favorites. Maybe my very, very, very favorite. This psychological trick is that happiness is magnetic. This is one of my favorite things to teach my clients in my Academy. Happiness is one of the traits that I like to call "attractive by default." There are certain traits that if you have them, your default setting is attractive. It just plain is, no matter how you you look at it, it's irresistible. And happiness is one of those attractive-by-default traits. Psychology shows us that emotions are contagious, especially happiness. When you are genuinely happy and lighthearted and positive, people want to be around you more because they feel better about life and themselves. And how you make people feel around you is what makes them obsessed with you. Not how you look or even what you say. Being a happy, purpose-driven, high-quality man makes you attractive by default. One way I look at happiness— obviously, there are several tips that help you become a happier person. Again, I mentioned that's something I teach in my Academy. But one of my favorite tips is I like to pray that God will help me feel his love so strongly that that love will shine through for others and that I will be able to share God's love with others. That's something I would recommend you try as well. When you feel God's love so strong, you can't help but be happy and share that love with others. And that's something all of our hearts just crave. Happiness is never about rose-colored glasses. It's about focusing on the good in life because there's so much good. The next psychological trick is something known as the peak-end rule. People don't remember every moment of an interaction with us. They mainly remember the emotional high point and the ending. If you purposefully make the end of your conversation positive and warm, it will leave a lasting and powerful impression. Even something as simple as, "I really enjoyed talking with you." Paying attention to little details like this goes a long way. It It becomes very overwhelming to try to be perfect at everything. It's just, it's impossible. It's not going to happen. So pick and choose what little simple things you can do. One example is creating the warmth at the end of your interaction. People remember warm people. They are confident, trustworthy, and lovable. Okay, our next ethical psychological trick may sound like a mind game at first, which is gonna shock a lot of people because I don't teach you mind games. So let me explain it before you freak out, okay? This trick is to delay giving her compliments. What I mean by this is if you meet someone and you just start showering them with compliments, you come across as pretty inauthentic. And she kind of starts to go, "Okay, either this guy gives every girl he knows all these compliments, or he just wants something from me." And it kind of feels like the slimy car salesman. So instead of showering someone with compliments up front, casually slip in a powerful compliment further into the interaction. It feels more genuine and therefore is going to hit a lot harder in a really good way. Be paying attention as you interact with her to a compliment you might be able to give her. Even something about the way she looks or even just something about the conversation. Because remember, you're actively listening to her, right? And so once she starts to feel comfortable with you because you aren't the sleazy car salesman, and then you give her that compliment, wow, that is memorable. That's gonna play in her mind on repeat, and she's gonna wanna go home and tell all her friends about this awesome guy and the really cute thing he said to her. All right, it's time to recap these ethical psychological tricks that make someone obsessed with you you. But before I do, I do just want to remind you to download that guide, 11 Things Men Do That Make Women Melt. Again, the more things you know, the more attractive you can be. So there's a link in the description below and the link in the pinned comments. 9 ethical psychological tricks that make a woman obsessed with you. Number 1 is heartfelt eye contact. Number 2 is strategic vulnerability. We tend to trust people more who are real. Number 3, mirror her body language, her tone, her posture. Number 4, use her name often. Number 5, genuinely smile. Number 6 is active listening, not just hearing. Number 7 is happiness, because happiness is magnetic. Number 8, practice the peak-end rule. Make sure the end of your interaction is warm. Number 9 is is to delay compliments. Don't shower her with compliments too soon or you feel like a sleazy car salesman. Instead, leave them for a little later in the interaction when they feel more genuine and they hit harder. Thank you so much for watching, my wonderful friend! I hope you enjoyed this video. Please leave me a comment and let me know. 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