In this YouTube video, Christian dating coach Melannie Gregersen outlines nine specific phrases women commonly use when they are secretly attracted to a man. She frames the discussion within a Christian‑based masculine/feminine pursuit model, emphasizing that men should pursue in a masculine way while women pursue in a feminine, supportive manner. Each phrase—ranging from casual inquiries like “What are you up to this weekend?” to more revealing statements such as “I was thinking about you” and “How are you still single?”—is dissected to reveal the underlying intent, the emotional signal it conveys, and the appropriate masculine response. Gregersen stresses the importance of not waiting too long to make a move, linking this advice to a free downloadable guide titled “13 Signs She’s Waiting for You to Make a Move.” The video concludes with typical YouTube engagement tactics: a call for Super Thanks, a request to share the video, and a secret end‑of‑video word (“pumpkin”) for viewers who watch to the end. Throughout, the tone remains conversational, enthusiastic, and supportive, aiming to provide wholesome, actionable dating advice.
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9 phrases women say when they secretly like you. If you're looking for subtle signs a girl likes you, you are definitely in the right place. Have you ever been chatting with someone new, or maybe someone you've known for a while, and you're really attracted to her, you're really drawn to her, but you can't tell if she secretly likes you or not? Sometimes it can be hard to tell. Men and women are different, obviously, and it can feel like she's being incredibly subtle about her feelings for you. But if you know what to look for, you can catch those hidden signs that a girl likes you. So in this video, I'm going to be sharing 9 phrases women say when they secretly like you. So you can stop guessing and start knowing where you stand with her. One of the most important phrases to know about is the one I'm sharing at the end, so make sure you stay tuned for it. As a Christian dating coach, I'm all about sharing with you the strategies that lead to a deep connection and lifelong authentic love and real compatibility. So if you're looking for wholesome dating advice, make sure you hit that subscribe button. With that, let's dive into the first phrase women say when they secretly like you. Number 1 is, "What are you up to this weekend?" This is a great way for her to learn a little bit more about you, but also, you know, she's kind of hoping you're available. And maybe she's kind of hoping you ask her what she's up to this weekend so she can say, "Nothing! Let's do something!" She may not say it quite like that, but that's what she's thinking. If you've watched many of my videos, you know that men and women should always be pursuing each other. Even after there's an established relationship. However, men and women are going to pursue differently. A man should pursue in a very masculine way that just lights her feminine heart on fire. And a woman is going to want to pursue you in a feminine way. That's what is going to help you feel more masculine and more drawn to her. So it's a very beautifully balanced system that God created for us. So one of the ways a woman will pursue you in a feminine way is she's going to make it as easy as possible. "Hey, ask me out." She's going to give you every opportunity so that you can step in in that masculine role, and she's going to make it as easy and supportive as possible. So when she says something like, "What are you up to this weekend?" And it can be a great way for her to just open that door and say, "If you're not doing anything, you can ask me if I'm doing something, and I'll tell you no, and then maybe we can do something together." The second phrase that women will say when they secretly I really like you is, "You always make me smile." When we are really drawn to someone, when they're special to us, when they matter to us, it's pretty common for them to make us smile and for us to feel really good about them. This can be a great way for her to subtly, whether she means to or not, express her interest in you. If she's telling you that she feels good when she's around you, that is a very good sign that she loves how she feels when you're around you. That's No big deal. Okay, the next phrase that women will use when they secretly like you is something like, "Well, I've never told anybody this, but..." And then she tells you something. The reason this can be a sign— Now, I'm just gonna put this out there. Make sure she's not a drama queen who's literally saying that to everyone because she's trying to play the victim card. But when somebody authentic, authentically opens up to us, and they're vulnerable with us, that shows a huge amount of trust. It also shows that she feels some kind of connection with you. It can help indicate that she feels close to you. And that's a big deal. Okay, this next phrase is kind of a bold one. It's kind of funny how some people just really don't even get that this is a sign of attraction. It totally is, okay? So pay close attention. If she says something like, "I wish I could find someone like you," she's probably not meaning "Someone like you," she's meaning she's attracted to you. So let's say you do something gentlemanly or kind to her or something like that, and she just says, "Oh, wow. I wish I could find someone like you." That's her way of saying, "So, you know, if you are available, you know, I might be too." And by the way, with this one, and really with every sign, when you start seeing repeated signs that a girl is interested in you, don't wait too long to make a move, okay? Do not wait too long to make a move. So many people have women start pulling away and they're like, "What in the world is going on?" And it's because she tried to express interest, you didn't make a move, and so she thinks you're rejecting her. And she feels hurt and you sometimes, many times, you don't get another opportunity. So don't wait too long to make your move. And I actually have a great resource to help you with this even further. Make sure you download my free guide with 13 Signs She's Waiting for You to Make a Move. It is the perfect addition to what you're learning in this video. It's so much easier to make a move when you feel pretty confident that she's totally crushing on you. So I'll just put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. All you do is just enter your email and I just send it right to your email inbox. So it's super simple. Make sure you download this guide today. Okay, the next phrase many women will say when they secretly like you is something like, "Do you think I look good in this?" Maybe she has a fun outfit on or a new dress or something like that. If she's asking for your opinion, well, it's because your opinion is the one she wants to know about. It shows that she wants you to be attracted to her. She's wanting to impress you. Frankly, she's wanting to wow you. And so if she is asking something like, "Hey, do I look okay in this?" it's because she wants you to say, well, or at least think, don't come on too strong. But she wants you to think, "Holy moly, you look gorgeous!" Okay, the next phrase is another one that many men will just pass over and not really think about. But she's definitely trying to tell you something when she says this. This phrase is, "We should do this again sometime." If she does not want to go out with you or hang out with you anymore, she's not going to say that. If she does, it's a great way to let you know, again, her feminine pursuing is making it as easy as possible for you to pursue her masculinely. So if she says something simple like, "We should do this again sometime," it's leaving the door wide open for you to then say, "Yeah, we should! How about next week?" or whatever. The next phrase that women will say when they secretly like you is, "I was thinking about you the other day," or "I was just thinking about you." Letting you know that you've been on her mind shows that you're more than just a casual acquaintance. Just take a second and let that sink in. She's actually been thinking about you. Something has stood out to her, probably many things. So this can be a huge sign that she's attracted to you, that she's been thinking about you because she likes you. Okay, this next phrase is another one many men completely miss, but don't. I want you to pay attention to it. If she says something like, "How in the world are you "Still single?" That right there means, "Oh my goodness, you are like husband material right here." So that means she's thinking about you in that light, what it would be like to be in a relationship with a man like you. So if she says something like, "How are you still single?" it's not intended as an insult in any way. It's intended as, "Shut up. I kind of think I would like to help you not be single anymore. I think I might like you to, like, "Maybe we could date and maybe I could be your girlfriend or something." And now we are to one of the most important phrases any man can know. Are you ready for this one? Another one that many will skip over and not even think about, but it's time to start thinking about it. If she says, "We should do that together sometime," that means she is saying, "Ask me out right now." Again, she's making it as easy as possible for you to make your move in a masculine masculine way. And so when she says, "We should do that together sometime," the "together" part and the "we" part, and maybe she'll leave off "together." But if she says, "We should do that together," it means she wants to do it with you. If she just says, "Oh, hey, I'll have to check that out sometime," well, that doesn't necessarily— I mean, she may still want to go out, but she may not. But when she's saying "we," then that is a clear invitation. "Ask me out. Like right now." And there you have it, my friend. 9 phrases women will say when they secretly like you. Make sure you download that free guide that I mentioned for the signs that she wants you to make a move. It's going to help you so much because again, don't wait too long to make a move or she feels very, very rejected. And that is not what you want. I wanna give a huge shout out to everyone who's so amazing with the Super Thanks. Thank you so much for supporting wholesome content and for helping me continue to be able to bring this to you. It really means a lot to me, so thank you. And for everyone who's watching this, whether you've ever done— used the Super Thanks before or not, if you want to continue to see content like this and to support me, consider using the Super Thanks because it really does help. So thank you. And if you have a friend who would enjoy this video, make sure you share it with them. Thank you Thank you so much again for watching, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! Okay, let's get in the zone. Here we go. I just had like a million trains of thought right there all at the same time. And then it was a train crash. Just kidding. Okay. We're still rolling over there? Looks like it. I think we're still rolling. That's good. I don't wanna do this all over again. I actually film for a lot longer than the videos are. So— It takes a long time. Somebody over here likes to talk. I don't know who it is. It's just me in the room, so it might be me, but I'm not sure. Hello, secret end-of-the-video club! I have an awesome word for us today. I feel like I may have used it before, but we're gonna do it again because it's an awesome word, and so we're gonna do it. The word is pumpkin. Why? Because pumpkins make me happy, and I like to say the word "pumpkin." I mean, don't you like to say the word "pumpkin"? It just, it sounds like happy fall stuff. So if you're new here, we always have a special secret word at the end of the video because we're like this secret club that nobody else knows about. So if you watch to the end, comment "pumpkin." I love reading through your comments, so thank you for leaving them. Never forget that you're awesome!
