Melannie Gregersen contrasts two relationship styles: one cold and distant with emotional games, the other tender and authentic with real vulnerability. Which one do you actually want?
2 kinds of relationships. Which one would you prefer? A relationship that feels cold and distant? One where even though you really just want to be tender and affectionate with her, instead you have to, you know, like, act cool and like pull away and kind of ignore her. Do you want that kind of a relationship? "Oh, I just got a text from my girlfriend," or eventually your wife, "Wait, I can't reply to it right now." Or do you want a relationship that is full of tender affection and closeness where you can be vulnerable and she can be vulnerable, you can feel those butterflies your entire relationship knowing that you are completely authentically you, she's completely authentically her, and there's no drama and no mind games.
