In this monologue, dating coach Melannie Gregersen emphasizes that early flirting should remain casual and light, warning against appearing overly intense or desperate. She advises against declaring love or emotionally "marrying" someone before any real dating has occurred, explaining that such premature commitments create pressure, awkwardness, and can push the woman away. The speaker stresses the importance of getting to know each other first, treating interactions as two strangers exploring mutual attraction, and references her teaching in her Academy about avoiding emotional marriage before an actual relationship develops.
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The next thing you need to know when you're starting to flirt with her, you're trying to approach her, is you want to keep it casual and light. It's kind of like I mentioned a second ago. You don't want to come across too intense. "Oh my goodness, I'm interested in you!" Or you don't want to come across too desperate. You want to keep it casual and light. At the end of the day, this is two strangers getting to know each other. It is by nature pretty casual. You are not here to tell her you love her. You should never tell a woman you love her unless you've been dating for a while, okay? Unless it's like, "I love I love you as a friend or whatever because you've known each other for a long time, but that's gonna risk putting you in the friend zone. You've got to show the interest and get to know each other first. So this isn't "I love you." This is two people getting to know each other who happen to think each other are cute. A huge focus I teach my clients in my Academy is do not marry her before you marry her. It's normal to want to be married, okay? That's how God created us. He wants that for us. It's normal to want a relationship, to want love, but emotionally deciding you're married to someone before you've even been on a date, let alone are married, that is going to put unnecessary pressure on both of you, it's going to make the interactions feel awkward, and it's going to push her away. So keep it casual, keep it light.
