Coach MelannieDating and relationship coach for single Christian men

DON'T Say This When You Flirt! ❌ #flirting

3 Jul 2024 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker condemns the use of "toxic banter" in flirting, arguing that while such remarks may capture attention, they cause emotional damage and erode relationships. She defines toxic banter through concrete examples: negging (e.g., "You look pretty good for someone who doesn't usually dress up") and backhanded compliments (e.g., "I didn't expect you to be smart and pretty"). She expresses personal frustration and disbelief that anyone would intentionally hurt someone they care about, urging listeners to reconsider using these harmful tactics in romantic interactions.

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Far too many people feel justified in using toxic banter because it gets attention. It's shocking. It grabs your attention whether you want it to or not. But that in no way takes away from the fact that it's damaging and it's harmful. Just because something gets attention doesn't mean it's the right kind of attention, okay? It will damage your relationships and leave a hurtful mark emotionally. Some examples of toxic banter would be negging, saying something like, "Well, you look pretty good for someone who doesn't usually dress up." Another example is a backhanded compliment like, "I didn't expect "Expect you to be smart and pretty." In all honesty, these make me really mad. I have a hard time saying them. Because why would you want to hurt someone you're supposed to love, you're supposed to care about? I don't understand that. I don't understand why some people feel like it's appropriate to hurt someone you're supposed to show love to. Like, I don't even get it.