Friend Zone Fixer 👉 Get Her to Notice You!

Let's talk about how to escape the friend zone with a godly woman. You've been there, right? Maybe you're there right now. She's sweet, she's kind, she's gentle and feminine. Whenever you look at her, your heart just leaps. And you want so badly for her to notice you and to feel the same attraction for you that you feel for her. You think you're doing everything right, but you're watching her go out with other guys. You feel so close to her, but you're not chosen. You are stuck in the friend zone. As badly as you want to take things to the next level, it's just not working. And now you're stuck in an awkward situation because you don't know how to help her feel that attraction for you. You don't want to embarrass yourself, you don't want to make things awkward, and you also don't want to feel any more heartache than you've already had to feel. So what do you do? I'm so glad you asked. Because as a Christian dating coach, I am going to walk you through this today. So if you are a man who wants an authentic, godly relationship with a feminine, affectionate woman, make sure you subscribe. Okay, as we dive in, first you need to understand the big challenge with the friend zone. As a dating coach, what I see is one of the biggest things that puts men in the friend zone and keeps them there is that they're not showing their true potential. And it's not because you don't have that potential, it's because you're not expressing it in a way that she can feel. And if a godly woman doesn't see that you have the potential to be the husband husband she's been praying for, she's not going to risk her heart on you. She'll just keep you as a friend. In this situation, a lot of people will recommend mind games, tricks, manipulation. But a high-quality woman, she sees right through that. Instead of feeling drawn to you, she kind of feels like she doesn't want to talk to you anymore. That's not what you want! So if you want to escape the friend zone, you don't need tricks, you don't need manipulation. You need to become clear, visible, obvious husband material. So now that you understand the challenge and you understand what not to do, let's go through some clear things you can do that will help you escape the friend zone. You ready? Let's dive in. Number 1 is to upgrade how you present yourself. Physical attraction is not everything, but it's a whole lot of something awesome. And you need to make sure that you are appealing to her in a physically attractive way. It's a very important part of relationships. Nobody really wants to marry someone they're not physically attracted to. They want to marry someone they're very physically attracted to. And so you already have the potential in you, you just need to make sure you are upgrading how you present yourself. As a coach, this is something I've seen a ton. There are very simple things you can do. This is what I teach in my Academy. And so many men are thinking, "Ah, I'm just not attractive." No, you just need to upgrade how you present yourself. And part of why is because the way you present yourself is a reflection of how much respect you have for yourself. And we can't really have love if we don't have respect. So it's very important that she sees you as a man who respects himself. It's going to help her respect you even more. So maybe it's time to refresh your wardrobe. Maybe it's time to get clothes that flatter you more, or that fit you better. Maybe it's time to get a new type of haircut that's specific for your face shape and your needs. Maybe it's time to update, this obviously isn't appearance but it's kind of the same category, make sure you have a really nice smelling cologne. As a matter of fact, if you need a good one I have a link to my Amazon store, I'll put that in the description below with my favorite cologne. It is so good. So It's important that you don't show up as her friend. You show up as an attractive man that makes her go, "Whoa!" The second thing you need to do to help you escape the friend zone is to make sure you are practicing masculine body language. Body language reflects how we feel and it also kind of affects how other people feel about us. So, you know, if we have nervous or timid body language she's not gonna see you as a masculine, capable man. A godly woman is attracted to a man who is capable and grounded and calm. She feels safe with him. She sees him as a man, not just a guy. So let's go over some quick examples of body language. Again, this is something I teach in more detail in my Academy. I don't have time to go over it all here, but let's go over a few things. Number 1, make sure your shoulders are back, that you're standing tall and confident. Show your shoulder width to its full abilities. And another thing is make sure you look her in in the eye. Perhaps even a little bit longer than you need to. That's like a nice little flirting body language trick is to just look a little longer than normal. It kind of makes people go, "Oh, what was that?" In addition to that, eye contact can be very confident. You know, people who aren't confident, they don't really look people in the eye. Or maybe if they're distracted by somebody else you don't feel like you're seen by them, you don't feel like you're noticed by them because they're always looking somewhere else. But when they look you in the eye, research has shown us that there's huge attraction that builds through eye contact. Another fabulous masculine body language trait is to slow your movements down. I've probably mentioned before, if you notice, like, the action hero in an action movie, he's walking across a crowded room and he kind of walks slow and cool. Now, you don't have to walk slow and cool, you know, because that might be a little too obvious and weird. But The confident man does not have to rush. He's not flustered. He's not nervous or seeking approval. It's okay and appropriate and attractive to slow your movements down. Another important thing you need to know to escape the friend zone is to set boundaries and to hold to those boundaries. If you treat her like she can do anything and you'll still be there, that's not really going to create respect. Now this is not in the form of a mind game. This is not like pulling away so she'll chase you. That's just stupid. Instead, if we don't present ourselves as someone who has a life, as someone who deserves respect, people will treat us how we teach them to treat us. A really good example of this is I grew up watching Charlie Brown and Snoopy and reading the comments or the comics, and it's one of my favorites. However, Charlie Brown gets walked on all the time because he expects it and he accepts it. And so he has treated people that he's just wishy-washy Charlie Brown. Now, does that justify the way people treat him? Absolutely not. They should be kind to him anyway. However, it's really hard to be attracted to a wishy-washy person. You want her to see you as someone who has strength, who has drive, who's interesting, rather than someone who's uncertain or doesn't have much of a backbone. So set boundaries and hold to them. Don't just be always on call because you're desperate for her to notice you. You have a life, live that life, and that can help her treat you with a little bit more respect. This means sometimes you may have to say no if she asks you to help her with something or do something or if you're available for something. It means you're not always available. It means instead of dropping everything to text her immediately, finish what you're doing and then text her. Now if she's your wife or if there's a relationship already there, okay, yeah, you can move some things around. You can text immediately because she's she's your wife, but she hasn't earned that privilege yet. And so finish what you're doing and then text her. Does that make sense? And just so you know, showing the girl of your dreams that you are the man she's been praying for is exactly what I walk you through in great detail inside my Academy. To learn 3 powerful pillars that help her, like, stop in her tracks and say, "Whoa, "Where has this man been all my life?" I will teach you those 3 pillars inside my free masterclass. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass and I'll put a link down below for you as well. Okay, this next tip to help you escape the friend zone is one of my favorite tips ever, of all time. This tip is that you have positive, life-giving energy. You're a positive person. People do not fall in love with negativity. And we really do fall in love with how we feel around someone. So if there's a lot of negativity, she's gonna struggle with the attraction. But if you're a positive person, then she's going to fall in love with how she feels around you. As a matter of fact, I have a little bit of a story to share with this one. This happened years ago. There was this guy and he was chasing me so hard. And he would talk to my friends about me and he would try to ask me out and he would just follow me around trying to ask me out all the time. And I really struggled because I couldn't stand him. And the reason why is because he was so negative. He was so pessimistic and he was belittling to me and everybody else. And I was just like, what in the world makes you think I'm going to want anything to do with you? And at the same time, my heart went out to him. Because he was a little bit older and he was really wanting a family. But if she doesn't feel good around you, she does not see you as husband material. Some people will accept you into their friend circle because they're trying to be nice or for whatever reason, but she's not going to see you as husband material if you're negative. So this does not mean you see life through rose-colored glasses. Of course you can be grounded in reality and optimistic. It's faith in action. But focusing on being a positive person to be around can help you get out of the friend zone. Many people are single just because they're not fun to be around. The next tip to help you escape the friend zone forever is to make sure you are showing maturity and drive. A godly woman is not just dating for fun, she's dating for a purpose. She wants to see if a life with you is going to be good. She wants to see where you will take her, where you will lead her in life, where you will go together as a couple. And if she sees immaturity, if she sees that you're not responsible, if she sees that you act childish instead of childlike, or if she sees that you just plain have no drive or ambition, yeah, you're going to stay in the friend zone. But if you can instead show that you're responsible, show that you're mature, emotionally mature, show that you're an interesting person who has a lot to contribute to a relationship, you have maturity, you have that drive, that's huge. Something else I see as a coach frequently is that there are a lot of guys who are like, "I don't know why women don't like me. I'm not a bad guy. I'm a good guy. I'm a nice guy." I'm not a bad guy. And it's like, okay, maybe you're not a bad guy, but are you like actively good? Are you contributing? Are you trying to better yourself? Or you just say, "I'm not bad, so I'm good." That is not how it works. A godly woman who wants a delightful lifelong marriage, she's asking herself, does he have direction? How does he handle responsibility? Is he growing, is he improving? Our next step to help you permanently escape the friend zone is the one maybe you're a little bit afraid of, but it's so important. This is to pursue her. You would be surprised at how many men are put into the friend zone when she would have been interested, but he never pursued her. So she said, "Oh, I don't want "Wow, he must not be interested in me," or "Wow, he doesn't have enough drive to actually lead a family so he's out." There are a lot of women who would have been interested but the pursuing never happens so it just kind of settles into a friendship. You cannot treat her like a friend and expect her to just magically see you like the man of her dreams. That is not how it works. This is not to say that we should not be friends with the person we are in a relationship with. One of my favorite quotes is, "Love is friendship set on fire." So true. But there has to be a fire. You have to light that spark. You have to fan those flames. And so if you're not showing up like that attractive man, she's going to just see you as a friend because that's how you're acting. That's how she has to see you. That's how you've taught her to see see you. So how do you do this? The truth is you are going to have to ask yourself if you are okay with this being awkward or not. Are you okay with this maybe not going well and maybe messing up the friendship? That's the hard reality. It just is. You're either going to have to take the risk or you're going to have to not. And then if you decide not, then you need to get over her and pursue someone else. Or you need to say, "What would have happened if I had pursued?" and just pursue her instead. That choice is yours. I'm not here to tell you what to do, but you do need to face reality. So what are some ways you can pursue her? One of my favorites is to flirt. Have light, respectful flirting and just see how she handles it. If she's like, "Whoa, dude, that's weird. Ew, no," okay, you got your answer without having to actually ask her out. And now you know. Or if she engages in it, or if she likes it, or if she flirts a little bit back, or maybe she even just nervously giggles, those can be interesting signs that, well, she doesn't hate this. Maybe she even likes this. Maybe she has been wanting to be out of the friend zone herself. So flirting is a good place to start. Kind of creating that romantic tension a little bit can be a good way for her to go, "Whoa, what's going on here?" It may even help her say, "I've never thought of him like this, but hmm, maybe I should." You do not want her to feel like you see her as just a friend. If she thinks that, then you're going to stay as just a friend. And so at some point, ask her out. Again, you can do some of that light flirting, but at some point you are just going to have to take the risk and you're just going to have to ask her out. Now here's a bonus tip that you may want to consider. You may want to give her the opportunity to see you differently. What I mean by this is if she has seen you as a friend for months or possibly years, you may need to kind of a reset. A reset of how she feels about you and how she she sees you. So you may want to briefly create some space between the two of you and then come back with intention. And then you ask her out on that date. This is not a, "Oh, pull away and make her beg for your attention." That is not what this is. This is, "I've done a reset. I upgraded the way I present myself. I have practiced, you know, this body language stuff. I'm I'm presenting myself to her differently. I'm gonna take a little bit of brief space to kind of reset, and now I'm coming back into her life. This is a good way for— because there's that little bit of that break, it's enough for her to say, "Whoa, I've never seen him like that before. Wow, he looks really good today," and she starts seeing you differently. Because again, if you do all these upgrades but then continue to act like a friend, you will stay a friend. A sexy, attractive friend, but a friend. And if that's not what you want, you need to change that dynamic. The big thing here is breaking out of the friend zone is not about being fake. It's about showing up as the best version of yourself possible and letting her actually see that in you. Because when a godly woman sees a man who is confident and capable, who has integrity, who's kind, who's growing, when she sees that man, then she sees you not as just a friend, but as the man she's been praying for. I like wearing black blazers, but my hair is blonde. Duh. I mean, I think everybody knew that. But my point with that is if it gets like on the black at all, if it gets like a little messy while I move, it It makes my hair look frizzy, which bothers me. There you go. Mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm. Mm. That choice is yours. I'm not here to tell you what to do, but you do need to face reality. Am I being too harsh today? I don't mean to be too harsh. This is reality. I can lie to you, but I'm not going to do that. So I'm sorry. Because a godly woman wants to see a confident, capable, faith-filled man of integrity who's confident. I think I already said confident, but that's how important it is. Okay. Because when a godly woman sees a man who has integrity, who's confident, who's capable, masculine, and capable. I said that too. Okay. Yeah. Thank you, my amazing friend. And I forgot my tagline. I forgot how to say like my thing. That's hilarious. Okay. Mm-hmm. I just thought of a really cheesy joke, but I'm not going to say it because it's too cheesy even for me. It was really cheesy. I'm just going to let y'all wonder what the cheesy joke was because I'm not going to say it. It was pretty cheesy. I like really dry humor and it was dry. So anyway, you know what? We will honor this cheesy moment. The word for this video will be "joke." So comment "joke." Next up, make sure you watch this video, which is "Signs a Godly Woman Is Secretly Attracted to You," because there's a chance she's already attracted to you and waiting to get out of the friend zone as well. I will link that for you. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!