Melannie Gregersen explains how to shift from being an overlooked nice guy to someone women find attractive. Stop trying to please everyone, invest in yourself, set boundaries, and build real competence and self-respect instead.
Okay, the next key strategy that helps you go from nice guy to heartthrob is to invest in yourself. Invest in your own life. What so often happens with nice people is they go around doing everything for everybody else instead of just owning their own life. It's very, very tempting when you are an empathetic person, when you are a kind, loving person, to want to go around making everybody else's lives better. Trust me, I'm a born people pleaser. I understand that feeling. Feeling on a very, very personal level. However, who's going to take care of you? You need to make sure you're your own person. That's what makes you interesting, that's what makes you fascinating, and helps you build that self-respect and competence.
