How To Approach A Woman Confidently (Without Being Creepy!) 😉

Let's talk about how to approach a woman confidently without being creepy, because you obviously don't want that. Imagine for a moment that there's this gorgeous woman and she's caught your eye. She's stunning and you really want to get to know her better. Maybe in the past when you've approached someone it's ended in rejection and embarrassment. But not this time. This time you know more. This time you can tell just by looking at her that she's attracted to you too. This time you approach in a way that makes barely able to breathe because she has so many butterflies in her stomach. This time she's captivated by you. Your approach is successful. Can you imagine how it would feel to experience this? Well, you're in luck, my friend, because in this video I'm walking you through some of the most powerful strategies for a successful approach. I've got some dos and some don'ts to position yourself for success. So make sure you stay till the end of the video where I'm going to reveal some of the biggest mistakes you definitely want to avoid. To avoid when approaching a beautiful woman. As we dive in, in case you're new here, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to have an authentic, lifelong relationship. No mind games, no tricks. So if you're looking for a wholesome approach to dating and relationships and love, then you are in the right place. So make sure you subscribe. The first thing you need to know about a successful approach is mindset. That is step number 1. Let's be real. It is so easy to get into our own heads. As a matter of fact, there's a good chance she's doing that as well. When she wants you to approach her, she's probably massively overthinking as well. However, the first and maybe most important step is to recognize what your mindset is in the moment and make sure you put it in a good place if it's not already there. For instance, something I teach my clients in my Academy is do not marry her before you marry her. Sometimes we meet somebody new and attractive and our brains automatically go to, "This must be the one! If I mess this up, it's all over!" And you haven't even talked to the girl yet, but you're convinced that she's the one for you. We all do this as humans. We tend to be a little more dramatic than we like to admit. And so sometimes when you're going in to approach a girl, it can feel like a life or death, a do or die situation. And that is going to make you appear so much more desperate and it's going to put way too much pressure on yourself and ultimately on her. So take a deep breath. This is not life or death. This is just two people seeing if they have anything in common, if they even like each other. They know they like how each other looks, but do they like each other yet? They don't know. So by having the right mindset, "This is just two people getting to know each other," it's going to put you light years ahead. Now you're going to go into this from a confident, positive, low-stress mental space. And that's what you need. Number 2 is to scan your own body language. The way you present yourself, the way you hold yourself, literally has the power to skyrocket your confidence and your attraction. It also has the power to ruin the moment before it's even begun. Research has shown us that the way we position ourselves directly affects how we feel. So if you position yourself in confident body language, you are going to feel more confident, you're going to look more confident, and she's gonna think you look super attractive. So it's going to benefit you in every way. So take a deep breath down into your stomach, drop your shoulders, keep your shoulders back, and have a pleasant look on your face. These are some quick and easy body language things you can do to show her that you are a confident masculine man. And it's going to make you feel that way as well. Step number 3 is incredibly powerful. This step is to look for her signs of interest. Read her body language. Can you imagine how much easier it would be to approach her if you already knew without even having to talk to her that she thinks you're pretty cute, she's attracted to you, and she wants you to approach her? That's a whole different scenario, right? As humans, we just act in certain ways when we feel attraction. Very similar to how we act in certain ways when we're cold or we're mad or we're surprised or we're happy. Even if, you know, we're trying to, like, not be too obvious because we don't want to embarrass ourselves, we still give ourselves away. The men who learn how to read the signs that are already there are the men who can be the most successful in love. And on that note, I have a really exciting surprise for you. I just released my all-new program Mastering Women's Signals and I want to give you 1 week of unrestricted free access. You can literally go through the entire course in that amount of time. It's almost 3 hours of video training. You get cheat sheets, audio versions, and transcripts. As you go through this material, apply what you're learning. By the end, you can expect to feel like a master at reading women's signals. No more feeling like you're in the dark. No more wasted opportunities because you can't tell how she feels about you. Not only that, I'm going to teach you the biggest mistakes to avoid and share with you the guidelines to read the signs successfully. So if you've ever worried about, "Ah, am I reading this right?" Don't worry. I make it super easy for you. And I take it one step further and I answer the big "what if" questions. Like, "Well, what if I thought I saw the signs, I approached, and it didn't go well?" Or, "What if things go well for a while and then they tank?" So how can you join? How can you claim this 1-week unrestricted trial? All you have to do is go to coachmelannie.com/1week. I will put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. Just enter your name, your email, you create an account, and you are in. This is something you want to learn now because the last thing you want to do is be right in front of that gorgeous girl and not be able to tell if she's attracted to you. So make sure you dive in. Again, there's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. When you know that she's attracted to you by the way she moves and the way she handles herself, then approaching her is a million times easier. Not to mention it's just fun to know who thinks you're attractive. So make sure you check that out. Step number 4 is, okay, so you're in the right mindset, you've done a scan of your own body language and improved it, made it more confident, you have scanned her body language and you see those signs of attraction. Step number 4 is to decide what you're going to say. Be before you go over and talk to her. Sometimes it can be easy to just get excited or just try to, you know, pump yourself up and just walk over there. And then it becomes really awkward and it's like, "Uh-uh-uh, now what do we do?" So make sure you choose, you decide what you're going to say before you get there. One of my favorite strategies that I teach my clients about more in my Academy is find Common ground. Find something in the area that is common ground and use that. Keeping things on a more confident and casual note is so much more effective than being cheesy, because cheesy can quickly turn into awkward. You want to show her you are a confident masculine man, and quite frankly that's what she wants to see. That doesn't mean you can't show that you have a good sense of humor, but it's so much better to come at it from— this is her first impression of you. So you want to make sure that you're showing confidence. So decide what you will say when you approach and decide what you'll follow up with. Because if it's like, "Hey, what's your name? My name's da-da-da-da. Oh hey, this is my name." Now what? You need a follow-up as well. Here's a really good example for you. You might want to jot this down. You could just walk up to her and say, "Hey, how's it going? I noticed your smile across the room and decided I wanted to come say hi." And then, you know, she'll probably giggle or smile or whatever it is and follow up with your name and mention something that's the common ground in the area you're at. Like, "Wow, can you believe the rain outside? I didn't even know it was going to rain today. It's crazy, right? Are you someone who likes the rain or not so much?" Step number 5 is now you've already decided what you're going to say in your head. Step number 5 is to make eye contact. And with your confident body language, make your move across the room. You don't really want to just pop up in front of her, "Surprise! I decided to approach you!" It's so much more effective if you make eye contact several times first. Not like 25 times. I'm talking like 3 to 5 times. And you'll learn more about that in that new program I mentioned, Mastering Women's Signals. I get into more detail about this there. But once you've made that eye contact, if a few times, she's going to expect an approach from you at this point. And have that masculine confident body language and walk over to her. Now, if you are a long ways away from her, don't stare her down while you walk across the room, okay? Make and maintain some eye contact. You can kind of look around at your surroundings as you walk across the room. If you're closer, just kind of maintain that eye contact Maybe look away if somebody steps in front of you. But try to maintain that contact because what it's going to do is this is signaling to her, "I am approaching. I'm going to talk to you." Whereas if you just kind of, "Surprise! I'm here to approach you," it can make things feel a little less comfortable. So you've decided what you're going to say, make eye contact, and confidently walk over to her. Number 6 is incredibly important. Pay close attention. You ready? Have fun with this! This is a fun experience. You literally get to talk to a cute girl, which you already established is showing the signs that she's attracted to you. This is a fun thing. Sometimes, again, we get so in our heads that we forget to actually enjoy the moment. Remember, Remember, nobody's marrying anyone right now. This is just two people getting to know each other. Nobody has made any promises. So enjoy just figuring out who this person is. See if you have anything in common with her. Now that you know the 6 steps, let's talk about a couple of the don'ts. A couple of the things you should definitely not do. Understanding this is going to save you a lot of embarrassment, so pay close attention. The first thing you should definitely not do is be too forward or too aggressive. It can be easy to just feel excited, especially if you see the signs that she's interested in you, and then just be way too aggressive. And what that does is it absolutely terrifies women and the attraction is gone. If she's scared, the attraction's gone. So what's an example of being too forward? What does that look like? Let's say a man is he sees a woman sitting at a cafe. And instead of kind of giving her some space and gauging her level of interest, he just walks right up to her. And he says something like, "Hey, I couldn't help but notice how stunning you are, and I just wanted to come over and tell you that. So when are we going out?" In this scenario, he was being far too direct and he's rushing things. Instead of first introducing himself, finding some common ground, he's just jumps right into a pretty intense compliment and then he's proposing something as serious as going out. She's just barely seen this guy and all of a sudden he's assuming that they're going out. That scares women. This is why it's best to have a little bit of conversation first and let her feel comfortable with you before you jump into something like that. You do not want to make her feel pressured because most women when they feel pressured are going to have a very negative impression of you. So definitely want to avoid that. And the next don't, the thing you should not do, is don't put too much pressure on yourself. In all reality, we all make mistakes sometimes, and sometimes we don't all know what to say. And when we're trying to figure something out that we're not good at yet, sometimes mistakes will happen. And even when we are good at it, sometimes Sometimes mistakes will happen, and it's just part of the process. It's okay. This isn't just you alone in this scenario. Something else I teach my clients is she has a share in this as well. She has some responsibility in this as well. It's not just up to you to make sure this works out. It's also her job to make the conversation flow naturally. It's her job to continue to show interest. It's her job to make this a positive experience as well. So don't feel like it is your responsibility to make sure that this turns out well. The truth is sometimes it totally flops, even if both people are really trying to make it work. I've certainly had that happen in the past where we're both trying to make this work, we're both trying to connect, and it's just, it's not working. It happens sometimes. So give yourself some grace. The more you do this, the better you'll become at it. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! I wanna remind you one more time, go sign up for your 1-week free trial of Mastering Women's Signals. You deserve to not feel in the dark anymore. You deserve no more wasted opportunities. You deserve to be able to be successful in love. And this is one of the most important first steps. So again, go to coachmelannie.com/signals. There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comments. Since I launched this, hundreds of men have already joined. And you deserve to be one of them who's learning how to be successful in love. I also want to give a huge shout-out to everyone who's so generous with the Super Thanks! Thank you for supporting wholesome, appropriate content. 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They were a little thick, so they kind of broke when you, like, folded the taco, but I didn't care. They were still delicious. So You know where I'm going with this, right? So our word for the end of the video is tortilla. Because I think that's fun. I like sharing my food stories with you. I know it's super fascinating stuff. You know, I know that you're just like on the edge of your seat. What is she gonna talk about food today? So if you've never watched to the end of the video before, we always have a special word at the end. You comment it So I know who watches to the end. You guys are, like, awesome, okay? You really are. And it's really fun because other people are completely confused because they have no idea what we're talking about. So if you watched to the end of the video, comment "tortilla," and, you know, maybe think about fish tacos for dinner because it's pretty good. All right. Never forget that you're awesome. 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