Three ways to tell if she's flirting: she treats you differently than others, context matters (a touch means more in a quiet room than a loud one), and look for a cluster of 3 to 7 signs instead of reading too much into one.
Guideline number 1 is to see if you're the exception. Does she give everyone a million compliments? Well, then she's just somebody who likes to compliment people. Or does she give you a lot of compliments? Does she give everyone a hug when they walk in the room, or does she give you a hug? Because the truth is, of course, personality plays into this. And so if she's just a huggy person, that doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't think you're attractive, but it's also hard to base a sign on that. So pay attention and see if you're the exception. If you are, well then, yes, that means you mean something special to her. Guideline number 2 is to keep things in context. Are you somewhere loud and she needs to get your attention so she places her hand on your arm or your shoulder? Okay, then that's not necessarily a sign of attraction. That can just be, "Hey, I need to talk to you." But if instead you're somewhere that's not super noisy, she already has your attention, and she reaches out and touches you, okay, that can be a good sign. And the next guideline is to look for 3 to 7 signs. And if you're just seeing 1 sign, eh, that's not a lot to go on. But if you're seeing 3 to even 7 or more, okay, now you can feel pretty confident that you are in fact seeing definite signs that she is flirting with you. The more signs you see, the more confident you can be in that.
