How To Make Her Obsessed With You 😏 (And How To Keep It Healthy!)

This is how to make her obsessed with you. But, like, in a healthy way, not a manipulative way. Has there ever been a woman that you can't stop thinking about? Just every time a smile bursts onto your face, maybe you feel a little weak in the knees or like you can't breathe a little bit. Everything about her is just endearing and captivating. Would you like her maybe to feel the same way about you? Do you want to capture her attention and affections The same way she's done with you? Well, good news, you're in the right place. We're going to talk about some of those things that do capture her attention, that are captivating to her. In marketing, there's a strategy known as a pattern break. What does that have to do with relationships? Well, let me tell you. When you are a marketer and you are trying to place an ad or some kind of post It can be very helpful to have something that breaks the pattern, that's unusual from everything else, so that when somebody's scrolling on their phone, your post or your ad is the one that stands out. There's something different about it. It's not like everything else. It breaks the pattern and therefore is so much more noticeable. We can do the same thing with attraction. We can be the pattern break. The exceptional one. The one who's doing something nobody else is doing in a really good way. Because it is important to note that you can have a pattern break that leaves a good impression or one that leaves a bad impression. So when it comes to making her feel a little obsessed about you, I'm not here to teach you how to do this through mind games or tricks or manipulation. That's what a lot of people are teaching you online right now. But the honest truth is, That makes you the toxic one. When you're following those manipulative strategies, you become the toxic one. And it's impossible to have a good relationship when you're the toxic one. So instead, I'm going to be teaching you some of those things that are kind of a pattern break. They help her see that you are an exceptional man. You are the one who's unlike everyone else in the best way possible. So these are authentic, natural, healthy ways that just cause her to long to be with you more and more. Much better than a toxic relationship, right? I think number 11 and possibly 12, they might be my favorite ones I'm going to share with you. So pay close attention to them. They are ridiculously powerful. Just in case this is your first time watching, as we dive in, make sure you subscribe. My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating and relationship coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to have an authentic, Wholesome relationship instead of one that's built on cheap tricks and mind games. So if you're looking for authentic lifelong love, make sure you subscribe. Now let's dive into the specific ways you can stand out in the best way possible. The pattern breaks, the ways you show her you are exceptional. For this particular video, I am going to be focusing on micro things, the little things that are easy to do but have a big impact. These are quick and easy things you can apply today. For the bigger picture, for how how to have success in love, how to make the girl of your dreams fall deeply in love with you, check out my free masterclass where I will walk you through the most powerful strategies you need to know about. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass or check out the link in the description below. Okay, our first way to make her obsessed with you, one of those micro habits that shows her you are exceptional, is when you put your phone away and actually make eye contact. There is something so powerful about eye contact. Research has been done that shows if we spend time looking into someone's eyes, we tend to be more attracted to them. It's so much easier to connect with someone when you make eye contact. But in this modern age, we tend to often just be looking at our phones or scrolling a lot. Even sometimes when we're in an environment where we're hoping to meet someone. Now, to be fair, one of the reasons we do this is it's kind of like a shield. Oh no, I'm not standing here by myself having no idea what to say. I'm just looking at my phone. When in reality we're standing there all by ourselves having no idea what to say, feeling like we're inadequate. So when you are the one who can say, hey, I'm gonna put my phone away. I'm gonna make eye contact. I'm going to meet new people. Or especially like a date situation, or even if it's not a date but you're with the person you're interested in, put your phone away. Make eye contact. Let your gaze— don't, you know, make eye contact. Let your gaze be happy and light. And she's going to feel like there's something different about you. And she's going to feel that connection with you so much better because of that eye contact. This leads us right into the second thing that helps her become completely obsessed with you in the best way possible. This is that you smile with her, you laugh with Laughter and smiles, they bond us with other people. Have you ever shared a smile with a complete stranger and you're like, yeah, I like them? Like, there's just something about a smile that connects us. Or not when we laugh at people, that's never appropriate. But when we laugh with people, or we don't treat life like it's too heavy, we are so much more enjoyable to be around. Another benefit to smiling and laughing with her is this It is a pattern break in so many ways because so many men are being taught to be stoic and cold and distant. And the truth is, that's a really immature way to live your life. I'm sorry, I can't laugh at that. I'm too cool. You know, like, no, you're not. You're just lying to yourself. So because so many people are cold or distant or uninterested-looking, when you smile and you engage, you are that pattern break. And in a way that's just delightful. When we share a smile, when we laugh, we have all those feel-good chemicals. Of course, it's so much more easy to enjoy being with that person and want to be with them even more. Okay, my next way to help make her obsessed with you in a healthy way is to actually listen to her. Listen to what she's saying and respond. Respond to what she said. Show genuine curiosity about her and her life. Sometimes when we get nervous, we just think about what we're going to say next. We don't think about what the other person is saying. That can put us in a really awkward situation, especially if they ask us a question and we have no idea what they just said. But we all want to feel important. We all want to feel understood and seen and appreciated. So when you actually take the time to listen to her, you respond to whatever it is she just said instead of whatever you're thinking about in your head, you're showing genuine curiosity about her life and her interests and why she likes this or that. Okay, that is addicting, to talk to someone who we actually feel seen with. So as tempting as it can be to just keep jumping in with advice or whatever you're thinking about, Yes, you need to talk too. You need to be contributing to the conversation as well. But do make sure you take the time to listen to what she's saying and respond. This leads us right into the next way to help her become very obsessed with you. And that is to remember things about her and then act on it. Let's say she's mentioned a certain activity that she's always wanted to do. Well, if you were already planning on asking her out, Maybe ask her to do that with you. Or perhaps she has told you that there's something important coming up in her life. And so you text her the day of and say, hey, I hope this goes really great today. Maybe you happen to remember her favorite color and that comes into a situation somehow. Oh my goodness, that's my favorite color! Yeah, I know. That's why I got you that one, or whatever it is. So pay attention to the things that are important to her, keep it in your back pocket, and then act on it. This is a fabulous way to show that her opinions and ideas and the things that are important to her matter to you. And when she sees that and she feels that, she's going to feel so much more close to you. She's going to want to be around you more. When we are attracted to someone and we're seeing that they're kind of everything we've ever wanted, Yeah, we kind of become obsessed with them. A little bit addicted to being with them because we finally found what we've been looking for. That's why this is not about manipulation tactics that cause her to be anxious and obsessively addicted in a really unhealthy way. Instead, it's the healthy approach of, oh my goodness, he's everything I've ever wanted. I feel like I'm important with him. I feel like I matter. And that's a healthy way to be obsessed with a romantic someone. Okay, this next one might surprise a few people. But if you want to play in her mind on repeat, if you want to be the guy who breaks the pattern and stands out in the best way possible, always ask her out. Do not give her your number. It is so awkward for a woman when a man gives her his number. Yes, there is a lot being said about, oh, we live in the modern society now. Okay, I'm gonna have to cut that short. It makes me mad. Yes, there is a lot said right now about, oh, times have changed, society is different. And the truth is, perhaps for some people it has, but high-quality women still respect the masculine and feminine roles. And a feminine woman Wants to maintain her femininity. And she longs, she craves for you to be the masculine leader. And so when a man walks up to her and says, here's my number. Call me sometime. Text me sometime, she goes, dude, you just totally pushed the masculine responsibility onto me. And that is one of the quickest ways to kill attraction. I don't have time to share this story here, but I have been in a situation where the masculine role was mine and I was shocked because in like half a second all attraction completely died. I was not remotely interested anymore because I needed the masculinity to come from him. If I'm going to stay feminine, I've got to have the masculinity come from him. So if you want to impress her, if you want her to go, whoa, he is a masculine leader. I respect him. He is confident. Wow, he's hot. Then make sure you're stepping up to that masculine role. Do not give her your number. Instead, ask her for hers. Ask her out. Step into that masculine role. That's what makes you memorable and helps earn you respect. And honestly, speaking of masculine role, this leads us right into the next one. Do you want her to be obsessed and to crave being with you and to deeply desire a relationship with you? Do you want that? Then make your romantic interest clear rather than pretending you just want friendship or just waiting for her to make a move. If you want to be seen as the leader in the relationship, then you need to step up as the leader in the relationship. That does not mean that she should not be reciprocating. That does not mean that she should not be warm and receptive and contributing as well. Because a woman, needs to pursue a man in a feminine way. She definitely needs to be pursuing you. It's just going to be in a feminine way instead of a masculine way. So this is not about you doing all the work. It's just about you leading out. And one way you do that is by just making your interest clear. If you want to avoid the friend zone, you need to make sure that it's clear you have no desire to be in the friend zone. If you wait for her to make a move, You are not the leader in this relationship. You're instead expecting her to be the masculine leader in this relationship. So be clear about those intentions. You can 100% pursue in a very authentic, confident, appropriate way. That's something I walk you through in detail inside my Academy. So if you wanna avoid the friend zone, and if you want her to respect and admire you, it's important that you are clear About your romantic interest in her. Okay, the next way to make her totally obsessed with you is to celebrate her successes with her. None of us really want to do life alone. Even those who say they do actually don't. We are social creatures. We need to have people in our lives who celebrate successes with us. Even if it's just, like, a text or A high five. Or maybe once you get to know her better, hey, I wanna take you to dinner. Let's celebrate this. Whatever it is, be her cheerleader. Just like you want her to be yours, if you are hers, that's the pattern break. That's what makes you play in her mind over and over again. That's what makes you really important to her and the man she doesn't wanna be without because you are genuinely involved. Another perfect example of this, our next way to make her obsessed with you, is to offer encouragement when she's having a difficult week or a difficult time. We need people who will cheer for our successes. We also need people who will give us a hug when we're sad or who will try to help us smile when we're just having a crummy week. And so relationships are about being Involved in each other's lives. They're about being there for each other. So many people are so focused on the car you drive or abs or how much money you have. But when you're having a difficult week, his abs really are not going to help you that much. At the end of the day, a woman who is mature, who's looking for a husband, someone to grow old and gray with, someone to love forever, she needs a real partner. Someone who will celebrate successes with her and who will comfort her when she has a difficult week, just like you want that from your wife as well. The next thing that helps make her obsessed with you is when you compliment her. And when you compliment her about things that are not exclusively just her looks. Compliments are amazing. We love compliments. And yes, she wants to know that you think she's beautiful, that you think this or that is very attractive about her. However, a lot of people just stop there. And women want to know they're beautiful, but they also want to know that they matter to you for more than their looks. She wants to know that she's smart or that she's fun to be around, that you love her cooking or you think her talents in this or that area are fun. She wants to know that she's more to you than just her looks. So yes, compliment her looks, but also take the time to compliment other things. And she will feel so much closer to you and appreciate you so much more. It's going to help build that emotional bond and emotional safety. Now the next way to make her obsessed with you is very similar. This is to tell her what specifically you appreciate about her. Sometimes we forget how powerful a simple thank you is. Or, I appreciate that you this. I appreciate that you're so patient. I appreciate that you're so kind. I appreciate that you look out for me. I appreciate your encouragement. I appreciate your modesty. I appreciate... Whatever it is, tell her. That you appreciate that. We all need to hear that sometimes. And this, again, helps her feel closer to you. And it helps her feel seen and understood and like she has value beyond just her looks. We are humans, we have souls, and we need to feel like our souls matter to the other person. So be very liberal. Don't hold back on letting her know know what you appreciate about her. Okay, this is one of my favorites. This way to help her just feel obsessed with you, to adore you, to want to be with you more and more, is to offer her your jacket when she's cold. Just do those cute little gentlemanly things that maybe don't seem like they matter very much, but to women they matter a whole lot. If she is someone who has a hard time Accepting a man doing something kind for her, this might upset her. But that can also be a sign to you that maybe she's not a good person to be in a relationship with. Just being honest. If she cannot handle the fact that she goes, oh, shoot, I'm cold, and he gives her his jacket, if she's not big girl enough to handle that, she needs to work through some things. That's the honest reality. However, if we're talking about mature, high-value women, Oh my goodness, it melts your heart when he does something like that. That's why it keeps showing up in the movies and books is because it's adorable. He goes out of his way to do something kind for you. And then you get to wear his jacket and you get to smell his cologne on his jacket and it's really, really cute. So there are, you know, there are a lot of benefits to something like that. But when you do those little gentlemanly things, it matters to her. It helps her see that you are a kind compassionate, thoughtful person. And she wants a husband like that. It also shows that you're masculine, you look out for other people. It shows that you are that leader. So even if it seems small to you, it's not small to her. It's adorable. The next way to help her feel obsessed with you is to find small ways to make her feel important instead of focusing on the really big, impressive things. There is a time and a place for the big and impressive things, absolutely. Especially once you're in an actual relationship. But it's the little things that truly matter. And honestly, that's what we've been talking about this whole video. It's those little things that matter the very most. And if your relationship is built on these big, enormous displays of Affection and commitment. That's really not how relationships work. There are a lot of, like, reality TV shows and stuff that rely on that. And the truth is, oh, it's romantic and it gives you butterflies, and then, you know, it's over and you still aren't really connected with this person. So yes, you can have those in your relationship once it's a relationship, but be careful that that's not what you're relying on because that's only going to end up feeling cold. Instead, you need to focus on the micro things, the little things that are going to bring you closer together long-term. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! Again, if you want a more big-picture view of what it is that makes her fall deeply in love with you, what it is that makes her want to commit to you for life, do make sure you watch my free masterclass. I'm gonna walk you through what you need to There's a link in the description below, or go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. Yeah. Okay, focus. Okay, so fun fact, I'm sick. I don't know how you get a cold in August, but somehow I managed to do that. Lucky me! One of the things I hate the very most is actually filming when I don't feel good. Because it takes so much adrenaline to look like I feel perfectly good, when in fact I feel awful. So, that's fun. I've gotten pretty good at faking it, but I don't like to. I wanna go sleep and play video games and read books. That's what I wanna go do. And so that's what I'm gonna do as soon as I'm done here. Thank you for listening to me complain. It made me feel better. All right. We need a video for the end of the— no, we need a word for the end of the video. And I don't feel good enough to think of one, so we're just gonna say sick. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you in the next one. Okay, bye! If you enjoyed watching this video, you will also enjoy watching this one, which is 7 Signs You Are a Very Attractive Man. I think you're going to enjoy that one. I think it might surprise you a little bit. So I will link it for you here. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!