Coach MelannieDating and relationship coach for single Christian men

How To Talk To Women (And Attract Her Faster!) 😉 #highvalueman

23 Mar 2026 · 2 min

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In this segment, the speaker emphasizes that being involved in interesting activities is essential for attracting women. He recounts his own experience of answering "What do you do?" with only work, which made him seem boring. He argues that without engaging hobbies or experiences, people lack compelling conversation material and are perceived as uninteresting. Rather than trying to be mysterious—a tactic he calls "cold"—the speaker advises focusing on becoming fascinating by actively pursuing hobbies, travel, and learning new skills. He prompts listeners to consider what hobbies they enjoy, trips they want to take, or new skills they can start learning, asserting that these pursuits will provide richer topics for conversation and make them more attractive.

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My next tip for how to talk to women that makes them totally obsessed with you is to be involved in interesting things. This was several years ago. I used to love going country swing dancing. And I was just starting to build up my coaching, and I was working insane hours. All I did was work. And when I would meet somebody new and they'd say, "Hey, what did you do this week?" or "What kind of fun things do you do?" my answer was usually, "I work." And that was it. And I quickly realized, "Wow, I sound like such a boring person." And I wasn't very interesting to talk to because all I did was work. This is true for everyone. If we're not involved in interesting things, we don't have anything interesting to say. Not only that, but people don't particularly see us as interesting people. So being someone who's involved in things is going to make you fascinating. So many people are way too focused on being mysterious, which is actually pretty cold. Instead, focus on just being fascinating. When we're fascinated by someone, we can't get enough of them. So what hobbies do you enjoy? What trips have you always wanted to take that you can start taking? What can you start learning and involving yourself in so that you are a more interesting person? Because often when we feel like we have nothing to say, because we truly don't. So start doing things, and you will have much more interesting things to say.