Is She Flirting Or Just Being Friendly? 😏 (11 Signs Men ALWAYS Miss!)

So is she flirting or just being friendly? Let's talk about 11 signs most men miss. Signs that she is actually flirting, not just being friendly. You've been there, right? Your eyes meet and your heart starts to beat faster as she smiles at you, and you can't help wondering, "Okay, so is she flirting or is she just being nice?" The last thing you want is to embarrass yourself, but you really want to know if she is actually flirting with you, huh? Keep watching because I'm about to reveal 11 signs she is not just being friendly, she is actually flirting with you. And I'm going to share some exclusive tips with you to help make sure you read the signs correctly. You don't want to miss those. Sound good? You ready for this? Let's dive in. First off, the first thing you need to know is girls hate turning guys down, okay? Absolutely hate turning guys down. The exception, of course, would be if she is a toxic girl. If you haven't yet, watch this video to learn more about how you can avoid women like like that. It's like I teach my clients in my Academy, you need to be aware of the signs of the siren so you don't get involved. However, generally speaking, most women absolutely hate turning guys down. It just kind of crushes you inside. You feel like a total, total, total jerk. This can make it really hard to tell if she's actually flirting or just being nice. And that's why at the end of this video, after I share these 11 signs with you, I'm going to share some guidelines that will help set you up for success. So stay with me till the end of the video. With that, let's get started with the first sign that she is actually flirting with you. Sign number 1 is that she talks to you over her shoulder. You've probably seen this, like, in movies and stuff where you do kind of— I can't even show you very well with this setup, but if she's talking to you over her shoulder, this is an incredibly common body language thing girls do when they're flirting and they're hoping you notice that they're attractive and cute. This one, actually, I'll be a little bit of a fun fact. This one cracks me up because when I first became a coach, first started studying female body language, obviously that was not something I— I learned this for you guys. It's not something I was particularly interested in before. And as I started learning this, this is one of those signs that I went, "Oh, I totally do that and I had no idea." So often body language comes down to things she's not necessarily doing on purpose. It's just when she's feeling a certain emotion, she reacts that way. So So it may sound a little cliché. It may sound a little dumb or a little weird. No, this is exactly what girls, many girls do when they're flirting with you. She'll talk to you over her shoulder. It's kind of like a coy flirtatious thing. P.S. In case we haven't formally met yet, my name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to have an authentic love. We're all about authentic strategies here. No fake toxic women or strategies. So subscribe and ring that notification bell so you don't miss any of these videos. A second sign that helps you know that she is in fact flirting with you is that her pupils dilate. When we're attracted to people, this is just one of those things that naturally happens. Whereas if she's just being nice and the attraction is not there, then that's really not very likely to happen. So pay attention to see if those pupils are dilating. The next sign that a girl is flirting with you is that she'll say something like, "Oh, I missed you," or, "Oh, I missed seeing you there," or, "I've missed—" being around you or seeing you. If she is expressing the fact that she missed you, that is a very good sign. This is especially true if she goes out of her way to say it more than once. She's revealing the fact that when you weren't there, she could feel that something was lacking. She wanted you there. And that's a big deal. The next sign that a girl is flirting with you is that she talks in "we." "We should do that." "We are so good at this." "we are great together," "we this, we that." This means she's not thinking in terms of "me and you." She's thinking in terms of "us," more like a couple. It is also a way that she can be trying to express in a feminine way that she hopes that you think of the two of you as a couple as well. The truth is, when we start becoming interested in someone and having feelings for them, we naturally start to think of ourselves in a relationship with them and what it would be like to be a couple. And when these little "we's" slip out, it shows that that's what's on her mind. And remember, with this sign, and honestly all these signs, the goal is never just to see these signs and then do nothing. Like, what would be the point in that? To just see the signs she's interested, see the signs she's flirting, and then do nothing? That would not accomplish anything, right? Here's the deal. Relationships need to happen and progress in a certain order. And when they progress in that order, you set yourself up for success and a crazy amount of love and affection. First, you capture her attention and her interest the same way she captures yours. Then you cause that initial spark and that initial attraction to grow and grow until you are the man she wants in her life. That's how she starts falling deeply in love with you. Your biggest secret is to learn how to unlock your hidden inner attraction. This is exactly what I walk my clients through in my Academy and help them master fast. So if you are wanting to stop wasting time alone and finally become a pro at getting the girl you want to come home to, that's where you need to be. These are the secrets you need to know. I have a short free masterclass for you where I will walk you through these strategies in more detail so that you can see the game plan and why it works and how it can help guarantee your success. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. I will put a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. That's where you can watch this completely free training. You want her love, right? You want to set yourself up for success, right? Then make sure you open it in a new tab and watch it today. Okay, now that you understand your next steps so you don't just see these signs and then do nothing, let's keep going with the signs. Sound good? The next sign is that she does random nice things for you. Each girl obviously has a little bit of a different personality. That makes sense. And each girl, you know, some girls may know you a little better, some won't know you very much at all. This is a common thing certain girls will do, where she goes out of her way to do random nice things for you. One, yes, she's probably trying to get your attention. But two, you matter to her. And women love to take care of the people who matter to us. Women are natural nurturers. Again, as long as we're not talking about toxic women. They don't count. Women want to take care of the man who's important to them. And so if she does random nice things for you a lot, that is a huge sign of attraction and interest. That's not something you do just to be friendly. I mean, you might do a nice thing for someone here and there, but if she's going out of her way to do nice things for you repeatedly, yeah, that's more than just being nice. Okay, the next sign a girl is in fact flirting with you is that she tries to keep the conversation going. We're busy people, right? The world is a busy place. And so even if we truly enjoy talking to someone, if we don't necessarily have romantic interest in them, it's pretty easy to just have the conversation and then move on. But if she is purposefully trying to keep the conversation going, it's a very good sign that she wants to keep talking to you. She doesn't want this to end yet. This can be true in person. A really good example is if she continues to ask you questions, continues to try and keep the conversation going. This can also happen through text or chatting online. If you feel like she's not letting the conversation die. She keeps it going, keeps talking about something new, keeps chatting with you. It's for a reason, and it's not just because she's being nice. Nobody has time to be that nice. Okay, the next sign she's flirting with you is that she laughs at all your jokes. This is one that, again, a lot of girls don't even realize they're doing. When a girl— one of the main things that is attractive to a woman, one of the main things she looks for in a man is is appreciating his sense of humor. She wants to think you're funny. And when a girl thinks a man is funny, she's very attracted to him. And so, and in addition to that, if she's attracted to you, she tends to think you're more funny. So it's really like this beautiful cycle that just works out perfectly. And so if you notice that she laughs at all your jokes, even if, you know, they're a little cheesy or a little corny, if she still appreciates them, yeah, that's a pretty good sign that she is attracted to you. Okay, the next sign that she is flirting with you is that she's always around. When we're interested in someone, we tend to notice where they are and we tend to want to be there. That makes sense, right? Masculine and feminine energy are irresistible to each other. And her feminine energy is craving your masculine energy. It's craving you to pursue her. One of the secrets, the biggest secrets to help you become completely irresistible is I teach you the most effective way to pursue a woman in a masculine way, in a way that just really fans the fire of attraction like no other. And so she is craving that masculine energy from you. She's craving you to pursue her. Now, it's her job to pursue you as well. It absolutely is. A healthy relationship, a happy relationship, is where both people are pursuing each other. And so one of the ways she will pursue you in a feminine way, her feminine energy will pursue you, is she makes it as make it as easy as possible for you to notice her, for you to talk to her, for you to ask her out. And so it's very common with— she's probably not even realizing she's doing this, but she's going to just kind of follow you around and hope you'll notice her and be there, you know, if you look her way and if you want to talk to her and all that stuff. And so if you notice that she is kind of always around, unless she works there and has to be where you are every second, that's not something you do just because you're friendly or just because you're bored. If she's following you around a lot, yeah, that's definitely a sign of interest and attraction. Okay, the next sign that she is flirting is that she does the catwalk. Now I've had some comments, "Okay, what is the catwalk?" Simply put, she shakes her hips when she walks, okay? You've seen it in the movies and stuff. If she's shaking her hips when she walks, that's something, again, is It's just kind of— not for every woman. Not every woman will do this, because again, everybody's different. And a lot of it depends on what shoes she's wearing and how confident she is and all of that. But it is very common for a woman without even noticing it, if there's that hot guy around, she's gonna let her hips shake a little bit while she walks. Sounds silly, but it's accurate. Quick question before we finish these signs and get to those guidelines to set you up for success. I've had several of you say that you would like videos on the friend zone. Will you tell me in the comments what what specifically you would like to know about the friend zone, what questions I can answer for you. And there's a question I'd really, really appreciate if you'd answer for me. What do you feel is your biggest relationship struggle? Like, what do you feel is holding you back the most? I really, really appreciate your feedback, so please tell me in the comments. And thank you for your kind comments. And especially a huge thank you to those of you who are so generous with the Super Thanks. It means a lot to me, and it helps me continue to bring you high-quality content. Content. So thank you. And whether you've ever used the Super Thanks before or not, if you're enjoying this video and you want more Christian high-quality content and you'd like to use the Super Thanks, it would mean a lot. So thank you. After my last video, I received a lot of kind comments from you, so thank you so much. It really does mean a lot. The internet can sometimes be a mean place. I try not to focus on it too much, and sometimes it's just really hard to ignore. So your kind comments Comments do actually matter, so thank you. Okay, this next sign she's flirting with you, this is like an aha moment, eye-opening moment. You ready for this? This sign is that she makes eye contact with you specifically 4 to 5 times. Crazy, right? So we've all been in that situation where our eyes just happen to meet with someone across the room. And sometimes it's really awkward after that because it's like, "Were you looking at me? I wasn't looking at you, but were you looking at me? Wait, what?" You know? And it becomes awkward. We've all been in that situation. How do you know if your eyes just accidentally met or, you know, she was looking at you? If your eyes happen to meet 4 to 5 times, like, on the same occasion, not different occasions, but the same occasion, then yes, that is her looking at you. And again, in that feminine way trying to say, "Hey, if you came over, I'd like it." If it happens once or twice, mm, maybe doesn't necessarily mean anything. 3 to 5 times is is, yeah, she's trying to get your attention. She's hoping you'll notice her and think she's cute and talk to her. If she's just being friendly, it's only gonna happen 1 or 2 times where you're both kinda like, "Wait, what?" And then you move on. And the next sign that a girl is flirting with you is that she asks for your help. Often she can honestly just be coming up with a random excuse to ask you for help for something just because she wants to interact with you, just because she wants a chance to talk to you. Now, obviously, you wanna avoid women who constantly ask ask for your help and they're just using you. I'm not talking about that kind. I'm talking about, "Oh, could you help me lift this heavy box?" "Oh, could you open the jar because it's too hard?" By the way, it is usually— that's not fake. Like, it really is too hard for her to open. Just random side note that has nothing to do with anything. She may find out you're good at something and ask for your help with that certain thing. Often this is an excuse for her to get to spend time with you, and because honestly she respects and admires you and thinks that it's really cool that you're good at that thing. If someone is just being friendly, they're not going to go out of their way to ask you for help a lot. Again, if anything, that would lean more towards someone who's just trying to use you. And so if she's constantly asking for your help for things, especially things she can technically do herself or should she should be able to do herself, yeah, then that's not so much flirting, that's using. But a few random, "Hey, could you help me with this?" Yeah, that's flirting. Now let's talk about the 3 guidelines to help set you up for success. You ready? There are 3 questions to ask yourself when you think you're seeing those signs that she's flirting with you. The first one is, are you the exception? Meaning if she acts this way toward towards everyone, well, then it's probably just who she is and what she does. A good example would be a girl who hugs everyone. Well, if she hugs everyone and gives everybody about the same kinds of hugs, that's just who she is. Or if she's someone who tries to keep the conversation going with everyone, that's just who she is. But if she only does these things with you, that says a lot. For instance, if you notice that she only seems to talk over her shoulder with you, then that's probably flirting, not just being nice. The second question is, what's the context? For instance, if she asks for your help with something because the two of you are working on a project and she doesn't really have anybody else she can ask, or you're in kind of a time-sensitive situation and she's gotta ask for help, okay, then that's The context is she's just gotta ask for your help. Versus someone who will repeatedly ask for your help with something and try to get to know you a little bit better that way. Another good example is, is she always where you are because you work together and you just kind of go to the same places? Or is she always where you are because she likes you and she wants to be there? So keep things in context. See, look at the big picture. That will help protect you from a lot of embarrassment. And the next guideline is— the next question to ask yourself is, "How many signs are there?" This is one of the best things you can do. Make sure you're seeing more than 1 to 2 signs. As a matter of fact, I would look for ideally 5 to 7. That may not always be possible, but look for 5 to 7 signs. That's how you can really feel confident that, yes, she is in fact flirting with you. As opposed to if you only see 1 or 2 signs, it could just be that you've missed something in context, or maybe she is just being a friendly person. So the more signs you see, the better. Without, of course, obsessing and never making a move because you're so worried that you haven't seen enough signs. Does that make sense? Because remember, the point is not just to see these signs and do nothing. These signs mean I mean, you've captured her attention. That's great! However, they don't mean that she's in love with you yet. What you do next will help determine that. The same is very true of when a girl catches a guy's attention. That attraction and interest will either grow or it won't, depending on what she does. So the key is to unlock your hidden inner attraction. Watch that free masterclass now to learn your next steps. And let me just say, it's a lot easier than most people think. So you're really going to like it. Just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! Be sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell if you haven't yet, and give me a big thumbs up. Be sure to leave me a comment. I love your feedback. And share this video with a friend who also needs to know that she is flirting with him. If you don't yet follow me on social media, there are links in the description below. And I share exclusive content in my Instagram stories, so make sure you are especially following me on Instagram. 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