Coach MelannieDating and relationship coach for single Christian men

It's OBVIOUS She Likes YOU When... 😉 #datingtipsformen

10 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, the speaker addresses men who complain that women don’t say exactly what they feel. He explains that women often use indirect, casual language (e.g., “I wish we could spend more time together”) to signal interest while giving the other person an easy out. He argues that men should follow the same rule: use tact, charisma, and restrained phrasing rather than declaring love before a relationship is established. The advice emphasizes keeping interactions casual, mirroring women’s indirect style, and only expressing deep feelings once a relationship is solid, as this approach reduces the risk of scaring the other person away and improves dating success.

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Bear with me on this one, okay? I get a lot of comments from a lot of guys saying, "Well, why don't women just say exactly what they're thinking?" They are saying, "I enjoy spending time with you." She's saying exactly what she's thinking, saying, "Wow, I've never met anyone like you," or, "I wish we could spend more time together." She's telling you exactly what she's thinking. In addition to this, why don't you tell her exactly what you're thinking? I get so many comments from guys who want women to say, "I'm in "Me, I'm in love with you." But they're not even willing to ask her out. Dude, you gotta play by the same rules. People who have tact, people who have charisma, understand that being too aggressive is gonna freak people out. And so it's so much better to keep things more casual until you're in an actual relationship where you can really share your feelings with the other person. There's nothing wrong with saying, "I am so "I'm so in love with you," when you're in a relationship. Before that, it's better to say something like, "Man, I wish we could spend more time together," to just casually let the other person know, "I'm interested." And if they're not interested, they have an easy out. So there are reasons why people say things certain ways. And understanding this is going to help you a lot.