Melannie Gregersen uses a fruit tree metaphor to explain dating and relationship advice. Instead of criticizing others, she says you should focus on improving yourself and climbing to the top of the tree.
It's kind of like, I want you to imagine a fruit tree, and the best fruit is on top of the tree. It's the fruit that's just tasty and delicious, and it melts in your mouth, and you just want more. That's at the top of the tree. Well, everybody else is standing around saying, "Well, they're not at the top of the tree, and they're not at the top of the tree, and they're not at the top of the tree," instead of just climbing to the top of the tree themselves. This is how it is with dating and relationships. Everybody else is standing around saying, "Well, they're not doing that. Well, they're not high value. Well, they're not—" "Awesome this way, they're not awesome that way," instead of just climbing the tree and being awesome yourself, instead of just being high value yourself.
