Most dating advice tells men to be emotionally unavailable, but women actually want closeness. Real intimacy requires vulnerability alongside strength, not emotional armor that keeps partners distant.
Many, many, many coaches right now are teaching men to just kind of be this unpenetrable mountain of strength. The problem with that is when somebody is superficial, you can't get close to them. In order to be close to someone, you have to actually let them in. This is something women very much value. Now, if she doesn't particularly care about you as a person, she couldn't care less about getting close to you emotionally. But if you want a partner, you both need to be close to each other emotionally. Emotionally. And showing a little bit of that vulnerability is one way you do that. And what would be better than having somebody who treasures and values you in your vulnerable moments and in your strong moments?
