A woman who constantly needs validation from her partner will drain you. The speaker distinguishes between healthy affirmation and unhealthy dependence, warning that you can't be someone's main source of self-worth without burning out.
Can you imagine how exhausting it would be to be in a— maybe you've been in a relationship like this— to be in a relationship with a woman who's so needy and has to be validated constantly and who just begs for your constant validation? That's exhausting. Instead, it's important for her to have that confidence within herself already. Yes, it's totally okay and appropriate to get some positive feedback from the person we're in a relationship with. It's totally okay and normal, and I even think good, to want to hear that we're attractive to the person that we're in a relationship with. That's totally okay. That's different. But if she depends on you for her self-esteem, that's something you do not deserve to have to put up with in a relationship. So never be the reason she has self-esteem.
