What Women REALLY Want From Men!

This is what women actually find attractive in men. You're about to learn the psychology of attraction that most men don't know. Have you ever felt like women just aren't responding to you? You see someone that you like, that you'd legitimately be interested in, but you just— they're just not responding. If that's you, then you're probably missing what I'm going to share with you in this video. There is a psychology to attraction that most people are not teaching men, and today I'm here to share it with you. Most Most people are taught that women care about 3 main things: status, looks, and money. Now the important thing to notice is for low-quality women, yeah, those might be the most important things. However, high-quality women are different. They're looking for different things. They want someone to share life with, not to just look good standing next to. A high-value woman wants a partner, not a stepladder. Now if you're using the wrong strategies, you are going to attract the wrong women. That's just how it works. So today I'm going to be sharing with you what high-quality women actually want in a man. And while money, status, and looks are not inherently bad, they're not on the list. As a Christian dating coach who has helped countless men find the beautiful love of their life, make her fall passionately in love with them, and ultimately marry them, this is something I cannot wait to share with you. So make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell if you are looking for a woman who wants a husband, not just a piggy bank. The first The first thing women are actually attracted to in a man is self-respect, or not being needy. Nothing kills attraction quite like neediness. High-value women notice neediness quickly, and they want nothing to do with it. And being a needy partner is very draining. So needy things like over-texting, over-explaining, trying too hard to impress her, always needing attention and validation and recognition. Those things are going to push her away. They're going to ruin the attraction. However, when you show that you have self-respect, that you are someone who values your time, you show that you have standards, that, um, in early stages of a relationship, you show that you're not afraid to walk away. You're not desperate here. You've heard me say it a million times, "Don't marry her before you marry her." And so by showing "Look, I feel my own worth in healthy ways. I don't need that constant validation," that makes you stand out as a very attractive, confident man. A man who respects himself teaches her to respect him as well. And women want to see you as masculine, competent, and confident. That's the kind of man they can see themselves married to. Not the man who's super needy. Okay, this next thing is one of my favorites. The next thing that women are deeply attracted to in a man is when you make her feel chosen, not chased. There's a lot on the internet about chasing, and it's not effective. It's not gonna work. Many men will focus on chasing or even trying to make her chase them. That's not gonna work in a high-value, healthy relationship. Attractive men show interest with intention. You make her feel valued by how you treat her. You don't treat her like just another option. Oh my goodness, there's a lot of advice out there to do that right now. Don't do that, okay? This is not about chasing. It's not about neediness, remember? It's just about helping her feel chosen and valued. If I've said it once, I've said it a million times. People like people who make them feel good. And when you feel valued, that person has more value to you. When she feels chosen by you, when she sees your intention towards her in appropriate ways, when she sees that you have initiative in the relationship, these are ways you're pursuing her and helping her see that you would be an incredible husband. Her feminine heart longs to be chosen. And when you're the man who chooses instead of chases, that right there is sexy. That's what chick flicks are full of, that kind of thing, because women love it. However, when a woman feels chased, she wants to run. That's just how chasing works. One way to think about this is in Pride and Prejudice, which by the way is not a book or a movie only for women, just to be clear. Jane Austen, her works are classic because she understood human nature. So one different— or one example of this would be Mr. Collins versus Mr. Darcy. Mr. Darcy chooses Elizabeth. Not so much his first proposal, that was kind of a hot mess, but he chooses Elizabeth. Mr. Collins kind of chases and expects, and that's just not attractive. The next trait that women find incredibly attractive in men is when you have emotional strength and awareness. Basically, you're not someone who suppresses emotions. A lot of men have been taught that being strong and masculine means to be emotionally closed off. That is not true. Attraction actually builds when a man understands his own emotions and he's in control of them. When a man is able to express— you don't want to dump emotionally on her a lot. That kind of can enter into the neediness territory. But you're a grounded man. So some examples of what this would look like is that you're not thrown off or shaken easily. Have you ever noticed how some people, like, every little thing bothers them and they get really upset about it? That's somebody who's not very grounded emotionally. But when she sees that you can handle things That's a big deal. Another example is being someone who does not chase validation. Yes, we all want and even need validation, but chasing validation isn't particularly healthy. She wants to see if you're someone who can handle tension, or if you just kind of crack and break and fall apart. And again, just understanding your own feelings and emotions. I think this can be something that's hard for a lot of men to do because society hasn't really taught men how to do it. Women are taught to process their own emotions, but it's important for you to do that as well. Women are not attracted to men who have no emotions, but they are attracted to men who are in control of their own emotions. That's the kind of man she says, "Wow, he would be such a good husband, such a good father." And honestly, it's going to help you understand her emotions better. And she's going to have them. This is a marriage. There are emotions involved. So it's a very, very attractive trait. This one is another one of my favorites. The next thing that women are deeply attracted to in a man is having a deep emotional connection with him. This honestly is one of the single most important traits you can develop. If you have this, everything else is so much easier. At the end of the day, having a man who provides money, is replaceable. Having a man who provides status is replaceable. There's always somebody with more status, right? Having a man who has the looks, okay, that's replaceable too. We all age and she can just get another one. Or there's somebody else. Those things are replaceable. However, what you cannot replace is that special connection with the person who just gets you. Your person, the one who feels like a warm hug, intense laughter, and passionate desire all rolled into one. The couples who fall in love and stay in love are the couples who have a close emotional connection. And that is what high-quality women want. This is the importance of emotional attraction. This is why it's one of the main focuses of my online academy. If you do not have that emotional connection in your relationship, they're going to be short-lived, they're going to be unfulfilling and unhappy. I've actually created some training for you where you can learn more about emotional attraction and the 3 main things a woman needs to fall deeply, passionately in love and stay in love. To watch this free training, just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. I will also put a link in the description below. If you want to know how to permanently transform how women respond to you, if you want to know what's been keeping you from the high-quality, healthy relationship you want, then you need to check out that training. So again, there's a link in the description. Comment section below. I know I've said this several times now. This is another one of my favorite traits. When we're talking about what women actually find attractive in a man, top of the list is being playful and lighthearted, someone who's positive and happy. I have been coaching for a long time now, and it's always so hard for me when somebody tells me that they're just struggling, they can't find anyone good, they can't find any kind of love. And they're always like this. "There are no good women left." "Women are dumb." "I don't know why no women want me." And I'm like, "Dude, could just smile." I unders— And it's not just about women. Like, their whole life is about this. That's not attractive. People want a partner who makes them feel better, who can be supportive, not a partner who is draining. At the end of the day, a large part of attraction is actually felt. The men who don't take everything too seriously, who kind of roll with the punches, who are fun and creative and engaging, those are the men who are the most attractive. It shows that you are a confident man. It shows social intelligence. And honestly, it shows that you're comfortable in your own skin. Chemistry really isn't something that you just hope for. Chemistry is something that you create. That's a fact. A lot of people think, "Oh, I'm not a charismatic person." Nobody is! Unless they do the things that make them charismatic. Some people are born with an inclination towards it, but we all have to learn it. Even if it's just on the playground, you notice when you act this way more people like you. So one other thing I do want to point out is being lighthearted and playful does not mean you have to be a hyper person. For instance, if you're an introvert, you're a little bit more reserved, that doesn't mean you have to change your personality. It just means you focus on a more positive, lighthearted approach to life rather than really, really heavy. Make sense? This is something else I explain in far greater detail in my Academy. It's so hard to make these videos because I can't give all the information in a YouTube video. But if you're already in my Academy, make sure you go back over and you reference that video because it's insane the impact it has on how you feel and also how women feel about you. Another huge trait that women actually find attractive in men is integrity and consistency. Now remember, I'm not talking to you about what low-value women want. We're not talking about cheap women, okay? Everybody's heard, "Oh, women want the bad boy." No. Low-quality women might, but high-value women, they want integrity, they want consistency, They want a man who will be a good husband. A woman who wants a relationship, who wants marriage, who wants to raise a family, she's always asking herself, "Can I trust him long-term?" If she doesn't see that she can, she's out. But if she sees that she can, now she sees you as the exceptional man she's been praying for. When she sees that you have appropriate standards, and you hold to them. When she sees that you don't play games, that you follow through on what you say you will follow through, these things are building trust. These are helping her see you as this man, he's not just some dude. He's a real man and he would make an incredible husband. Flashy men, they might get attention. But consistent men, they get commitment. Our next thing women actually find attractive in men is emotional safety. This is massively underrated, but so powerful. This is something most people are not remotely teaching properly. Women are wired, it's how God made us, we are designed to ask, "Do I feel safe with this man?" If we do not feel safe with him, even if he's completely harmless, but our internal security alarm is going off, It's done. The attraction is gone. But when we're with a man who makes us feel safe, we want to be with him more. Part of this, again, comes from that masculine and feminine energy and the fact that women feel more safe with a man. We're designed to want to be with a man and to have his masculine energy making us feel safe. And we're talking about physically, but we're I'm also talking about emotionally and socially and really just in the whole relationship. And that's something a woman craves to receive from a man, is those feelings of safety. So when she finds that in you, that is an answer to her prayers and a wonderful, beautiful thing that she's craving, she wants. I'm trying to find the words and they're not coming. So I'm just gonna be blunt. You don't know the power you have to make a woman feel safe. And you don't know the effect that that has on her. When she feels safe with you, it does something to her that is powerful. When she does not feel safe with you, it's over. So what are some signs? How can you help show that you are someone she can be to be safe with emotionally, physically, all of the above. Some ways are to show that you are calm, you're not reactive. There's kind of nothing more terrifying than being around a man who's very reactive, who has a short fuse, someone who you never know when he's just gonna blow up. Another thing you can do is when you show her that you don't rush things, you don't create a lot of pressure. You can show her that you handle awkward situations with confidence. Because yes, awkward situations will happen. They just will. But showing that you can handle them with confidence, that is so attractive. Also showing her that you can respect boundaries without being weird about it. These are ways you are showing her that you are a high-quality man. This isn't just you trying to look good for her, but you're showcasing that you already are a man of value, and it naturally reflects in your life. This emotional safety is so important. It's actually another one of the main things I teach in my Academy. If she doesn't feel safe with you, she is not going to feel love for you. But if she does feel safe with you, you just started to matter to her in a very, very important way. And this is actually something I talk about more in that free training I mentioned as well. So Do make sure you check that out to learn more. A man who makes her feel safe instantly stands out as a high-quality man because most men don't. They're not doing that. The next trait that is actually really attractive to women is showing that you have purpose and direction. This does not mean rich or status by default. I mean, it could involve that, but it does not necessarily mean that. Basically, it shows that you're going somewhere in life, you're not just kind of a couch potato who does nothing or a wishy-washy person who just lets everybody else tell you what to do. She sees that you have vision, that you are interested in growing as a person. People who grow and improve will always be attractive. It shows that you have a direction for your life, which means if she were to become a big part of your life, there would be a direction. When she sees this in you, she sees she sees you as a leader, she sees you as someone stable, and she sees potential for a future with you. The next thing that is deeply attractive to women is when you develop what I like to call an attractive by default lifestyle. Now let me explain what this means. When you are attractive by default, it means that you have developed the little micro habits that turn you into an irresistible person. The micro habits are what make us who we are. It's that our habits can give us integrity, they can give us confidence, they can make us attractive in all areas. Now most people who just kind of coast through life, they may have a few attractive things about them. But somebody who lives an attractive by default lifestyle, they are someone who is not perfect because none of us are, but we have created an all-encompassing attractive attitude. An Attractive by Default man carries himself well, he connects well, he is full of confidence, he has shown that he is a high-value man because he's chosen to be. He has the micro habits that turn him into a high-quality man. As a matter of fact, that's what makes a high-quality woman a high-quality woman too. So instead of just memorizing lines or trying to look really good because you bought a nice car, instead, you're building traits that create attraction authentically and automatically. I think you'll be surprised by how— What's that word? Okay, our word for the end of the video today is tripod. Why is it tripod? Because I got a really bad sore on my finger because I was collapsing the tripod and it squished my finger really bad. So I've been thinking about tripods a lot lately. So there you go. That's our word for the end of the video. Thanks for watching! I'll see you in the next one. Thank you so much for watching! If you enjoyed this video, you'll also love this video, which is 12 Signs She Wants You to Ask Her Out. Let's see how well this attraction is working. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day!