WHY Women Play GAMES With Handsome Men... 😅 (7 Reasons!)
In this YouTube video, Christian dating coach Melannie Gregersen addresses why women often play mind games with attractive, high‑value men. She frames the discussion for male viewers seeking authentic, godly relationships, explaining that while high‑value men naturally attract high‑value women, they also draw the attention of women who engage in games. Melannie outlines seven primary reasons: (1) women have been taught that manipulation equals power through toxic dating advice; (2) they guard their hearts and use games as a defensive test; (3) cultural media glorifies drama and “hard‑to‑get” tactics; (4) emotional immaturity or high‑school‑level mindsets make games feel exciting; (5) toxic personalities thrive on games for ego boosts; (6) insecure women seek attention and may string men along; and (7) many women confuse games with genuine attraction, mistaking tension for chemistry. Throughout, she emphasizes that high‑value, godly women desire authentic connection, safety, and trust rather than games. She offers practical guidance—building trust, setting boundaries, boosting confidence—to repel toxic partners and attract authentic women. The video also promotes her Academy, a free guide titled “17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man,” and merch, encouraging viewers to subscribe, share, and follow her on social media.
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Let's talk about why women play games with handsome men. It's going to happen. When you are a high-value man, an attractive, confident, masculine man, you're going to turn heads. Now, many of those heads will be high-value women. However, the sad reality is you will also be noticed by women who like to play games. Why exactly does this happen? Why do women want to play games with handsome men? Not only will I be explaining this, and I think some of the reasons are really going to surprise you, but I'm also going to share why these games are really unhealthy. And if you're looking for a loving feminine woman who doesn't play games, then I think you're really going to enjoy the insights about high-value women as well. So make sure you keep watching. Now, just in case this is your first time watching, before we dive in, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to attract authentic love, authentic, high-value, feminine women. So if you are done with the games, you're done with the tricks, you're done with the loneliness and the heartache, you are definitely in the right place. So make sure you subscribe. And I'm also going to mention this video on red flags in women you should definitely avoid. I think you're really going to enjoy that one as well. I will put a link in the description below. All right, back on topic. Why do women play games. Yes, it's true. When you are— this is something I teach my clients in my Academy. When you are an attractive, confident, masculine man, you are going to turn heads. And that's fabulous for the high-value women. But the unfortunate truth is you will also turn some heads of some women maybe you don't want to turn their heads. Some of those women will play games. And let's break down some of the reasons Why? Because again, they're kind of surprising, some of them. The first reason is simply because they've been taught it works. I'm just gonna get a little real. I'm gonna go off script a little bit. I do that sometimes. I'm gonna go off script a little bit. This is one of the reasons I am so passionate about being a dating coach and a relationship coach is there's so much toxic advice out there. And so much of it is teaching people that they should play mind games. Many people are taught that manipulation equals power, or they're taught this is the only way to get a man, or this is the only way to keep him true to you. Pfft! That's a bunch of crap. Okay, you can cut that out. Many of them have been taught that manipulation equals power, or they're taught that this is the only way to attract a man, or this is the only way to keep him long-term. Anybody who's teaching that or believes that clearly needs to level up their skills because that is pathetic. However, something to keep in mind is often when a woman is playing games, she's not trying to be cruel. She's simply been told that that's all there is. And these toxic coaches, these toxic voices out there, they seem to get results. But here's the good news. You don't have to worry about that. Because high-value women never want to play games. They want an authentic relationship. They want a deep connection instead of a relationship that feels forced or fake. So this is why making sure you're attracting a high-value woman is going to be so much better. The second reason many women will play games is another one that once you stop to think about makes a lot of sense. Again, I'm not here to justify why she's playing the games, because she shouldn't be. But another reason is simply because many women are just guarding their heart. Some women play games to test a man because they're afraid of being hurt. It's a defense mechanism, not necessarily malice. That does not mean it's appropriate. But many don't even stop to think about it. They just, again, think that this must be the best way to accomplish what they want to accomplish. And it's not like, "Hey, I wanna be a jerk and play games with him." It can just be, "Oh, "I'm scared. Here's my reaction." Something that helps with this is making sure you know how to make a woman feel very, very safe with you emotionally and physically. A good woman wants to feel safe enough to drop her guard around you. But that only happens with a man she feels like she can trust. So focusing on building that trust, making her feel safe with you, is a game changer. The third reason why many women will play games is because they're following culture, not character. Our culture glamorizes drama and hookup culture. It is all over TV and social media and music. And these games are portrayed as normal. Far too many popular TV shows portray these stupid pathetic games as normal. And if you're not paying attention, that's going to influence you. Even if you are paying attention, it's going to influence you. So many people just grow up watching awful shows, and they don't realize that they are mirroring what they've seen. They just think that that's normal. That's what everybody does, right? "Oh, everybody plays hard to get." "Oh, you won't even get his attention if you don't play hard to get." Now, the good news is godly women stand out because they're led by truth and values not trends and TikTok. This is why the single most important thing you can learn how to do is learn how to find and attract those godly women. Now, this is, of course, what I guide you through in great detail in my Academy. And when enrollment opens, I invite you to join me there. However, a really good place to start right now is with my free guide, 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man. I think you're going to be very excited and maybe you're even a little surprised by the insight you find there. There's a link in the description below or a link in the pinned comment. If you're tired of the girls who play games, you need to make sure you're focusing on the girls who don't. And understanding how those women think and what those women want is your game changer. So again, 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man. There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comments. The next reason why many women will play games is probably— this one's probably not going to surprise you. This reason is that they're immature or emotionally unhealthy. The fact of the matter is some women aren't ready for a real relationship, just like some men aren't. For these women, games feel exciting because they're stuck in high school emotionally, in that high school mentality. The good news is a high-quality, godly woman doesn't need games to feel desirable. She craves peace, commitment, and connection. She wants that authentic connection with you. Okay, so we were gonna move on to the next one, but man, I'm feeling really thirsty right now. So, oh, look, there's a water bottle here. Oh, that's a pretty cool water bottle. I think I'm just gonna take a sip. Ah, so refreshing. Okay, I wanted to do that so bad because I thought it was hysterical. Those of you who are laughing, thank you. And those of you who are rolling your eyes, Come on, lighten up! If you haven't heard yet, my merch is now live. There's a link in the description below. There might even be, like, the merch shelf under the video. Check it out! This is the water bottle. It's 32 ounces and it's stainless steel. It says "Attractive by Default" to remind you that as you apply the principles I teach you, your default setting becomes irresistibly attractive. So get yourself one and we can, like, we can have the same cup. That'd be super cool. There's also a mug behind me. Maybe you saw that. Anyway, I really wanted to share that with you. So check it out. Yes, I know, I'm hilarious. I know. This next reason why women play mind games is going to be no surprise to those of you who've been following me for a while. We talk about this a lot. Toxic women thrive on games of any kind. The sad reality is there are people in this world who are in fact toxic. A toxic substance is something that has a negative effect on us. It can poison us, it can harm us. This is the effect toxic people have on us. They love games. Thankfully, you can learn to repel them. As a matter of fact, one's sign of a potentially toxic woman is that she plays a lot of games. These women love the ego boost of winning. So when they see a high-value, confident, masculine man, it's pretty common for them to make their shot and see if they can have the ego boost of making him crumble. However, again, the good news is you can in fact learn how to start repelling them. You'll still catch their eye, but they are not going to want anything to do with you. For instance, some of the things I teach my clients are things like boosting your confidence, setting appropriate boundaries. These kinds of things are going to ultimately send those toxic women running away very quickly. And actually, before I forget, I know I'm gonna get comments about this. Like, everybody's gonna say, "Hey, you're drinking out of the wrong side." I know I was drinking out of the wrong side, but you couldn't read it if I did it this this way. Oh, and it has a straw in it, so that's actually really fun too. Okay, back to the video. And here's some more good news. A godly, high-value woman wants to treat you right. She wants to respect you. She wants to adore you. She does not want to have a toxic influence on you. Now, is she going to be perfect? Well, no, none of us are perfect. But her heart is going to be in the right place. And that means everything. Now, the next reason why women will play mind games is sadly because sometimes they're just not into you, but they do want the attention. This kind of comes back to those toxic women I was just talking about. Some women will string men along to boost their ego or feel wanted. This is especially true if they're insecure. However, An insecure woman is definitely not the kind of woman I would recommend being in a relationship with. So again, this can just kind of be a sign of someone you want to avoid. You deserve a woman who lights up when she sees you, not one who breadcrumb texts for fun. Always, always, always remember your worth. As a godly, high-value man, you deserve a godly, high-value woman. And if you get that feeling that she's just stringing you along, you deserve so much better. Don't settle for her. Okay, the next reason why women will play games with men is a very important one to be aware of. This is that she confuses games with attraction. This kind of comes back to what I mentioned at the beginning where people are fed a whole lot of lies about dating and relationship and attraction facts that aren't remotely true. As a woman who This is my industry. I do lots of research, right? And I'm aware of what's being said. And I can't tell you how many people are telling women, "Oh, girl, if you're not mysterious, he'll leave you. Men only want a mysterious woman." Okay, they don't say it quite like that, but it ticks me off. So many women are being told trash about how this hot and cold creates It's the chase. They are confusing tension with chemistry. There's a big difference. Creating tension is really easy and negative. However, creating chemistry, when you know what to do, is also incredibly easy. However, chemistry is positive. Real attraction is built on connection, not confusion. But so many people don't know that. One of the reasons being And you know this, again, if you've been following me for a while, I teach you this about games. They can look like they're working short-term. Manipulation gets attention. It just plain does. And so many people think, "Oh, hey, this seems to be working." However, it's not going to lead them to the end result they want, unless the end result they want is drama. This is why I teach you that the most important things you can do is learn dating and relationship skills. Again, this is what my programs are all about. The same is true for women. It's very critical that you make sure she's a woman who wants to be proactive about learning healthy dating, relationship, and ultimately marriage skills. And I'm actually— I'm just going to answer this question real fast because I do get asked this sometimes. Melannie, why don't you coach women? The answer is I want to. I have been trying to coach women for a long time, but I never get very far because I'm kept so busy doing this. I have so much I'm doing to make sure I'm serving you guys on the highest level and making sure you guys have the support you need. And so quite frankly, I don't have the time. I keep trying, and hopefully someday, But hopefully that answers your question. I would love to coach women as well, but I'm one person and I can only do so much. There you have it, my friend, the top reasons why women play mind games. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! Make sure you do download that guide, 17 Traits Christian Women Want Most in a Man, because making sure you're attracting that godly, high-value, authentic Authentic Woman is a game changer. So again, there's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment. If you have a friend who would enjoy this video, please share it with him. Sharing truly is caring for everyone involved. And if you don't yet follow me on social media, there are links in the description below. I share exclusive content in my Instagram and Facebook stories, so make sure you check them out. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! Sometimes it's actually really hard to think of thumbnails, which is why I have the same 7 over and over and over again. You know. I'm sure nobody has noticed. Everybody's gonna say, "Hey, you're drinking out of the wrong side." I know I was drinking out of the wrong side, but you couldn't read it if I did it this way. I know somebody was gonna say that if I didn't say that. And they would be completely right. They'd be like, "What is wrong with this girl? She can't even drink out of a cup right." I know. I mean, sometimes I can't drink out of a cup right, to be fair. But, you know, some days you're just, your brain's somewhere else. But this time I knew. She does not want to have a toxic influence about— She doesn't— What? Some women will string men along to boost their ugo. Ugo? What's an ugo? Okay, secret end of the video club, how you doing? If this is your first time watching to the end of the video, we always have a word at the end of the video just for fun, because then I get to see who watches to the end. Everybody else is confused, So it's really fun. Our words in this video are "water bottle," because the water bottle kind of ended up being a theme for the whole video. And that was not my intention, but it ended up being a lot of fun. So we're just gonna, you know, celebrate that. So thank you so much. Thank you for being here, for watching to the end, and I will see you in the next one.
