Women Get OBSESSED With Men Who Talk To Them LIKE This… 😏
In this YouTube video, Christian dating coach Melannie Gregersen explains how men can become the kind of man women become obsessed with by mastering the way they talk to women. She argues that conversation is the foundation of attraction and outlines six concrete strategies: (1) maintain a positive, uplifting attitude; (2) ask genuine questions to keep the dialogue flowing; (3) answer and ask with stories to be memorable; (4) cultivate interesting hobbies and experiences so you have engaging material; (5) practice active listening to make the woman feel valued; and (6) flirt appropriately to add excitement and memorability. Throughout, she uses personal anecdotes—such as a store’s atmosphere changing when a charismatic employee left—to illustrate how mood and presence affect others. She repeatedly invites viewers to subscribe, comment, and share, and promotes a free masterclass (coachmelannie.com/masterclass) for deeper transformation. Near the end, she vulnerably shares her struggles with YouTube’s algorithm due to her Christian identity, explaining that most of her income comes from her Academy, and asks viewers to help spread her content. The video concludes with a gratitude reminder and a call to comment the word “grateful.”
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Women get obsessed with men who talk to them like this. Let me ask you this. Do you want to be the man she's obsessed with? The truth is you can turn her head and steal her heart when you know the right strategies. And the way you talk to her is a really big deal. Talking helps us connect. If we don't like talking with someone, it's kind of hard to be attracted to them, right? It's kind of hard to know someone if you don't really talk to them. And it's kind of impossible to be in a relationship with them if you don't talk. This means the way you talk to her can either destroy her attraction for you, or it can take it to new levels. It can make her obsessed with you. Now, many men actually struggle with this just because they don't know how. They don't know how to talk to her in a way that really lights the attraction on fire. Thankfully, though, you're not one of those men anymore. You're about to learn some of the most powerful strategies to make her feel like she just can't get enough of you. So if you want in on these powerful insights, make sure you keep watching. And just in case this is your first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men and your go-to source to learn how to create authentic love. So if you're looking for a feminine, loving, good woman and you're sick of the mind games, you're sick of the drama, Is that you? You are definitely in the right place then. So make sure you subscribe and hit the notification bell. I'm gonna tell you a quick story to help illustrate this. You ready? You know how when you go shopping you kind of have like a routine? You go to this store for this and that store for that? Well, when I moved a few years ago to the area I live in now, I started getting used to the stores in my area. And there's this one store in particular that I won't name because I don't want to be rude. But when I first started going there, it was kind of a meh store. But then somewhere along the way, the whole mood in the store changed and it became a really fun place to be. And the employees were all really enjoyable to talk to. And the whole mood in the store just felt elevated. And pretty soon we figured out that there was one employee who kind of had a little bit of a management role. And she was delightful and she was She was fun and she was playful and she had transformed the atmosphere. Sadly, a few months ago we started noticing, "Wait, something has changed in this store. It feels different." And it was kind of back to the "meh" feeling. And we realized that she didn't work there anymore. And it was insane to notice the effect just one person could have on the environment. Now there's another store I go to regularly that always has this kind of mood and this kind of environment. You can tell they focus hard on team building, everyone is friendly and supportive with each other, and that store is a delight to shop at as well as compared to the other store that now just feels meh. So what's my point with this? The way you act, your mood, directly affects how people feel around you. It also affects whether they're attracted to you or not. Honestly, it's like I say in my Academy, "People like people who make them feel good." That doesn't mean you have to pretend to be someone you're not. That doesn't mean you're a pushover. But being someone who's enjoyable to be around is critical. So this leads us to the first way to talk to women that will make them obsessed with you. Number 1 is to be a positive person to talk with. I'm not talking about being fake or overly silly. Those people aren't particularly interesting to talk to anyway. What I do mean though is do not be overly negative or pessimistic. It is exhausting to be around someone who's always talking about the negative or who's always complaining or who's always pointing out the bad in the world. Honestly, those are the kinds of people that most people try to avoid talking to. And if they have to talk to them, they try to get out of it as soon as possible. However, the reverse is also true. When you are a positive, faith-filled person, you are a very attractive person. It's magnetic. We can't get enough of those people. They're fascinating, they're uplifting, they're inspiring. We respect them. This is one of the traits that I like to call attractive by default. When you are a positive person to interact with, people are going to be obsessed with you. The second way to talk to women that just makes them obsessed with you is when you ask her questions. This is one of the easiest conversation tips in the world. It's one I love to share in my Academy as well. When you're understanding the basics of conversation, even if all you do is focus on just asking her questions, you are going to be a fun person to talk to. And here's why. When people ask us questions about ourselves, I mean, as long as they're not like prying inappropriate questions, but you're a smart man, you're not going to do that. But when people ask us questions about ourselves, we tend to know the answers. And we like talking about ourselves. It kind of makes us feel cool, kind of makes us feel important. And so when you ask her questions about herself, very easily keeps the conversation going. And as a bonus, if she's someone who's high value, who tries to be good at conversation as well, she should ask you many of the same questions right back. And so now you get to share about you as well. So it helps you connect with each other and get to know each other better, and it just makes the conversation so much easier. So it's not so much about what you say, Often it's a lot more about what you ask. Sometimes I get questions at this point, people saying things like, "Great, Melannie, but I can't even get this far. These are great conversation tips, but what if you can't even get to the point where you have a conversation with her?" That's frustrating, right? If you want to start talking to her, you need to first attract her and approach her, right? But, um, "how exactly do you do this?" Well, if you're wondering this, I've got good news for you. It's time to watch my free masterclass. That's where you will learn how to permanently transform how women respond to you. You'll also finally understand what's been holding you back from the love you deserve. You don't have to stay stuck anymore. You'll also learn how to create that authentic, deeply connected, godly relationship that you truly desire. If you've never seen it before, all you have to do is go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. /masterclass. I will also put a link for you in the description below and a link in the pinned comments. No matter where you are on your dating relationship journey, the insights there are ridiculously powerful. And this is especially true if you're saying, "Melannie, I just feel stuck. I don't know what to do." Okay, I do. Just being real with you, I do. And that's why I've provided that training for you. So there's a link in the description below or a link in the pinned comment or just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass. Okay, the next way to talk to women that makes them obsessed with you is to talk in stories. So you already know the trick to ask questions. Another fabulous thing to do is when somebody asks you a question or if something comes up, explain it through a story. As humans, we love stories. Like, we're obsessed with them, to be perfectly honest. And the kind of people who reply in stories are fascinating to us. So for example, you could say, "This actually reminds me of when I was in such and such a location and something happened." Or when you're asking her a question, ask her the story behind it. "So what's the story behind your name? That's a really "Unique name. I haven't heard it before. I like it. What's the story behind it? Where's it from?" So talking in stories makes you a lot more interesting, makes you a lot more memorable, and just more fun to talk to. By the way, that reminds me of a story. No, I'm just kidding. I don't know why I just wanted to say that. To be honest, I could probably come up with a story for that. You know, anyway, okay, moving on. My next tip for how to talk to women that makes get them totally obsessed with you is to be involved in interesting things. As a matter of fact, I do have a story to go with this one. I went through— this was several years ago. I used to love going country swing dancing. And I was just starting to build up my coaching and I was working insane hours. All I did was work. And when I would meet somebody new and they'd say, "Hey, what did you do this week?" or "What kind of fun things do you do?" my answer was usually, "I work." And that was it. And I quickly realized, "Wow, I sound like such a boring person." And I wasn't very interesting to talk to because all I did was work. This is true for everyone. If we're not involved in interesting things, we don't have anything interesting to say. Not only that, but people don't particularly see us as interesting. Interesting people. So being someone who's involved in things is going to make you fascinating. So many people are way too focused on being mysterious, which is actually pretty cold. Instead, focus on just being fascinating. When we're fascinated by someone, we can't get enough of them. So what hobbies do you enjoy? What trips have you always wanted to take that you can start taking? What can you start learning and involving yourself in so that you are a more interesting person? Because often when we feel like we have nothing to say, it's because we truly don't. So start doing things and you will have much more interesting things to say. Now before we get to the next tip, I have a favor I need to ask you guys. And I'm gonna be perfectly honest, this is a little vulnerable for me. I'm a little nervous to talk about this. But you know me, I'm transparent with you guys, and I don't believe in beating around the bush, as the saying goes. If you are enjoying this video, or frankly anything I publish, would you please consider sharing it with a friend? I'm gonna be real with you guys. I'm really struggling with YouTube right now. And I don't want to because I love making these videos for you. I really do. But some things have changed with YouTube over the last several years. And they will not promote me because I say I'm Christian. They just won't. If I say that I am Christian in the video or mention God in any kind of respectful way, I am not allowed to promote it. I have to either take it out or not say it. And I'm really struggling with that, as I'm sure many of you can understand. In addition to that, I used to be one of the top 10 channels on YouTube in this industry. I'm not anymore. I'm really struggling to get views. There are a lot of accounts that put a lack of clothing in their thumbnails and other things, and they are getting a lot more attention than I am. So I'm— again, guys, this is really vulnerable for me, but I'm really struggling with YouTube and I don't want to. Too. For me, it's not really so much about the views, it's more about the impact. I am passionate about helping people, and it's really hard for me to reach them right now. In addition to that, I need to make a living too. It's important for me to be able to pay my bills, and I know a lot of people think, "Oh hey, if you're on YouTube, you're a millionaire." Guys, that is not true. There are some millionaires on YouTube, but most people aren't really making that much on YouTube. I make very little on YouTube. Most of my— the vast majority of my income actually comes from people joining my Academy. I'm so passionate about sharing the stuff there, but I can't share it with people if they don't know about me. And because YouTube refuses to promote me, I'm kind of struggling, kind of stuck. So if you have enjoyed this video or if there's another another video you have enjoyed and you would consider sharing that with a friend, it would mean a lot to me. Thank you! And please leave a comment because comments do let YouTube know that you enjoy the video. So I know that was heavy and I don't want to bring down the mood, but I'm being real with you. I'm struggling to make YouTube videos right now because it costs me time and money and YouTube isn't really working with me here. So please leave a comment and please share with a friend. Thank you so much! Let's keep going with how to talk to a woman to make her obsessed with you. My next tip might surprise you a little bit. It's to listen. Yes, talking involves talking, but it also involves listening to the other person. And sometimes, especially when we're nervous, we spend a lot of time thinking about what we're going to say next, or trying to say the right thing, or maybe we're overthinking which question we will ask next. But remember to pause and listen to her. We all want to feel listened to. We all want to feel understood. And so pausing and truly listening to the other person, it does amazing things to connect the two of you. And she's going to be thinking, "Wow, he listens to me." "Hey, he cares about me." And it's also going to help you because you'll actually remember what it is you talked about. You'll remember what she said. So as small as it might sound, it's really not small. Remember to pause and listen to her. It will help her feel important, which will automatically make you more important to her. And now we're to my favorite tip for how to How to talk to a woman to make her obsessed with you. I mean, all the tips are good, but this one is my favorite. Flirt! Flirt with her! Flirting is a fabulous way to keep conversation exciting. Flirting is a wonderful way, as long as it's done appropriately, of course, is a wonderful way to pursue her. It's to show her that you're that confident masculine man and you're attractive and you think she's attractive. And this is just when those butterflies start going crazy. Flirting with her also helps the conversation be really memorable. It's like, "Oh, that cute thing he said!" And then she, like, wants— if you're texting, she screenshots the text. If you did it in person or whatever, she goes and she tells her friends about it. Flirting makes things very memorable. So don't be afraid to flirt. Obviously, you want to be appropriate in how you flirt. You want to make sure you're not being suggestive, and you want to make sure that you're not going overboard. Some people are like, "I have to be flirty 100%, 100% of the time," and it's overwhelming. So don't worry about that, but just kind of slip in those little flirty compliments, those little hints that it's like, "Oh, yeah, super attractive." It makes the conversation very very memorable, and makes you a fun person to talk to. Yes, it can make her obsessed with talking to you. Now let's do a recap of everything you just learned. Before we do, I'm going to remind you to watch that free masterclass. Again, whether you're thinking, "Hey, I can't even get a woman to talk to me," or you have a different relationship attraction struggle, doesn't matter what the struggle is, I've got the solution solutions for you. That's why I created this masterclass. So go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass or check out the link in the description below or the pinned comment. How to talk to a woman to make her obsessed with you. Number 1, be a positive person to talk to. Not somebody who's negative or complains or only talks about depressing things. When you're someone who's positive and fun to be around, you are magnetic. Number 2, ask her questions. You don't really have to worry so much about there being a lull in the conversation if you're asking questions. It makes you a very interesting person to talk to. Number 3, talk in stories. Whenever possible and appropriate, if she asks you a question or you're talking about a certain situation, turn it into some kind of a story. "Hey, this actually reminds me of when such and such happens," or "my trip to whatever." Number 4, Be involved in interesting things. It's kind of hard to have anything to talk about if you never do anything. But when you have interests and hobbies and things you're learning, it makes you an interesting person. And so your conversation is naturally going to be a lot more interesting. Number 5, listen. Sometimes it's not so much about what you say, it's about the other person feeling important and validated because you actually took the time to listen to them. Number 6, flirt! This is a great way to keep conversation exciting and interesting. It's a great way to pursue her and a fabulous way to make sure you are very memorable. Thank you so much for watching, my amazing friend! I hope you enjoyed this video. Again, please share with a friend and please leave a comment. If you don't yet follow me on social media, there are links in the description. Comment section below for that. Thank you so much again, my amazing friend, and have an amazing day! Doo doo doo doo doo! I'm trying to think of an end of the video word and it's not coming. All I can think of is food. You know. Apparently I want food right now. Okay, secret end of the video club! As I'm filming this video, this is the last video I will film before Thanksgiving here in the US, and we've gotta celebrate that because I'm grateful for you. So thank you for being here. And our word for the end of the video this week is grateful. So comment that. Never forget that you are awesome, and I'll see you next time.
