3 Principles and 3 Practices for Better Discipline

Most people don't realize the ending movie of their life is love scenes and connection scenes with other people where like these like meaningful moments, if you will, let's just call them meaningful moments. That's what you see at the end, meaningful moments. So if that is true. If it's true, then you have to purposely structure and build in meaningful moments so you love the movie at the end. I'll give you three principles for greater discipline. And then I'll tell you the actual three things to do to generate more discipline in such a way that your personal growth grows, that you feel like alive and connected and meaningful and joyous on this journey. Because that's what really matters. I mean, discipline sucks unless in some ways the outcome is progress, greater engagement and aliveness of life and greater success in whatever way you measure that. So the three principles of all of like discipline comes down to number one, mastering your schedule. I know that sounds so boring, but it is so absolutely fundamental to your focus, to your progress, to your health, to everything. It doesn't matter if you say, okay, I only want to, I only want to schedule one thing today. That's fine with me. I'm not trying to own every hour of your life. But that one thing better be awesome and it better be a needle mover. So scheduling show up when it's scheduled. And then the third thing which is most important as a principle, all of discipline. No discipline happens on a real consistent basis unless you have social connection. All of the research shows the most productive people, the most focused people, the people who are most fulfilled in doing meaningful work have attached a meaning that their focus, intention, their hard work is attached to social connection. Meaning I'm going to show up for this because it's going to make me a better mom or parent. I'm going to get healthy so I have more energy for the kids. I am going to do this project so my team and company grows so we serve more people and we make an impact. It's like the hard work must be attached to impact. But the impact isn't just self like, oh, I'll get this. It has to have a social connection. You have to have a reason to show up over and over and over for others. That's why we always teach in high performance. You have to have a little card that says, who needs me on my A game today? I am disciplined because I wouldn't be less disciplined doing a morning show. I'm more disciplined doing a morning show because Jamie's there, she's waiting on the other end. If I don't get there. I feel like a chump. So that's important. There's three principles, right? Schedule it, show up, attach social connection. But now here's the things I would do if you said, brennan, if you could only be disciplined about three things, what would you do? And it's not what you all think. It's totally not what you all think. And this is very much that makes me happy and progressive in life. So they're not sexy. The number one thing, if I could give anyone a discipline to always do. On the first of every single month, you do a whole life review. When that calendar hits one, as in the first of the month, you look at every major area of your life. You score yourself. You ask how you'd like to improve that, and what could you do this month? Because most people never improve their life because they never face their life. You have to look at it. So every first of the month. That's why, for those who are new to us, Growth Day began with Growth Day actually began because I said, let's do it on. Let's do our personal development on the first of the month. So I go live for two hours in Growth Day. So if you're not a member, go to growthday.com because I do a full personal development seminar on the first of every single month. Because I feel like if we start the month off, we nail that. We start it with good attitude, energy. But also you're looking into the month and asking, is the way I've scheduled this month going to help me move towards the lifestyle I want or the accomplishment of the major three projects I'm working on in my life?

And also, if we don't do this, I feel like it is so easy and how many people can relate to this? Or if you don't do this, all of a sudden you blink and you're like, oh, it's halfway through the month, or, oh, three months have gone by. I don't even know what's. How did this even happen? Right? How many times have we done that? Like, wait a minute, it's Thanksgiving. Like, wait a minute, it's spring break. And it's like your life flies by in a blur.

This is for those who have the High Performance Planner. You know this page super well. This is your monthly review section in the High Performance Planner. And what it does is it makes you look at the 10 major areas of your life, from health to mental, emotional, partner or love, family, friends, mission, experiences, spirit, finances, learning, growth. It helps you reflect on the things you Learned in the last month. Learn about others, learn about yourself, what you're grateful for, the main priorities coming up, the decisions you needed to make or could make. Your monthly review and orienting yourself to your year goals and three year goals. And like, if I don't do that on the first of the month, what happens is the middle of the month? I don't. What am I doing? I might be showing up, but I'm showing up in a hot mess all the time because I don't have direction. So if I could give you anything, start the first of the month super clear about that month. If that's all you did, I promise you'd be more engaged with your life. Second thing I do, I believe another review is needed every Sunday. So Sunday, do your weekly review and your weekly planning. I don't care if it takes 10 minutes, an hour. I think it's important to go okay on Sunday. Is this upcoming week. Am I clear about what I want of that? Am I clear about how I can serve? Am I clear about these little slots of time? Do they make sense to me? I mean, just that it can take so fast. So third thing.

Yeah.

All right, listen. If I could give you three things to move the needle in your life. Number one is a month through on the 1st of the month, look out for them. And lo, please don't think that this or the Sunday review, which is the second point, is just about your schedule. You are reviewing the major parts of your life. You're connecting with them, you're scoring them. You're asking what more you desire there. And what's something simple you can do to improve that area of your life each month? It doesn't have to be huge life transformation, because, look, transformation takes time. You might just like this little thing, this little. This thing. But being aware of it, that's important. So the monthly, then the Sunday, and then you have. I just. I know everyone's already wrote this in their things and they just know it to be true. You've got to win your mornings again and bring intention for, I think, two things every day. If we can bring intention for two things every day, we win that day. To me, the first one is I'm going to bring the joy to this day. I'm going to choose my attitude. I'm going to develop a mindset that is unshakable, that is joyful, that is I'm going to be in every room. It doesn't matter if I'm the loudest. I'm going to try to be the Most generous and grateful person in that room. I'm just going to bring good energy. Be responsible for the energy you are projecting onto others and into this world. So I think for me, that intention of. I have an intention to have joy each day I'm going to have some fun. I'm going to make that happen. Because sometimes life doesn't do it for you. They just hasn't. So I'm going to bring the joy. So that's my. That's an intention. So what I'm saying is the third discipline is every day you have intentions for feeling life.

Yeah.

For me, feeling life means bring the joy. That's number one, I'm going to bring the joy. And number two, I'm going to make a moment with somebody today. Maybe I send them an audio. Maybe it's the way I look at my wife. Maybe it's the thing I call up my mom and. Or I sense a beautiful appreciation email or text to somebody. But every day I'm gonna bring the joy into the day and I'm going to make a moment. Because at the end of your life, I learned this face my death twice in my life. You remember these moments and scenes with other people. It's so important to realize that. And so you have to ask, are you going to have enough of those moments and scenes? Are they going to be at the end of your life? You kind of. If it's true. If it's true, you see a movie, what are the scenes of that movie going to be? You get to direct that. And I promise the scenes in the movie almost always have these beautiful connections with others. It's like most people don't realize the ending movie of their life is love scenes and connection scenes with other people where like these like meaningful moments, if you will, let's just call them meaningful moments. That's what you see at the end, meaningful moments. So if that is true. If it's true, then you have to purposely structure and build in meaningful moments. So you love the movie at the end. You know that you love the movie, that you want to watch the movie again, that you appreciate that you're going to bust out the good wine and have that good popcorn with that meaningful movie. And so every day, that's. Now that's mine. I'm going to bring joy to this day and I'm going to make moments.

Yeah, that's so good.

You might have different intentions. Maybe your intentions, like I'm going to do this thing as a mom or as a leader or as a. Whatever doesn't matter to me. But if you don't have the intention, the days just blaze by nothing. You can be working hard. You can show you can get your schedule down. You can have your calendar prioritized with all the tabs and all the different marker colors and everything else, but if there's no intention for feeling, you just. You were a good robot today.

Yep.

But you didn't.

And we've all had days like that where we feel like a human doing right, not a human being. That's so good, Brendan. That's so good. And a moment, a meaningful moment can be different for every single person. But how many days do we go through and we forget and a meaningful moment is free? You know what I mean? It's like, how many days do we forget to do that? That's so powerful. I love that.

I love that you have so to me, that's funny that the discipline is to have the intention right. Every day, when you have the intention or every moment or every experience, when you have the intention, it turns out better. Like this morning we talked about. Jamie and I before we started, we talked about, like, what do we. What's the show about today? What's our theme for the week? Our theme for this week is focus and discipline. Our theme for the week, the month in growth day is confidence. And if you're not a growth day member yet, please sign up@growthday.com because last week I taught two hours on confidence. Jonathan Fields from the good life project taught, you know, over an hour and a half on confidence. And so did Dave Hollis and. And they took questions and did coaching. And upcoming we've got Mel Robbins, Jenna Kutcher, Jamie. Oh, my gosh. David Bach is this week. I mean, it's going to be epic, guys. So go to growthday.com because you can get live coaching twice a week with us and you get the replays for less than a dollar. A frigging day for the year. I mean, it's unbelievable. So go to growthday.com it's my favorite thing and my favorite thing.

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Like, oh, okay, we're overtime. I love you guys. Listen, I want to remind you, every day you can choose a new attitude, you can improve, you can take that step. You can show up for your schedule. Just show up. Remember. Remember to do the things we talked about today. But remember, you're stronger than you think. Future holds good things for you. And every day is a good day to grow. So go have an awesome week.