A single-speaker YouTube monologue (Brendan) arguing that active, practiced presence—mindful attention, gratitude, and connection—is essential for feeling fulfilled. He emphasizes that presence must be trained (daily practices like breathing, pausing, and intentionally observing moments), warns that digital distractions make people unable to stay present, and illustrates how appreciating small moments (e.g., a dinner) accumulates into long-term meaning and fulfillment.
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When you fill life with presence, you feel fulfilled. It takes an active participation. On your point, you're not just going to show up one day and feel fulfilled. You have to fill the day with those senses of gratitude and meaning and really, I would say connection. If you don't do that, I promise the days just blur by. You have to learn to practice presence. Practice presence. Being here, fully in the moment, alive, vibrant, or at least attentive. Right? Snapping your brain out of that reactive, like, go with the flow mode to no being here. That oldest advice in all of personal development about presence and awareness, about being with the flow, about being in the moment. Every spiritual tradition has taught it as being central to human happiness and connection. This has been stolen from us. Because of this. I really believe. I'm stunned when I hang out with people that they can't be present for three minutes without wanting to scroll through something. I mean, they can't be. I mean, even four or five minutes, they can't do it anymore because they have trained themselves with millions of swipes to be not present. And I believe that meaning and fulfillment, they become too fleeting when we haven't learned to be really present. And I think that's important. Learning to be really fully present and pulling that from ourselves. There's plenty of times. I mean, if you saw my schedule, you're like, how do you get present? I'm like, I've trained myself. Otherwise I can just be pulled in the next thing. There's always a million things going on around me, and I have to learn to just zoom right in and be here with you. You have to teach yourself to do that too, because the more days that blur by, the less sense of meaning or fulfillment you have. You can be busy, but the days don't blur by, right? I'm incredibly busy. I'm actually this last two years. I can't believe how busy we got. But during that time, present, forcing myself each day to get present so I can recognize and appreciate those little moments, so I can create the connection with other people, so that I can sense that spiritual aliveness of being here now versus hoping one day to arrive to something. And that practice of cultivating presence of. I would say, and I know people don't like when I use this phrase, but demanding presence, I demand of myself to be present because I know when I'm not, I'm like, brendan, get present. Okay, So I might bounce in place, take 10 deep breaths just to reset my brain and my body. Maybe you do it right now with me. Just stand up Wherever you're at, bounce in place a little bit, take 10 deep breaths, recenter yourself to the moment, and keep going. And that way you can observe life. Many people, they'll work their whole career, then they'll retire, and then they'll retire, and they'll finally be like, oh, wow, look at the color of the trees. This is amazing. Wow. Life looks pretty good. And they didn't even see it for five, six years. They missed all of it. Even though they were amidst all of it, they just missed it. You have to teach yourself to be with it, to be here. Meaning and fulfillment is so much. As much as we can define it and have a destiny mindset, we can feel it. Like, I do it for, like, if I have a great dinner with Denise, like, things go great, we just have a nice conversation, I'll walk away, and I might be, like, putting things away and just literally think in my mind, what a blessing. God, I made it. Thank you so much for this blessing to be here with my wife. What a great day. What an amazing moment we just had. You know what? Years later, I'm going to cherish that dinner. Simple as that. It's what we say to ourselves in the minute and after the minute that really defines how we feel over the long term. Isn't it true? I mean, the little moments, if you can celebrate them, be there for them, give thanks for them. I believe the more you give thanks for the moments in your life, the more meaning you find. The more you give thanks for the moments in your life, the more you feel fulfilled. Even if you feel years away, even if the next big thing is out there, it's okay. Right now, you're feeling it. That's what presence is. It's about feeling the day more. You hear me Teach this Now for what, 20 years? Like, you have to learn to feel life. Life. If we don't feel it, then what's it about? And you're not just going to suddenly one day feel it, you know, because you drank a bunch of coffee. Maybe you are, but you're. You're gonna. You're gonna imagine me on caffeine one day. You're just gonna. You're gonna teach yourself to feel the day and feel the moments more. You're gonna observe more, you're gonna breathe more, you're gonna have more intention. And as you learn to feel the day, when someone says, hey, do you feel fulfilled about your life? You're like, I do. Because you are filling life with presence. When you fill life with presence, you feel fulfilled it takes an active participation. On your point, you're not just going to show up one day and feel fulfilled. You have to fill the day with those senses of gratitude and meaning and really, I would say connection. If you don't do that, I promise. The days just blur by, and the more they blur by, the more you just stack on everybody else's reactions, needs, desires, drives, distractions, their meaning. And one day you show up and you're just. You're really just a bag of everyone else's intentions and needs and drives and labels and meanings. And in that place, you're not autonomous. In that place, you don't get to experience that individual sense of meaning and fulfillment we've talked about from the very beginning, because you didn't take the time to define it consistently enough. Sam.
