Most people act on their first impulse without pausing to think deeper. The speaker argues that changing your internal dialogue and questioning your initial thoughts before you speak or act is how you break free from reactive patterns and make intentional choices instead.
The easiest way to change your life is change how you talk to yourself. The easiest way to change how you talk to yourself is to start directing yourself. A lot of people have an inner monologue. Things are happening in the brain, right? They're hearing thoughts, they're thinking of things. And most of those are stimulus and response type of things. You kind of wonder things come up like the conscious is just rolling through. Lots of things that may be tied to precedent or prediction. We all think we're so deep as humans, but your brain actually doesn't work that way. And you can recognize this the more you study neuroscience and the more you work with people. People kind of have a flash of insight or thought. Very few people. After the first thing comes to mind, very few people go deeper. Very few people go to the second thing, the third thing, the fourth thing, the fifth thing, the first thought comes out their mouth. Do you have anybody in your life that you wish would pause their mouth and think one level deeper before opening their mouth? Has that ever been you been me before?
