Daniel Borschel explains how we create conflict by projecting fears and past experiences onto neutral situations. He shares how his childhood around violence made him see threats that weren't there, damaging relationships over invented problems.
Most of the conflicts we have in our life happen because we're placing meaning onto a situation, a person, an event that honestly isn't there. Like we invented the meaning based on our preferences, not reality, based on our worries or our fears, not even what they actually said or did. Have you ever had that thing where you accuse somebody, you get mad at somebody, you get in a tearful, frightful upset and all of a sudden they're like, yo, I wasn't even, that's not even what I what's wrong with you? You know, especially when I was younger, I was just not good in relationships. I was like short fuse, as they say. Like, I grew up in a situation where there was so much violence and conflict around me, like my head was on swivel looking for like danger. And so I brought that danger mode into a lot of relationships where there wasn't any danger.
