In this informal monologue, Rafael Dejan (joined by Dr. John) stresses the critical need to keep marriage and business distinct. He explains that business is a vocation while marriage is a separate life project, and mixing the two can create stress and conflict. Rafael shares a personal story about hiring his girlfriend as an employee, which led to blurred boundaries, constant work‑related interruptions at home, and tension in the relationship. From this experience he concludes that individuals must clearly define whether they are seeking a wife, a life partner, or a business partner, and that each role should have its own defined responsibilities and limits. He urges listeners to establish clear lines between personal and professional roles to protect both the marriage and the business.
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Hey, my friend! What a wonderful day! What a wonderful day again! This is your friend Rafael Dejan, and I'm here with Dr. John. We are, you know, coming your way from Dallas. Yeah, you know, from Dallas, Texas. So hey, let's have fun. Let's have fun. I think it's really, really important, first of all, to. separate a marriage with the business. Uh, business is just another thing you do is, you know, that, that, that could be your vocation. That's what you do. And then marriage is another project too. Uh, so you have to really, really define and know that, hey, I have this business I'm working on and I have this, I have, uh, this beautiful, uh, family that I'm building. I'll share something that will really shock you. When I was single, actually, I, you know, I had a girlfriend and then I make her quit her job and come and work for me. So, because I thought, well, if we are together, it's going to be very, very suitable. We start relationship and And you know, I think she was accounting. And I start, you know, after work when we go home, I will carry the the the the the the the stress of the the job back home because if she didn't send all checks out and all that, I mean, I would still have her force her to do that. So at the point, I didn't have that defined line with. separate, you know, the worker, my assistant, and my wife. Um, so it gives us a lot of bad, bad, bad taste. From time to time, we didn't know where, uh, to separate. Some— certainly if we, uh, you know, for, you know, we go out to eat, I can get a phone call from a customer for something and just ask her, so do you send the invoice here and all that? And then it ruined our day. Uh, from that moment, I really, really, you know, learned how to really define. I say, okay, do I need a wife or do I need a girlfriend or I need a partner? So, um, I, I would say make sure you are looking for wife. If you are looking for wife, get the wife, you know. If you are looking for a partner, get a partner, uh, business partner. Uh, you have life partner and you have business And I think we should do the same also. Even the wife have to have that defined line. Who am I? What type of help am I bringing in the relationship? Am I a wife or am I a business partner? So that's what I would say. We definitely have to make sure we define that and also understand the difference between a wife and a business partner. Okay.
