In this conversational interview, Miss Jaiya and Dave Asprey explain the Erotic Blueprint framework, which categorizes sexual arousal into five primary blueprints—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shape‑shifter—each defined by a one‑sentence overview. They describe how the Kinky blueprint splits into psychological and impact‑oriented kink, introduce a simple color‑coded edge system (red = stop, yellow = approaching edge, green = go), and discuss the Shape‑shifter’s multilingual love style and its shadow side of over‑adapting. The hosts share demographic findings (e.g., most people with vulvas identify as Energetic or Sensual, many with penises identify as Shape‑shifters) and note common pairings such as Energetic + Sexual, highlighting how mismatched blueprints can feel like being on different planets. Finally, they emphasize how learning one’s blueprint unlocks richer intimacy, enables clearer communication of desires, and helps partners avoid confusion.
Tell me about the erotic blueprints. How many are there? And just give me the one sentence overview of each.
Yeah, there's five erotic blueprints. The energetic is someone who's turned on by anticipation, space, tease, longing, yearning, not having the thing.
Energetic.
Uh huh. And the sensuals turned on by all of their senses being ignited. So that's taste, touch, smell, closeness, eating something delicious. The sexual is what we think of as sex in our culture. Penetration, nudity, orgasms. And then we go to the kinky. And the kinky is what we've been talking about. It's the taboo, it's impact, it's. But it's whatever's taboo for you. So it's that edge for you personally in kk.
So for me, like if someone tried to give me tail, it'd be so.
Taboo, it might blast you off and add or something.
Hit me with kale. I've been very bad.
No, I know. Now I know your secret. Now I know. Now I know the way in. I'm just gonna offer kale, have an orgasm and eat kale at the same time.
That's just rude. Okay, we're not going there. That's a yellow. That's a yellow.
That's a yellow.
Okay guys, that's the four thing most of the time. Red means we have to stop now. Yellow means I'm getting close to my edge. And well, you don't really say it, but green means everything's good.
So good to go, good to go. And then there's impact oriented. So there's psychological oriented kink and impact oriented kink. And then, and then the final one's a shape shifter and that's someone who's turned on by all of it. So it's, it's all the ones that I just talked about. And they really have the superpower of being multilingual, so they can speak all the different languages. Great lovers. Shadow side. All of them have shadow sides. But the shadow side of the shapeshifter is that they shapeshift all the time to please other people. And so they're not all the. All the time, all the way fed.
Got it. Spending a whole day with Kimmy Inch, learning your content through one of your instructors was really remarkable because, I mean, I've read your book, I've done my surveys, I've had you on stage, right, Familiar with your work, but just talking through it and really hearing other people's stories, stories about like how, oh my God. Understanding that about myself, like lets me finally ask for what I want was really. It was really meaningful, I would say. I think everyone who. Who just got to go deep, it sort of unlocks this idea that, wow, I never recognized that pattern in myself. Now that I know the pattern, I know the areas where I can likely mine to find the richness in my intimacy and. And then I can ask my partner for it. And your partner is going to be totally clueless. Right. There's like, how would you know otherwise? You just sort of stumble into it.
Yeah. I mean, I think that it's just like languages, you know, we. We have this thing about sexual incompatibility and I don't think that we're sexually incompatible. I don't think that we're mismatched. I think oftentimes we just don't have enough information about sexuality. And so because we don't know the blueprints and. And then there's. On our quizzes, the majority of people with vulvas, people who identify as women, say that they are energetic and sensual. And the majority of people with Cox say that they are mostly shape shifters, which was surprising, I think, to a lot of people, because a lot of people think sexuals would be what most men would identify as, but they're really across the board. And so we've got these whole areas of our sexuality, especially with energetics, the majority of people have not even started to explore there or kinky, you know, that we're not. We're not learning in. So it's like whole sex of sets of languages that we don't know how to speak. And oftentimes the pairing I see most is an energetic with a sexual. And that's. And I think that's just because they come to me because they. They're really struggling. But that pairing, it seems like they're on two very, very different planets.
