Multiple speakers discuss how to tell if someone is trustworthy, weighing the balance between giving people a chance and protecting yourself. They explore updating your expectations based on evidence rather than staying naïve or cynical.
How do people know whether they're dealing with someone who's trustworthy or not? Because you're going to not feel safe, you're not going to feel good if you're surrounded by people who are takers. Of course. And again, the perspective that I'm offering is not that we should replace cynical blanket negative assumptions with Pollyannish blanket positive assumptions. I think I was a little naive. I'm, I'm a lot better now, but I'm not cynical. Yeah, like show me that you're trustworthy and if you show me once you're not, you're out. Yeah, I mean, I think that's fair. And you know, economists talk about is a process known as trust but verify. That is if you want to learn about somebody, maybe don't start with your assumptions about them, good or bad. Try to again, think like a scientist and act like a scientist. Try to give people a chance to show you who they are and then process that information, update your expectations about them.
