In this monologue the speaker shares how personal experiences and studies of Taoist and Tantric traditions led to the view that sexual activity can be a powerful source of creative and life‑force energy when approached consciously. He introduces a simple "barometer" question—whether sex leaves you feeling energized, revitalized, and transformed—to gauge whether one is harnessing or wasting sexual energy. The talk outlines gender‑specific ways energy is traditionally lost (men through ejaculation, women through menstruation) and presents breath‑work and energy‑recirculation techniques that can minimize that loss for both sexes. By applying these practices, the speaker claims individuals can channel sexual energy into heightened creativity, health, mental capacity, finances, and overall well‑being, challenging the common belief that sex exists in isolation from the rest of life.
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Bulletproof radio, a state of high performance. I want to know the differences for tapping into sexual energy for men and women. And I want to go with, how do women do it? But then how do men do it? And. Or is it the same?
All right, well, there's a few things to address there. I mean, look, in my own personal experiences, before I read anything about sex or really, you know, study studied anything, I had in my own experiences, these sense of sex being this portal for transformation, right? Like this idea, like there were other states of consciousness that would help to me. I would emerge out of my sexual encounters feeling really inspired and more of myself. I used to use the term self realization. That's how I felt. It's like these parts of me that have been superimposed culturally that weren't really me, that I'd adapted over the years fell away, and I became more of my true self. And so I'd already had this instinctive sense that sex was much more powerful than we were being led to believe. And then when I read about Taoism and Tantra, those things just echoed the experiences that I'd already been having. And then years later, I was, yeah, definitely tickled to find that lone chapter 10 in Napoleon's what is It? Think and Grow Rich book about sex and transmutation. It's written in 1927, right? So he's interviewing all of these moguls about how they can become. They're patterns of success to try to give a model to other people. And then he has this all important chapter about sex and using your sexual energy as a creative power source. And so all of these things have echoed the, as I said, what was opening up to me through my own personal experiences and then through my own studies, especially in Taoist philosophy, using more techniques like, say, harnessing breath work. So look, the big barometric question that I ask people is, does sex leave you feeling energized, revitalized, transformed, and like it changed your life? And if the answer is no, then you're doing it wrong. And that's not a moral judgment as it is as much as it is to say that there's a way of having sex that gives you energy or takes away energy, right? That leaves you feeling like you want to go and run a marathon. And that's the big question I give to men, right? Is if you're practicing breathing techniques and recirculating your sexual energy after you have sex, whether you orgasm or not. Because I think there's still ways that men can have orgasms. But if they're recirculating that energy. They'll find a very minimal loss of energy that they want to go to the gym. They literally want to go for a run rather than passing out, which tends to be the default action that happens after a man has had an orgasm. And then so in that whole tantra daoist philosophy, the concept is that men lose a lot of energy through ejaculation. And what I've seen and witnessed in my own relationships and with clients over the years is that if men are taught to breathe and recirculate that energy, then they can, even if they have an orgasm, they will lose a minimum of energy. Right. So there would be a question about whether if you're really deeply practicing this recirculation and breath work, whether you are truly losing energy. I suspect you still are, but much less than if you weren't practicing this conscious breathing. And then for women, there's a concept that women lose a lot of that energy, not so much through orgasms and unconscious sex, but through menstruation, through unconscious menstruation. And so there's techniques to have women recirculate that energy in the same way. So rather than just dumping out that energy the way say men do at orgasm and many women do through their menstruation, and they feel the similar symptoms. They feel tired and low energy and even depressed and like immobilized. That's a symptom that we've lost energy. Right. And so I'm all about this barometer. What's giving us energy or taking away energy. And then there's techniques for both men and women to revive themselves and become revitalized through these experiences. And even women, I would say, during sex, can practice the same kinds of breathing techniques and gain more energy. And so people will say to me, or they have this assumption that, you know, my favorite thing about sex is like the pleasure and the orgasm. Like, well, that's great, but I'm really into the self realization and I'm really into the creative power and flow that I get. Like, I'll have sex and run to my computer. You know, I noticed this early on, like, I would just be so inspired with all these ideas is that I would run to my computer and start writing them all down. And that's again, that's a barometer for me of whether we're taking this energy and then tapping into it, harvesting this energy as a power source. And then we have it available to channel into every other aspect of our lives. And that affects everything from our intimate relationship, our health, our body weight, our mental capacity, our creativity, our finances. I found that there's a direct correlation to how tapped in people are to their sexual energy. Energy and every other aspect of our lives. And yet most people don't make that connection because they've been taught there is no connection. Right. Your sex life kind of exists in isolation in some remote port part of your life. And it's not. Has no, you know, influence on anything else that you do.
