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Two people discuss the difference between wanting something and being attached to getting it. You can hold your desires lightly, stay open to other results, and remember you have no right to the outcome, only to the effort you put in.
Two people discuss the difference between wanting something and being attached to getting it. You can hold your desires lightly, stay open to other results, and remember you have no right to the outcome, only to the effort you put in.
So, the trick is not to not have high expectations, it's to not be attached to those high expectations. Right, right. And it's really subtle and nuanced, but you can feel the difference of like, I can like, oh, I imagine them saying yes. I'm so excited about it. But I'm not like attached to being right that that's what should happen. And I'm genuinely like open and curious, like, okay, if they say no, how could that be just as good or better? Right? It's kind of like holding a paradox of like, I really want it to happen and I don't know for sure that that's what should happen. So it's like you can hold it lightly. Like I think about that a lot.
Yeah, I've heard that people say like the outcome, like it's a helpful frame of like you have the right to the, to the, like to your dream and to the conversation. You can desire whatever you want. Totally. You have no right to the outcome. That's just—
Right.
You're not entitled to that happening. Yeah. And when you're finding attached to the outcome, then— You know, most things you can't actually control whether it happens.
Yeah.
