New and Scary

Hi, guys. My name is Donny Rouse, and you are listening to the podcast One Life, New and Scary. Usually, everything that is new in our lives is gonna require us breaking through some kind of little fear. And let's identify what is exactly is that fear that we encounter whenever we try something new. It is the fear of the unknown, the fear that maybe something may break, maybe there might be a problem, maybe our safety will be at risk. Right. It's the unknown. But if you want to live a life that is full, rich, and has those emotions you want, it's going to require you to break through that fear, break through that resistance, because that's where growth happens. And that's where, like, it's like the. There's an analogy where the Juicy Fruit grows. It's like that top branch that you have to reach for. That's where all the good stuff happens. Not the low fruit. The low fruit are like those basic actions that just give you those mediocre results. And I have the perfect experience because what I'm about to share with you, it was like an epiphany I had. Well, I mean, it's a lesson I've always learned, but I was repairing my espresso machine, and I had never taken apart an e61 group head. If you're not familiar with the e61 group head, it's like the group head is the part where you. If you're making an espresso shot, it's where you plug the portafilter in and you put the espresso and you plug the portafilter, and that's what. Where the espresso comes out into your cup. So in order to like, to do maintenance on this, on this group head, I literally had to take apart the entire group head. And there's all these different valves that are in there. But having never done that, I was a little bit intimidated by it. Having never done it. I called one of my friends, my friend Tim. I said, hey, Tim. I left him a message and several texts and maybe several messages. I said, hey, Tim, can you give me a call back? I'm trying to figure out how to do this, and I don't want to mess it up. Right? You know, that was the fear. The fear was like, I was going to mess it up, and in some way I was going to break the group head, which is impossible because it's literally a mass of metal. And if anything were to break, I could always replace the part. Right? So what is the fear? And so I called him up. He Never texted me back and he never answered any of my, any of my calls. So I was looking at the machine, I'm like, well, should I start it or should I not start it? And when I came to that realization though, listen, like, really there's, there's nothing that can go wrong, right? Because I could always get a new spare part if I need it. I proceeded, I started to take apart the group head. I also looked at YouTube and watched a few videos, which helped. But when I took apart the group head, I was looking at all these parts and at first, having seen the inside of this thing for the first time, I was a little bit frazzled. I'm like, alright, well what if I, you know, like, what if I put the wrong thing in the wrong place and what if it doesn't go on right? And all. Anything that could go wrong with this, which is very, very limited, was actually going through my head. And as I'm doing this, I end up taking the group head apart like probably twice because I may have realized that I might not have done something right. So I took it apart, did it again. But the lesson I want to get here is as a result of going through like doing this for the first time, what do you think my experience was after I finished? I'll tell you after I finished. I had, well, first of all, my espresso machine worked like it was brand new. But I had this confidence now that, oh well, you know what, when I have to do it the next time, it's going to be easy. I know exactly what to do and it'll take me a fraction of the time. I actually wanted it to make sure one of the videos I had watched, they didn't really show them lubing like the inside of the group head and the different parts that needed lubricating. So I was like, oh crap, now I literally have to take the thing apart again. So I literally dismantled the entire group head again and put it back together. And when I say a fraction of the time, it was probably like a fifth of the time. So why did it come so easy the second time around? Because I already had that first experience. Like those fears were exposed and they were like nullified. Now when I went back to do it, I had the confidence and the know how, how to do it in an instant to the point where now if anyone were to ask me way, listen, I have to take apart a group head. Can you help me? I would know exactly what to do, what to tell them and how to guide them. So how does that apply to your life. Right. Anything that requires us to grow is going to be scary in the beginning because we have to step beyond the box that we're in. We got to step beyond that barrier. But there's something that happens when you do that, when you step beyond that barrier. It's like you create a new barrier. It's like imagine you own 100 acres in. I'm just Nebraska, right? And you have your acreage enclosed by a fence. And when you realize that, like, you know, when you jump over, like the edge of your yard and you realize that, you know what, there's more room here, and you extend your fence out now, your boundaries have expanded, there's more room, there's more growth. That's the same thing that happens when you try something new for the first time and you lean into that fear. So let's. Let's pull it. Let's pull it all together and see how can we apply this to the real world, to your life? Let's start by thinking, well, what is a fear that you have? What is something you've been putting off because you're afraid of a failure or you're afraid that things may mess up? You're afraid that it's not going to be safe? I don't know, whatever that fear is, what is something, an action or a task you've been putting off? And then it helps sometimes just to be frank with yourself and understand, well, what is the worst that can go wrong, right? A lot of the time we will make a negative result seem like it's the end all, when the end all is really like death, right? There's nothing that you can't rebound from. So the next question is, all right, well, if you were to partake in this action and it were not to go in the right the way you had planned, would you be okay? 99.9% of the time, the answer is yes. And then if you can imagine yourself completing it to satisfactory or better than satisfactory, how would it feel get associated with those feelings? And if you're able to do that, what else can you do? Anytime you try something new, one of the benefits, and if you could reframe yourself to think of it in this way, it will help tremendously. Because anytime you try something new or you attempt something new, there's a lesson to be learned. You learn something. For example, when I roast coffee, I'm always chasing after this superior cup of coffee. So as a result, sometimes I'll try to tweak my roast to see if I can get to make it a better cup. 99% of the time, I achieve, if not better, slightly different, but. And I learned something, right? Because there have been times where I would beat myself up like, oh, man, this is not the result I expected. And when I reframe it and be like, all right, well, what did I learn? Oh, my God. Well, I learned that by making, but by manipulating the curve in this way, it results in this flavor. Wow, that was worth the experience. So, again, whenever you do a new experience, what you're going to gain from it is experience, right? Is a lesson, too. So there's never anything that is unrepairable. So I encourage you guys to go after whatever that item is, that item that you're afraid of that you've been putting off. Because whatever the fear is, get associated with what those feelings are of actually doing it to satisfaction, doing it and getting it right. Because I promise you, even if you don't get it right the first time, if you go back and do it a second, third, fourth time, it's going to be easier. You're going to pick up on new lessons that you learned from doing it those previous times, and you will get it right. I hope you enjoyed this podcast, guys. Thank you so much for tuning in. If you did, please give it a like a share you. If you have any questions, you can message me via Instagram at Donny D O N N Y R A U S God bless and I will see you again soon.