No Noise - Stop The Panic and Realign

Most people spend their entire life stressed without ever giving a single thought as to what it is they really want or what's important to them. See, I'm here to cut through all that noise, connecting you to yourself and the life that you were meant to live. I used to slave away at a corporate job that I hated, but I broke through the social norms and pursued my passion. As a result, I own my own coffee company. I'm espresso sommelier, and I get to travel the world. You too, can live a life that you love, but it starts with getting clear about what you want. It starts with a new decision. I'm your host, Donnie Rouse, and you are listening to the podcast One Life. No Noise Change can be extremely scary. Confronting your fears is. Can be really scary and maybe debilitating. But when you realize that it only takes a couple seconds of courage to conquer those fears. And then as a result of conquering those fear, that is how you grow and expand your boundary. And whatever used to scare you before now becomes insignificant. So aside from just taking action and expanding that boundary, it also helps to have good people around you, People who remind you of who you are, what you're about. This goes to say that no man is an island. You need people in your life, right? You wanna make a change. No person could do it alone. You need the people around you to help inspire that vision, remind you of what it is, see the things inside you that you cannot see. And also just encourage you to maybe see things from a different light. So I'm leading into an experience. I was at Art Basel last night, and I went to the Vienna Hotel here in Miami beach with my friend, and I wasn't even really planning on going out this. This evening. So I was like, all right. We went out and I. We went out to dinner, and my friend's like, what the hell are you wearing? I literally, because I was dealing with stuff in the apartment. I had, like. I had a T shirt, a black T shirt, and, like, a bathing suit on. He's like, we're going to dinner. He's like, you cannot go out like that. So after dinner, a great Turkish meal we had. He brought me back to my apartment. So I ran up to the apartment and kind of changed out my change out my shirt, and I had this. Just a polo shirt. I go back in the car. He's like, what are you doing? He's like, you can't. We're going to. Everyone is dressed up to the nines in Miami Beach. He's like, go put A collared shirt on. He's like, I know, it's fine. I'm just. I'm just commenting. And then I was like, nope. No, no, no. Turn around. So we go back to my apartment. I go back upstairs, throw on a black shirt, and now I am looking spiff. We head over to the Faena Hotel, and we're. We're just sitting there, like, just kind of browsing and just kind of observing the scene, because it definitely was a scene in Miami. Everyone dressed, you know, everyone. You know, everyone peacocking, trying to outdo the other person. And we're in this outdoor area and just looking around, notice people. There was one person that stuck out. This girl with blonde hair, and she had a golden smile. So she was talking with a couple of her friends. She looked up, she looked my way, and I noticed she kept looking at me. I was like, I mean, am I seeing this? Is she looking at someone behind me? What's going on here? But I noticed that as we would move around, she. Wherever she was, she would always peer up, smile, and then start talking with her friends again. So in my mind, I was like, all right, well, she's gonna come talk to me. I just have a feeling she's gonna come talk to me. That did not happen. My friend was in current, and I know he was coming from a very, very good place. He's like, donnie, come on. And he's like, pointing in that direction. I'm like, stop pointing. Don't draw attention. And I was starting to get very, very anxious and very, you know. And he's like, just go. And as he was saying this, it just increased the volume of the noise in my mind. Like, the self criticism, the fears were, like, overwhelming. And I love him for this. And then towards the. And as we're talking about this, and I'm like, telling him why, like, you're making me feel more awkward when the truth is that he can't make me feel anything. I am making myself feel that. Right? And it all came down from the fear of, like, worthiness, of approaching someone that I thought was very, very attractive. And so he. He's like, listen, whatever is going on in your head is. I mean, whatever you're thinking right now is only going on in your head. He's like, this is not the reality. And he's right, right? And it was very. It was advice that I had to swallow because it's advice that I give. So I was like, yeah. I was like, oh, my God, he's so right. But isn't it Difficult to stop the train once the train's going to right? Once. Once a ball is set in motion. Now all of a sudden you're like, shit. Like, how do I stop it? Like, there. There's, like, inertia. So we. He then proceeded to. So where she was standing, he then proceeded to walk in that direction. I'm like, I am going to kill you. And we're literally now, we're like, almost like, back to back with this group. And as he's sitting there furious, I'm, like, just giving him, like, the evil eye. And I'm like, telling him, wait until we leave this bar. And then I'm looking up, and I noticed that the girl looked up at me. And so my friend has continued to talk. He looks to the left, and this is what he told me afterward. And he said, he's like, I looked to the left, and then I looked back, and he was still talking, but I wasn't there. And I was actually. I went up to the girl and I said hello, and I started talking to her. And so as we're reflecting on it, and so to tell you about the experience itself. So the girl I met, she was from Sweden, living in New York City. And she was beautiful. Not just, like, physically beautiful, but I could tell she had a beautiful spirit. Like, her smile was just. It was the nicest smile. I mean, there's a lot of attractive people in Miami Beach. She stood out because her smile was just amazing. You can tell I'm a big smile person. And after the fact, you know, he was telling me, we were talking about this, and he was. You know, he was telling me how, like, he looked up and he's like, where's Donnie? And he. All of a sudden, I was over there talking. But what was going on in my mind, like, there was a lot of internal struggle there. But I. In my mind, without even knowing it, I knew that I had to do something. I knew that I had to. Like, there was pressure on myself. Like, you got to go talk. Talk to her. And there's this battle. And then. But I remembered, like, this. You know, it only takes one of my favorite quotes. And it's something great to remember, regardless of what it is. It only takes three seconds of courage. In this case, it only took one second of courage. I literally, as he was talking, I just said. I started to look up. I was like, okay, 1, 2, 3. And I swept in and just said, hey, where you from? And that was the conversation starter and the reason why I'm sharing this story with you is because the things that you're afraid of are very often the things that you must do. You know, after I spoke to her, I got her number. Then there was a whole other dialogue going on in my head. But the point I want to make right now is that when you step out, you push that border out. And whenever we push beyond our comfort zone, whenever we have the courage and we step out, we have a choice. We can now create a new wall and say, now this is my border. And then when you make that same decision again, you take those bricks apart and you go out five feet, or you can retract, or you choose to. You go over, you make a courageous move, but then you jump back over the wall because you're too scared. I'm sharing this with you because I want you to take advantage of those three seconds where you throw your body into it before your mind has a way of talking you out of it. And this is a way of. In essence, it's a way of really trusting your heart, because your heart knows exactly the actions you need to take. But you're afraid. Three seconds occurred. One, two, go. And then you go in that direction. And this could be many things, right? It's just something to lock you in, something to burn your boat so that you have to make and move in the direction of the thing you want. You know, life is multifaceted, right? It's not. It's never a. It's never a finish. There's never a finish line here. And I think one of the comforts in life is just knowing that. Because you realize that there's always another level. There's always gonna be a fear, a comfort zone that you gotta break through in order to get to that next spot. And I think it's one of the most beautiful things about life, is that we're constantly. It's in our DNA to want to grow and expand and become more. So when you are faced with one of those experiences where it feels scary and you're terrified, do the action anyways. Just count. Three, two, one, go. A big part of life is literally just showing up as well as not giving up. Because the more you give up, the more distinction you have, the more likely you are to progress. But showing up is the biggest factor. Because by showing up, all of a sudden, now possibilities open up. So I thought this story was. It just taught. It reinforced a lesson with me. One with, like the three, two, one. Courage, Just jump into it. But also, you know, just to share the reminder that all the thoughts in your head. Those are not reality. Those are just in your head. And when you look at life and say, you know what one of the paradoxes of life is that nothing really matters, right? Look at it. At the same time, everything really matters. The moment matters, but at the same time, nothing. It's a paradox. But when you realize that nothing really matters, like, I could meet a million people here. Tomorrow, everyone is going to go back home to wherever the hell they're from unless they live in Florida. But chances are I probably won't see them anyways. So there is. There really is just getting over the fear of doing it. But even if they were, even if I would see the person every day, what does it matter, right? And I say, not that it's what does it matter to say? Like, oh, well, who the hell gives a shit about anything, right? It doesn't matter. Not to say to be lazy, but what it is in the pursuit of your goals, when it's in pursuit of the things you want to bring into your life, but you're worried about what other people may think or what other people may do, what does it matter? 3, 2, 1. Make that giant step. Take the leap. Go after your one life. Hope you enjoy this. I got a kick out of it. Like, just reflecting on my night last night. I was like, man, what the heck was going through my mind? So I hope that in, you know, this, like, little internal strife that I had from this experience makes you laugh in some way, but also just gives you a lesson just to go out for it and do it anyways, to take a step, even if it scares you, take the leap. You will not regret it, I promise. If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with five people you know, invite them to listen to One Life podcast. That's how we get the word out about this, how we help more people, how we encourage more people to live their one life again. If you have any questions, you can send them to me via my website@www.donnyrouse.com. d o n n y r a u s.com as always, guys, thank you so, so much for tuning in. Remember, you only get one life. Live fully, live passionately, and most of all, live now. God bless you guys and I will see you again soon.