Success With Hardship - The Hardship Is Your Right of Passage

Most people spend their entire life stressed without ever giving a single thought as to what it is they really want or what's important to them. See, I'm here to cut through all that noise, connecting you to yourself and the life that you were meant to live. I used to slave away at a corporate job that I hated, but I broke through the social norms and pursued my passion. As a result, I own my own coffee company. I'm espresso sommelier, and I get to travel the world. You, too, can live a life that you love, but it starts with getting clear about what you want. It starts with a new decision. I'm your host, Donnie Rouse, and you are listening to the podcast One Life. Success with Hardship. Success does not come without hardship. Said differently, the hardships you experience along the way are the rites of passage. In order to get the desired thing you want. Think of anything of value in your life and think of the pains you had to go in order to get there. And I'm sure there were times in your life where when you were working towards something, you're like, you know what? This is not worth it. This is. I can't do it. But then there was something inside of you. There was something deep inside that said, you know, this is what I committed to. This is what I know I want. All I need to do is just keep pushing forward, keep trusting that it'll all work out. You do this, and all of a sudden you get to the end and you are so grateful that you did not give up. And you are even more grateful at the person you became, because now looking back, you realize that it was literally the journey, was the result, that it transformed you in the process. See, it's so easy to forget what it is that you were going after and then just give up before you're, like, right before the finish line. And the episode here today is just a little process that I've actually touched upon in many of my podcast episodes. But what I'm gonna go over here is just kind of like a reframe on how to say it. And you could hear it a million times, and I promise you, it'll always be extremely valuable. So, again, it is this. Know that whatever you're going after, whatever is worthwhile, is going to come with hardship. Said differently, you are going to have to step into fear, right? Because if you had the thing in that instant, you know, you. You wouldn't. There would be no growth. So know that whatever you're going after, there's going to be some discomfort there. So you start with the vision. And then after that, I like to think of the things that could go wrong. Think of the pain points. Some people may be like, no, I don't want to think about that. If I think about that, I'm not even gonna want to start the thing that is true of my business. But, you know, when I started my business, if I knew what the. I often joke about it. I tell people that if I knew what it was gonna be like in the process, like, you know, what the process would be like, I would never have done it. But that's a lie. There is not a single day that I regret starting my coffee company, starting this, the one life movement. And does it come with hardship? Of course. But there is a calling in my soul. So therefore, there is no regret. And that's why I'm here. So again, start with the vision. Look at what the possible pain points are, right? Write them down on a piece of paper so this way you can strategize to one, maybe overcome them so you don't have to experience those things. And at the very least, when you experience them, just to remind yourself how to get through and what you're going after. And the last step is just to keep taking and pounding away at that, at that objective until you reach your goal. I'm in Miami, Florida, here. I decided to move down here, actually, not last year, earlier this year. And I will say that the move down here hasn't been without its own challenges. I thought I was gonna move here and I had this. This representation of everything kind of just being easy. And it's been. I wouldn't say that it's been anything but easy, but it's. It's making me, you know, like I. As a result of coming down here and having to deal with different things, there's this, like, unsettled feeling. Meaning, like I, you know, like, oh, my God, there's always something coming up. But isn't that true of life? Whenever you're going after something that's worthwhile to you, there's always going to be these things that are going to jump in and try to grab your attention. Some of them will require your attention. So what do you do? You just keep taking small steps. You keep moving forward. So my decision to come to Miami was the vision I had for it was stepping out on my own, being independent, being in a place where I didn't know many people. So this way I could start making my own way. It was just a goal I had. I wanted to experience that in Miami. Close enough where I could tend to my business, but far enough away from the influences of family and everywhere else. So this way I could say, you know what, I'm here myself. And then after this, my intention is to bring it to the rest of the world and start moving around in different places. So that was the vision of what it was, right? That's the goal. That's at the horizon. And now I'm here. I'm in my apartment. And the apartment had, like, a lot of stuff in it, right? I was renting a furniture. I'm renting a furnished apartment for six months. And then after that I will decide maybe I buy something or maybe I go somewhere else. Don't know yet. But it came with a lot of stuff, and it just didn't feel like home. And I'm like, oh, my God, there's so much stuff. So I had to package everything away. And luckily I had a friend who helped me and we organized the apartment away where now there's flow and now it just feels good to be here. Shortly after that, there was this. This kind of like this mildewy smell to my apartment. I just assumed, well, I'm by the water, right? That. That's just kind of the smell here. Come to find out that there was some mold in the AC unit. And thankfully it is not a dangerous mold. And it's something common with these. With. In this environment as well as in. In that. That system, meaning like in AC units. So now that is starting to get fixed, but it consumed so much time over the last week. And then still during that, I was, you know, I was still managing to show up to do these podcasts, to do my one life blueprint, to work on my workbook, to get the course out there. And I was asked by a neighbor in the building. She's like, oh, my God, like, well, how you doing? I said, well, be honest, I'm doing good. Like, I didn't, you know, yeah, it sucks to go have to go through this stuff, but I kind of, you know, it's part of the journey, right? Like, if I were. Even if I bought my own place somewhere here, right at the starting gate, I would likely. Or even if I had a different apartment, I would likely experience the same thing, right? Because, I mean, I live in a human environment, and I'm willing to bet probably like 1% of the people out there actually check their AC units to know whether something funky is going on. So this is just part of the. Part of the process, something I had to deal with, something that popped up, that needed me to deal with it immediately. That is it. And then there is like the, you know, the. I don't want you to say hardship. I still laugh about it, like going to. Just going to stores. There's a ton of traffic right now, but just going down to the stores and even in stores that I'd be familiar with. I made the joke of like, Trader Joe's expending, like two hours in Trader Joe's because all the shelves are different and it's much bigger than the one back home. But again, that is part of the process. Discovering new places, it's all part of the process. And so knowing that and reflecting back on the reasons for doing this in the first place made everything okay. Does it suck going through what I'm doing, going through right now? Yes. But I'm not letting me get me down. It's not bothering me all that much. It's a minor inconvenience because I'm fixed on my goal. I'm fixed on my outcome. So the only thing for me to do is to just keep moving forward. What about your goals? How do you feel like, are you moving towards something where you, you know, you just feel like it is, you're dredging uphill? If that is how you're feeling. Let me ask you a question. Is this still a relevant goal for you? And you don't want to answer that question in a shitty state. Because if you're in a shitty state, you'd be like, you know what? Yeah, this fucking blows. I don't want to do this anymore. But I encourage you to look back to where you were and when you made the decision to start on that path. Remember the commitment that you made to yourself before you started the journey. And if that is still relevant, then you just keep going because you can be on the journey and what you're experiencing is just that, right? So you don't want to step back into fear, into comfort, into that safe zone, because then you're robbing yourself of all of the joys, all the experiences of completing this journey. So if it is just relevant, then block out that noise in your mind and just keep taking the next steps. One of the ways, one of the things that can help you with this is just to have someone who you share this goal with, who remembers why you set out on that journey in the first place. Go to them. Like, lean into your support group. If you don't have one, you can join the One Life community. It's going to be live on my website but you can go there. Www.donnyrouse.com join. Send me a message and I'll invite you into the community. But find people who will encourage you. And when you share those things that you desire, will remind you of why it is you're going after in the first place. And just give you the peace of mind of saying, you know what? You got this. Sometimes that's all it takes. I remember when I was talking about traveling, you know, there's been times where the travel, sometimes the journey, and people like, oh, my God, how do you. You're so lucky. You travel all the time. Oh, God, I can never do that. I mean, I'm scared to go out on my own. I'm scared. How do you meet people? Right? These are all things that I encounter along the way. The only thing is, I've done it so many freaking times. I mean, I'm 51 countries now and counting. I've done it so many times that I don't even give a second thought to it. Do these fears pop up all the time? All the time? All the time. Like, I mean, if you. If you're looking at me watching video, you see how animated I am all the time. There isn't a moment where I'm not apprehensive about making a trip. There isn't a moment where I'm not apprehensive about going up to someone and introducing myself, meeting someone the first time. But once I do it, it gets easier because you start to build. I. Well, I build momentum in it, right? I go on the trip, I'm shitting my pants because I'm like, oh, my God, a new country. I don't know anybody. I take the trip, I get there, and yes, it's awkward in the beginning, but then I meet one person and I remember, I'm like, yeah, Donnie, Remember, this is part of the process. Yeah. You know, of course, you may feel lonely in the beginning, but you always meet somebody. You always do. So let's not worry about it. Let's just have a good time and get ready for when that person comes into your life. Because, you know, from there on out, you have a new friend and you're gonna have an amazing time. And then what happens? I start meeting people and becomes easier and easier because I'm doing it more. And then all of a sudden, I meet, like, my tribe, my group. If you were listening to this and you've traveled with me, you know who you are. And then all of a sudden, like, the experience is just awesome. But I had to put myself out there first. I had to keep taking action, remembering the successes of other journeys and that this too, if I just keep at it, if I just keep taking action, this too will result in the same. But again, make sure that the goal that you're going after is relevant, that it still matters to you. And then just block out everything else and just keep moving towards it. I hope this, I hope this episode helped you just reframe the hardships that you. You may or not may, that you are going to encounter. Right? Let's not lie to ourselves. You are going to encounter hardship whenever you're going towards something that's worthwhile. But just knowing that you are going to encounter hardship and remembering what it is you're going after and why you want it in the first place will push you past those pain points and pretty soon you'll be at a place where you won't even recognize yourself. If you enjoyed this podcast, please share this with five people. This is how I help get the podcast to reach more people. Because I think who doesn't need this message, right? Who doesn't need the encouragement to keep going on and to pursue the life that they were meant to live? Everyone does. Everyone needs the reminder of the power within and to that that life is every moment is fleeting to enjoy the moment to go after the things that matter for you. Not because of the culturescape and your family things and but the things that matter to you. 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