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Where does grief from?

14 Oct 2026 · 1 min

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Grief often comes from obsessing over a loved one's final day. A man whose wife died of cancer kept reliving her death, triggering panic attacks as his mind tried to fix the unfixable. The answer is shifting focus to the good memories instead.

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So grief comes from the mind constantly looking at the last day. Gentleman who lost his wife, right, to cancer. And so he was constantly thinking about it and was causing panic attacks, right? So there's a number of things causing it, but that was one of the things that was causing it. What his mind was doing was saying, don't let her die, right? Fix it, right? He couldn't fix it. So grief comes from the mind constantly looking at the last day. And I said, you don't wanna think about that just that last day. Think about all the great things that you did together. Think about all the successes you had, all the great times that you had. That's what you want to remember.