This is a YouTube video titled "Still Having the Same Fight?" featuring a dialogue between two speakers discussing adult relationship patterns influenced by childhood experiences, focusing on how past caregiving affects current partnerships and ways to change unhealthy patterns for better connection.
In order to deal with feeling close and connected with other people as adults, we do one of three things that often stem from.
Our childhood.
One is, we find a partner who continues to do to us what it.
Is a caregiver did.
If you had an avoidant parent, maybe.
You found an avoidant partner.
If you had a highly.
Critical mother.
Maybe you found someone who's also.
Really critical of you.
Two, we do to our partners what was done to us.
That highly critical.
Mother is now what you do to someone else. Do you stonewall and avoid? That's what someone did to you, but now you do that.
To your partner.
Or three, we internalize what our parents did to us, and we start giving that to ourselves.
That highly critical mother.
We start being.
Critical for ourselves. A parent who never brought up hard topics.
We then don't bring up.
Hard topics in our relationship.
So when it comes.
To your partnership today, the.
Question then starts to become, what patterns am I repeating? What where have I done this before? Who has done this with me? And ultimately, our goal is not to stay stuck in the past, but instead it's to ask ourselves, what do I want to do differently today? How can I change the pattern in this relationship so that I can feel close and connected in a healthy way.
That works for both of us?
