The speaker argues against cry-it-out methods, saying they ignore babies' real needs. Instead, identify what the baby actually needs, meet it quickly, then ignore cries that aren't driven by hunger or discomfort. He acknowledges this might create dependency but says meeting genuine needs matters more.
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I'm not sure if you've seen a film Meet the Parents where Robert De Niro is trying to coach Ben Stiller about how to not run around a baby or not kind of over tend to a baby. So the further method in basic terms is leave the baby to cry pretty much. And it's been largely discredited because that sounds like that's neglect because sometimes the baby's crying because they need something. So if you leave a baby to cry then you are neglecting the thing that they need. So this is similar because I think a more effective parenting style would be to as quickly as possible where possible identify when they need something and give them what they need and then just ignore them when they don't need something. But how will you know if you don't tend? The mere fact that you're tending to them is reinforcing the feedback loop that is now persistent in adults. Do you have kids? No.