Dr. Wayne Pernell explains how to make requests that feel authentic by focusing on what the other person gains. Frame your ask as a respectful question rooted in appreciation, and you won't feel rejected even if they say no.
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But it's like I just like I was never afraid to ask if my dad just told me like well they say no, like can you get over it? And like yeah, then, then okay then just, just ask and like if you're coming from this perspective of appreciating the person thinking about what's valuable for them and you're ending with a question, you don't have to feel like you're trying to manipulate someone into something because that's not what you're doing is you're adding, you're adding legit value to them. So like no, they're not going to respond back to you and tell you to screw off or anything like that and like unless you did it wrong. But like and even if they did, even if they did, so what, so what? It's an email, you can get over it. So yeah, I would appreciate and challenge anybody to do that and.