Dr. Wayne Pernell argues that relationship breakdowns often come from mismatched growth trajectories. When one person pursues rapid personal development and the other resists or moves slowly, resentment builds. Reframe conflicts by asking whether disagreements stem from different expectations about growth itself.
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And so thank you for sharing that. But also with this advice on how different perspectives and understanding and appreciating the value of growing alongside each other. And to that, more often than not, some of the issues at play when there is a breakdown in a relationship, be it at work or in your personal life, it may be related to one kind of veering into a growth trajectory, while the other is maybe not wanting to grow at that same rate, or even grow at all, and that there's some different resentment happening, or different ideas in terms of what they qualify as growth, and whether or not the value they attach to growth in general might be at play. So, further insight into if you are experiencing a breakdown in relationships to try and reframe it through that lens to see whether or not some of these issues might actually be at play.