Don't pedestalize the person you're messaging. Don't ask questions Google can answer. Don't seek validation from someone just because they're successful. They're a regular human, not a guru.
Cold message, like I'm talking Twitter, Instagram, email. How do you not do it? There's just a lot of pedestalizing other people and looking for someone that's going to show you the exact way to like ease your own uncertainty. You're asking dumb shit in the DMs that could have been Googled, and it really boils down to like not trusting yourself and putting other people above you. He's just a normal dude. Like, he might make like $150K a month, whatever it may be, but it's like, yeah, it's just a normal dude.
