How Can Authenticity Empower and Transform your Life? Presentation Review 3: Joey De Haan

Do you struggle with fear, doubt and worry in your public speaking? Do you find it difficult to connect with your audience and deliver presentations that leave a lasting, positive, unforgettable impact? If yes, then let's dive in the world of public speaking and presentation skills with your host, Eric Edmeads. Welcome to the Unforgettable podcast with guest host David Wood.

Know we have the great privilege of doing these podcasts where we can really break down some great presentations of some of the students and talk about this one, because this is a cool one.

Joey. I. Wow. I've known Joey for a while through, you know, other programs and such and when he showed up, I had no idea how afraid he was. What I mean is, because he was sort of socially comfortable, I wasn't aware of how constrained he was. But boy, that came out. You could really see it in his, like his body was being held in this sort of like quite structured process and it was, it was quite a process to lead him through and let him out.

Yeah, it's interesting, isn't it, the journey of the stage, how it sort of unleashes the authenticity. Because that's something that came up for me as I watched him. The authenticity really oozed out of him, didn't it?

It did. But you know that what was really fascinating about that is I often when people are going through a process like that, I think of it being a little like popcorn, you know, so people show up and a few people will like pop on day one. They're like, they immediately find their verve. But then like there are other people who don't pop for a while. And then you always wonder if there's going to be some unpop kernels, you know, and I, I was starting to wonder if Joey's going to be an unpop kernel. I remember we were on day four of a five day process with him and I was up until four in the morning working with him on the stage and I, you know, and I'd had other people in and he came up and tried and he was stuck and he came up and he tried and he was stuck. And I finally said, just sit down. I was like, I was like, he's going to be an unpop colonel. I don't know what's going to happen. And then I don't know what happened, but I told him to leave the room. I don't know where the idea came from, but I told him to leave the room and run full speed to the stage when I introduced him and he left the room and I introduced him. There's nobody left in the room. It's four o'clock in the room. It's just me, him and one sound engineer that's keeping the system running right. And Joey comes running into the room and he pounds me up on the stage and he belts it out with full authenticity. And it was like, pop, pop, pop, pop. But then when he gave this talk, what was amazing to me is exactly that feedback people like the comment that we got from the live streamed audience and the live audience was, it was so gorgeously authentic.

Yeah, yeah. So just remind everyone as they watch this, what's some of the things they could be looking for as they're on their journey.

I think that one of the things to really take a look at is Joey's sort of storytelling style, the way he tells a story and the way he kind of brings you into it. And also how relaxed he is, how naturally Joey, he is. I think those are things to keep an eye on. So let's roll it.

Yes, roll it.

So here I was at the end of a line. Now, lines aren't the most exciting part, but still I was super excited because this was going to be the first time that I was going to actually ride a roller coaster. Now most guys like speed and height and all that kind of thing, so this was going to be perfect. I was there with one of my friends and we were just, we were pumped to get it going. We go through the line and it just takes forever. Shuffling, the excitement goes down a bit. And have you ever noticed, have you ever noticed that they make it so you cannot see how far the line actually goes? So every time you think you're almost there and then there it is. But eventually we reach the end of this line and we get to the, to the carts. As I sit down and view the track going off in distance, I'm thinking, this is exciting. But this track's going up. That seems quite steep. All right. As I'm sitting down in the cart, a friend beside me, they start to pull down the protection bars. And as the bar comes down, so comes my excitement. I'm starting to think, what have I got myself into here? Now, of course, guys, amongst each other, you can never admit to any weakness. So my friend who is totally excited and bumped like this. This is going to be amazing, isn't it? And I'm just sitting there doing my best to hide what is going on in my head, like, yeah, it's going to be great. Meanwhile, in. In my head, I'm secretly scanning for all the ways that I can maybe release myself and just go out the way, but of course, it's not possible. And the train starts to move. I think, oh, great, we're already counting to the moment of my death. As we're riding up, I am still trying to pretend that I'm having fun, and my friend is just, yeah, this is going to be awesome. Look how high we're going. Yeah, look how high we're going. As we reach the top, I am momentarily distracted by the amazing view of the park that we have. And then we go down. We go down. You feel the speed. You feel the wind in your hair. And I'm thinking, no, that wasn't too bad. This is actually kind of fun. Where's this truck going? Are we supposed to go upside down? I've never been upside down. That doesn't look safe. I think we're good, guys. Can we just stop the train here and I'll get out and you can. You can go anyway? Of course, we keep going very fast, luckily, because otherwise we could suck. But very fast. And we go up, up. And by the time I'm upside down, I have left my body. And I'm just praying to every God that I've ever heard of and thinking, if we made this, I will convert to every religion. But we go down and everything is fun again. Going down is fun. Going up is less so. Going upside down, even worse. And it keeps going and going like this. We just have different angles, different heights. Another looping a corkscrew. Corkscrews are fun. My friend, of course, is loving all of this, and I'm just doing everything I can not to visibly freak out and just holding on for dear life. By the time we get to the end of this road, I'm thinking, thank God we made it. As we're sitting there getting out of our carts, I'm thinking this was actually pretty fun. But I'm never doing this again. And isn't that kind of what this entire week, Speaker Nation, has been like? Joey, you are hilarious. I felt like I was at a comedy club tonight and had such a good time. And I just want to say that for me, the thing that really enhanced the humor was your facial expressions and mannerisms. Those really stood out for me. So great job. Thank you.

Joey, there's a lot to say, but I'm just going to tell you two things. Authenticity is what this was all about. And there's something about your authenticity that's just so beautiful. You're inviting, your eyes are inviting, your gestures are inviting. And the other thing, the hardest thing for great speakers to do really well is pause and allow the audience to come in and join the journey with you. Your pausing is world class.

Thank you.

I am so thrilled for you. How did that feel?

I am so happy.

Yeah, you absolutely should be. You worked so hard. You worked so hard. And I've been watching you push against the boundaries and test out things. And you upgraded that talk from this morning. I mean, it was great. But you added in. You doubled the laughs, you doubled the peaks, you stretched out the pauses. I'm thinking that the IPM rate on that was about 4 to 5. It was outstanding. Comedy club level. I'm so proud of you. You should be absolutely thrilled with yourself. That was amazing. Congratulations.

Thank you so much. That means a lot.

I love this one, Eric. And reminding everyone that this is a second language. But let's talk about those pauses, because I get goosebumps in those pauses. He.

He does that so well. You know, like when he does that thing of, you know, his. His friend goes, yeah, look how amazing this is gonna be. It's like, yeah, look how amazing this is gonna be. He uses really good voice marking and. And those little pausing tones, you know, like the. The. The ismo. Yeah, he's got that going on. You know, it's really nicely delivered. And then what was really nice is that you could see he integrated it in. Like, he described this whole fear process, the roller coaster thing, and then he integrated into the very thing he'd been going through over those days. So he made it kind of like a practical learning experience. Really well done.

Yeah, that power of the pause, you know, allowing other people's minds, because that's what happens, right? Your mind goes this way and you bring them back, and it's like. It's that little shock, Right? But yeah, again, going back to the authenticity, what I noticed when we were watching him, I always like to glance over to the audience, and the audience was on the edge of their seat completely there. There was no one on their phones. He was. He had the audience in his hand. Right. So it's important to remember that, you know, the analogy of we've all got these Rembrandts in the attic, and going back to Joey, a story about a roller coaster and what impact that has. So don't forget, we've all got Rembrandt.

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