What are Some Remarkable Unconventional and Taboo Ideas or Practices? Presentation Review 2: Neelima Deshpande

Do you struggle with fear, doubt and worry in your public speaking? Do you find it difficult to connect with your audience and deliver presentations that leave a lasting, positive, unforgettable impact? If yes, then let's dive in the world of public speaking and presentation skills with your host, Eric Edmeads. Welcome to the Unforgettable Podcast with guest host David Wood.

And today we're doing another presentation review where we're taking a look at a really. This is a special, special presentation, and we're going to share it with you, give you a little bit of feedback from it, and then we'll come back at the end and talk a little bit more about it. In this case, David, we are talking about Nelima.

Nelima, yeah.

Do you remember how she started her presentation?

Yes, the vagina.

Everybody's paying attention.

That's a hook. That's a real hook.

It's a good hook.

Yeah.

So one of the things you'll see in this talk is that she really does start well. Like, pretty much everybody in the audience is paying attention from the beginning. She's also a medical professional and she's never approached her work this way before. You know, she's just worked with clients, and this is really the first time she's put herself out there. And I will say that since delivering this talk and since developing the skills to be able to communicate effectively like this, she grew from, I believe it was about 150 followers on Instagram to 40,000 followers in the space of only a few months. So practical, measurable results.

That stage effect you like to talk about, right?

Yeah, exactly.

That.

Yeah. Something I said to her at the time, which I. I said, you know, she's given permission to every healthcare professional to sort of treat and educate differently.

Yeah.

It's incredible.

And, you know, I think that she did something else related to that, and that is that she took a, let's say, for some people, sensitive subject, and for other people, a taboo subject, and she made it, like, enjoyable and humorous and fun, but also really informative. Like, you know, when I spoke to particularly women who were at that event and heard what she had to say, it was like, it got them thinking. And that's what we're really trying to do.

Yeah, absolutely.

Shall we roll the T?

Let's roll it.

Let's roll.

The vagina is an amazing organ. It's a bit of a playground as well. When it's well lubricated, expansive, accommodating, it can do amazing things. You find it funny. I'm a gynecologist and a sex therapist. And I make professional. You know, I'm looking at vaginas is what I make a living out of. And in all the years I've been looking at vaginas, I realized that not all women look after their vaginas very well. How many of you would love to have your vaginas remain a playground for life? Well, let me tell you why. In my clinic, I often see women age 80 plus and you know, often there'll be this woman struggling onto the couch and the stench hits me. It's urine. Struggle to get out of their diapers. Skin is excoriated and dry, stung with deposits of urine crystals. There's feces around the anus. Incontinence. It's a curse. No woman should have to live with incontinence. It's so simple, it's preventable. And what about that woman, the 60 year old who I can't even examine because her vagina is tight and shrunk. She's bleeding. She has stage three cervical cancer. It's so important and it's easy. I'm going to tell you how. But for a woman at 50, my age, a little bit more. If you knew that a billion women were going to go through this condition called menopause in the coming five years, and with current life expectancy, most of them are going to live 30 or 40 years beyond this time when estrogen levels go down and the vagina starts to shrink and atrophy, you'd think this was a really important topic. What are women bothered about, though? Let's think about it. Oh, I'm sweating. I've got hot flushes, palpitations, joint pains. Oh my God. I can't sleep at night and I'm irritable. I've got mood swings. I'm snapping at people, intolerant. Oh, and what about sex? Libido, desire? I don't want to have anything to do with that. Oh, get your hands off me. That's why they called it the menopause. What else is happening? This body, it's a traitor. It's letting me down. My eyes don't see colors the same way. My nose doesn't smell things the same way. I don't taste the same way. My nipples don't respond. The skin doesn't respond the same way. The sensitivity's gone down the vagina. The vagina whispers. I'm dry. It hurts. Paper thin. No moisture. And it burns when you pee. Sex is impossible, is so painful. Give me, just give me a bit of Moisture, a bit of estrogen. Just work those pelvic floors, you know, that muscle a little bit more. And how about some orgasms? Orgasms that correct this hormone balance. They restore some of the estrogen, some of the liveliness. Oh, and the vagina says I can smile again. I can smile. Bring me a vibrator. Yeah, just play. I'm a playground. Give me that ability to accommodate, to expand to and relax. And maybe that, that, that pelvic floor will pump some more blood into me and give me that moisture, that relaxation, that comfort I so long for. And maybe it just, maybe incontinence can be bid goodbye. And that's why I say the vagina is an amazing, magical organ. And every woman over 50 deserves to have great sex.

Neeliba. I have worked and ran a very large health company. I've worked with many, many medical professionals, and they live very much in their head and very much in the left side of their head. I think you've given every medical professional on the planet a pathway to really treat people. And this is a TED Talk. I think millions and millions of people around the world would want to hear this message. And what comes alive for me is your mission and your purpose. It's so clear, and it's so beautiful to watch you do this.

Thank you. Thank you.

Neelima.

I have never met a doctor that.

Would ever have that much humor, and I love how you're bringing that to women's health because it's so important.

So I really appreciate that. Thanks. Wow. Wow. Again, you've made it better and better every step of the way. And you've done that gorgeous thing. That gorgeous thing where you bring a really high humorous IPM count, probably running at about a through the whole thing. But you did that to earn the right to share important information. So many people attempt to put together some kind of TED Talk or something where they share that information, but no emotional engagement. So people either don't pay attention or they don't retain it. You did it in a way where. Well, I don't think we'll ever forget it. Exactly. And so I want to say to you, keep up the good work. Congratulations. Well done.

Thank you so much.

Well, I agree with her.

Well, I would actually add every woman and every man after that. Yeah.

It could be a little more inclusive, but I agree with her.

Yeah, absolutely.

That is magical.

Yeah.

A serious topic, an important topic, a difficult topic, made informative, entertaining, and fun. Outstanding.

Yeah.

Going back to the. The Rembrandt in the closet analogy, where, you know, her mission and purpose oozes out in a funny and educational way. Everyone was learning, people were laughing. And I think because she gave us permission to cross those lines and well be there with her. Yeah, yeah.

So I think if you can sneak, you know, there's a certain shock factor.

Yeah.

And I think some people attempt shock factor for the sake of the shock factor. But what she's done is found a way to. To use the shock factor contextually. So it's not cheap. It's real and valuable.

Yeah. And, well, again, I think as soon as I heard it, this is. Could be one of the best TED talks on the planet. I mean, it's just got that thing about it Right. And remembering where she started. She was not a speaker. Right. So how far she's come.

So that's a really important distinction that she also came nervous, afraid, doubting. In fact, I don't know if you know this, maybe you do, but she was actually sponsored by another client that actually sponsored her to come to the event. And even after that, she tried to cancel. She tried to not show up. And she's obviously very grateful at this point, but that's how afraid she was. So it's important to remember that in the context of how well she delivered it.

Yeah, fabulous.

Excellent job. Nelema here did something really special for us. She overcame her fear. She became comfortable and competent at delivering her message. She structured the message really well. She used language that engaged us and caught our attention and held our attention, which is super tough these days. And she delivered a message that was really, really important. And she did it with one very important thing in mind that I think, and that is that if you are delivering a talk and you're expecting your audience to pay attention, you're expecting too much. You should earn them paying attention. They shouldn't have to pay attention. You should get their attention. She certainly does that. So remember, when we talk about this idea of your life experience, your Rembrandts in the attic. Your life experience may not seem so valuable to you until you start to express it and share it in the world. So get out there and share your story.

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